Help With Sleeping Through The Night

Dogs, like humans, also experience sleepless nights for some reasons that are apparently found in our homes. In this regard, it is very important that dog owners have a keen sense of observation when it comes to a dog's sleeping disorder. Although this may seem like a very ambitious task, a careful attention paid on a dog's well-exhibited difficulties in sleeping is proven beneficial both to the dog and its owner.

However, as with all the other problems concerning the behavior and habits of a dog, the solution to the problem does not take effect after a mere 24 hours. This requires practice and constant monitoring of the dog's reaction to the drills. But, the task can be actually made simple if dog owners would take the full responsibility in performing the following:

Observe and take a careful note on any change that might have triggered the occurrence of modification in your dog's sleeping habits. Your dog may be reacting to several situations like a sudden change in its crate or lounge, or in your furniture set-up, a stressful incident, or a house party. Keep in mind that the smallest change in its environment will cause some sort of a disturbance in your dog's schema of daily events, which will lead to difficulty in sleeping. Identify what is the cause and do something about it, like re-arranging the furniture to their original plan that your dog has been accustomed to, or putting the dog back in the crate where it is used to take a rest.

Give the dog a well-balanced diet. The diet depends on your dog's age. This usually requires more calorie intake for young dogs. Such distribution gives puppies the essential nutrients they need for their growth. On the other hand, older dogs require just the right amount of calories that will support their daily activities.

For the most part, the diet is effective if you always let your dog eat on time, if not earlier than its bedtime. This is particularly important as dogs are energetic after meals. Feeding your dog a short moment before it should actually sleep will most likely give it the energy to move around, bark, and whine while the neighborhood is asleep.

Provide supplements that will help your dog relax. Calming products (which are usually taken orally) will do the magic as these will provide relief from restlessness, nervousness, fear, and aggression, which will yield to a sound slumber for both of you.

Have your dog undergo daily exercise. Generally, your dog should have at least 40 minutes of walking, running, and other exercise regimen everyday. If your dog has too much stored energy, it is more likely to be wriggly at night, just when you are having a beautiful dream. Helping your dog to tire itself before bed time will be ideal, as it will be drained of any excess energy, which can spell sleep disruptions to both of you.

Set a definite sleeping time. Help your dog practice a definite sleeping time. Ideally, you should pattern your dog's bedtime to yours.

Keep your pet's sleeping area clean and comfortable. See to it that your dog doesn't sleep on a damp, cold area, as it will be a major cause of restlessness. Give your pet comfort items like blanket or pillow. Remember that your main goal is to provide total comfort and security for your dog. Dog beds and dog crates will do the trick.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    4 month old not sleeping through night with solids?
    I have a 4 month old son. He has always been wonderful about sleeping through the night until just recently. He now gets up around 3 am and wants fed. I thought that maybe he was not getting enough to eat to hold him over till morning so I started giving him rice cereal. This does not seem to help him either. He is still waking up at 3am. Does anyone have some suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      Don't listen to those that say you aren't feeding him enough- they obviously haven't been through this recently! Little babies can only go so long with out food. Sleeping 5-6 hours at a time is considered a "full night sleep" for them. It is very normal for a 4 month old to not sleep through the night. My six month old is still waking up at 3am - and sometimes 1-2 more times a night!! Sorry - this may not be what you were looking for! Just hand in there. When they start teething it gets more common as well. My little one did the same thing- great sleeper until 4 month. And unfortunately starting solids does not mean sleeping better at night - just more poopy diapers! :) You are doing fine mom!

  2. QUESTION:
    8 week old was sleeping through night, now waking at 3am
    My 8 week old little girl has been sleeping though the night (11pm-6 or 7am) for a few weeks now. Suddenly, the past few nights, she is waking at 3:30am and will not go back to sleep until after 7am. She is not acting hungry at all, just awake. She also had been taking good naps---I try to do a feeding schedule of every 3 hours, with some play time and then at least 1-1.5hrs of naps each cycle, but she also isn't napping well, only 30-45min at a time. Any help would be so great, as I dont know what to do.
    THANKS!

    • ANSWER:
      i think you still just have to follow your little ones lead for now, she is the only one who is in control really
      mine is 9 weeks now and up until about 3 days ago slept from 10 to 7 every night and now shes waking around 230 for fun also, not so much to eat
      but its just part of their little plans, eventually they will go back to sleeping straight thru, be it tonight or in a year

  3. QUESTION:
    When did your baby start sleeping through the whole night?
    My baby is already 8 months old and still wakes up each night. she only wake up once, around 3 or 4am. i give her her bottle, and shell go back to sleep... but shouldnt she sleep through the whole night already? i put her to sleep around 9pm with a full belly. when did your baby start sleeping through the night and what advice can you give me to help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Perfectly normal. There seems to be a lot of expectation for babies to sleep through from just a few months old, I'm not sure why! My son was 10 months when he started sleeping through the night and I considered myself lucky. Lots of babies don't sleep through by a year!

      Edit: And there's nothing you can really do... just be patient and give it time!

  4. QUESTION:
    At what month did your baby start sleeping through the night?
    My baby's only a month and a half, but I already have people asking me if he's sleeping through out the night and that I should start helping him with that.

    Also, any tips on that? Thanks! :D

    • ANSWER:
      My son is 3 months old and is not sleeping right thro. He wont go to bed until half 10 however hard i try. He usually sleeps 7-9 hours straight. Then i feed him and he goes back down for 2 hours. I give him an 8oz bottle of stage 2 milk at about half 8 and then feed him myself constnly til he goes to sleep so i know he has a very full belly so settles easily

  5. QUESTION:
    5 year old not sleeping through night! Help!?
    My just-about-5 year old daughter is still waking up anywhere from 3-5 times a night. Her usual requests are "i want medicine" (one cough or sniffle = "i'm siiick" and a desperate need for medicine) (no she doesn't get any unless its really needed), "i want water," "my blanket fell off", "i have to go to the bathroom".. etc. Mostly things she can do for herself all through the day but is suddenly completely incapable of doing at night. When she was younger I didn't mind because I had to get up with her younger sister anyway but now her sister is just about 4 and sleeps through the night fine where I can count the number of nights I've gotten 8 solid hours of sleep in the last 5 years ON ONE HAND!

    Ive tried telling her both during the day and at night that she's a big girl and knows perfectly well how to do those things on her own. For their bedtime routine everything they do is independent even if they put up a fuss about having to put their own blankets on, I'm praying the independent part will eventually carry over into the night. We are getting rid of their small beds and getting them a twin size bunk bed (thinking maybe a more comfortable "big girl" bed will help the situation). This morning I had a long talk with her telling her how I'm tired and cranky because I didn't get enough sleep because she had us up for hours last night. I would love to let her cry it out but with her sister sleeping in the same room its difficult: by the time she stops crying and falls asleep, her sister is awake and yelling and then they both are up.

    I cant think of anything else to do to get her to not wake us up for everything. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also, as this has been going on for years, anytime I used to put her in my bed she would sleep through the night without even stirring, so I think it's safe to say this is all psychological =/

    • ANSWER:
      maybe shes doing this to get attention. with a younger sibling somtimes the older one feels like they dont get as much attention anymore.

  6. QUESTION:
    8 month-old not sleeping through night -- please help!?
    I breast feed my 8-month old and also co-sleep with him. He used to sleep through the night, sometimes waking once to nurse. For the last two months he's been waking up multiple times a night "to nurse" -- I use quotes because 1) He goes to bed with a full bottle of milk and rice cereal so he can't be hungry in the night 2) He's old enough to sleep through the night, I think he just wants the breast for comfort.

    Are there any reasons for this?? Are there any ways to get him to go back to sleeping through the night? I'm at my wit's end!

    Thanks.
    he definitely refuses a pacifier :(

    • ANSWER:
      Lol at the previous answerer who clearly knows zip about co-sleeping!

      Anyway - could be teething pain that wakes him and then he wants you as a comfort to help him get back to sleep?

      Have you considered a dummy? Although having said that, introducing one at this age is a bit counter-productive...., but might just help him get to sleep without using you as a comfort.

  7. QUESTION:
    13month old was sleeping through night, now wakes up at 11pm and takes 1hr to get back to sleep, any advice?
    Our daughter was sleeping through the night but recently had surgery March 4th to repair her cleft palate. Things are now healed and back to normal except night. She wakes up around 11pm every night, sometimes wants a drink and sometimes just cries no matter what I do. Some nights I just let her cry. We have two older children and read the 'Baby Wise' book and they sleep great and have since they were infants so this is a new problem we are dealing with. I am getting little sleep and makes everything seem worse. I lay awake at night just waiting for her to start crying! I am tired and need help!!!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      This is VERY common after cleft surgeries..It took us about a month and a half after palate surgery to get back to "normal"...A lot of parents say that the kiddos do suffer some trama after surgery..I'm not sure, everyone is different..I think a lot of it is getting used to their new mouth and how it works..Their breathing is different, how they hold their tongue is different, eating, soothing themselves..Palate surgery is a tough one..Hang in there..It does get better..Easier said than done, but you're almost there!

  8. QUESTION:
    2 month old sleeping through night but wants to eat every 1 1/2-2 hours duribg the day. HELP!!!?
    My 2 month old son just began to sleep through the night last week. Prior to that he would eat 5 1/2 oz. every 3 hours. His last bottle was at 10pm and he would wake around 3am for another feeding. And start his morning around 8am with a feeding.

    Last week he started to skip the 3am feeding and is sleeping until 6am. I thought this was great. However, he doesn't want to eat until 7am and every 1 1/2-2 hrs after that. I'm ready to pull my hair out!!! I should add that he only eats about 3 1/2 oz per feeding now.

    I can't go out or run errands because he constantly wants to eat! Has thus happened to anyone else? What did you do to get your infant back on schedule? Should I start to wake him at 3am again?

    Any advice is appreciated.

    • ANSWER:
      Seems that he is cluster feeding--this could be to make up for skipping the night time feeding, or could be a coincidental growth spurt. You could wait it out and see if it improves within the next week or so--if it's a growth spurt it'll only last up to a week. If it continues, I would try reinstating the night time feed. If it keeps you sane during the day, it's worth getting up once at night! Good luck!

  9. QUESTION:
    Why is my 18 month old suddenly not sleeping through the night?
    She has slept through the night since she was 5 months old. All of the sudden, she is waking up in the middle of the night. Any ideas why? Nothing has changed. Any ideas about what we can do to help her back to sleep? Right now she won't rock back to sleep. She will either take a bottle and stay in her bed, or come sleep in our bed. If I rock her, she tries to play with me.

    • ANSWER:
      Growth spurt maybe? Try feeding her a little extra during the day, she may be going through a growth spurt and feeling extra hungry.

      Napping too long? A lot of toddlers drop nap time altogether by the age of 2, maybe she is sleeping too long during her nap time, thus not making her tired enough to sleep through the night.

      Has she just start walking? I have heard a lot of parents say their child stopped sleeping through the night once they started walking well.

      Another answer might be she just wants to snuggle mommy!
      Good luck, hope you get some sleep soon!

  10. QUESTION:
    How did you get your baby to start sleeping through the night?
    Just wondering how to get my daughter off the middle of the night feedings? Do I just have to wait until she does it on her own or what could I do to help her out? My son was 3 months old when he first slept through the night? Is this normal? Can I do something to make it earlier than that with my daughter? Does it just happen the more they start eating during the day? Just curious about others stories.

    • ANSWER:
      Sleeping throught he night at 3 months is not average. It's very lucky!

      Experts consider sleeping through the night to be 5-6 hours straight. How long does your daughter sleep? She may already be technically "sleeping through the night". My kids didn't sleep 5-6 hours straight until about 6 months old.

      Sleeping from bedtime to wakeup time wasn't accomplished until they were two years old. They just always woke in the night and I'd nurse them and they'd go back to sleep. Once I started weaning when they were 2 years old, I slowly cut out the night nursings by explaining to them that they were starting to get too big for it and explained that it was "sleeptime". not "nursy-time" right now. So that's how I got them to actually started gettting them to sleep all the way through.

      They still woke and came into my room in the night after that, so then I told them that if they woke in the night, they needed to look at their window. If it was light outside, then they could come into my bed to snuggle. If it was still dark, then they needed to go back to sleep in the own bed. I would take them back to their bed if it was still dark and they came in. Soon after, they stayed in bed until it was light outside.

  11. QUESTION:
    11 month old still in the bed, breastfeeding and not sleeping through the night?
    My son still wakes up three times a night to nurse. He still sleeps in the bed with us too. He is in daycare so he is used to the bottle and the crib but won't sleep in the pack and play at home. What's the best way to get him to sleep through the night in his pack and play? It is right next to our bed b/c his room is downstairs. Please help!

    • ANSWER:
      Wow, your question could have been written by me, lol.

      Dr. Sear's says that if you really can't stand the night nursing anymore, mommy should move for a few nights and let daddy take over "night nursing". I tried this last night with my son, and it actually worked. My son did cry a little, but after a few minutes of "daddy nursing" he went back to sleep. We're going to see how this goes before we boot him off into the pack and play (which coincidentally, is also right next to our bed, lol).

      Good luck!

  12. QUESTION:
    My 6 month old daugther not sleeping through the night?
    My daughter is 6 months old and was perfect at sleeping through the night until we had to spring forward with day lights savings time. Now she wakes up all the time at least 4 times a night we try and go to bed around her bed time so we aren't so tired but we are like zombies. And we have no idea we give her baby food and bottle before bed to fill her belly up. Any tips please help!!!

    • ANSWER:
      I know what your going through. I have a son and he had the issue for a few days but then bounced back to his regular routine. Does your baby have a routine bedtime? If not make one, thats the first step. 2nd making your baby full doesn't help. A baby wakes for mant reasons at night other then hunger. Also if your baby sleeps all day, it doesn't matter if you feed her she's not sleepy so she's gonna be up. When she wakes at night, be firm, no talking, no playing, don't even get her out of her crib(unless needing changed or an emercecy of course). Most babies do not need to eat at night at this age. Try just changing her if needed and giving her a pacifier if you like thoughs. Other then that just let her lay in bed quietly or cry it out. She will soon learn.

  13. QUESTION:
    my 6 month old was sleeping through the night until 5 days ago, I need sleep, any ideas on how to help her?
    My little girl has been sleeping through the night since she was 3 months old. About 5 days ago she started waking up a few times in the early morning. She eats stage 2 foods and is still breastfeeding. Last night my husband and I got up with her at least 10 times. No fever, plenty warm, and we have not changed her routine at all. I need some help.

    • ANSWER:
      My son was the same way right around the same time. I think most babies go through this, and I connected it to teething, and also my son learned to roll onto his tummy at that age but not the other way so he would wake up and want to turn over but couldn't so we had to help him.
      There wasn't anything that we could do but wait...he has just started sleeping all night in the last 2 weeks and he is 7.5 months old now.

  14. QUESTION:
    My cattle dog is having trouble sleeping through the night, but it keeps me up and I am constantly exhausted.?
    How can I help him sleep? He is 12 months old, so is still a baby really, and he can only sleep about 4 hours a night. He doesn't sleep much of a day either. He gets bored while I am sleeping so he keeps me up by 'talking' to me and digging me out of the blankets. I've popped him in another room before but he scratches at the door and cries all night which keeps me up as well. Is something wrong with him, or is it the fact he is a working dog and just has a lot of energy? Any tips on getting him sleeping through the night? I would love to hear other people's experiences. Thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      Chamomile tea works very well, and is safe for him.
      Dump it out of the teabag, and use 1 teaspoon for small breed, up to 1 tablespoon for a large breed. Mix it in a little canned food, such as Mighty Dog, or Cesar's, and give about 30 minutes before he needs to relax. It will keep him happy, but reduce stress so he can sleep.. It can be given as needed.
      I was raising a litter of orphaned Dobermans, and the vet told me of this, and it saved my sanity..
      Fix yourself a nice hot cup of it too! You deserve a good night's sleep..

      Your grocer will have it in the tea section.

  15. QUESTION:
    does anybody know when a baby should start sleeping through the night?
    ok so my son is five months old and still gets up every 2-3 hours. some times he is real good about getting to sleep and other times it is so hard to get him to sleep and i dont know why. I just want him to sleep through the night with out waking up. does anybody have any kind of advice or tips that may help me get through this. I am starting to think it will never happen. so some body please help me

    • ANSWER:
      Good luck, all babies are different but putting them on a schedule is prolly best. If he is sleeping a lot during the day obviously he won't sleep as well during the night. My son was like that when he was younger he would take like 2-3 naps a day and then didn't want 2 go 2 sleep until like 1am and he would wake up by 5am. I got tired of that lol. I started giving him one nap a day at like 2pm for 1 hr. And he would be more than ready 2 go 2 sleep at like 9-9:30pm and he would sleep until 8am the next morning. Since ur son is only 5 mths u should prolly still give him 2 naps a day for an hour each. And be4 he goes 2 bed at night if u aren't on baby food yet, then add cereal 2 his milk, and if u are on baby food, give him a lil babyfood be4 his bottle at night. If he has a full belly he will sleep longer at night!! good luck hope that helps.

  16. QUESTION:
    9 month still not sleeping through night, HELP!?
    My son has slept through the night 2x in his life.. We just went to his Dr for his 9 month check up & she suggested to let him cry it out.. Which has NOT been working, for me mostly. First of all he has learned to stand up in his crib & now he gets stuck and doesn't know how to get down so he just screams until i go in and lay him down (which he'll repeat until i rock him). Also, he wakes up 2-3 times.. so i've been having a hard time following through with it bc we are all exhausted.. and he doesnt just cry for a few minutes it about an hour of screaming that i'll go in and rock him. Lately he hasnt been waking up for his bottle, he just wants me to rock him. He eats his veggies around 7:30 thn has his bottle right before he goes to bed around 9.. so he's not hungry. This letting him cry it out just doesn't seem right to me, its cruel!?? Had anyone gone through this or have any suggestions.. IS HE EVER GOING TO LET US GET SOME REST?? Thanks in advanced for your answers!!

    • ANSWER:
      Many babies are not ready to sleep through the night until they are older (my daughter was 18 months and finished with teething before she slept all night). There is nothing wrong with comforting your child back to sleep when that's what he needs, and the quicker you go in and meet his needs, the sooner he'll be able to fall asleep again. Letting him cry just teaches him that he can't rely on you. He'll sleep through the night when he is developmentally ready to do so, and trying to force him to do it sooner will only frustrate you both. There's some good information on infant sleep at the link below.

  17. QUESTION:
    What age did your baby start sleeping through the night?
    1. what age
    2. how many hours a night?
    3. Where? ( bassinet, his own crib, with you, etc)
    4. did you do anything to help it?

    Thank you for answering,just wondering about other peoples experience with this!

    • ANSWER:
      8 mons
      crib
      warm bath lavender lotion, air wick air freshen in her wall opposite from crib, womb bear on, and a warm bottle of milk when she was done mylicon then i left her some water in a bottle to prevent tooth decay..
      from 9pm to 6am usually woke up at 3am so
      3 extra hours was worth it and i got much needed sleep:)

  18. QUESTION:
    One year old not sleeping through the night?
    My one year old still doesn't sleep through the night. He'll wake up and cry if I don't carry him and sometimes because I'm so tired I let him sleep with me in the bed. Please help!

    • ANSWER:
      Now here's "THE" answer from experience that I pass on to you. Especially for a first time parent!

      My boss some years ago asked me about the same thing and I gave him the same answer. He told his wife and she came in and screamed at me.

      Then she did it anyway and whala!

      It worked!

      If you Know they need No food, their diaper is dry and clean, they had plenty of attention from you before bed, and is not sick or gassy - LET HIM OR HER CRY! They will learn soon they do not rule your life!

      If you do not do this you will set the tone for the rest of your parenting years!

      Sorry if you don't like the answer. You need to learn the difference between the child's needs and their just being needy. You will have to get through the crying and screaming or they will think it works whenever they want something from you even the key to your car someday, please! please! PLEASE! Stomp! Stomp! Whine! Whine!

      FOR MORE GO TO WWW.WEBMD.COM

  19. QUESTION:
    2yr old not sleeping through night... Help Please!?
    My daughter is 26mos and has always been a really good sleeper. She takes a nap in the afternoon for about 2 hours and then would go to bed around 8 and sleep until at least 8 the next morning with no problems at all. Well all of the sudden she has started to freak out when I try to leave her room. She has a night light in her room, and a light on in the hall so it isn't dark at all. And on top of her throwing a fit about going to bed, she now wakes up 1-2 times during the night asking for me. When I go into her room he acts like she is waking up from a nap and isn't tired. After I tell her a few time that it i night night time she will go back to sleep until the next time she gets up. And now she is usually up around 5-6am and will not go back to sleep.

    PLEASE help! I am 6 1/2 pregnant and having a high risk pregnancy, I need my sleep before this little one gets here.

    • ANSWER:

  20. QUESTION:
    I am having a problem with my 13 month old daughter sleeping through the night can anyone help?
    She cries periodicly through the night, but she is still asleep any suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      Well, as her mother, you would know if something was really wrong. If you're unsure, ask her doctor. There is a list of things that could be happening. She could have gas- try Milicon gas drops, and although she is older, try burping her. Make sure she stays covered up through the night (I know, this is hard!), does she sleep with you? If so- break that habbit NOW! If not- hold and sooth her until she is sound asleep, and lay her in her bed. Try lavender baby wash at night before bed, this is a calming agent that really works. Be creative and find what works for both you and her. If it keeps up though, I'd call her doc, just to be sure things are okay.

      Good luck!

  21. QUESTION:
    My 23 month old not sleeping through the night?
    My 23 month old daughter sleeps with us but for the past 4 weeks or so she has been waking up multiple times during the night wining and sometimes screaming like something hurts. She has been acting fine during the day and I can't figure out what is causing her night screams. Can anyone help?

    • ANSWER:
      Same thing happened to my nephew he just would wake up screaming as if some one broke his arm or something (He lives with me) And I just put him right next to me and I would play one song and put it on repeat through out the whole night for about a week, Then he didn't wake up through out the night. I think it's mostly caused by stress.

      The name of the song is Bria's interlude by drake FT omario. It took me about 3 days to find this song and when I did he slept through the whole night but the first night he wined very little it was more like gasping just once though. If you don't want to listen to that song just try to find one similar to it or maybe try natrual sounds of like the ocean but. Plus that's his favorite song now :)

      Hope i helped

  22. QUESTION:
    Please Help,My Daughter is 11 months old and She still isnt sleeping through the night?
    My nanny and i both rock her to sleep. When shes asleep i go and put her to bed. One hour later she wakes and cries untill i come. Sometimes i give her water untill she falls asleep, but then she wakes up again a few hours later. I often just bring her into bed with her dad and i so we can all get a little sleep.

    • ANSWER:
      she might be having nightmares, or night tars and that might make her not want to go to sleep. OK you should take her to the doctor, or therapist or just talk to her

  23. QUESTION:
    8 month baby now not sleeping through the night?
    hi my baby boy is no longer sleeping through the night and is screaming when i put him in his cot to go to sleep is this normal? he seems to be able to get to sleep better with the light i know this may seem like a stupid question but could he now be getting scared of the dark? and what would you suggest i do with everything help would be appricated as would like a nights sleep :)

    • ANSWER:
      It's very common to have sleep changes at this age. It's likely he has separation anxiety now, because he's just learned that things out his sight still exist.

      It's just a phase, but the kindest thing to do is reassure your baby that you'll come when he cries for you. Hang in there.

  24. QUESTION:
    One of my 7 year old twins is not sleeping through the night help!?
    My 7 year old has been waking up during the night .At least 2 to 3 times a night she comes to me.I ask her what's wrong she just says I can't sleep mommy.I tell her go back to sleep baby ,you have school tomorrow .It does not happen every night ,but a least 2 or 3 times per week . What to do ? She asks to go sleep with her twin.Is it separation anxiety from her twin or some kind of sleep disorder?

    • ANSWER:
      I think sometimes they just go through stages like this. My six year old will do this for a while and then she'll sleep just fine. But if it continues for a significant amount of time, consult your pediatrician.

  25. QUESTION:
    My one and a half year old is still NOT sleeping through the night! Help!?
    he wakes up 1-4 times every night!! He cries or fights himself awake and wants a bottle as well as a change. I found out we are pregnant with our 3rd child and if i don't start getting him to sleep though the night i fear i'll be getting up with 2 babies soon any tips?

    • ANSWER:
      Does he fall asleep on his own or do you have to give him a bottle / rock him?

      My son finally started sleeping well all night at 14 months when we finally put him down awake and let him go to sleep on his own. I had been rocking him or staying in his room until he fell asleep.

      It took only 2 nights of fussing, and now he sleeps from 9 PM til 7:30 AM and I don't hear a peep out of him all night.

      Some people are against letting them cry even for a short period, but honestly, the babies need their sleep and they need to learn to go to sleep on their own. They can grow up to have major sleep problems if they need someone to help them get to sleep.

      My son actually looks forward to bedtime now and will often get up and start walking toward his room on his own when he's ready for bed. And he likes to play in his crib and will often hang out in there until 8 am or so playing with his stuffed animal or babbling to himself. Before, bedtime was always a battle and he hated going in his crib.

  26. QUESTION:
    My baby is nearly 7 months and not sleeping through the night, help?!?
    He is nearly 7 months and having 3 solid meals a day now so im led to believe he should be sleeping through the night (most nights)... He is waking up 3 or 4 times in the night and because he doesn't like dummies he will only fall back to sleep with a bottle... really want to break this habit but he just wont fall asleep by himself!! Any suggestions would be great.

    • ANSWER:
      Change your belief on when babies sleep through the night. Every baby is different and will sleep the night when THEY are ready to.

      My son is 15 months and still wakes 3 times a night, once for a nursing session.

      *edit* UGH- Why do people think doctors are parenting experts? They went to medical school, not parenting school. You don't take gardening, plumbing, or any other type advice from doctors, so why take parenting advice when they only see your kid for 5 minutes and no nothing about them other than medical history? Seriously!?

  27. QUESTION:
    When did your babies start sleeping through the night?
    My son is an awesome baby and used to sleep through the night but doesn't anymore. He just turned 1 year old. When did your kids start sleeping through the night and did you just get lucky or did you do something special to help them sleep through the night? I have a specific nighttime routine that I go through with my son which consists of a bath, a story, and then I put him in his crib and he falls to sleep really quickly and easily. Regardless, he still wakes up once a night at the same time every night. What can I do and how long will this typically last?

    I have another baby due in August and I'd like to at least get a month or so of a full nights sleep before I have to start over again. Lol!
    I forgot to mention that he's not on the bottle anymore and his sleeping habits haven't changed since we took him off of the bottle. He's been off of formula for a month or two now and he only got a bottle when he would wake up at night. Now, he's off of the bottle completely. The only difference is that now, I have to find a different way to put him back to sleep rather than just handing him a bottle. When he wakes up now, I give him his sippy cup and he sits up and drinks most of it then goes back to sleep.

    • ANSWER:
      my son was 1yrs old when he sarted sleeping through the night but woke up once for milk bottle but gradulaly he slept through all the night ..now that hes 19mths old he sleeps all night and doesnt wake up.u can wake ur son/daughter up before u go bed and give him/her a bottle so she/he wont wake up all night..like that u can sleep and the baby will be full so he/she wont wake up all night.my son was 8mths when i got pregnant with my twins and havent slept a full nights sleep since.congrats hope i helped

  28. QUESTION:
    7 month old baby not sleeping through the night at all? Help please!!!?
    Hi everyone

    My little boy is 7 and a half months old and the last couple of weeks his sleeping at night has been awful. Each night has gradually been getting worse and last night he spent most of the night screaming and ended up in my bed with me wide awake. He has a bedtime routine of 8pm bath, then 7oz bottle (he usually falls asleep when hes feeding) and he usually sleeps through til around 5am. At 5 am i give him breast milk and he'll sleep for a further 2 hours. He has a couple of naps through thr day, varying from half an hour too an hour.

    Last night however was awful. He had his normal routine but woke up as soon as we put him in his cot and he cried and screamed. He just wouldnt sleep. Everytime we put him in his cot, he wopuld scream and have a tantrum like a 2 year old. He has a dummy / pacifier which does settle him but as soon as he spits it out, he screams and wont take it again. This lasted until 11.45 when he finally dozed off in his cot. He then woke up at 1.20am and cried and screamed until he fell asleep in my bed at 3.30 am (I couldnt take anymore and knew I had too be up early). We tried everything to get him back to sleep (winding him, conforting him, giving him calpol etc) but nothing worked until I breast fed him. At around 4 am i mamanged to put him back into his cot (which is in his own room) and he slept for another hour and a half.

    His first tooth has cut through the gum and I know he is teeting but is this normal?

    Too make matters worse, today was my first day back at work and I was so tired! Luckily I am only working 3 mornings a week and my mum is looking after my little boy who he sees all the time.

    My partner is now giving him his bath and hes happy and splashing around but I dread too think what tonight will bring.

    Has anyone expereinced anything similar and how long did it last? Any tips on getting him to have a better nights sleep? I know he is a light sleeper anyway but surely waking up this much at 7 months isnt normal?

    Im trying not too get too stressed about this as I know it will only make it seems alot worse.

    I hope everyone can understand this lol. Im falling asleep as I type! :) x
    I should also add that he had his injection for swine flu a couple of weeks ago. Could this have anything to do with it? :)

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  29. QUESTION:
    How do I get me 19 month old son to sleep through the night?
    Putting him to bed at night isn't too difficult. We have gotten into a routine of supper, family time, bath, wheel of fortune (he loves letters), and then bed, story, sleep...we play music quietly in his room at night, and he now has a night light. he gets a light snack with his show to fill him up, he has a cup of water in his crib, he doesn't get to watch much tv, and we even ask that people don't scare him so that he doesn't have nightmares. He even has a favorite stuffed kitty he takes to bed with him. It never fails, he gets up AT LEAST once a night. He doesn't need changing, or feeding, or anything, just consoling...but sometimes he goes right back to sleep and sometimes hes up for an hour or more. I REALLY need a good nights sleep. please help!
    He gets up every morning around 7am, and goes to bed around 9pm. We cut out one nap in the day, so he now only has one, about an hour. Tried cutting out both, then hes so over tired he won't go to bed, and still gets up (just more).
    He has NEVER had a bottle, so we don't want to start that now (he's almost 2) and if we let him have more than one nap during the day then he will definatly wake up in the night, 3 or more times. But he goes to bed REALLY well to start, it's just keeping him asleep that seems to be the problem.

    • ANSWER:
      When your son wakes up, just leave him in the crib alone. If he is not sick, hungry or needs changing don't bother him. He probably got use to that when he wakes up, you are going to be by his side, he might just want company. Don't talk to him or bother him for a few days and he will realize that every time I wake up mommy is not there.

  30. QUESTION:
    my baby is 11 months old and still not sleeping through the night. any suggestions ?
    ive tried a bath before bed with the lavender stuff, cereal in her formula and she eats great but still wakes up for that middle of the night feeding. i live in an apartment so its kind of hard to let her cry it out without disturbing the neighbors.help i am desperate!! lol

    • ANSWER:
      Well hon, every baby is different, some really like that midnight bottle! just prep it before going to bed and offer it in a calm way so as to not fully wake her up. After the first b-day it should diminish or stop, hang in there! ;)

  31. QUESTION:
    My 7 month old suddenly stopped sleeping through the night....?
    He hardly wants to nap during the day and at night he cries until he passes out because he is so tired but he is fighting it. It eats plenty during the day and before bed. I dont get it. He used to sleep all night without a peep, now he is waking up several times a night and needing his pacifier or refusing to go back to sleep at all. I think hes teething, but what can I do to help him sleep all night again without getting him into a nightly routine which will interfere with his sleep and mine too. Please help Im so frustrated, and please to all of the people who love to answer these questions with a simple call the doctor and get your easy 2 points. Im not stupid, I know that the doctor will know more than most people, but I want opinions from other parents who have been through this, thats why Im on here.

    • ANSWER:
      I would say that maybe he is teething. It could also just be a phase, depending on how long it has been going on. I have a 10 month old and he went through a phase a month or 2 ago where he would wake up and need me to help him back to sleep. I would give him some Tylenol before bed and rub some Orajel on his gums as well. Secondly, I would give him some time before rushing into his room; he might re-settle on his own with time. My son eventually stopped doing it on his own. I have also noticed that my son had/has more trouble with sleep when he is learning a new skill, such as rolling over, crawling, cruising, pulling up and now he is taking his first steps. All of these types of milestones can keep little ones up at night because they are so excited and want to keep practicing. If that is the case, they will usually sleep better once they have practiced the skill for a few days. My best advice is to hang in there; all parents have been there at some point. If you are okay with it, I would also advise you to let him cry it out for a night or two once you have given him the proper help (Orajel and Tylenol) for the teething. It will probably pass on its own... Good luck!

  32. QUESTION:
    I'm sleeping through my baby waking up at night, Any help?
    She'll wake up once through out the night for her bottle, about 4:30 am. Most nights I sleep through her crying until her father wakes up with her. Somehow I just can't manage to wake up when she cries. Anyone else have this problem, I need some tips or something, please help.

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  33. QUESTION:
    9 month old still not sleeping through the night.?
    My son will be 9 months old next week and he still is not sleeping through the night ever!!! I have two older children and never went through this with either of them. I don't know what to do, I am not getting any sleep hardly. He will go down and then wake up like every two hours and want to be rocked or have a bottle etc and then goes back down and repeats this all night. Help!
    I have tried letting him cry it out and tried not giving him a bottle but he screams and throws a fit.

    • ANSWER:
      Sadly sometimes you just have to suffer through. My 1st slept through the night when we came home from the hospital, however, that was not the case with my 2nd. She didn't sleep through the night until after 13 months and the crying never stopped if I left her alone, it was hours before she would wear herself out. More often it was me who was worn out after several hours and would give in. This child needs more reassurance and security(in the form of mommy). You might try letting him sleep with you for naps. If it helps, sleeping with them is better than no sleep at all. My daughter wouldn't sleep with us. You could try moving his crib or a portable infant bed into your room and allowing him to sleep there. It helped my daughter, it was easier to get her to adjust to her own room eventually than to continue sleepless. Try some kind of soothing sounds, there are items that mimic the in utero sounds(like mothers heartbeat and breathing(see link below)) or maybe soft lullabies. He will grow out of it, unfortunately there is no way to know when. Hope this helps. Good Luck and God Bless.

  34. QUESTION:
    Crying it out and sleeping through the night questions?
    my son just had his 1st birthday earlier this month. He's still unable to put himself to sleep and stay a sleep through the night. He wakes sometimes 2 or 3 times a night. We've tried the "no cry sleep method" and unfortunately it isn't working for us and we don't have the time or patience anymore to continue with it. We have a routine that we follow every night - we read, he eats, daddy rocks him, we lay him down in his crib and he sometimes hums himself to sleep. We've decided to try the Ferber Cry it out Method but everything I read about it online says that he should be between 4 and 6 months - are we too late? Can we still try this method? Do you think it's cruel? I'm so torn because we're desperate for a good nights sleep but I don't want to be selfish and put my child through this if it's only going to benefit me and not him as well. I've read that it can cause depression in infants, raise their blood pressure, and even in extreme cases cause the child to over heat. I'm terrified but I also know that my husband and I are responsible and would follow through on checking in on him every 3 to 5 minutes. If it's not crucial to the method than we would never let him cry for the full 10 minutes.

    Any advice would help us please!

    Is there another sleep method other than the Cry it Out or the No Cry Sleep Solution that we should consider?

    • ANSWER:
      I have tried cio with my daughter and it works. Then after a day or 2, she starts nursing to sleep and we just lay her in her crib sleeping so we all forget about cio & have to do it again in a few weeks.
      My advice to you - stick with it if you are planning to use this method. It will SUCK, but it will work. Many people I know have tried this(on their doc's advice) and they are all sleeping through the night now!
      I hope all the negativity on here does not scare you off, it will be worth it when it's over. Sleep is good for everybody!

  35. QUESTION:
    can anyone help my 5 month old has stopped sleeping through the night?
    he has gone from 12 hours a night to waking all the time. it all started when he started rolling and rolling into the sides of the cot or he pushes with his leg into the top of the cot than at 6:30 he wants to get up and play.
    i have a 22 month old who i get up to 2 to 4 times a night aswell, now i get up to the baby at least 4 times and be up at 6:30 to start my day.
    can anyone help i love my sleep and so did my kids until now

    • ANSWER:
      I am having the same problem with my 6 month old. He has been waking usually only once a night for the past 2 weeks and he drinks a full 9 oz bottle...I am hoping it is just a growth spurt. I think it may also be because he is teething. Some nights he wakes more than once but gets himself back to sleep within a minute or 2. I follow a very regular routine and he is still doing this. It's hard going from having a baby that sleeps 11-12 hours at night without so much as making a sound to suddenly not being a sleeper to brag about. Let's hope, for both of our sakes, that it is just a phase.

  36. QUESTION:
    My 13-month-old is suddenly no longer sleeping through the night...?
    For a while my son was sleeping just fine through the night. However, once he hit his first birthday a month ago, he's been waking up every 3-4 hours like he did when he was younger. He has been sleeping in his own crib in his own room since he was three months old and never had a problem. I try to let him cry for a little but then he'll start screeching like a spider monkey. He actually does wake up, as I will go into his room and he's either sitting up or standing holding onto the rail. Sometimes, rocking him won't help and I have to break down and give him some milk, which puts him back to sleep for a while. He takes two regular naps during the day, so I can't understand why he is suddenly changing his nighttime sleep habits. He is perfectly healthy and his doctor says nothing is wrong, he is probably just going through a "phase". Any suggestions? Unfortunately, we live in a small apartment with THIN walls, so crying it out would not be prudent in our situation! Thanks!!
    He goes to sleep with the Baby Einstein Lullaby Classics CD on, and his fan is constantly running all day...we live in Texas and it's too hot not to have it on haha.
    I do not give him milk every night...I usually try water first...milk is a last resort and happens about every other night, and only once.

    • ANSWER:
      I have to disagree with most who told you to not give him milk and that will just cause a bad habit. My son is also 13 months old..his molars are poking through and causing him to wake at night. The past 2 nights he woke up screaming. I rocked him and gave him sips of milk to calm him back down. When you give your child milk in the middle of the night and they take it, whether it's the whole cup or not, that's what they wanted/needed. I tried the water thing with him at 10 months when he woke but I found that to be cruel and useless because his belly was growling..so I always ended up giving him a bottle and he sucked that down and was fast asleep for the rest of the night. From 10 1/2 months until a few days ago he slept thru the night with no problem. I look at my son, see how active he is during the day, when it's so hot outside and don't hesitate one bit giving him milk if he wakes at night. He usually takes only 1/2 the cup but that's enough to settle him for the remainder of the night.

      Also at this age they are realizing that they are seperate from us. Seperation anxiety kicks in at this age. When they wake and realize they are all alone, of course they will scream and cry.

      Don't resort to letting him cry it out. Again I'm against that method. I tend to view my role as a mother as the one who should do everything in her power to comfort my son..even in the middle of the night when it's the hardest. They are so little, so new to this world and need to learn/know that someone is always there for them and I find nothing wrong with that.

      As for the naps have you tried to cut back to one long nap in the afternoon? I have my son on a 3 hour nap in the afternoon and that's helped tremendously as far as making him more exhausted before bedtime.

      Also a snack before bed is something we do, whether it's cereal, cereal bar, fruit. Any extra calories for him since he's so active and growing.

      Hang in there. I do believe that this is just a phase. good luck

  37. QUESTION:
    My 21 month old isn't sleeping through the night ?
    She has slept through the night since she was 4 days old, and for the past 4-5 months she has been up 3-8 times a night, I've tried milk but I shouldn't have to give her milk she eats plenty of dinner so now when she wakes she keeps saying milk, she doesn't use a dummy but will take it sometimes instead of milk, she goes to sleep with a bottle though. She just keeps waking up if she is calling mum I just leave her and after 10 minutes shell fall asleep but if she is actually crying she just gets louder so I have to go in cos hubby has shift work and can't be tired for work, we have controlled cried a few times we have tried cuddling I've tried sleeping in a single bed with her, which I don't want to do as I'm 7 months pregnant with number two. And want her to sleep through before bub comes, she has a few teddies, a night light which she goes through stages of wanting the light then other times she sleeps if I take it out, she isn't hot or cold she just has got used to calling out I don't know what to do nothing works, do u think maybe because I don't have a car and there isn't much public transport that our games at home are not tiring enough throughout the day for her to sleep at night? She goes to bed at 7 every night and is great with routine in bed asleep on time, should I tire her out more in the day should I put her to bed later, I'm so exhausted getting out of bed so often being not far off having another bub, this can't go on please help!!!

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  38. QUESTION:
    OMG Help!!! 7.5 month old not sleeping through the night!!!!!!?
    Hey gang,

    I think I'm at my wits end. My little 7.5 month old little baby girl is not sleeping through the night. She was always a bad sleeper since she was born (i.e. not napping too long during the days and waking up at every hour of the night). Right now I am still struggling with 3-4 hours of broken sleep a night...and it's killing me. I'm just so worn down, depressed and losing A LOT of weight. I'm also at the point where I'm scared that I will just faint in the middle of day and no one is around to know... My hubby works overseas and my mum come helps me out whenever she can but I find it hard to sleep during the daytime and by the end of the night I'm so exhausted I have trouble sleeping! Has anyone experience this?

    So the question is : What can I do to help my daughter sleep better, more peceful through the night? She wakes up with the slightest noises and even when it's dead quiet she's still is restless (tosses, turns, cries). She's takes her last 5.5 oz bottle at 11pm-1am (and does not take anymore than 5.5 oz). Her next bottle is at 5:00-6:00AM.

    When will it get better :( (( ???

    ANY ideas or suggestions will be greatly appreciated!!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      Maybe attend a sleep clinic

      fyi my 3 yr old daughter has just started sleeping through... she had done but everyso often she wouldnt...

      my son is 14 months and still wakes only once tho... i half co-sleep and pick him up and pop him into bed with me ...

      im not the best person to give sleeping advice but it gets to a point where sleep is sleep no matter how you get it...

      maybe put the baby in bed with you when she wakes and deal with the fact she will have to go into her own bed when shes a little older and you can rationalise with her?

      aalso try some low soothing music in the background ... she will focus on that and not all the little 'startleing' noises...

  39. QUESTION:
    How do I get my 10 month old to sleep through the night? ?
    Anyone with suggestions, please e mail me. At the age of 3months old my son slept all night long until he became 7months old. I think I've tried all of my tricks but that doesn't seem to be working. So, please help a very tired and exhausted mom out.

    • ANSWER:
      I don't have an answer for you, but I just wanted you to know you're not alone. My 9 month old used to be a good sleeper, but for the last 3 months or so she has been waking up 4-5 times a night. Good luck! I hope you find something that works for your son.

  40. QUESTION:
    toilet training and sleeping through the night!!! help!!!!?
    my three yr old step daughter is toilet training and doesnt wet or dirty her knickers at day care but has lots of accidents at our house and her mums house any tips????

    also she has started waking up like every hour at her mums house and is reall naughty towards her mum (hitting crying shouting calling names etc) what can we do to help this? she behaves really well when she stays with us and sleeps all night too!
    any tips would be welcome

    • ANSWER:
      well my 4 yr old boy is not potty trained we know that he is more than capable but will not for some reason and we have tried it all (maybe some of these tips can help u)(and believe me ur not alone!)

      try praise
      try bribes
      try candy
      try stickers (and or leading up to a big treat)
      try spanking (i know ur not supposed to but it worked for our neighbor who's kid was always wetting in the same spot)
      try nothing (based on our pediatrician's website - the idea is that the child is using the potty to fight with u about ur resistance about the potty or something - u leave all potty up to her and do not even mention the word - she wets change her - she will realize their is no fight and give up - good luck)

      were ready to make a dr appointment for our son

      for kids night time dryness is the hardest to master

      as far as attacking u guys at night perhaps she is in a 'sleep terror'

      which means that she is having a VERY bad nightmare - but cannot wake - if u want more info and stuff Google it

      basically with a sleep terror :

      do not wake them up
      in the morning they will not remember anything and do not remind them
      do hold them and try to soothe them
      terrors usually happen after being asleep for a few hours and only happen about once a night and the chile will out grow them

  41. QUESTION:
    HELP!! My 20 month old daughter still not sleeping through the night. ?
    What can I do? She is still not sleeping through the whole night, UNLESS she is sleeping with us.
    I don't have the heart to let her cry it out, plus I have tried that one and all she ends up doing is throwing up, she gets so upset.
    Now we have baby #2 due in july so I will be up nursing baby and would love for her to be sleeping all night.
    Please help.
    We have put her in a "big" girl bed but she still wakes up every 2 or 3 hours no matter what.
    We do have a set bed time plan: dinner, clean up from dinner (she helps clean the table), mommy&daddy time (45mins), bath time, p.j's , cuddle time and in bed by 9/9:30.
    I just don't know how to get her to sleep longer than 2 or 3 hours at a time. Nap time is no issues she'll take a 2 hour nap by herself.
    Thanks for the input.

    • ANSWER:
      She is not sleeping through the night? Congratulations... you have a NORMAL 20 month old!! Of course you would love for her to sleep all night, but it's part of parnethood not to get consecutive sleep. DO NOT let her cry this is awful and I can't believe parents do this! This will accomplish nothing except a sense of insecurity!

  42. QUESTION:
    My baby is 6 months old baby is still not sleeping through the night. She is breastfed. Is this why?
    This is my 3rd child. I bottle fed my first 2 and I can remember that by 6 months of age, they were both sleeping through the night (meaning at least 5-6hrs straight!) My new baby is now 6 months old and she is still waking up about every 2hrs to feed. This is nothing like what I was expecting because I compare it to my other children and they did sleep! My nights are restless and I have been waking up with headaches because of this. I just want to know from other moms who are exclusively breastfeeding their baby, is this why? If i would bottle feed her would she sleep through the night? Please help!

    • ANSWER:
      No, it isn't why. Lots of 6 month olds don't sleep through, feeding method doesn't matter.
      My daughter was breastfed, she still doesn't sleep through the night at 19 months, my friend's daughter is the same exact age and was bottlefed, she still doesn't sleep through.

  43. QUESTION:
    My dog has just stopped sleeping through the night!!!?
    My 10 mo. old lab mix all of a sudden has decided not to sleep through the night! He is crate trained and everything. in the last few weeks he has started to wake up 2-3 times a night to go out to the bathroom. Sometimes he just crys or digs in his crate just to get out! What the heck is up with this dog??? Help!! I cannot lose anymore sleep!

    • ANSWER:
      Minimally the dog has a bladder problem. You have trained him not to soil his crate. So he whines to wake you up instead.

      The fact that he is waking up needing to go outside to the bathroom 2 or 3 times per night suddently, should have clued you in to the fact that he had a medical problem.

  44. QUESTION:
    How to make your kids sleep through the night?
    I have a 3 year old and a 2 year old they are both in toddler beds, they will not sleep all night, I am so tired all the time. They do not take naps either. My 2 year old only takes a nap on Tues, and Thurs at school and that is only for about 40 min. I am so tired I also work a full time job and my husband has to get up at 4 in the morning so I hate to ask him to get up with them too. Can anyone help???

    • ANSWER:
      First of all, they need a good bedtime routine that is the same (as much as possible). For example, a bath and then a book, or something like that. A consistent bedtime is important also, and a consistent nap time for both children.

      As for getting them to sleep through the night, that can be tough at this age. At this point though, it is only habit. They definitely don't need to get up for something to eat or drink. But the bottom line is that the only tried and true way to do it is to not respond to them at night, even to the point of letting them "cry it out". It makes for a miserable first few nights but it is definitely effective.

      If they can get out of bed and come find you, that makes it harder. I like the "Supernanny" method, though - (as in the show). Basically the first time they get out of bed you tell them it is night time and they need to stay in bed, walk them back to their room and put them to bed. No drinks, no story, nothing. The next times you say nothing and just put them in bed, and keep doing it until they stop. It may make for a long first few nights but it is very effective if you can be consistent with it.

  45. QUESTION:
    15 month old awake for 2+ hours in the night. Not sleeping through the night. Any help?
    I have read many sleep books. The only thing I haven't tried is full cry it out (all night until he goes to sleep). I just can't do it. However, I have tried "modified cry it out"....the checking method where you let them cry for 5 minutes or longer, then check on them. I followed this method for several days and did teach him how to fall asleep on his own, but he still often wakes and can't go back to sleep. He is wide awake and agitated and nothing seems to help. He knows how to fall back asleep on his own because he sometimes does, but he usually is up at least twice during the night..sometimes for 2 hours. He had reflux and we just took him off his meds. That seemed to help for awhile. I removed dairy for 2 days & know it's not dairy allergy. He sometimes wakes with burps and needs to be burped. I've tried feeding more (& also less) at night to see if he's overfull or hungry. Also, I weened at 1 yr. He is off bottles and sleeps with a paci. Any suggestions?
    Also, he is teething (for months!!) but I treat this with teething gel & sometimes tylenol or motrin if he is up all night.
    I should mention that he doesn't take long naps either. Yesterday he only napped 30 minutes! Sometimes it's 2 hours but never late in the day.

    • ANSWER:
      Teething can be painful, my 13 month old is having really bad nights right now too. Keep up with the motrin and teething gel. Have you had his ears checked? Sometimes ear infections can rear their ugly heads with no fever. He also may just miss you. This is the age for seperation anxiety. I don't believe in the cry it our method. I feel it sends them a message that we don't care to meet their needs in the night. Everyone is different though. I hope it gets better for you.

  46. QUESTION:
    I'm having trouble sleeping through the night and I think it might be connected to paranormal activity.?
    So, for about the past month I've been going to sleep at around 10 or 11, maybe even midnight. It doesn't matter which one of those times I go to sleep I still end up waking up at 3 a.m. When I wake up it's not just me waking up for a regular reason like being uncomfortable or something, it's like I feel so alone and cold; Maybe even numb.

    Some nights I'll wake up and sit straight up and feel instantly cold and alone...Like I'm in a freezer. Other times I'll wake up screaming and just lay there tossing and turning and kicking, feeling like there's someone else here with me, trying to hurt me.

    If anyone has more information about this, please help me. I just want a good nights sleep. Even sleeping pills aren't helping me. Not even in the least bit.
    I didn't mean the movie. I know that the movie Paranormal Activity isn't real. I mean REAL paranormal activity. Yes, there is such a thing. I dealt with hauntings when I was younger, but they stopped when I was about five, so I know it's real.

    • ANSWER:
      put some extra blankets on the foot of the bed~quit all your caffeine and chocolate~and don't forget to pray~it always works for me♦

  47. QUESTION:
    How can I make my 4 month old son sleep through the night?
    I've tried feeding him some pablum at night thinking that it would fill him up and sleep all night but it doesn't work. I've tried letting him sleep with me thinking he might be too cold in his bed but that doesn't seem to be the problem either...can anyone help?

    • ANSWER:
      you cant
      babys that young do not normally sleep through the night (and if they do they are at an increase risk for sids http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/solids/solids-sleep.html
      see in particular the research of James McKenna, PhD) also note "seelping through the night" is 5 or more hours not 8
      co sleeping may help a bit, but its not always a good option
      you can also introduce a bedtime routine like a bath and massage

      as you have found giving cereal at night has no effect on babys sleeping patterns (it can also malnourish your infant and is not recommended before 6 months)

  48. QUESTION:
    my 4 month old has been sleeping through the night for 2 months now with the occassional waking for a bottle?
    However on those night that he wakes, after the bottle he falls asleep and resumes the night sleep. Our normal schedule is 8pm down and wakes at 6-6:30am. Now for the second night in a row, he has been waking at 4am and after the bottle he is awake. I mean starts cooing and laughing. Of course i am frustrated because im tired but cant figure out why this is happening. The first night i let him stay there in his crib and was awake for 3 hours. This morning I decided to give him 2 bottles (totalling 8 oz...i know its a lot) but he fell asleep within 20 min. Why do you think this is? During the day he is getting 4 oz of formula every 2 hours. then at 8pm he gets a night bottle with 6oz. HELP

    • ANSWER:
      He is more than likely getting hungrier, my daughter is now 4 months and has 6-7 oz every 3-4 hours. Try upping his bottles, If he reaches 8-9oz every 4 hours try the hungry formula as this is ment to fill him until he is ready for weaning at 6 months.

  49. QUESTION:
    Chinchilla sleeping partially through night?
    I have a one year old male chinchilla named Hiro.
    I have had him for 5 days now.
    He is coming along fairly well, as far as I can tell.
    He seems to be eating and drinking normally, and enjoys sniffing and nibbling my hands after I pet him inside his cage.

    I am concerned, however, about his sleeping patterns.
    Is it normal for a chinchilla to become active and wake up around 11 pm (with brief periods of being awake), and then go to sleep when the sun rises? (I am actually not sure about this, as I leave for school around then).

    I understand chinchillas are crepuscular, and therefore I would assume he should wake up around sunset.
    Is Hiro's sleeping pattern a worrying sign of weakness or lethargy?
    Could it be because of artificial lighting in my room?

    Thank you in advance for helping.

    • ANSWER:
      Hiro sounds normal.Chinchillas are most active at night in general. My chins sleep for a couple of hours at night otherwise they are up playing all night. They are awake everyday around 3Pm. I work third shift and get up at three so they know that I will be up talking, feeding and watering them. Sometimes they even get run time at this time. Usually because they escape though. LOL!! Just give him time to adjust to your schedule.

  50. QUESTION:
    14 month old has stopped sleeping through the night- advice?
    My 14 month old daughter has always been a good sleeper, she still goes to sleep immediately after being put in her cot at night, But whilst she used to sleep through the night, for over a month now she has been disturbed from sleep numerous times throughout the night. We have been bringing her into bed with us to see if that would help but it doesn't. I am loosing 3 + hours of sleep each night with her and just don't know the cause or how to improve it. I've tried alsorts, I just want her to sleep again.

    • ANSWER:
      it is normal for a child her age to do that.her hormones have increasing levels that might affect her sleep,her nutritional requirements are different and her metabolism is also different.
      there are pediatricians who are specialised in sleep disorders and i suggest you should get the advice of one of them.they will help you a lot.


Help With Sleeping Problems

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Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    How to resolve insomnia and sleeping problems?
    Could someone help me with insomnia and my sleeping problem? I have trouble sleeping at night, even napping throw the day. It is very annoying and exhausting at the same time. I fell very tiered and sleepy the next day. Please, could someone help me?

    • ANSWER:
      I had been facing the same problem recently, but I have overcome it very successfully. I have tried everything starting from pills, to visiting nostrums and different healers, but noting worked. Until I found the cure, just visit www.livebetterlife.najdi.biz follow the instructions and you will found the cure also.

  2. QUESTION:
    What can I do naturally to help sleeping problems?
    I have no problems with falling asleep I just can't stay sleep, I wake up just about every 2hrs. I want to try anything naturally b4 taking meds.

    Thank You in Advance!

    • ANSWER:
      Some of the things that help me:
      Try not to eat anything late at night/or anything to heavy.
      Write down any things to remember or worries in a notepad etc.
      Take a warm bath with some nice stuff in it.
      Listen to some relaxing music for a while.
      Keep the room nice and ventilated and not too hot or cold.
      Wear an eye mask if your room is not dark enough.

  3. QUESTION:
    How do I fix my sleeping problems?
    Im not sure if its exactly a problem, but to fall asleep everynight i have to take two sleeping pills and a benadryl (i know, bad.) I was wondering why I have to, and how I can help my problem with sleeping.

    & It takes me about one hour to fall asleep with the pills, and I got a new mattress and nothing happened. Same thing.

    • ANSWER:
      you are addicted to pills, and you cannot natually fall asleep cuz you are dependant on them
      my advice is to go cold turkey, i was addicted to sleep aids for 7 years and i finally got off them i sleep naturally. for the first month or two i slept late and during the day cuz i was groggy. everynow and then i am unable to sleep, but its worth it

  4. QUESTION:
    I have sleeping problems and i need help?
    Hello yahoo i have a problem. I am 11 with a sleeping problem. On weekends i wake up at 11:00 am while i have my alarm set for 8:00 am. When i wake up i see the alarm saying it went off but i didn't wake up. I really need some help on how to wake up earlier than what i am waking up at.

    • ANSWER:
      Different alarm clock? My phone wakes me up on the dot whenever because I can record whatever I want and set it as an alarm.

  5. QUESTION:
    Is there an herb or something that I can take for my sleeping problems?
    I was recently switched to a drug that has a very major side effect of making me sleep too long and I consistently wake up tired. On weekends, I sleep from 9 pm to noon, and still wake up tired. I am used to going to bed at midnight and waking up around 0530 AM, with no problems at all. But these drugs seem to just drag me down. Is there something that I can take that will help with these problems? Would Valerian root help?

    • ANSWER:
      you might want to look into a bio alarm clock or the like. if you wake up during a certain part of your sleep cycle you will wake up tired, but if you wake up during the right phase of sleep (im not sure which it is-rem or not) you will awake refreshed. i use an iphone app that measures how much and when i move in my sleep because this indicates where you are in your sleep cycle. (you dont toss and turn while you are dreaming because your body is in sleep paralysis) so the gentle alarm wakes me up during the right phase of sleep and i am not tired. (as opposed to a certain time, which may or not be the right phase)

  6. QUESTION:
    Has anyone tried melatonin to help with infant sleeping problems? Did it work?
    My 2 year old has had enormous amounts of sleeping issues, along with night time wakings and screaming fits in the night. Recently our pediatrician told us to try melatonin before bed each night to help with her to shut the body down and prep for sleep. Just wondering if anyone has had any experience with this.

    • ANSWER:
      online and found very little to support my response. I found this which is interesting, written by a parent who used Melatonin and included a lot of research: http://www.worldhealth.net/p/4187,4473.html

      There aren’t a lot of studies showing long-term effects or issues.

      I don’t presume to know more about your child than you do, but unless there are medical issues, I wonder if the sleep problem is solvable without medication.

  7. QUESTION:
    What can i do to help with sleeping problems?
    My husband stays up till 3 4 5 o'clock in the morning watching tv and movies because he can't sleep.. what can I do to help him?? I've tried sleeping pills but they caused him to sleep all day..

    • ANSWER:
      More exercise, ensure eating habits do not include stimulants such as caffeine and changing leisure activities such as watching TV, and start reading instead.

  8. QUESTION:
    How to deal with sleeping problems??
    I wonder if anyone could help me. Here's the thing: i've been in school break for two months now and that means i usually go to bed at about 2 am, and I usually wake up with an alarm clock at 11 for breakfast then lunch immediately after breakfast. My problem is that I have problems sleeping, I usually stay an hour or two in bed trying to get some sleep and so I really have a hard time getting 2 sleep. Second thing is when my alarm sounds at 11 I wake up but I cant manage to get up and I immediately fall asleep. I have tried listening to music with my headphones in bed in order to stay awake but I still fall asleep again.
    Anyone could help me dealing with these falling asleep/waking up problems???
    I can't get up earlier since I know it's not worth it, I prefer sleeping. And I never take naps.

    • ANSWER:
      I tend to do that as well after the holidays. I reccomend a few days before school starts go to bed the time you usually do during the holidays but then get up really early in the morning (say 6am for an example). Put a REALLY annoying and loud alarm clock at the end of your room so you would have to get out of bed and turn it off in order to get some sleep. After you turn the alarm off don't go back to bed, no matter how tired you are. Try taking a shower or going to a walk to wake yourself up. That night then you would be a little more tired than you would normally be, so it should be easier to sleep. Blah that just sounded confusing but you get the picture I think. It works for me though =)

  9. QUESTION:
    How to get over my anxiety sleeping problems?
    Just a few days ago i had a big attack for the first time in about a year. After this attack i keep tricking myself in thinking somethings wrong with me. Whenever i try to sleep, I keep thinking about those things and its keeping me from getting any sleep. I know in my mind its just the anxiety, but that doesn't really help. What should I do? I just want things to go back to normal...

    • ANSWER:
      As an alternative, close your eyes and imagine a pitch black window shade slowly unrolling downward. On it you see in large letters the word SLEEP. Concentrate on seeing this word on the shade as it gradually winds down. Feel yourself sinking steadily into sleep as the shade comes down.Understanding your anxiety disorder and its probable causes is crucial, because that gives you a starting point. It provides you with a steady ground from where you can build on your well-being.
      Take care always!!

  10. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know of solution to sleeping problems?
    I have been struggling to sleep all night for almost 1 month now; I think I have insomnia. Can you help me with this condition?

    • ANSWER:
      Having the right amount of sleep every night is very important for young and old alike. My mother has been experiencing the same a few months ago and thought that it is just because she is already old but we have noticed that by the time she wakes up, she doesn’t have all the energy that she needs for the day. Thus, we also seek for the some solutions in the internet and I when I came across this spot: http://thenaturalsleepsolutions.blogspot.com/2010/11/what-is-it.html
      I had a thorough read and found this very helpful. Please check this out yourself, this might be of help

  11. QUESTION:
    Can anybody help me with my sleeping problems?
    I am 15 and have horrible problems sleeping. I have had it all of my life. But now, I can't even go to sleep. It used to be that it would take some time to go to sleep and then I would wake up every hour. But now, I can't sleep. I took an Ambien 2 hours ago, and was told it would knock me out, but it obviously hasn't. I have been to the doctor, they don't know whats wrong with me. What can I do to get some sleep tonight!!!!!!!!!!
    it was 10 mg.....and i don't drink caffeine....and i can't nap....i can't sleep so how do you expect me to nap??? (besides that, the sun shines really bright into my room during the day) and i generrally try to go to bed at the same time and i always get up at 8:15
    My doc all ready told me about the tv thing, so I got a chair and put it in my room. I read and do everything in that chair because the bed is for sleeping....for nothing else...haha....my doc gave me that speech a million times....
    Yes! I have been tested for thyroid and adrenal diseases......and i don't want to go through that again.....i hate needles......

    • ANSWER:
      If your doctor can't help you, you need to fire him, and get a new one who can. Were you tested for the thyroid diseases and adrenal diseases?

  12. QUESTION:
    Can anyone help me with sleeping problems?
    I'm a senior this year in high school. Durring every summer break I get into a routine of falling asleep at 8 or 9 in the morning and waking up at 4 or 5 in the evening. School is less than a week away. I need advice on how to get back on track. Anyone here know what this is called? Help!

    • ANSWER:
      do i look like a docter?
      go and see the doc man

  13. QUESTION:
    Sleeping problems help me with some answers?
    Sometimes when I go to sleep, I find it difficult, I get light headed and slightly dizzy, And when I go to close my eyes I feel as though I can't breathe, also my heart beat gets alittle fast, I don't know if this is some sort of anxiety or what. I mean It's not like I'm old or anything I'm only 19. But yeah I'd like some answers please. Note this only happens once in awhile.

    • ANSWER:
      sounds like an anxiety attack. i would try using some relaxation techniques. slow breathing, listening to calming music etc. also, about an hour before you go to bed, start to get your body ready for bed. dim the lights, turn off the television, read a book. do things that are calm so that your body knows it is almost time to go to sleep. it should help with the transition. goodluck!
      RW

  14. QUESTION:
    Can anorexia cause sleeping problems?
    I'm not dangerously underweight, but I was diagnosed with anorexia a couple of months age, because I wouldn't eat and when I would eat. I would purge several times.
    So I was just wondering if my sleeping problems could be due to this? I'm constantly tired during the day, but can't sleep when it comes to when I can.
    Please Help!

    • ANSWER:
      Yes, one of the symptoms of anorexia (and sometimes an effect) is insomnia.
      Sometimes depression, related to an eating disorder, may also cause insomnia. Medications which you may be taking could also contribute to your sleeping problems.

  15. QUESTION:
    Who has sleeping problems due to thinking to much?
    I have insomnia and my sleep patterns have been improving by writing down my thoughts, I took the next step and started my own personal blog which helped even more:

    mindexhibit.com

    I am trying to help those with sleep problems. So, who has sleeping problems due to thinking to much???

    • ANSWER:
      i really think i should sleep on that question.

  16. QUESTION:
    I need help with my sleeping problems, I have tried everything...?
    I am a college student so I can see how that may affect my sleeping habits now, but this has been an issue since 2004. I have tried everything from over-the-counter drugs to prescribed drugs to teas, and nothing has helped...Any suggestions? Btw I have PTSD also, but I don't know if that matters.

    • ANSWER:
      my grandma use to give us a peeled clove of garlic whole to swallow....just like an aspirin with water before going to bed....and we would sleep like angels.it is a natural remedy, it might work for you too, narcotics create habits, dependencies, and other serious problems, seek help fro a natural store,they might have other remedies too..............best ol luck from dallastexas...........jmcm

  17. QUESTION:
    Help me with my daughters sleeping problems?
    My child has a very rough time sleeping at night time. she gets so much anxiety. We are putting her on medds soon. Is there any advice from anyone how she can get over anxiety? Please help

    • ANSWER:
      do not listen to people that do not have kids. If you are putting her on meds for adhd like i think you are then tell dr about what is going on. my son has adhd and had a hard time going to sleep. he sleeps better now. maybe if you lay down with her at night.

  18. QUESTION:
    Do I need help for my sleeping problems?
    I have had a "sleeping disorder" for a long time now. First of all, I am only 22. I cannot make it through an entire movie at home without falling asleep. I am usually dog tired around 9 p.m. I sleep every chance I get. I can literally fall asleep before my head hits the pillow and this is not a joke. I can sleep for 2 hours on the couch with my b/friend beside me screaming about his favorite team losing the game and not even be awakened. I am too tired to even think about sex at night with my boyfriend of 6 years, plus like I said, I'm asleep as soon as it lay down. The only change in my life is a second part time job so I work 7 days at week, Mon-Fri 5:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. and Sat and Sun 5 a.m. to 1 p.m., as well as Wed. 6-10 p.m. Could this second job be contributing to this or not? I actually do get a lot of sleep because I sleep on the couch at least 2 hours before going to bed at night where I get at least 5 more hours of sleep. Should I seek help for this or what should I do? HELP

    • ANSWER:
      Yes, this sounds like a great question for your doctor. Personally, I found I had a sleeping problem because of my sinuses. It was causing me to snore and not get into my deep REM sleep; this caused me to feel very sleepy even though I slept 10 hours the night before. With the help of my doctor and allergist, I am now sleeping much more soundly and not so tired during the day.

  19. QUESTION:
    can somebody help me with sleeping problems?
    I have been lying in bed for two hours now and I can't seem to fall asleep I didnt have any caffeine and I only got 6hrs of sleep last night I need help
    jake i cant jerk off all night

    • ANSWER:
      masturbate

  20. QUESTION:
    what is the best natural remedy to help with sleeping problems?

    • ANSWER:
      Homeopathic Treatment for Sleeplessness/Insomnia, Anxiety/Stress/Tension due to different reason and with different set of symptoms :-

      Sleeplessness during menopausal stage Senecio Aur 30X, 4 hourly

      Cannot sleep in the early hours of night; utterly wide awake, mind active; sleeplessness due to excitement Coffea Cruda 30X 6, hourly

      Cannot sleep after 3 A.M.; sleeplessness due to mental strain or sedentary habits; sleep dreamy and restless Nux Vomica 30X, at bed times for 7 days

      Due to fear or panic; insomnia after shock or fright; restlessness and tossing in bed Aconite Nap 30X 4 hourly

      Due to tiredness; either physical or mental; bed feels too hard; must keep moving in search of soft portion for relief in bed Arnica Montana 30X or 200X, 1/2 hourly (3 Doses)

      Sleeplessness after midnight from anxiety and restlessness; has to get up and walk Belladonna 30X, 4 hourly

      Sleepy yet unable to sleep; child tosses, kicks clothes off, twitches; restless sleep with frightful dreams Arsenic Album 30X or 200X, 4 hourly (3 Doses)

      Sleeplessness and restlessness; specially in first part of night; gets up and walks on the floor, as soon as the bed time comes patient is wide awake Chamomilla 30X or 200X, 4 hourly

      Sleeplessness due to old grief; after dreams of thieves or robbers Natrum Mur 200X or 1M, 10 min (3 Doses)

      Sleeplessness due to sudden shock; disappointment Ignatia 200X or 1M, 10 min (3 Doses)

      Feels sleepy but cannot sleep; clocks striking at a distance keep him awake; bed feels hot; moves about in vain to find a cool spot in bed Pulsatilla 30X or 200X, 4 hourly

      Restlessness during early part of sleep; sound sleep when it is turns to rise; gets too hot in bed; throws off covers, gets chilly and puts them on again; puts arms above the head during sleep Opium 30X or 200X, 4 hourly

      ANXIETY & STRESS/TENSION :-

      Sudden with restlessness and fear of death Aconite 30X or 200X,1/2 hourly (3 Doses)

      Prolonged with periodic and panic attacks Arsenic Alb.200X, 4 hourly (3 Doses)

      With fainting spells; profuse sweating; worse in the morning Sulphur 30X or 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Makes patient walk fast; due to anticipation Argentum Nit 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Worse lying in bed and closing the eyes Carbo Veg 30X or 200X, 4 hourly (6 Doses)

      Anxiety aggravated by upward or downward motion; going in an elevator; worse till 11 P.M, Borax 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Anxious about business even when seriously ill Bryonia Alba 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Full of apprehensions in the evening Causticum 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Anxiety and fears in the evening with restlessness and palpitation Calcarea Carb.200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Anxiety worse while lying still. Sad music ameliorates the complaints Manganum Acet 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Anxiety due to fright, fear,exciting news; stage fright; worse while appearing for examination or interview etc Gelsemium 30X or 200X 3 hourly (6 Doses)

      Mood Swings, Anxiety due to grief or shock in the subconscious mind Ignatia 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

      Anxiety; better after eating Anacardium Or 30X 4 hourly

      Take the remedy which is similar to your symptoms. No side effects or complications if taken as directed, please do not exceed the given dosage and under any circumstances do not try to mix any remedies and avoid Chocolates, Mints, Coffee, Red Meat, Alcoholic and Carbonated drinks, Spicy Rich Food while taking any Homeopathic remedies, and keep the medicines away from direct sunlight, heat strong smells and perfumes and do not store them in the fridge.
      Curing without any side effects or Complications Thats the Beauty of Homeopathic Medicine

      Take Care and God Bless you.

  21. QUESTION:
    can somebody please help me with my sleeping problems?
    i can't remember the last time i woke up knowing i had a deep sleep.I have a dream EVERY night.not only that but i wake up every 30 min. or so.Sleeping has become extremely difficult,is there anything i could do?(and i don't want to take sleeping pills or cold med.)
    thank you for your help.

    • ANSWER:
      You sound like you have a very busy mind that just won't settle down at night. Are you worrying or anxious about something? Perhaps you need to find out what is going on by talking to the Dr.

      Have a check up and let him/her know what is going on. It doesn't hurt to be safe.

      If it isn't anything medical then there are relaxation exercises that can be done before bedtime.

  22. QUESTION:
    Sleeping problems with a 2 year old?
    My 2.5 year old is being difficult going to sleep. He has always been good going in at the same time every night and falling asleep without any help. For the past weeek he has been crying and yelling for us to rearrange his blankets teddy etc. I am getting annoyed as it is happening once we are out of the room and then ten minutes later. I dont know weather going in and settling him is making the problem worse in the big picture, should i let him cry it out for a few days or any other suggestions?

    • ANSWER:

  23. QUESTION:
    I am a 17 year old kid with sleeping problems.What can I do to go to sleep early?
    please help

    • ANSWER:
      An hour before bedtime, drink a glass of milk, and at the same time swallow one or two calcium/magnesium capsules or tablets which you can buy at a drugstore or Walmart. Calcium is a natural muscle relaxant, and really helps me to get to sleep at night !

  24. QUESTION:
    Sleep problems - not sleeping thru the night?
    I take Lunesta. Have been off and on for about a year and a half. Lately I am not sleeping thru the night. I am waking up around 2-3am and pretty much awake until I have to get up at 6. I am exhausted. I have has some stress lately in my life. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on this. I do have "mild" sleep apnea(I was told a cpap may or may not help). I snore some. And I sleep with earplugs...Does anyone have any ideas that might help me sleep thru the night? I exercise some, i am not overweight. I would prefer something that isn't a medication solution. As I already take something...
    I don't know if my waking up is stress related and an anti depressant is the last thing I need.

    • ANSWER:
      here is some tips
      i also have trouble sleeping

      Avoid or limit your use of caffeine (coffee, tea, sodas, chocolate), decongestants, alcohol and tobacco.
      Exercise more often, but don't exercise within a few hours before going to bed.
      Learn to reduce or manage the stress in your life.
      Don't lie in bed worrying about things. Set aside another time just for worrying. For example, spend 30 minutes after dinner writing down what's worrying you and what you can do about it.
      Try eating a light snack before going to bed, but don't eat too much right before bedtime. A glass of warm milk or some cheese and crackers may be all you need.
      Don't nap during the day if naps seem to make your insomnia worse.

  25. QUESTION:
    sleeping problem or more like problems waking up, cant' wake up with the alarm clock?
    I don't know why, but when I sleep, I sleep really deep...

    an alarm clock wouldn't wake me up, especially when I'm really tired... what can I do, help please!

    thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Put the alarm clock right next to your head and you'll wake up for sure.

  26. QUESTION:
    Sleeping problems with realistic physical injury?
    Last night I had a continuous barrage of nightmares with zombie apoclypse and other violent natures. I can actually feel the zombies biting me!!!!!! I tried to wake up but ened up only opening my eyes yet paralzed. And still I feel bitings. When I really woke up theres nothing biting me. I fear this will happen again HELP ME!!!

    • ANSWER:
      I have dreams like this on a regular basis, so I looked it up in a dream dictionary. It means to be emotionally dead or the actually chasing part could be symbolic of a problem causing you physical pain or coming back to bite you. These dreams are very scary, I know every time I have them it leaves me panicked for a few days. It won't last forever, and I hope my advice helps.

  27. QUESTION:
    Lately I been having a sleeping problems, please help?
    I went to the doctor and she said I had high blood pressure and gave me Clonidine and even though that medicine makes me calm I still have problems sleeping I got diagnosed with mono today and they said to get plenty of rest and fluids, but I still can't sleep and when I do it's a light sleep and I get woken up easily, but before all that I use to be a deep sleeper and didn't have any problems, can you please help me or give me some helpful advice?

    • ANSWER:
      You can have tight muscles in your body, not pinched to give you pain, but tight so that they are not relaxed. That could also account for a high blood pressure because it takes more force to make the blood flow through something that is tight. Even though you aren't feeling the tight muscles your body is reacting to them and is why you have trouble sleeping and it probably isn't a good rest when you do sleep. I'm not sure if it would be just back muscles tight doing this or back and neck so here's how to free up both of them so you can go for a better nights sleep tonight:
      Back:
      (do from a sitting position)
      Place your left hand on your left leg next to your body. Place your right hand over your left shoulder, fingers over the back and the palm in the front and firmly pull down on them and hold. After 30 seconds slowly lower your body forward and to the outside of your left leg, keeping your left arm fairly straight as you do. When you reach your lap remain there for another 10 seconds, release the pressure but rest there for another 30 seconds. Then reverse your hand positions and do your right side.
      Neck
      Put your hands alongside your head so your thumbs are on the front of the muscle under your ear and your fingers are on the back of the muscle behind your neck. Squeeze your thumb and fingers together and hold. Relax your body. When your fingers and thumb touch, about two minutes, slowly lower your head as far as you can, release the pressure but hold your neck lowered for another 30 seconds. for both- for best results relax your body first by taking a deep breath and exhaling then remain this relaxed.

  28. QUESTION:
    Can you Help me with sleeping problems for 11-12 year old children?
    My daughter doesn't have any problem with falling to sleep but when she goes to sleep it takes her a while and then she wake up at 2:00am and then she can't go back to bed.Then i tell her to close her eyes and she listen and does close her but, she will be laying there for hours and won't go back to bed. I am thinking it is something with my other children but i asked her and she said "no i don't care if they late because when school starts they won't be able to go to bed at the right time." Please help me out. Is there a child pill that can put them to bed for the whole night and also be healthy for them? Oh and she is a girl.

    • ANSWER:
      Well, being a hyper kid, that's really one big problem. But then, since she could not sleep after 2AM, you better give here something to work on... Like drawing, painting and even reading a book. I am sure, before her work is done, she'll be off to bed. But then before giving her this activity, be sure to give her lukewarm glass of milk.
      Take care and GOD BLESS THE CHILD :)

  29. QUESTION:
    Need help with my sleeping problems?
    i'm 15, and i find it soooo hard to sleep at night. This is because i go dancing 2-3 times a week and get in very late, which means dinner at 10pm therefore bed at half 11 earliest. You would have thought i'd be shattered by the end of the night, but then I cannot sleep.
    I've got herbal tablets...my mum has trouble sleeping too. Any suggesstions?

    • ANSWER:

  30. QUESTION:
    Sleeping problems, tried MANY things, any other ideas?
    I have been dealing with sleeping problems ever since I was a child. I have taken out all tv, radios, clocks out of the room. I bought a new mattress. I have tried journaling. I have tried herbal candles and such. I have stopped reading in bed. I've tried hot showers, no caffine after 3pm. I don't know what to do. I even had surgery because i had snoring problems, it helped me get deeper sleep, but not fall asleep any faster. It takes me hours to fall asleep and anything wakes me. I take a sleeping pill when i really HAVE to get to sleep but they are so $$$. What else can i try?

    • ANSWER:
      Some really important steps to take when you are fighting insomnia are this - if you are not getting enough sleep each night, set up a routine. Get up at the same time every day. Make sure that you get enough physical activity during your day and then set up a nightly ritual - such as taking your shower, getting ready for bed. You can try a number of herbal teas (such as sleepy time by Celestial Seasons) and then tuck yourself into bed. I would suggest you have some white noise going on, such as a relaxation tape, the sound of rain, waves or even just a fan going. White noise helps you to block out other disturbing sounds that could wake you up. If you sleep in complete quiet - any sound can wake you. Then I would try simple relaxation techniques. Some say tensing all the muscles in their body then relaxing them helps. Some work from the toes up, relaxing every part of the body as they work their way up. Some try deep breathing exercises. Some count backwards from 100 with each breath. Any of those can help. Sometimes stretching before bed can help the muscles relax and prepare for bed. But the important thing is to stick to the same schedule. Other sites recommend that if you are not asleep within half an hour to get up and do some normal activity - to not lay in bed if you can't sleep. I would also suggest you talking to your doctor about the problem. Perhaps they can help you with further suggestions that you have not thought of yet. And taking sleeping pill on any kind of regular basis can actually hurt rather then help you get to sleep. Good luck and sweet dreams.

  31. QUESTION:
    I am having sleeping problems. it is 2 AM and i still cant sleep!?
    are there any causes of this? And are there any ways you guys could help me with to go to sleep easier. like any advice?

    • ANSWER:
      You prolly have what I do
      Insomnia, it won’t kill you or anything, but basically what it means is that, it’s hard to fall asleep even when tired. I am in the say situation you are in. A couple things that work for me are workout before you go to bed. Like and 1-2 hour Jog, Run ECT. Take a shower always helps me, feel sleepy, or if you want even take Tylenol PM , that will help, if the problem really bugs you, go to your doctor and a get a prescription for lunensta, I have it and boy it works great.

      Zzzzzzzzzzz
      Need any more help, imp and email away drew5892@cox.net

  32. QUESTION:
    Help with sleeping problems?
    I've always had weird sleeping patterns, and at points it gets pretty bad.
    I probably have what you call insomnia, and it's genetic so it's no surprise, but the past couple days I've been exhausted but couldn't get to sleep mainy because of my pillow, or feeling my heartbeat and all that.
    What can I do to relax and get to sleep already? I already do drink tea and I have tried flipping the pillow over, haha.
    I don't drink caffeinated tea, it's actually for help for sleeping and all.

    • ANSWER:

  33. QUESTION:
    really bad sleeping problems any help please ?
    ive been having trouble sleeping for a few years now its getting to the point where ive no energy for the whole day its affecting my work aswell ..my brain just doesnt seem to want to sleep but my body is crying out for it and i wake up with bad head aches and i feel like my brain is swelling up or something it never feels right .. and ive tried sleeping tablets and some times they work but the min i fall asleep im straight into a dream and the min i snap out of that i wake up feeling wrecked and my head feels heavy and sore ..so now im starting to let my mind wonder off in work cos my brain isnt functioning properly and i cant concentrate its really getting the better of me any help at all would be appreciated thanks !!!

    • ANSWER:
      http://www.soothingspaces.co.uk/sleepforlife.htm try this site, hope it helps.

  34. QUESTION:
    Sleeping problems... could really do with some help?
    Recently i have had some major problems where sleeping is concerned... I can't physically get to sleep, and when i actually get too sleep, i wake up lots in the night, and then i can't get back to sleep... the other issue, is when it gets to the morning, i either struggle to wake up, or i wake up early...
    i tried taking night nurse last night, and i didnt find that it helped at all, it's just made me majorly drowsy today...
    does anyone reccomend anything? like techniques or pills or anything/
    thankyou. x

    • ANSWER:
      Hi There,

      To relieve insomnia, you should avoid substances that make it worse and have good bedtime habits that make it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep. Make sure your bedroom is a comfortable temperature, dark, and quiet enough for sleep.

      Good bedtime habits include:

      - Prepare yourself for sleep by, e.g. preparing a 'to do' list for tomorrow, so that such distractions are at their minimum when you actually hit the bed.

      - Turn your alarm clock so that its glow doesn't let you know of the time ticking away.

      - Not exercising, eating heavy meals, or drinking a lot shortly before bedtime. One exception is yoga. A number of yoga postures are designed to calm your body and prepare you for sleep.

      - Following a routine that helps you wind down and relax before bed, such as reading a book, listening to soothing music, or taking a hot bath.

      - If you share a bed, buy a king size bed with two different mattresses so that you two don't disturb each other while sleeping.

      - Making your bedroom sleep-friendly. Avoid bright lighting and minimize possible sleep distractions, such as a TV, computer, or pet.

      - Going to sleep around the same time each night and waking up around the same time each morning, even on weekends. If possible, avoid night shifts or alternating schedules at work and other causes of irregular sleep schedules.

      Both herbal and homeopathic remedies are commonly used alternatives to sleeping tablets in reducing insomnia, and can be very effective in helping to assist an individual in the transition to peaceful slumber without strong sedatives or any concerning side effects.

      Certain herbs such as Hypericum perforatum, Scuttelaria laterifolia, Passiflora incarnata can be used to maintain healthy sleep patterns and promote optimal balance of sleep-related hormones involved in the sleep cycle.

      Homeopathic remedies such as Coffea C30 and Nux Vom. C30 are also used to reduce insomnia and maintain restful, satisfying, and healthy sleep. Other natural supplements that are widely used to address the underlying causes of chronic insomnia are calcium lactate, magnesium lactate and vitamin B6.

      These 2 hugely popular natural remedies http://www.healthherbsandnutrition.com/products/sereniteplus.htm and http://www.healthherbsandnutrition.com/products/sleeptonic.htm should ideally take care of your problem. It seems, the site offers some great COMBOPACKS also.

      Check them out

      Hope all this helps

      Good Luck!

  35. QUESTION:
    Help With Sleeping Problems?
    my grandpa has been struggling with staying asleep at night for around 20 years. He has taken a lot of prescription medication and still only sleeping maybe 4 hours each night. I would like to get him a product that can help. But he takes suck strong sleeping pills that im afraid those natural remedies wont do anything for him. Any suggestions would be nice.

    • ANSWER:
      It's nice that you want to help out your grandpa. Bravo!

      It sounds like your grandpa has chronic insomnia if he has been experiencing this problem for so long and is already taking sleeping pills.

      There are so many potential causes of insomnia that pills might not actually be the answer.

      The two most proven alternative medicines are valerian and melatonin but there are also lifestyle changes, home remedies, behavioural therapy and other medication to consider. Alternative medicines may interfere with other prescription medicine your grandpa takes (e.g. for blood pressure), so he should only consider these with advice from his doctor.

      If prescription medicine isn't helping then I would pursue the lifestyle and behavioural therapies first, or try to identify and deal with some of the main causes.

      The link below has some comprehensive suggestions.

  36. QUESTION:
    i need help with sleeping problems?
    i have an irregular sleeping schedule. i go to bed at almost any time at night or in the early morning and i cant sleep for very long. i am constantly tired but cant fall asleep. part of the reason is because of some strange nightmares that i have been having.

    • ANSWER:
      Try to put more exercise in your day to burn more energy, leaving you to feel more tired.
      Or try your doctor for a medical solution like sleeping meds and so forth.

      Happy z's

  37. QUESTION:
    Can someone help with my sleep problems?
    I've always had a problem getting a full night's sleep, however, for the past few months I've seemed to have adopted some additional problems with my restlessness.

    Every night I manage to fall asleep for a few hours, but then wake up for no apparent reason for at least 2 to 3 hours. I wake up with my body feeling extremely warm and achy. I have no idea why this is happening now. My high body temperature and aches are something that I've only begun to experience for about a week or two now.

    In addition, I experience the occasional headaches. Also, with the hours of restlessness, I find myself waking up at the late hours of the morning, and feeling extremely tired during the day.

    I used to be able to control my sleepiness, and make it through the day. But now I find that all I ever feel like doing now is sleeping. I'm so tired.

    Can anyone suggest some effective ways to improve my sleep problems without the use of medication? And also, why I experience high body temperature and aches?

    • ANSWER:
      Don't eat or excercise within 3 hours of going to bed.

      Don't turn on the TV when you go to bed or when you wake up in the middle of the night.

      Stop sleeping in a recliner or on a couch when it's not bedtime.

      Drink a glass of milk before bed. (makes you sleepy and helps with heartburn)

      See a doctor about your new symptoms.

  38. QUESTION:
    Need help with Sleeping Problems?
    So I can go to sleep with no problem and have no problem sleeping during the night. My problem is when I wake up. It feels like I am waking up in my mind and my body is not waking. It use to happen maybe once a year but now it has become pretty frequent. I wake up and can't move my body or open my eyes. The only way I can get out of it is to wiggle my toes then my feet and show on until I can control my body fully. Please help me figure out why this is happening.

    • ANSWER:
      This sounds like a very bad case of sleep paralysis that occurs when your brain is awake but your body is still asleep. It can strike very healthy people and can last up to several minutes.

      Source(s):
      Web search for "sleep paralysis"

  39. QUESTION:
    asap need help with my sleeping problems?
    I can't get to sleep easliy

    • ANSWER:
      I've found that working out in the early evening before winding down increases my body's fatigue and helps me go to sleep more quickly.

      There are always sleeping pills.

      You can also take Melatonin, which is a natural chemical produced by our bodies. You can get this in the vitamin section of your pharmacy and it is supposed to help you become sleepy, but it's not going to knock you out like sleeping pills. My experience has been that it does help me to go to sleep, but it may not keep me sleeping all night. I may wake up for some reason in the middle of the night.

  40. QUESTION:
    does garlic help one with sleeping problems?

    besides bad breath.

    • ANSWER:
      I love garlic but I'm still an insomniac.

  41. QUESTION:
    Seasonal birth control sleeping problems?
    since i have started the BC seasonal its hard to sleep at night i keep waking up i take the pill 1pm everynight and would like to switch to like afternoons to see if it will help is there a safe way i would do it with out getting pregnant could i take it 11pm than early like 12 noon the next day or will taking ittoo close together hurt me.

    • ANSWER:
      I would recommend checking with your doctor before trying to change the time of the dose to see what additional suggestions they may have.

  42. QUESTION:
    I'm having sleeping problems and Im not sure what is going on.
    First of, I know I have RLS and Periodic Limb Movement Disorder.

    This just recently started about 2 months ago. About a month ago I started to get these "spasms" in the middle of the night. I call them "spasms" becuase Im not sure what else to call them. I get them about once every week to 2 weeks. It's where I move around a lot and make noises, like Im having a nightmare. I sweat and everything. I slep with my boyfriend and the first time I had one of these he was right next to me and woke me up in the middle of it and asked if I was having a nightmare. Becuase I guess I was acting like I was having one. I woke up during one once and it did seem like I was acting as if I was having a nightmare, but I was not. I dont know what to call these things. I call them "spasms" but I know that isnt the medical term for that.

    So if anyone can help me and let me know what these "spasms" are and what the condition may be that is causing them, I would realy appreciate it.

    • ANSWER:
      I use to have them to not as bad but i would dream i was awake or something and have a nightmare about it! Do you have a large bed that is very warm sometimes i think i was to warm and would not sleep feeling claustrophobic also i starting not sleeping when i got sick and it made me tired but i couldn't sleep for some reason i guess it was because i was so tired that my body stopped telling me when i should sleep i could sleep during the day but not at night weird i know! but now when i feel like my body isn't going to let me sleep i take an advil pm like 30 minutes before i sleep but if i try and sleep and i cant and i need to take one i will have to wait 30 minutes before i can get to sleep!

  43. QUESTION:
    i need help with my sleeping problems...?
    im 18 almost 19 and i have really bad sleeping problems, i stay up till like 2 or 3 in the morning and don't wake up till like 1 in the afternoon. I sleep perfectly fine when someones with me, like my boyfriend. but when im alone i can never sleep. please help. any meds or anything t helpp?

    • ANSWER:

  44. QUESTION:
    Sleeping problems help please?
    I have no trouble getting to sleep to begin with as i go to bed reasonably early for my age, but i wake up at least 3 times a night but the problem is when i wake up i have to sit there for an hour and a half before i manage to doze to sleep but at this rate im getting like 4 full hours sleep and i get up at 7 o'clock in the morning! Also when i wake up i get really stressed i dont know why but i get panicky because i know im going to be up for an hour!! Help!

    • ANSWER:
      I had the same problem. I spoke to my doctor and got prescribed sleeping medications, but I think you should try other solutions before it comes to that. It is so easy for people to become dependent on sleeping medications, and you definitely don't want to go down that road. Sleeping should be something natural, so try natural remedies to help you fall asleep and stay asleep. If all else fails, speak to your doctor.

      http://health.yahoo.com/sleep-prevention/insomnia-improving-your-sleep/healthwise--zq1031.html

      Hope this helps.
      There are also many other articles online with tips to help you with your sleeping problem. Try some of the tips first.

  45. QUESTION:
    4 month old sleeping problems?
    My daughter started sleeping all throughout the night by the time she was 2 months old but now she wakes up about 3 or 4 times a night just to eat and then goes right back to sleep.is this normal? My doctor told me not to feed heruntil she's 6 months old but I tried feeding her some baby oatmeal before bed to see if it would help her stay asleep but it didn't work. I've also tried not letting her nap too much during the day with no luck. any suggestions? Thanks !

    • ANSWER:
      It's called the 4 month sleep regression, and while it is very frustrating, it's normal.

      Giving your baby food before she is ready isn't going to help her sleep and it might make the situation worse.

  46. QUESTION:
    sleeping problems please help?
    I have problems sleeping at night i lay in bed and i cant fall asleep i stay up all night, i have alot of things on my mind with health and money situations can this be whats causing me not to sleep? Does anyone know of any remides i can do to fall asleep thanks everyone

    • ANSWER:
      i know it can be hard to sleeep when ur stressed about especially when it comes to money and health there like the 2 main things ppl in this world stress the most. take a nice hot shower or bubble bath even if your a guy bubble bath are relaxing try to turn off the tv when you go to bed and just close ur eyes and count sheeps it might work

  47. QUESTION:
    my 3 week old daughter has sleeping problems. what can i do??
    my 3 week old daughter now has this problem where she will sleep soundly during the day and get up then be hungry and throw fits where she screams out and is crying for a long time. then she will fall asleep. and at night she is up often and is horribly fussy. [i think its the beginning of her getting her nights & days mixed up].. what can i do to get her to sleep like she does during the day at night and not so soundly during the day and to help with her fussyness??

    • ANSWER:
      Welcome to motherhood!! For the first few months your baby will try everything to keep you up and at 'em at the least imaginable hours. Call your pediatrician if you feel the need, but chances are your daughter is just being a baby. Don't worry about her health too much. most kids are like this until they are at least six months old.

  48. QUESTION:
    sleeping problems?
    I'm planning on moving out with my friend by the end of this summer, but i have a sleeping problem.

    I can never wake up to my alarm! are there any sorts of practices i can do now to help myself or is there a really good alarm clock anyone knows of??

    just let me know

    • ANSWER:
      I had a roommate like that in college. Her alarm was loud enough to wake us all, but her. She had one of our other roommates wake her up early in the morning. Perhaps your roommate will be as kind as to do the same? If not, make sure that you go to bed early and establish a pretty set schedule.

  49. QUESTION:
    I have pretty bad sleeping problems, help? :) ?
    I really really really can't sleep! And when I do sleep, I sleep no more than about 3 hours. Even If I am tired I wont knock out or anything. I really need suggestions, preferably of personal experiences because I don't want this no sleep problem to catch up with me later on. And I definitely don't want any bags under my eyes or none of that (I'm surprised I don't already have some)

    Gracias
    :)

    • ANSWER:
      I use to have sleeping problems as well when I was in high school. 20 years old now and most of it has gone away. For the most part the reason I couldn't sleep is because I would think constantly and couldnt clear my mind. So for me as long as I could clear my mind I could fall asleep. The three things I would do was either listen to music, thunderstorm soundtrack, or watch a movie. All three would keep my mind focused. You could try sleeping pills, but thats only if you want to take medicine. If you have a lot on your mind, there is plenty of ways to get things off your mind. Anyways I hope you find a way to sleep better.

  50. QUESTION:
    I'm having sleeping problems?
    I've been having sleeping problems for over 2 weeks now, ever since school got out. I can't fall asleep for hours and I wake up really early, even though my alarm isn't set. I'm tired all day and I have bags under my eyes and it looks like I haven't slept for 4 days! I tried drinking warm milk with honey, but that didn't help. What should I do?

    • ANSWER:
      The reason you wake up early is probably because you are used to waking up early five days of the week just for school.
      I'm not sure why you can't get to sleep on time, because I usually fall asleep about the time I always go to bed for school the next morning. Even though it's summer break.
      I heard that Benadryl helps people fall asleep fast.
      Good luck.


Help With Sleeping Girl

Spiritual perspective of sleep postures

This article, based on the spiritual research conducted by the Spiritual Science Reserarch Foundation (SSRF), explains the effect of sleeping postures entirely from the spiritual perspective. Understanding actually what happens in the subtle dimension with each sleep posture will help us make an educated decision on how to sleep well and which is the sleep posture to achieve that.

At the outset we have to understand that

  • From a spiritual perspective, sleep is basically a state most related to the subtle basic tama (ignorance and inertia) component. That means during sleep the subtle basic tama component in our body gets heightened.
  • Coupled with this, as our spiritual practice is also at its lowest during sleep, we are spiritually most vulnerable when we sleep which also makes us more susceptible to attacks by ghosts (demons, devils, negative energies, etc.)
  • The Kundalini is the inherent spiritual energy system in the body.The energy for the bodily and mental functions flows through the Sun (right) and Moon (left) Channels. The energy flowing through the Central (Sushumnaa) Channel is related to spiritual growth.
  • Chetanaa is that part of the Divine Consciousness that governs the functioning of our mind and body

Effect of various Sleep Postures in the subtle dimension Sleep Posture 1 - Sleeping on the back

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Girl sleeping with a male friend?
    One of my roommates that I live with, he seems to have a girl come to spend the night with him on regular base. From what I know so far, he doesn’t have sex with them half of the time. They just seem to come and share bed with him for some reason.
    So I can’t help it but wondering why would girls want to come and sleep with him at night? What make a girl want to sleep with a male friend if they’re not going to have sex?

    • ANSWER:
      Companionship. Warmth. Security. Syncopation. Breakfast.

  2. QUESTION:
    What can I do about this girl sleeping with all my boyfriends????
    Does anyone know someone like her....

    This girl, Allyah, has slept with the last two boyfriends that I have had while I was with them. What type of conyving response should I have to this problem in order to get her back. I let her first true love that she claims her innocence to know what she had done but to no avail he didn't even believe that she did it, damn the "stuff" is that good??? She denies, but I KNOW she did it. Thanks for your help :) thanks for your MATURE RESPONSES
    ummm I DONT even talk to her, she goes to the bar I use to visit on a weekly basis and I associated with her as far as hi, knowing her name, and that is it smarty pants.
    the first time I thought was just a fluke but 2 times in a row with the only two boyfriends I had since my divorce.

    • ANSWER:
      she needs to ease off the haterade becuase she's hating on you for what ever reason. Some you doing that she wish she can do or have. And if this guys are really your boyfriends they would respect you for you and not sleep with a hoe.. YES a hater hoe.. You need to shake them all off because they are nothing to you if they are doing this. Don't try to be friends with her either because that's not going to work for her to leave you alone. You trying having 3 best friends sleep with your boyfriends. I just throw the trash out with them all and start over. Its hard but you have to because if not your going to be hurt. Don't play her at her on game becuase god knows what she might have for sleeping around. your better then that and she knows it and that's why she's hating.. one thing you don't want to do is show her that your all booty hurt over this again because that's what she wants and your showning her that she won. Good luck!!!

  3. QUESTION:
    What does sleeping with weight on your stomach do?
    I saw on tv once a girl sleeping with a lot of books on her stomach to help with her deeping or whatever, so i was wondering if you slept with weights on your stomach would that be like a workout or is it pointless and or dangerous.
    ~thanks~

    • ANSWER:
      pointless and stupid

      besides they just fall off, u toss and turn in ur sleep

  4. QUESTION:
    You find a random girl sleeping in your bed, what would you do?
    Here's the dilemma:

    It's Saturday night, you're in college and you live in a house. Your room has two entrances: one from living room, and one from east side of the house (you can enter your room straight from the side of the house if you wanted to). Lets say you have a few people over at your house drinking.

    You party late into the night with your friends and roommates and pass out in your living room once everyone else has left.

    You wake up in your living room around 7am. Now you decide to go into your bedroom to sleep. When you get there, you find your outside entrance door unlocked and a random girl that you've never seen before sleeping in your bed, fully clothed and faced down. You try to wake the girl up by shaking her vigorously but she still doesn't wake up. You yell somethings really loud but she still doesn't wake up. You know she's not dead because she's still breathing. It seems like she's in deep sleep because she was wasted.

    You are sure pretty sure that you had the outside entrance to your room locked. You know for sure that no one you didn't know came into your house to party.

    What the hell would you do at this point? By the way, you're not drunk at this point, you just have a hangover.

    I already know what most guys would say as I've told this story to my roommates (all of them males): f her.

    I would like to know girls point of view.

    Ending to the story:

    I shook and yelled at her for couple more minutes and she finally woke up. She started crying because she was in pain. She said something about broken wrist (I couldn't understand, she was mumbling). She slowly got up from the bed, crying, facing away from me. She walked outside and walked away crying. I asked her many times over and over how did you get in here, are you okay, what is going on, who are you, do you need help, etc. She just kept crying without even saying anything. I never got to see her face so I couldn't even recognize her if I saw her again. My roommates and friends also told me that there was no unknown girl in our house on Saturday night. Weird, huh?

    • ANSWER:
      i would def f u c k her...lol

  5. QUESTION:
    How to stop a girl sleeping with me?
    I'm re-posting this, because I think I put it in the wrong place first time.....

    I have a slightly unusual problem. Recently I befriended an 18 year old girl (I'm a 33 year old man). She has had a lot of problems, she has been abused, homeless, bereaved, drugs, and various other things. She lives in sheltered accomodation down the street from me. She has no job and very little money, she often can't afford food, so she comes around to my flat nearly everyday and I make her something to eat and she watches tv, I help her with her forms, we talk etc.

    Despite all that has happened to her, she is a ray of sunshine, and I like having her around. However, recently, she has also started staying over, and sleeping in my bed. There's nothing sexual in this, she doesn't want a relationship with me and I don't want a relationship with her, but she says she gets scared and can't sleep where she is staying, and she hates it (I don't blame her, it's horrible), and that she sleeps much better in my bed. She's very attractive, and although I don't want a sexual relationship with her (we are more like father and daughter), I'm still a man, and I can't, um, "relax" when she's in bed with me. I'd never do anything, but I really don't like having to restrain myself, if that makes sense. I don't want to tell her outright that she can't sleep in my bed, because she's fragile and I don't want her to think that I'm telling her not to come over anymore. I've tried telling her she shouldn't be so trusting, but she seems to regard this as me being a nag!

    So yeah, my problem in a nutshell is how do I stop a gorgeous 18 year old girl from sleeping with me, lol.
    I'm too big for the sofa, I don't fit, and I won't let her sleep on the sofa because.....I don't know, I have some weird chivalrous instinct that won't let a woman sleep on the sofa while I sleep in a nice comfy bed. Besides, she says she likes having me there, she feels safe when I'm right by her while she falls asleep.
    @jackie, yeah, sorry, I am in the UK, I don't know exactly what it's called, she's in some kind of government/charity accommodation. It's a grotty little room in a shared building.
    There's no way I'm giving her up as a friend, no matter what. She has no family, and her friends are all irresponsible, someone has to look after her. I want to be her dad, lol.

    • ANSWER:
      you:
      it is always nice to be wanted, to do something that is clearly appreciated.
      It is the whole purpose of life/keeps us going..
      ..to do someting that we feel others acknowledge us for...
      It's not wrong, it's really nice, the good samaritan that we are all taught to be...
      though quite where it is taking you long term....another question.

      Her:
      reading between the lines,
      you are probably the one constant, and now trusted person she has had...
      either recently/last few years or even ever.
      So yes, she is naturally going to feel more at peace with you,
      and crave the personal affection that she clearly misses or has missed out on.
      You may veryt well be a very long term friend once this stage is all over.

      Like any parental/psuedo parental role.. (or other respected figure or leadership)
      - the challenge is to move from being the only one trusted to showing that others can be trusted, and how to tell who to trust/not to trust . and how to present yourself/behave to ensure that you get trusted also - even if it means you do the initial introductions to gain background credence.
      - not get sucked into the parent-teacher affection/adoration role of misplaced relationship... as you are acutely aware ;)

      what can you do ?
      - can you arrange for another bed, even in the same room ?
      even if you explain both that , she is very attractive, and that it would be wrong of a good person, to take advantage of any circumstance or feelings from whichever side they came. The more you play the rules of what a good person has the strength to do, the more you are providing a good example to learn from. i.e. of Putting off immediate reward for a longer term benefit.

      She can be close.. but not that close.
      she is still an adult and can be talked with, even if she has childish/missed out psychological needs. I recall some psychological chats done on the radio with John cleese and the radio psychologist (Anthony Sher?), where they basically supported the idea that if you missed a step in your childhood development, you could be put back on track by doing that stage/activity later on in life.. no matter how late.
      ("Robin Skynner & John Cleese (1983) Families and How To Survive Them." ??)
      and more of what might today be used as an NLP example..

      Whether that be never having toys to play with and fantasize role play etc
      or in this case perhaps ?
      not having a proper parent figure, to be close to and then learn to trust and have the support of at a distance.. that the parent will still come if they cry out in the night etc.
      i.e. move from the 'baby' in the bed, to the cot in the room, to the room next door.. .ovbviously over some period of time. Hopefully, as she proposes she is ready to move to each next stage
      (though as with children.. can occaisionally re-assure themsleves by backtracking the odd night.)

      Hope you can work a near-but-distant solution.
      a small extra 'visitors'bed should not be too expensive ?
      do you have the room in your room to put it initially.....
      do you have a seperate room (even if it is a bed in a living room - as it hopefully will be a non-permanent situation even if it is regular), that it can move to later ?

  6. QUESTION:
    Wet dreams with girl sleeping in bed help!?
    Hey i am going to be living with my girlfriend soon, and i get consistantly 2 wet dreams a month even with masturbating and fooling around, and my girlfriend will be sleepin in my bed, with panties, or maybe naked, and what if i have a wet dream and shes in the bed with me sleeping? any chance of that sperm getting her pregneant help! im nervous.
    also i might be naked that particular time......

    • ANSWER:
      You dont have to worry about her getting pregnant, because unless you have your genitals right on top of hers, the sperm are going to die when they leave your body.

  7. QUESTION:
    Why am I being blamed for a girl sleeping with my boyfriend?
    I found out a girl at my work slept with my ex boyfriend when i was with him. She said she wasn't sure he had a girlfriend at the time. She was embarrased but did not feel guilty. I decided to ignore it and get on with work.
    I heard from a collegue that they went out one night on a drunken night out and the girl announced she has slept with my bf on a microphone in front of everyone at work. I then again ignored it as I thought she must look like an idiot now and its not my problem.
    A month later she turns round to me and tries to put the blame on me. She says "Christina why did you tell everyone i slept with your bf?" I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I let this girl off and now she is attacking me when it is her own doing. I didn't know what to do. I just said "I never told anyone, it was you who announced it!". She denied it and blamed it on me and all i could do is walk away! I am so so upset over it.

    Why would she blame it on me!!?? and now everyone is talking about it!! Please help me understand why some women are so mean??

    • ANSWER:
      all i can say is if she's attacking you take some legal actions, take her to court and second report her to your boss. you have her at a great spot to destroy her i say you go for it...

  8. QUESTION:
    Need help gettin my little girl sleeping in her cot ?
    My 9 Month old daughter started not wanted to sleep in her cot and only sleeps with me in my bed and don't think that right as not getting no sleep as worried any help or tips will be great? X

    • ANSWER:

  9. QUESTION:
    Need help leaving a best friend's girl after sleeping with her?
    I couldnt believe it happened to me, i slept with my best friend's girl, i really regret it happened then i tried to leave her but she doesnt want to leave me. My friend finally knew about it. I just need help leaving this girl without hurting her feelings. Pls i dont want any obnoxious comment, thanks guys.

    • ANSWER:
      Yikes! Well, I would first let her know that what happened between the two of you was a mistake and shouldn't of happened. Apologize for hurting her, but let her know that two need to go your separate ways.
      There's no doubt that she will be crushed and mad, but it's better then staying with someone you don't want to be with.

  10. QUESTION:
    Do I masterbate in my sleep(girl)?please serious answers only!?
    Hey everyone, ever since i can really remember, about 9 years ago, I've been sleeping with my hands in my pants. Like not just in there, but in my underwear between my "flaps". I don't recall ever putting my fingers up "there", but every morning I find my hands near there, even though I don't go to bed like that. Am I masterbating?? I'm 16 by the way. And also I remember when I was in fourth grade my chair had a crack in it,so everytime it hit my spot I liked it, but I didn't know I was sort of masterbating back then, if this detail helps. Please I am being serious about this. Thank you everyone!

    • ANSWER:
      How bad do you have to urinate when you wake up? You could be trying to hold it.
      You could be masturbating, if so, it's no big deal.

  11. QUESTION:
    I am trying to think of a clip of where a girl is sleeping and then she opens her eyes, and is awake?
    I just can't think of what movie it is. Any suggestions? I can think of a lot of movies but none in particular, something to do with a funeral? I just cant get it out of my head! Any suggestions would help!

    • ANSWER:

  12. QUESTION:
    Please help me with this girl I can't stop thinking about?
    Ok I'm in college and me and this group went to a football game and the girl I like a lot was with her ex(broke up in July and yet dated for 2 yrs) and she was like in his jacket and it was zipped up. This made me really jealous. Anyways after te game we went to a party and she drank and she said she was tipsy then she didn't drink anymore well when it was time for bed we were right next to each other and she was cuddling with me and putting her head under my chin then we woke up and she made it seem like nothing happened. Well later she texted me "sorry for laying on you I barely remember sleeping with you" then she said" I mean I wasn't drunk but it was fuzzy and idk I woke up holding your hand" she kept apologizing then she said I thought it might have been awkward but I don't remember and she has been texting me like 3 word responses and just been acting really different. Well today we talked and she thinks I like her but I said I don't (i didnt want to get embarrassed because if she said she didn't like me) so can you please help me I really like this girl

    And I can't stop thinking about her and this situation plus I'm really shy so please help me I'm not really good at relationships

    • ANSWER:

  13. QUESTION:
    Wet dreams ,sleeping with girl in bed, HELP PLEASE!?
    Hey i am going to be living with my girlfriend soon, and i get consistantly 2 wet dreams a month even with masturbating and fooling around, and my girlfriend will be sleepin in my bed, with panties, or maybe naked, and what if i have a wet dream and shes in the bed with me sleeping? any chance of that sperm getting her pregneant help! im nervous.
    also i might be naked that particular time......
    also i might be naked that particular time......

    • ANSWER:
      Perhaps maybe you are worring too much. If this bothers you because your girlfriend will be in bed with you then talk with her about it. It would seem though, that maybe with her this will no longer be a problem. No chance of pregnancy.

  14. QUESTION:
    Who's the German girl slept with 64 men at one night?
    I happened to read an article about a german girl and her friend took a bet of who could slept with more men at one night. They rent a Hotel apartment for 150 euros and each man who would slept with them would be paid 50 euro.

    I am not going to join this sex party, just want to know the name of this german girl?

    Anyone here can help?

    • ANSWER:
      i remember it, it was a few month ago in my hometown cologne (no, i wasn't there :) )
      the names were Nathalie (19) and Tine(29)
      the location was:
      http://www.pascha.de/pascha-home.html
      its a tabledance/nightbar/whorehousethe biggest in europa a.f.a.i.k.

      ps. there are sometimes "events" like this... for example the blow job day: (every men gets 20euro who cum on tatjana)
      http://www.chapi.de/wp-content/blowjob-koeln.jpg

  15. QUESTION:
    Why wont this Asian girl sleep with me?
    I met a really nice Indonesian girl a few weeks ago and since then we really hit it off. The other night we were getting intimate and she took off my pants. She looked at my penis then told me to put my pants back on. I was baffled because i am very generously endowed - with 8 inches in fact. I just dont know what was wrong. Maybe a girls opinion could help me out.

    thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      Why don't you just ask her? If you can't trust her to give you a straight answer to something as simple as "Why'd you take off my pants and then tell me to put them back on?", you probably shouldn't be having sex with her.

  16. QUESTION:
    Nine year old twin girls sleeping with their Dad?
    My Nieces are 9 yrs old and sleeping with their Dad on a constant basis,their Mom died when they were 2,but have slept with their Dad since they were babies..Personally I think its out of line to do now,but he's not much on parenting anyway..He's an alcoholic,ex-con,& has hurt them physically in the past by smacking them in the face...We took care of them while he did time in Prison for 2 years and they have reverted back to their old behavior since he's been back in their lives now for 3 years..I worry about them on a constant basis but don't have the heart to report him to authorities or they would end up in a foster home,as the rest of the family cannot afford to care for them,nor I as I have my own 3 children to care for..
    Can you suggest anything to help this situation out?All replies appreciated!thanks-
    *I have tried talking to the girls privately but they seem oblivious to the situation not offering any comments of a negative nature,they seem to defend him at all costs out of fear of him,the authorities have been contacted 3 times in the past,which he covered it all up very well,(the abuse & filth he lives in)when they came back to investigate...
    I think the families only option is for one of his sisters to adopt them to get him away from them,to an extent of raising them decently..thanks to all of you,excellent advise!>=)

    • ANSWER:
      Talk to a lawyer, talk to DCF, talk to the family. Once you know what you can and can't do, move as fast as you can.

  17. QUESTION:
    Do you think less of a girl if she doesnt wait long to sleep with you?
    I can't help but think, how many other people has this girl slept with...

    • ANSWER:
      No, I sure don't think less.

      I think,..... more !!

  18. QUESTION:
    I'm sleeping with one girl, but I actually like her friend. What do I do?
    I've been sleeping with a friend of mine for about a month now. It's really just consensual sex and that's it. But I'm also mutual friends with another girl who I really, really like. In fact, I think she's marriage material.

    The girl I like doesn't know about my rendezvous with the other friend. And the girl I'm sleeping with doesn't know I like her friend.

    Help!!!

    • ANSWER:
      stop sleeping with casual sex girl and talk openly with the other one about your feelings if she likes you too she wont care about the rest but she does deserve to know

  19. QUESTION:
    Name of webcomic girl sleeps lives Japanese boy's life, vice versa?
    I'm looking for a webcomic about a girl who, when she sleeps, she experiences everything a boy in Japan does, and vice versa.

    It starts with the woman being visited in bed by two men, who she threatens at gunpoint to leave at a specific time. The girl and boy fall in love and try to meet...can't remember the name ACH! Help please :)

    • ANSWER:
      Good question! I have no idea.

  20. QUESTION:
    New baby girl, not sleeping at all Help?
    Just a baby girl this week, came home 2 days ago.
    Baby Autumn has slept for approx 2-3 hours in total in 2days.
    Is this normal/ very unusual? I didn't have this with my other 4 children, they were angels. My baby girl won't stop crying and is causing my family to have no sleep either. I know its usual for her to cry alot, i guess im just a worried mother, as i haven't has this before!

    • ANSWER:
      Try swaddling her. And get the book The Happiest Baby on the Block. She is probably overwhelmed by the business of the house. The book teaches the 5 Steps to calming newborns. They work great. I also use a sound machine by Homedics. You can get it on Amazon for . It is cheap and helps drown out noise so that kids can sleep.

  21. QUESTION:
    Why is this girl not sleeping with me?
    I love this girl and she love me to. she's my next door neighbor. i see her alone at night and go to her bed room from the roof. when i get to her bed she makes love with me and we do alots of things but when it comes to sex. she gets stressed out and feel angry. she tells me not to ask her that again..... i don;t know what should i do with her
    she's not telling me anything and it's so hard. and i really love her.
    Help PLZ

    • ANSWER:

  22. QUESTION:
    Movie Help- IFC- Servant girl sleeps with her master, then lets his much younger son feel her up- Curiosity?
    Killed the cat, but sastifaction brought it back. I have no clue what the movie is, and unfortunatly for me, thats the only part that i can remember

    • ANSWER:
      She doesn't sleep with the older man though she wants him to; he refuses to do so. She does the second thing though. This is the film that comes to mind:

      Rambling Rose (1991)
      starring Laura Dern, Robert Duvall, Diane Ladd, Lukas Haas, John Heard, Kevin Conway, Robert John Burke, Lisa Jakub
      IMDb synopsis:
      In the 1930s, Rose is taken in by the Hillyer family to serve as a housemaid so that she can avoid falling into a life of prostitution. Rose's appearance and personality are such that all men fall for her, and Rose knows it. She can't keep herself from getting into trouble with men. "Daddy" Hillier soon grows tired of Rose's rambling ways.
      Here's a clip from the movie:

  23. QUESTION:
    guys, girls sleeping in your boxers when you get home from work? creepy or cute?
    Guys, how would you feel if when you got off the midnight shift you found your girl wearing your boxers and one of your sweaters to sleep in?

    alittle background info, might help you make your decision:
    my room mate (good friend and sex-buddy) works the midnight shift. When we are alone we act like bf/gf but in public we are like bro/sis; we are both open to date as we see fit cause we have a no strings attached sexual relationship. When we are alone he takes great care of me by like taking me out when I get stir-crazy around the apartment, he cooks dinner for us when I get hungry, and he is just always there to help me relax. I like to take good care of him in return by packing a big lunch for him to take to work, do his laundry, wash the dishes, and clean the bathroom. As far as sex goes, we like to have alot of fun, and we'll try just about anything. I always send him to work with a hard-on and I'm ready to go when he comes home.

    So verdict: sleeping in his boxers, creepy or cute?

    • ANSWER:
      definately sexy and hot when the girls do it

  24. QUESTION:
    I have twins. My baby twin girl does not sleep well nowadays. The baby twin boy has this problem at first.?
    The problem started when I put them in different room. They were all in the same room for the first 2 weeks.

    I already had a baby boy. So, if letting all 3 babies and 2 maids sleeping in the same room is too crowded.

    Then I hired another maid.

    The 2 baby boys sleep with 2 maids upstairs while the baby girl sleeps with the new maid in a smaller room downstairs.

    At first, it was the twin baby boy that could not sleep well. Now he is ok. Lately it turn out that my baby twin girl is much harder to handle ! She cry at the top of her voice.

    During the last few days, she cries for no apparent reason the whole night even when we hold her.

    Before,she sleeps so well in the day time. But not now anymore.

    Can anybody shares good tips to help my baby girl sleep better?

    My maid suggesting a pacifier but I was worried that she will want it all the time even when she grows up to be more than 2 years old!

    Going to nursery school will be a problem when she cannot give it up

    • ANSWER:
      She may want her brother. She's been with him her whole life, it might be a comfort to have him with her. Also the pacifier isn't a bad idea. I gave my little boy one and he was off it when he was 6 months old, just don't give it to her only when she's distressed because she will learn to rely on it, mix it up a little so she doesn't connect the pacifier to being soothed when she's upset- good luck

  25. QUESTION:
    why doesnt my baby girl sleep?
    my little girl now hasn't been sleeping very well for past month now i have bought her a TV for her bedroom but soon as it goes off she is up! and then i went out and bought a night light for her to see if that worked but nothing. she is 2 years old and never sleeps hardly she might have 4 hours a night she doesn't sleep Thur day either. but if you was to look at her she doesn't look like she has had no sleep she is full of beans all the time. please help me asap its driving me bonkers as I have hardly had any sleep being up with her! xx

    • ANSWER:
      You could try lying in bed with her and telling her a story or rubbing her face or back so she can be close to you and it'll help her relax. I wouldn't bring her to your bed though because once that starts it's so tough to get them back to their beds. I think the white noise is a good idea too. Establishing a good night time routine might help. She may just have abandonment issues. My niece went through that. She would fall asleep no problem then wake up screaming for her mama. She hates being alone. My sister eventually just moved her to her bed. It works but now she won't sleep in her room or alone. Good luck she'll probably grow out of it soon. Hope you have a good nights rest in no time!

  26. QUESTION:
    Hi im a bi-sexual girl, who has recently slept wiv dis amazing girl, we slept 2getha alot.?
    The thing is im a mother wiv 1child and anotha on the way and i have a bf of 5yrs, i do still really love him, but why the hell do i like sleeping wiv girls all the time even though i wouldn't dare sleep with a guy as i would feel guilty.But i dont feel guilty at all sleeping with girl plz plz help me xxx

    • ANSWER:
      this is the 50 dollar question...

  27. QUESTION:
    How can I convince my mom to let my girlfriend sleep over? (I AM A GIRL. :/)?
    So I'm currently dating this girl, and my mom won't let her sleep over.
    First of all:
    IF YOU ARE JUST GOING TO TELL ME SHE'S RIGHT, DO NOT ANSWER. I don't give one if you think she's right, she's undecided, and I want to know how to convince her.
    My mom knew I liked girls and still let me have girls sleep over, and she knew I liked this girl and she liked me, but that was it, and my mom was totally prepared to let her sleep over.
    But now we have the title of "couple" and my mom won't let her sleep over. It doesn't make sense to me. She trusts us both, and knows neither of us wants anything more than maybe kissing, but she says she'd feel irresponsible. I don't see why. We wouldn't do anything. We'd be sleeping in the living room, next to my mom's room. Plus, my mom says guys can't sleep over regardless of whether or not we're dating, but girls can. So I don't see why she can't sleep over regardless of whether or not we're dating. Gah. Just help me convince her! We're not interested in being "physical," we just want to physically BE WITH EACH OTHER.
    Thanks for the answers, guys, but to whoever said it:
    WE DO NOT WANT ANYTHING PHYSICAL.
    She is not reading this, I wouldn't hesitate to be honest here. We both agree that we're young and need to be together much longer.
    To Heather:
    Yes, that's what I said, isn't it? You sound judgemental. :/
    My question wasn't "what's your opinion," and you're wasting my time by telling me you agree. I'd rather have no answers than answers saying that I'm immature and wrong.
    I don't really care what your parents do, I'm not 20-30, we're just attracted to each-other.
    So, thanks, but no thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      You've got a lot of good arguments here.

      You might want to ask your mom quietly if she could imagine being you, and what it might mean to be happy just being with someone in a way you never really get to experience when on a date.

  28. QUESTION:
    Anyone Need Help with getting 3rd star on mysims ds?? if so look?
    to get the 3rd star go to the furniture shop in midday then talk to the sleeping Girl. Then make up a shop name then....
    u got the 3rd star
    its on ds
    please leave a comment if it works

    • ANSWER:
      its. not working. i already named the furni shop im on my 2nd star still but im almost done. i need prob one more task that im missing. theres only a little bit left of my 2nd.

      im up to the fishing part. ive caught teh carp, baracudda, eel, sea brea,. pacific saury.

      do you know what i have to do next?ive tried raquetball and im terrible at it. my high score is 81.

  29. QUESTION:
    How to get my baby girl to sleep at night?
    My baby girl is 6 months old and is not sleeping at night. We will get her to sleep around 9:30, but she is up by 1:30 or 2 and will not go back to sleep until 4-5. Please help me...I am a first time mom with a full time job and I need sleep..Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      I remember what that is like! Im sorry you aren't sleeping well, congrats on your six month new baby. The challenge with having baby sleeping with you is like the bottle, diapers and anything else, you have to ween them off that too. I have friends who have 8 year olds that CAN'T sleep without mom in bed with them. So if you choose to go that route (which works some of the time) then you may get some sleep for some time but when you break it, they have to get used to sleeping alone all over again. What I did with my son when he was a little tyke is I would reduce the time he would sleep during the day. Reduce his naps to mabye two, one in the early afternoon and one in the late afternoon and only for an hour or so. He was grumpy, don't get me wrong but it was only for a few days and he got used to it. Every baby is different though. Parenting YOUR child is trial and error. You will know what works. Good luck to you!

  30. QUESTION:
    Help with a song?
    My daughter age 6 has to do a skit for her school Xmas program. She is suppose to dress as a sleeping girl and model some pajamas. She has to have her own music. Any suggestions other than Brahams Lullaby?

    • ANSWER:
      Wake up Little Susie
      I saw Mommy kissing Santa Claus

  31. QUESTION:
    we didn't have sex but we slept in the same bed together?
    we were at a party and some bitch pushed my gf into the pool
    so i walked her home and she was like shivering half to death then she goes an collapses on me but only for a second
    so i carried her up to her room and i took off her dress so she could get warm when she got under her covers i wasn't tryin to like feel up a sleeping girl im not a perv
    and i put her in bed and she asked me not to leave cause she was scared or whatever
    so we "slept together" but didnt have sex
    i feel bad about it
    do u think she'll be angry with me
    is that really gross
    i was only tryin to help her
    she wasn't naked btw
    and the only thing i did was hold her cause she was was uber cold
    ahk im so confused with myself
    and when she asked me to stay it wasn't like that
    i mean we're in ninth grade
    neither of us r ready for that
    im just wondering maybe if she that made her think i want it
    cause i don't until she's ready

    • ANSWER:
      you didn't do anything but try to help her out, why would you think she is angry with you???

      you were a good boy!!! :D

  32. QUESTION:
    HELP GIRLS.. sleeping with him for first time ever..??? bleed alot..pain??/?
    when u have sex with a guy for the first time as in like first time ever loosing ur virginity, do u bleed alot?? does it hurt??
    and if a guy answers this, then is it more pleasure to u when the girl is a virgin??

    • ANSWER:
      didn't hurt and was no blood.

      felt good, i don't see why everyone panics so much, if you want it and relax, it wont hurt, same as most times

  33. QUESTION:
    In Love With A Girl Who Had An STD. Please Help!!!
    Okay back in around... eh... I'd say sixth grade I met this girl who I fell for completely, but she had a boyfriend, so I waited. Then in eighth grade, her and her boyfriend broke up, so I started to talk to her and get to know her, unfortunately we drifted apart. Then in ninth grade I saw she had another boyfriend. Now I knew her boyfriend, not personally, but I knew he used girls, slept around, and was an all around asshole, so I started talking to her again, and all she would talk about was how much she loved him. I didn't want to hurt our relationship or her by telling her what he did to girls or how much of an ass he was, so I just ignored it. Well a few months passed and that fuckhole of a boyfriend she had gave her an STD because he was sleeping with another slut at the same time. Well she called me and pretty much broke down. I helped her as much as I could, and after a couple weeks we began to fall in love, now I have a choice to make...

    Should I ask her out?

    I love her alot, but I know we may end up having sex one day if I do ask her out. I just want to know what my chances are of getting the STD she had, if its even possible for a male to contract it.

    The STD is Trichomoniasis.

    And yes I made sure that asshole ex of hers got the living shit beaten out of him... Actually 10 guys did.

    • ANSWER:
      Well. There are things that she can do to cure the trichomoniasis.
      If you really love this girl, then sex shouldn't be the big problem in the relationship. A relationship is more than sex. You don't need sex to have a good relationship.
      "Usually an oral antibiotic called metronidazole (Flagyl) is given to treat trichomoniasis. In addition, persons being treated for trichomoniasis should avoid sex until they and their sex partners complete treatment and have no symptoms. It is important to take all of your antibiotics, even if you feel better." That's good news. You can have sex after she's cured. Congratulations. Now go share the good news and hold her hand when you go the clinic.

  34. QUESTION:
    Am i a crazy syco bitch?
    read the conversation bottom to top (starts at the bottom....then works its way up)

    (Ends here)
    V
    Boy:K sorry babe night night.

    Girl:because there weird. lawls. but i do need sleep hunnybun so im getting off soon

    Boy:Lol wtf! XD that the wireds thing and why where thy watchin you.

    Girl:i know but i hate when people watch me sleep.

    boy:Lol but you have to sleep and hows

    Girl:well i was spending the night with someone and i dont like sleeping when im with people :p

    boy:Lol ok then i'll call u babe then. But why couldn't sleep?

    Girl:i like it when people call me babe :)
    but im tired because i only got a couple of hours sleep.

    boy:Well it's not that short babe lol xD and why you so tried?

    Girl:its not your fault hunnybunn.
    how do you straighten your hair now that its short?

    Boy:Oh that sucks sorry.

    Girl:because i lost my sim card. :(

    Boy:Oh your in high school already? And lol lazy. And why don't you have it anymore what you do?

    Girl:im gonna be seeing you this year hunny bunn.
    and i know but im tired.
    and i don have my cell anymore.

    Boy:If you mean ***** high school then yea. But hay if you got a phone text me (number was placed here) just cuz it's eslyer i hate myspace but if you don't it's ko. And why don't you it'S fun lol

    Girl:oh i need to do that but i dont feel like it right now.
    and oh lawls.
    you go to ***** right?

    Boy:Ok then deal and deal. and don't worry i'll live. and good i'm just falt ironing my hair. And don't worry about it itwas a joke xD

    Girl: ok im gonna start calling you that now :)
    but im sorry i wish i could help.
    and good how about you?
    hows what hanging? lawls

    boy:Hunny bun i like that but just got off work and my back's hurting . But how you been how they hanging lol

    Girl:what cha up to hunny bun

    Boy:Hiya bbycks. 8)

    Girl:heyy
    ^
    (Starts here)

    So am i crazy for thinking that this girl just might be hitting on my boyfriend? am i wrong for feeling jelous or slightly threatneded
    and am i wrong for feeling that he was kinda leaning her on?
    my boyfriend thinks im being crazy and paranoid and that she doesn't like him and that he wasn't leaning her on.
    What do you think their inentions were toward eachother in the conversation as just random people and not at the fact that he has a girlfriend(me) Like if you read this without knowing anything about them what would you think these two people were aiming for?
    Like i NOW know the girl and im friends with her just i don't want to feel like i'm wrong for being bothered by what was said....
    if i am then i'll admit to it but right now im debating against him cause i do feel like he leans girls on sometimes...

    I mean does he always have to be so friendly with girls... and so oblivious to the fact that they might be flirting? i duno...

    and ALL you girls know that chicks can be persistent when they like somebody.... girlfriend or no girlfriend...
    I would know cause i kinda took him away from his ex... but that is a whole other story i will not get into....

    just i feel syco and horrible but i can't help but be bothered by the "hunny bun" and "babe"

    • ANSWER:
      I would say they are up to something and your boyfriend is going to call you crazy, psycho, or paranoid, because he knows that you're onto him. I dated a guy like this. Trust me. Here's what you do. Don't call him. Don't text him for like a week. See if he calls or texts and asks what is going on?. If guys can play games, we can play games too. You have every right to feel how you feel. Don't talk anymore about this issue with your boyfriend. Make him wonder. Make him suffer. When it comes time that he confronts you, be like this:

      "Oh I'm sorry, I figured you wanted time alone with your new girlfriend". Then you walk away.

      It takes major ovaries to do this, but it will shock the sh*t out of him!!!

  35. QUESTION:
    my friend has weird sleeping habits?
    My good friend tends to say and do weird things in her sleep, but only when she's with more than one person. She doesn't remember doing anything that she did and she says it "feels like she was just sleeping normally".

    Last night, me and 5 other girls slept at this particular friend's house. Over the course of the night, this girl called for Linda to bring her special toast so she could choke it, wandered out of the room, locked another girl out of the room, and attacked 3 of the girls including me (nothing was too serious except she punched one girl repeatedly in the head and caused her to have a headache.)

    She also has problems when she sleeps alone. She can't sleep at all and gets 2-3 hours of sleep on school nights.

    I just want to know if maybe there is some disorder she may have and how we could treat it. After last night I am now scared to have a sleepover with her again. I fear she may hurt me or a family member in her sleep.

    Thanks for the help(:
    xoxo - Sarah

    • ANSWER:
      She really needs to c a doctor!

  36. QUESTION:
    Old song,remember only epizodes:singer looks like beast in some castle, girl rises with bed upwards. 80's-90's
    I only remember some epizodes from that clip: singer looks realy like beast, he loves girl. The beast is in some castle. and i remember that girl sleeping in bed and she starts to rise with bed in air. it was very famous song. but i can not remember nor artist's name neither any word of that song :( can anyone help me? (it was 80's or 90's song)

    • ANSWER:
      I Would Do Anything For Love by Meatloaf.

  37. QUESTION:
    Please help, I want to win her back?
    Boy meets girl. Boy visits girl and spend the day with her. Boy kisses Girl. Girl says her heart was beating so fast during the kiss. Boy spends the night with Girl (no sex). Boy and Girl call each other every day for the next few days. One day, Boy texts Girl to find out when she's done with meetings (she had said she would be in meetings all day). She doesn't reply. He texts again, no reply. He then calls, no answer. He calls again a bit later, again no answer. He proceeds to call a few more times in the proceeding hours. Girl finally answers and says she was sleeping and asked if she can next day. Next day, Girl calls, says she had a long day with meetings and went straight to sleep. Girl then proceeds to talk about her plans for the weekend, none of which includes Boy. Boy is a bit thrown. An hour later, Boy calls Girl to say, "I really like you and I'm a bit disappointed that we're not hanging this weekend." Girl says she call back later. Girl never did. That was three days ago.

    Now, it's apparent that Girl might be scared off by Boy's over-anxiousness. Boy wants to know what's his next move is? Call Girl in the next few days and try to establish the rapport from before? Or just pull back and hope Girl calls him? What's the line b/w romantically persistent and annoyingly unwanted?
    Thanks, Pixie. Agreed, while it could be viewed as over-eager (which, in some circles, is not a rather attractive quality), why couldn't she have viewed in a more complimentary light and see that I think she's amazing and want to spend time with her? Man, I wish I didn't like her so much. Anyway, thanks for the feedback.

    • ANSWER:
      pull back and hope Girl calls you.

      there is no such line. not with the right girl. its a pity that girl did not understand your romantic persistence. well i dont think you were over anxious at all. let her be. shez got a bee buzzing up her a**.

      she will come around. if she doesnt you will meet someone good. dont worry.

  38. QUESTION:
    Really need your opinion, please?
    Here is the first page of a story I just started writing. Help please?

    The one I saw didn’t look too bad. She looked about fourteen or fifteen and she slept calmly, the massive duvet wrapped up to her neck which made her look very small and vulnerable, like a small child. I smiled, or rather, my very ‘kind’ Host did. I could sense his anger and frustration about not being able to control his own body.
    I commanded him, but he wouldn’t listen. I wondered why, maybe he was related to the sleeping girl?
    he spat the last two words and I was surprised. Vampire freak? He was going to confuse me with the fictional wannabes that have caused such confusion for my people? Or maybe…maybe a newborn failed to wipe the memory of his Host as he left the body. I would guess that host was Bram Stoker or someone like that. Then again, Dracula didn’t exactly fit our kind. Oh well, I’d find out later. I walked over to the sleeping girl and gently pulled back the duvet. Wavy chestnut-brown hair covered her neck and I swept that back. I felt the Host’s anger radiate into my own mind.
    I told him, and that’s when the teeth came out, nice, long and sharper than a knife. I smiled again and leaned closer towards the girl. The minute teeth broke skin and the life-giving blood filled my mouth was the moment of euphoria, well, for me anyway. This blood was…type AB, nice and rich. This was the best I had tasted in ages. My Host was disgusted.
    He was in his early to mid twenties, out on a Saturday night on his way home alone, hammered out of his skull. Easy target, see? So I did what I had been doing most of my life. I went up to him in my natural form, but tricked his mind into believing I was a beautiful bright light. Like an angel. And he fell for it hook, line and sinker, as they say. He held his hand out and I held out mind, and that’s how it happens. We merged and I was in control. He was scared at first, but three or four months down the line he doesn’t seem to be as scared, just angry.
    The girl stirred, and opened her eyes, half-asleep.
    “Who are you?” she asked, mumbling her words.
    “Never mind. Now just relax. Go back to sleep and have nice, lovely dreams.” I told her, trying to use my great powers of persuasion. Luckily she was so tired she complied and I carried on with the feeding.
    the Host told me. I agreed with that one. She was very beautiful, and she was going to be mine.
    So I refrained and looked for something sharp. My gaze fell upon a compass and I grabbed that. Holding the right wrist, I slit it and blood seeped out. I held it to the girl’s mouth and she drank. I only allowed her about two hundred ml, since that was enough to heal the broken artery. I got a bit and rubbed it over the wound, instantly making it heal. the Host gasped with wonder. You know, having two voices in your head can be pretty annoying, especially when you’re having an argument. But when a very reluctant and rebellious Host actually gives you praise, now that’s pretty good, don’t you think? I looked at the girl to see there was no more blood coming out, but I had accidentally let some spill whilst looking for the compass, so I licked that up quickly and efficiently. She turned over and I went to go. I couldn’t stop thinking about the girl, and hoping she would be okay. I knew she’d have a mark in the morning, but she’d probably put it down to insect bites.
    Thanks, glad you like it Shanta.
    Thanks jeidie
    Anyway it's not actually about vampires. In this story, vampires are like they are in real life, a piece of fiction. These things are a species that have been around way longer before Bram Stoker wrote Dracula. If you re-read it, you'll see that he says 'fictional wannabes that have caused such confusion for our kind' so therefore they aren't vamps. Thought I'd explain. Sorry if it's a really bad explanation.
    Thanks Div K
    Thank you the dogtor and coco
    thanks mlee, i'll get on it right away

    • ANSWER:
      Is this the First page, but not first paragraph?

      The beginning as a first paragraph actually doesn't have that initial clean hook. It's not strong enough. It's just that first sentence. It would sound great, I think, if you just simply dropped the first sentence and broke up the 2nd sentence. "She looked about 14 or 15 years of age. She slept...." This change gives it immediate tension. You've got your arrow, now with this you pull the bow string back right without hesitation. But this is just my sense of it.

      The Braum Stroker part is a little muddy. Is it necessary to name drop the writer of Dracula there? Is the point you are making that Dracula is fictitious and your character isn't? Could you leave that sentence out? Because I think the paragraph is suited well without it. That's what I think when the above poster says Character Development could be a little stronger at first. Leaving out that sentence makes your character development stronger by not throwing in a piece of information that is distracting to your readers.

      Just a "feeling" thing..."so I licked that up quickly and efficiently" ...make your words give the feeling "so I licked it (or I licked it up) quickly, efficiently." Or "not to miss a drop, I licked quickly, efficiently" has sort of a quick rhythm and a coldness it...sort of like predator?

      Also "Whilst" is good but doesn't go with "put it down" exactly which sounds modern in a blunt way..."but to her, she'd think it only an insect bite." offhanded, like that, because what your character is trying to do is dismiss the effect the act done has just had on the victim. Placing words like "whilst" in is good because it gives the feeling your character has lived a long time just watch the surrounding words to make sure it still flows correctly. Remember if you want quick use Sharp not blunt with your character. That's part of character development is keeping it consistant.

      Your first person perspective is terrific! 1st person is the hardest to do and you're defintely working it. I like your story and I think it has an interesting twist with this "Host" idea. Have you seen the site below?

      I know this was a lot of editing but please don't think it was because I thought your piece wasn't good. It is very good. That's why I took the time to re-read it and give it my full opinion. I hope this helps you.

      Keep up the great work!

  39. QUESTION:
    Did i get chlamydia or did my girl passed it to me?
    I have a question on this sexual disease..Me and my girl have been going out for 2 years.. we started out in April of 2007. We were both virgin and started sleeping during June of 2007. We were doing good until November of 2008.. thats when we had our one month break. We got back after that and started getting serious again. We started sleeping with one another again and i started to feel these burn in my urination. I didnt really know what it was so i kinda didnt get it treat for like i think a week or two but yea i got it treated though. I've never slept with a girl b4 except for her but i have had oral sex from this girl in August 2006. My question is, could there be any possibilities that i could have chlamydia during that oral and the sympton never show until now or could there be chances of my girl sleeping with somebody else during our time apart and had it and didnt tell me about it? please if you're a expert at these things please tell me. I've talk to my girl but she say she didnt sleep with anyone and she's pointing the finger at me which i've never slept with anyone during our break but jus had that oral sex in 2006. Im jus kinda curious because if i was to get that chlamydia in 2006, wouldnt it show already in 2007 or so.. why is it that it's gonna wait this long for it to show. Especially after our break? do you guys think my girl slept with someone during the break and could of gave it to me? PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS QUESTION!!!!....

    • ANSWER:
      Ok bro,

      Here is my stand point from being an Army Medic. I've seen all types of couple who come in for this type of thing all the time. A person can be a carrier of the strain but not show symptoms their whole life (not usually but can happen). It usually takes 10-14 days after getting chlamydia to show symptoms. If nothing happened on your end while your break apart then there's your answer bro. The only other thing that it could be is a UTI. A urinery tract infection which has similar symptoms except it comes with stomach and kidney pain. But if you r getting the nasty drip then you know the answer. Go talk to your doctor.

  40. QUESTION:
    help finding this anime?
    I can only remember bits and pieces but this is what I got.

    There seems to be two girls that live in the same house, one of the girls is deaf her little older friend is in love with her and becomes very upset when she sees her kissing her boyfriend. l believe later that evening the older girls barges into the younger girls room and pushes her or something and causes her to cut herself on a letter opener. later that night the older girl goes into her friends room while she is sleeping and sits next to her then it seems the sleeping girl starts glowing.. or something and vanishes.. the older girl is in awe about what just happend. I believe later that night some sort of demon bird thing comes into the girls room looking for the girl that vanished and saying he will have to go find her in this other world etc, the older girl talks to this bird thing and tells it to take her with him. now some how the letter opener comes into play allowing her to travel to this other world because it had the others girl blood on it i don't know.. but i think the overall story is that this younger girl was from a different time or a world or never existed some how which seems to cause the older girl to go a little bit crazy switching in and out of reality.

    if anybody can help me find this anime it would be awesome. thank you very much!

    • ANSWER:
      I think it could be Yami to Boushi to Hon no Tabibito http://myanimelist.net/anime/497/Yami_to_Boushi_to_Hon_no_Tabibito

  41. QUESTION:
    13 year old girl sleeps in mums bed?
    Right, I'm 13 years old, and I still sleep in my mums bed, If I sleep in my own bed, I feel really uncomfortable! I have too sleep in her bed, I've slept in her bed since I was a toddler, and I just can't get rid of the habit.. I'd sleep in my own bed if I could, but I really can't.!?
    Is this wrong? or is it appropriate as long as we're both okay with it? Please help, I just need to know I'm normal. Ha-ha!

    • ANSWER:
      Until I was in middle school (which was age 12) I would go into my mom's room when my dad got up at 5 AM (he always woke me up). My mom and I didn't have to wake up until 7 AM so I'd sleep in there for 2 more hours. I liked it. I would have slept with my mom all night if given the choice but my dad had to sleep there so I wasn't.

      In middle school I had to wake up at 5:30 AM and so there was no point in going in my mom's room. I honestly missed it for a while but now it's become more comfortable to sleep in my own bed. Sometimes when my dad is on vacation I ask to sleep in her room. She always tells me no and that she wants to have the bed to herself, LOL (don't blame her).

      If you're okay with it, there's nothing wrong with it. Everyone has the weird things that help them sleep. I have to sleep with my baby blanket at the end of my bed, my teddy bear against my back, and a pillow between my arms. I slept with a nightlight foreverrrr.

      If you do want to begin sleeping in your own bed try making your room comfortable for you. If that means changing your bedspread, painting the walls, cleaning it, rearranging it. I went through multiple furniture placements before I found the one that felt "natural" to sleep with.

      Tell yourself, "I like my room. I have a great room. My bed is so comfortable and my room is so nice and calm and quiet. I will sleep so well tonight and I will fall asleep so fast." Don't drink caffiene less than 2 hours before bed, don't watch TV or play computer right before you sleep. Try reading a book (it makes my eyes tired). Relax and think of a place you love or a relaxing place like a beach. When I can't sleep I try to do my multiplication tables, name all the states, name all of the states AND their capitals, or name all the presidents. It's hard and it eventually makes you so tired of thinking you just want to sleep, LOL.

      But if you're okay with it and your mom is okay with it I don't see any reason why you should change it. I have a friend who always has to be sleeping with someone whether it's her mom, a friend, her dog. She's 17 next month and still sleeps with her mom on occasion. Not weird at all!

  42. QUESTION:
    My 23 years old girlfriend sleeping over...?
    Hello, i'm 21 and i finish my first college from NY. My girlfriend is 23 and she's currently studying at the same college we started dating. Anyway, time goes fast and her academic schedule shows that her spring break is coming up. so she contacted me and wanted to fly over to ohio to see me. the thing is, i currently live with my mom, and yes i have to because my mother needs help taking care of my grandpa which he already died last nov. and also my mom just had a surgery and she cannot drive or do anything she usually does. anyway, i asked my mom if my girlfriend can sleep over for her spring break. she said that my girlfriend will have to sleep in living room and i sleep in my room. but when my mind started flashbak when my 14 years old brother has a girl over to stay overnight they both slept in the same room with door closed while my mom was there. it was pretty much unfair that my younger bro get to have a girl sleeping over his room in the same room with door closed. so i told my mother that i paid rent here and told her not to be rude but my girlfriend can sleep in my room. i will let my girlfriend sleep on my bed and i sleep on the floor, simple and respectful. but my mom disagreed. i mean i know it's wrong to sleep tog but im jus sayin that my girlfriend can jus sleep on my bed and i sleep on the floor in the same room. how hard is that? ofc .. im too smart to not have sexual activity with my girlfried while my mom is in the same area. but im just saying i want my girlfriend to be in the same room so we can watch movies late night and what if we fell asleep? i know i have to respect my mom but my mom need to understand what she did for my younger brother and i paid rent than she does. so people give me advices or suggestions

    • ANSWER:
      respect your mother you asshole. and get a hotel room. you mother pays rent too.. can she slut around and bring men into her room too??

  43. QUESTION:
    Do you think my story idea could be inappropriate?
    I'm going to be a senior in high school and I've been trying to write my own story.

    The two main characters are a 17 year old boy and an 11 year old girl, distant relatives, who's mothers are cousins. The boy is a hoodlum living in Philadelphia with his single mother, a nurse, and is always getting into trouble and fights with local punks.

    The girl's mother was a prostitute who died giving birth to her. Initially the girl lives with her grandparents in San Fransisco until their mysterious deaths.

    The boy and his mother, the girls only living relatives, are contacted and agree to take her in. The girl has a hard time adjusting to her new home and family. She's also having difficulty coming to terms with the death of her grandparents. The boy's mother is usually busy with work and so she leaves her son with the responsibility of taking care of the girl. The boy is at first rather annoyed by the girl who moves in with them and could really care less for her. This leads to her attempts to gain his acceptance/affection.

    Eventually, I want the two of them to develop a very deep brother-sister relationship, and maybe I'm over thinking this, but I'm afraid some people might interpret the relationship as incest/pedophilia.

    Here's the idea that's bothering me:
    The boy tries to go to Oktoberfest with some friends from school and his Mom makes him take the girl with him, to his dismay. He's too embarrassed to be seen with her and makes her stay a few feet away from him when he finds his friends. However, turns out these guys are just a bunch of jerks. The boy's really upset and disappointed by this and the girl sees this. She tries to help him feel better and forces him to enjoy the fair with her: They get food, play games and win prizes and go on rides. They go on the ferris wheel together and when it gets stuck, they get into a really deep conversation with one another. They're both slightly disappointed when the ferris wheel starts moving again. When walking home from the fair, the boy carries the tired girl on his back and she falls asleep. When they get home, he takes her up to her room and puts the sleeping girl into bed. He then lingers at the door for a few seconds and then thanks her for trying to make him feel better.

    Ok. I want these two characters to have a really strong bond and eventually love and care about one another above all other things. The becomes highly protective of the girl, 'the little sister he never had'... I'm afraid of someone reading this story and thinking that the relationship is meant to be incest: I don't want them to have romantic feelings for one another (or anyone else for that matter), however, the girl is a little flirty with the boy at times and I guess sort of has a harmless crush on him, but that's it. I wanted to write about a relationship that focuses on the importance of family/friendship as opposed to romance.

    ALSO, I don't want anyone to think my characters a pedophile or anything because he ends up hanging around/growing really close to a young girl. While some of these situations I have planned are a little awkward, there's NOTHING SEXUAL between them. It's not like this guy tries to bond with every little girl he sees walking down the street.

    So, what do you think?

    • ANSWER:
      I think it's a really cute idea but it could be interpreted as incest and it does look a bit wrong on the boys part. How about giving him a romantic interest? One that you can tell he really loves? Also make sure you really point out that they are only best friends.

  44. QUESTION:
    working on a story, how does this sound?
    This is pretty much chapter 2 or the first part at least.
    tell me what you think, kepp in mind that the events leading up to this have alreasy been told

    Mike ran, finally reaching the edge of the buildings, slowed his pace. He exited to an empty street. The street lamps were dim and cast shadows across the street. He turned and leaped up the stairs two at a time, leading to the dark two story house. He set the girl down gently by the door. He pulled his keys out of his pocket and fumbled for a moment ‘I have way too many key chains’ he thought. He found the key and opened the door.
    He turned on the light switch, and the ceiling fan came to life illuminating the room. A light grey couch sat along the right wall and curved to the far wall. A wood coffee table sat in the middle of the room, and on the left wall was a large 50 in T.V. At the far wall, the room left to a dark hall and a kitchen to the left. He knew the house was empty, as his sister and husband had left out of state a few days ago.
    He turned and picked up the girl. She stirred, but remained unconscious. He carried her past the living room to the hall. He walked to the last door on the left and pushed it open. He flipped on the light, and walked to the king size bed. He gently laid her down on the bed, taking care with her head. She whimpered and winced but still did not wake.
    He smoothed out her black hair, and stepped back. ‘Now what dumbass’ He ran his hand through his hair. Her shirt was stained with blood and torn in a few places reveling some nasty cuts. Most seemed superficial but a couple looked deep. She had bruises all over, dark one on her face, and a cut across her forehead that bled onto her face.
    He knew enough to know she needed help. Her breaths came weak but steady. He gently touched her shoulder, “Hey, can you hear me?” he asked her. She stirred and made a small whimper. Her eyes fluttered and opened slightly. “Hey, its going to be ok. I’m gonna get an ambulance and get you to a hospital.” He assured. He pulled out his phone and began dialing, but he felt her hand grab his.
    He looked down to her. She had opened her eyes wider, and the blue eyes held his gaze, blood shot and framed with tears. “Please” She whispered, barely audible, “no . . . hospitals. No police.” She started crying more. “Please” she pleaded. Her eyes fluttered and closed again. Mike panicked, he pressed two fingers to her neck. He felt her pulse. Barely there, but it was steady, and she continued to weakly breath.
    “Dammit! Why no hospital!?”He yelled. The girl gave no response other than to continue to cry in her sleep. Mike stared at his phone, the numbers 911 already on the screen. He knew that going to a hospital was the best idea, but he also did not want to betray her. He knew a little first aid, but he was no doctor. He stared at the sleeping girl. She was skinny, but not sickly so, half her body had blood on it, and several bruises were exposed, not counting the ones probably hidden under her clothes. Her face winced every so often, and even in sleep, tears still rolled down her face.
    “Dammit.” he said aloud. “O.K. I’ll take a look, but if its too serious, your going to a hospital.”He told her, as if she could hear him. He walked out of the room and down the hall to the kitchen. He tossed his jacket on the table, grabbed a large bowl and, began filling it with warm water. As it filled, he grabbed several wash clothes, and ice pack, and a “first aid tub” from the hall closet. As well as a large bottle of alcohol, some towels and a sheet. The whole time, his mind stayed occupied with the girl. Who the hell was she? Why had those pricks beat her up? And why was she so against ambulance and hospitals, even in her condition? He had no answers, but focused on the task at hand.
    He gathered everything up and walked back to the room. The girl had not moved, but she was still bleeding bad enough that a pool of blood was forming on the sheets on the bed. He cursed, set everything on the floor and took a breath.
    He didn’t like the idea, (well, secretly he kinda did) but he knew he would have to take her clothes off in order to ensure he got all her most serious injures. In his mind, he drew the boundaries. ‘Underwear stays on’ he told himself. He felt his face flush, and was glad the girl was unconscious and couldn’t see him.
    He slowly slid her shirt off, taking out one arm at a time. He started looking her over. She was not tan, closer to white than anything, but her body was covered in a number of bad cuts, scrapes, and bruises. She had one particularly nasty cut along her ribs, and had a nasty, blackish-blueish bruise on her side. Her breathing he noticed was labored, ‘why didn’t I notice that before? She’s having trouble breathing’ He thought He touched the bruise she winced, and he felt bone under the skin where it was not meant to be. ‘Broken rib. Could be pressing on her lungs.’ He cursed.
    While she was still bleeding,

    • ANSWER:
      It is very, very good. I was so caught up, I was leaning closer to the screen while I was reading. I want to know what happens next!!! It's great!!!

      answer mine?
      http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Avu4YefkMU8cJae074ZW0Gzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091003210643AAU9oZP

  45. QUESTION:
    chap 2 of my story, tell me what you think so far?
    jus t started this part. this is the second draft, tell me what you think and how you think it can improved, changed or any crticism you have please be honest and dont hold back

    Mike ran, finally reaching the edge of the buildings, slowed his pace. He exited to an empty street. The street lamps were dim and cast shadows across the street. He turned and leaped up the stairs two at a time, leading to the dark two story house. He set the girl down gently by the door. He pulled his keys out of his pocket and fumbled for a moment ‘I have way too many key chains’ he thought. He found the key and opened the door.
    He turned on the light switch, and the ceiling fan came to life illuminating the room. A light grey couch sat along the right wall and curved to the far wall. A wood coffee table sat in the middle of the room, and on the left wall was a large 50 in T.V. At the far wall, the room left to a dark hall and a kitchen to the left. He knew the house was empty, as his sister and husband had left out of state a few days ago.
    He turned and picked up the girl. She stirred, but remained unconscious. He carried her past the living room to the hall. He walked to the last door on the left and pushed it open. He flipped on the light, and walked to the king size bed. He gently laid her down on the bed, taking care with her head. She whimpered and winced but still did not wake.
    He smoothed out her black hair, and stepped back. ‘Now what dumbass’ He ran his hand through his hair. Her shirt was stained with blood and torn in a few places reveling some nasty cuts. Most seemed superficial but a couple looked deep. She had bruises all over, dark one on her face, and a cut across her forehead that bled onto her face.
    He knew enough to know she needed help. Her breaths came weak but steady. He gently touched her shoulder, “Hey, can you hear me?” he asked her. She stirred and made a small whimper. Her eyes fluttered and opened slightly. “Hey, its going to be ok. I’m gonna get an ambulance and get you to a hospital.” He assured. He pulled out his phone and began dialing, but he felt her hand grab his.
    He looked down to her. She had opened her eyes wider, and the blue eyes held his gaze, blood shot and framed with tears. “Please” She whispered, barely audible, “no . . . hospitals. No police.” She started crying more. “Please” she pleaded. Her eyes fluttered and closed again. Mike panicked, he pressed two fingers to her neck. He felt her pulse. Barely there, but it was steady, and she continued to weakly breath.
    “Dammit Why no hospital ?”He yelled. The girl gave no response other than to continue to cry in her sleep. Mike stared at his phone, the numbers 911 already on the screen. He knew that going to a hospital was the best idea, but he also did not want to betray her. He knew a little first aid, but he was no doctor. He stared at the sleeping girl. She was skinny, but not sickly so, half her body had blood on it, and several bruises were exposed, not counting the ones probably
    hidden under her clothes. Her face winced every so often, and even in sleep, tears still rolled down her face.
    “Dammit.” he said aloud. “O.K. I’ll take a look, but if its too serious, your going to a hospital.”He told her, as if she could hear him. He walked out of the room and down the hall to the kitchen. He tossed his jacket on the table, grabbed a large bowl and, began filling it with warm water. As it filled, he grabbed several wash clothes, and ice pack, and a “first aid tub” from the hall closet. As well as a large bottle of alcohol, some towels and a sheet. The whole time, his mind stayed occupied with the girl. Who the hell was she? Why had those pricks beat her up? And why was she so against ambulance and hospitals, even in her condition? He had no answers, but focused on the task at hand.
    He gathered everything up and walked back to the room. The girl had not moved, but she was still bleeding bad enough that a pool of blood was forming on the sheets on the bed. He cursed, set everything on the floor and took a breath.
    He didn’t like the idea, (well, secretly he kinda did) but he knew he would have to take her clothes off in order to ensure he got all her most serious injures. In his mind, he drew the boundaries. ‘Underwear stays on’ he told himself. He felt his face flush, and was glad the girl was unconscious and couldn’t see him.
    He slowly slid her shirt off, taking out one arm at a time. He started looking her over. She was not tan, closer to white than anything, but her body was covered in a number of bad cuts, scrapes, and bruises. She had one particularly nasty cut along her ribs, and had a nasty, blackish-blueish bruise on her side. Her breathing he noticed was labored, ‘why didn’t I notice that before? She’s having trouble breathing’ He thought He touched the bruise she winced, and he felt bone under the skin where it was not meant to be. ‘Broken rib. Could be pressing on her lungs.’ He cursed.
    Whil

    • ANSWER:
      uhhh i don't like how he keeps on cursing, it's a little redundant, we get that he's tense and stressed. also there's a lot of unnecessary details. for example: but her body was covered in a number of bad cuts, scrapes and bruises. you only need one or two at the most of those three words to describe it.
      choose your words more wisely.

      ON THE OTHER HAND-- i love it! it's really good and i want to know what chapter 1 was and where this story is going. does she die? who is she?

      oh just one other criticism -- it's a little graphic and if you mean for anyone to read this, they may be shocked by your sexual details. it IS a little much.

  46. QUESTION:
    A girl told me we're just friends, after something that's a bit stronger than a friendship. Help.?
    Okay, I was at this girls house, with a some guys and some girls, and when the time came for sleeping, this girl slept right by me in the bed. I wake up in the middle of the night, and we're spooning or whatever with her facing away and me facing her. I started to rub her for a good 2 hours and then it came down to me feeling her, and then me fingering her. she let me finger her. This whole time we weren't talking. It was just happening. Then the next day, she texts me saying:

    "Hey uh.. I don't want to be rude when I say this, but please don't tell anyone about the other night. I honestly had no idea what was going on. I was half asleep. And I really don't want that getting around. We're just friends, that's all."

    The rest of the conversation goes like:

    starting with me,
    "Yeah I was going to tell you in person, but that made it easier, and yeah."
    "alright cool."
    "it wasn't that big of a deal anyway."
    "yeah."
    "Seriously though, think of it as what you want to think of it. I have no idea what you were thinking at the time, but you have your own intentions. And I dont know if you regret it or not, but its between you and me and im not telling anyone so get comfortable. You can trust me."
    "Uh yeah let's just drop it forever. Pretend it didn't happen.
    "uhh okay im fine with it. Dont be shy or weird around me though."
    "haha okay good, I won't.."

    To me, the part where she says, lets just drop it forever, pretend it didn't happen, sounds very straight forward. But this whole situation is mixed feelings for her in my retrospective. If you just look at it, it obviously sounds like, something happened and now she wants to forget about it. But can it mean anything deeper? Is this pursuable? I don't freak out or care about things like this, but I want to pursue her and build a love/sex/date relationship with her. I like this girl. But need someone skilled to guide me on this one. Help

    • ANSWER:
      For starters, quite frankly, it's reasonably obvious your intellectually deep and this girl is extremely shallow.

      This girl doesn't understand her morals and what she's actually doing with you. She was aware that you and her were "hooking up" and she didn't stop you. It wasn't like she was unable to stop you and that you were sexually assaulting her. This means that this girl is somewhat of a whore, but she cares about her reputation being anything else. From the situation, i can already tell that you two are in high school. In college, these stories fly around all time time so it grows on everyone that it's not a big deal for this to happen and eventually everyone stops caring about the drama. I went through the same thing and it intrigued me which inspired me to become a psychological analysis and observe these kind of things.

      From my field of work, i've had many clients from the high school and college environment and i've learned things that people tend to do. One of the many interesting things that stood out was that there is this racial structure that is between people in both high school and college although it's very mild in college because of the various foreigners that come to America for the universities here. I don't want to offend anyone here but I've noticed that in some schools with a high African-American/Latino/Asian Pacific population, these people serve as the main student body and most of everything social is powered around them. In schools with a majority of White population, any foreigners were outcasts from the beginning. No matter what they did, there was still the white kids that ruled the school. There was this one particular Chinese client that came to me with an issue and he had told me that he "hooked up" with the most popular and attractive girl at the school and everyone knew about it and for a short span, accepted him completely but eventually over time he regressed back to an outcast. He transfered to an Asian community with a base Asian population dominating the high school and immediately was the "cool kid". He emailed me describing his experience switching over and I found it astounding(I am keeping my confidential credentials and am not revealing anything that could legally hurt me or the client).

      It seems to me from your description of the situation that you could possibly of the same situation? Either way, it strikes a certain similarity within the social aspect of high school that makes me assume this.

      The way this girl responded to you referring to the "pretend it didn't happen," tells me that she's embarrassed about hooking up with you and that she's hesitant about pursuing anything further regarding you. This can easily be fixed though: many people overlook this. All you have to do is have an extremely deep conversation and your all set with this girl. Her thoughts and outlook of you will completely change and it will seem like you changed as a person, but it's just that she was too shallow to see it in the first place. Many people go and try to hook up with this person's best friend to make them jealous and want them back, but this plan almost always backfires and causes them to hate them even more. Also, this girl might be even TOO shallow to understand what a deep conversation is, and then you might have to forget her. You might want to pull the loner act with a few close friends and get other girls to come to you. Some high school societies are very certain and the females don't understand certain things and you just have to wait for them to mature.

      Hope this helps a lot, and good luck to you mate.

  47. QUESTION:
    Thoughts About Co-Sleeping?
    In my culture, co-sleeping is normal. Everyone pretty much does it, and we're all pretty much alive. It helps to establish a bond between parents, I am actually scared to death to have my baby girl sleep alone. There are time when she's choked on spit up and I had to pat her back. She sleeps right next to me, and sleeps almost all night. I was wondering what the problem with co-sleeping is? Why are people so judgmental about it? In my culture, most babies sleep in their parents bed until they find their independence and want a room of their own, usually by two to three years of age. It also is supposed to help space out the babies, but I've never really heard of it being a problem until I started reading literature and using this site. Is it really that bad?

    • ANSWER:
      I think if it works for your family there is nothing wrong with it. Most people who are dead set against it know nothing about it. It is not dangerous as long as you are not drunk or high or smoking in bed. There are studies that show that co sleeping lowers the risk of SIDS. I was dead set against it until my daughter was born. She hated her crib and because of a back injury it was difficult for me to get up and down to get her at night. My husband works midnights so I have no help at night. I have the bed against the wall so she won't roll out and if she needed to nurse at night she would just latch on. Diapers were on the dresser right next to the bed so that was also easy to deal with. Now before some uninformed yutz tells me how I will have her in my bed until she is a teen, she is now 2 and sleeps by herself in her "big girl bed" with no problem. I am not saying it is for everyone, and I didn't do it with my son, but if it works for you then great. For the haters out there, what concern is it to anyone how another person has their child sleep? If it doesn't effect someone else and they aren't living your life let them say what they want. Do what works for YOU.

  48. QUESTION:
    Need help with girl who is friend!?
    Ok so I have known this girl for two months now and we have become very good friends. She tells me everything from her family and friends like who she hates. I really liked this girl but now i know she doesn't like me. Before she did not start off conversations and now she does. On msn she is the one to say hey or ask a question is she needs help.

    Yesterday She was telling me her friend (a girl) slept over and she was on the edge of the bed sleeping. She said she hates that because her ex bf used to do that and she would always fall off the bed.... Then later on she said that she likes her ex bf's friend. And she wanted my opinion on the issue. Now I liked her but now i know she doesn't like me but would rather be friends. Now my question is would girls tell this kind of stuff to anyone or a special close friend? Also I want to hang out with her (as friends) what could we do that would not send the wrong message now that I know she likes someone else? thanks for your answers! =)

    • ANSWER:
      You're very privileged. It's not often that someone will be so open and honest about all kinds of personal things. I'd say she sees you not simply as a friend but rather as a trusted close confidant. Congratulations.

      Unfortunately though, when it comes to hanging out with her, that's a serious issue. You could go sit in a park and chat. You could sometimes share some mutual interests. You could go to a movie. As long as this happens only once in a while, you might get away with it without anyone making a comment. But whether this happens once in a while or more often, sooner or later people will notice and the rumors will start to fly.

      The only way to avoid the rumours would be to be seen with her and her boy friend of the day, and with her girl friends of the day. But even that won't stop the rumors in the longer term. So the question I think is not really how to avoid this problem but rather whether it's a problem to begin with.

      Why not raise the question with her. If she doesn't care what people think and you don't care either then there's no problem, hang out together and have fun. And if she is uncomfortable with the idea, maybe she's got a suggestion on how to avoid the problem.

      I hope this helps a little. Good Luck!

  49. QUESTION:
    feeling ashamed of having cheap Habit?
    I am 26 Yrs Male, since i am in 11th class i developed a cheap habit of touching private parts of a girl who is sleeping. It will be an extremely pleasant feeling when ever i got a girl who is in deep sleep, there are lot of fantasies ran in my mind the feeling is superb. I can touch her parts and also i can feel the sensation of kissing by coming closed to her face and lips. I do it with my cousin sisters. I got the chances whenever my relatives visits my house. There will be little bit fear of getting noticed and also a pleasant superb sensational feeling the mixture of fear and passion gives the result of a nice fantasy. But after doing this act i feel very bad and really really ashamed and i cannot describe the bad feeling.. please help me. is this the case with all or its only for some people? is this common that every one get the thought of taking advantage of a sleeping girl ?

    • ANSWER:
      You need to seek some professional help. This is not ok to be doing. Please seek help before you traumatize one of the girls or get thrown in jail and get to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life.

  50. QUESTION:
    How to make sleeping with my girlfriend more comfortable?
    2nd time I asked

    I have known my girlfriend Mayma since Kindergarten and I remember all my life she has always slept in only her underwear and bra when she got older and always had to have someone sleep in bed with her so she could throw her leg over them -we had alot of sleepovers over the years-
    Now Mayma and I are dating and live together and sleep in the same bed. But now having a half naked girl sleeping right next to me with her leg over me is giving me certain s.e..xual urges and reactions that are out of my control. I know that she does not want sex for a while and it is for a very good reason. Also even though she is pretty much a virgin I'm not I'm no where near being a virgin and have not done it since I first started trying to get with her so that don't help my problem. So any advice?????
    Shut the fuck up casey
    mayma is african dumba s..s it's better than a f..ag..g.ot name like Casey

    and yes she is pretty much a virgin the only time she had sex she was raped

    • ANSWER:
      What kind of stupid-a$s name is Mayma? And how is she "pretty much a virgin"? You either are or aren't. My advice to you is that you tell her how she is turning you on and if she doesn't care or change what she is doing then you should go to the bathroom and w@nk it.


Help With Sleeping Insomnia

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Can teenagers get insomnia/sleeping disorders?
    Okay, so simple question: Can teenagers get sleep insomnia? I ALWAYS have trouble falling asleep which is REALLY annoying and aggravating. If I try to talk to my parents about it, they blow it off like I'm too young to have a sleeping disorder EVEN THOUGH they both have sleeping disorders and take prescribed medications for it. You'd think they'd realize it runs in the family, but obviously not. I have a feeling I may have insomnia or some other sleeping disorder because I can't seem to find myself tired until the wee hours of the early morning (usually between 1-3 am) and even then, I have to pry myself into bed and hope to god I get tired. It's really frankly pissing me off especially when my parents don't listen. It's not that I DON'T want to go to sleep I WANT to sleep but can't. And at sometimes when I skype with my friends, it's like 11 pm to 12 am and they are like falling asleep at their computers wondering how on Earth I'm still awake and not even a bit tired. SO what do you think? Could I possibly have a sleeping disorder?

    Don't say to be more active in the day, I do plenty in the day and even when I've had long, tiring, stressful days, I still cannot sleep.

    And don't say to go to bed earlier, because how can I do that if I'm not tired!

    Any opinions will help, I'm considering trying to go to my doctor, but like I said, my parents blow me off. Thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      A delayed sleep phase disorder is the most common sleep disorder of adolesence. This condition is characterized by difficulty falling asleep until much later in the day. This is very common and to some extent staying up later is a normal physiologic feature of adolescence.

      However, when the issue becomes distressing to you it would qualify as a disorder. Usually the biggest problem with this condition is that school requires you to get up five days a week by 7 am or so. If you don't go to sleep until 2, you are getting by on five hours of sleep per day. Many teens make up for this by sleeping until (or past) noon each weekend day--parents often interpret this as laziness when it is, in fact, a normal response to sleep deprivation!

      Is this your pattern (less than 6 hours of sleep on weekdays and sleeping until late morning/early afternoon on weekends)? If so, you probably have a delayed sleep phase disorder. The most straightforward way to fix this is to get up at a set time every morning, including weekends. Eventually you will get sleep deprived enough that you will be tired and fall asleep at a more socially acceptable time.

      There are other causes of insomnia, like depression and primary insomnia, that affect teenagers as well. If the above doesn't sound like your problem, it is a good idea to see your doctor for an evaluation.

  2. QUESTION:
    How should I fight sleep insomnia?
    Need a little help with sleeping... Don't drink pop, overall I am very healthy, Workout all the time, etc.

    Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Try homeopathy

      You might get some useful information at:

      http://doctorshazia.com/?s=insomnia
      http://healthmedicalinformation.com/?s=insomnia

      Read this:
      Want An Insomnia Cure?
      http://www.booksvariety.com/want-an-insomnia-cure-grab-my-3-free-sleep-binaural-beats-mp3s

      Discovering the Power of Self Hypnosis
      http://www.psychyclub.com/discovering-the-power-of-self-hypnosis-the-simple-natural-mind-body-approach-to-change-and-healing-second-edition

      Good Night: The Sleep Doctor’s 4-Week Program to Better Sleep and Better Health
      http://www.topmedicalbooks.com/good-night-the-sleep-doctors-4-week-program-to-better-sleep-and-better-health

      Healthy Sleep: Fall Asleep Easily, Sleep More Deeply, Sleep Through the Night, Wake up Refreshed
      http://www.booksvariety.com/healthy-sleep-fall-asleep-easily-sleep-more-deeply-sleep-through-the-night-wake-up-refreshed-audiobook

      Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Insomnia: A Session-by-Session Guide
      http://www.topmedicalbooks.com/cognitive-behavioral-treatment-of-insomnia-a-session-by-session-guide

      And the best is:

      Say Good Night to Insomnia
      http://www.booksvariety.com/say-good-night-to-insomnia

      All the best

  3. QUESTION:
    HELP!!! My 8 year old is suddenly not sleeping well...possibly sleep insomnia?
    If anyone can help me or give me any past experiences you've had that would be awesome. My 8 year old is a great kid. I've never had any problems with him EVER on sleeping or behavior or anything. Last week he woke up screaming to the top of his lungs...I seriously thought someone was in his room beating him to death. I went in there and he was wide eyed pointing at his door saying he saw some monster. I reassured him there was nothing there. When I was talking to him he looked and acted not like himself. He wouldn't look me in the eyes and was not making any sense...I figured he was still half asleep and laid with him until he went back to sleep. Well...the next night he didn't want to go to sleep in his bed. Sleeping in our bed is not an option for my kids...I did that years ago with him when he was about a year old and told myself once I got him broke we wouldn't let him sleep in our bed again. I don't think that's an issue...Anyway...the second night he said he saw footprints and eyes under his closed door that he shut. I'm not 100% sure if he ever feel asleep or stayed up terrified from the night before...but he wouldn't go to sleep after that. I laid down with him in his room until he feel asleep that night. Now, every night is getting worse. He hasn't had anymore dreams that he can remember but for instance last night...when it came time for bed he started crying. I put him in his bed and reassured him he would be okay and told him monsters weren't real...left his light on like usual but he would NOT give up. He wouldn't even lie down on his pillow. He started shaking and screaming and I seriously thought he was going to give himself a heart attach. He's got a appt with his pediatrician next week for a regular check up and NO DOUBT I'm talking to them about this...but I just don't know if I can wait another week and a half to get some answers. Does anyone have any ideas or know what could be causing this? I know that the one dream must have scared the living daylights out of him and he doesn't want to go back to sleep to relive any of that again but the extent that he is going thru to NOT go to sleep is crazy...like I said he starts shaking and sweating and talking out of his head BEFORE he even goes to sleep now....and it takes me or my husband to lie down with him until he falls asleep which takes at least an hour of consulting with him before he actually falls asleep....

    • ANSWER:
      Bullies, bad dreams bad nightmares , phobias maybe hes scraed of the dark or he cant sleep because he hides sweet stuff that makes him awake all night or maybe your write well i dont know but i think you should ask a doctor to figure this out do a lot of research

  4. QUESTION:
    my anxiety and depression deal with my sleeping insomnia?
    So for about 2 or 3 months every now and then i experience sleep problems. When I lay down in my bed and close my eyes to fall asleep all of a sudden it feels like my mind blanks out and a split second after i reawake from the blanking out and open my eyes scared and nervous after. In the past I use to get really bad anxiety and have overcomed the panic attacks but when this problem occurs it feels just like one because I put into my mind that maybe i'm getting a seizure or something. My girlfriend tells me that sometimes when i'm asleep i'll twitch or gasp. I'm really looking for help, to be honest, i'm scared to fall asleep....

    • ANSWER:
      Try to relax yourself during sleep time,

      I would recommend try to do the Relaxation Techniques, it can help relieve your body and interferes with a good night’ sleep.

      Abdominal Breathing
      This is a type of voluntary control of breathing. First breath normally, observe the rhythm and then start your deep breathing.
      - To start your deep breathing, lie down comfortably
      - Gently put your hand on your stomach
      - Slowly take a deep breath. It should be breath from the bottom of your stomach
      - Now feel it with the air
      - Your stomach muscles should raise up
      - Slowly breath in it which should take about 5 seconds
      - Slowly let the air go out and take about 5 seconds
      - Continuous this steps 2 to 3 times in a row
      - After the 2 to 3 time deep breathing go back to your normal breathing for 1 to 2 minutes
      - Now you can carry on with the deep breathing steps again
      - Repeat this deep breathing and normal breathing cycle a feel times

      If you would like to see my further information on Sleep problem, feel free to visit my blog at http://sleepapnea-insomnia.blogspot.com

  5. QUESTION:
    Is it bad to treat sleep insomnia with alcohol?
    I use NyQuil to go to sleep every night around midnight, and if I run out I just take a single shot of whiskey. It helps make me drowsy but is it bad to use it every single night? Any consequences?

    • ANSWER:
      There are definitely a couple consequences if you continue to do this every night.

      1. It is an extremely bad idea to mix pills with alcohol, even though it's just something as mild as NyQuil or Tylenol etc. and it's just a shot of whiskey.

      2. I've heard that drinking a glass of WINE a day helps you to keep a healthy system. Also, wine has plenty of antioxidants.

      3. If you continue to do what you're doing, everyday, sooner or later your body will grow immune to the pills and alcohol and you will start having to take larger doses. Do not become dependent on these pills, let alone alcohol.

      I suggest you see a doctor who may be able to give you tips on how to fall asleep faster or easier without having to take any sort of medication. Use medication as a last resort, and if that's what it comes down to... please do not take them every night.

  6. QUESTION:
    Would marijuana help a person with insomnia sleep?
    As of lately i've been only sleeping 2 to 3 hours a day, before I slept a good 5 hours tops. Do you think smoking would help me? I'm desperate because it's really affecting my school work and personal life. I don't want to take sleeping pills cause I already take other pills, I don't want to damage my liver.

    • ANSWER:
      IMO it may worsen it...as pot works on the psychotropic part of the brain that deals with sleeping you may find that pot excites it more and will make it harder to sleep. Although it also could have the reverse affect i'm sure and make you much more sleepy after you come down from the initial high.

      I suggest trying it out, insomnia is hard to live with, i have big time sleep problems too and I smoke pot everyday. It does not help me sleep whatsoever. It actually stops me from dreaming and I toss and turn all night after smoking a lot in a day and night and then trying to sleep my brain feels fuzzy when i wake up i am still high, so i believe that IME it does not help sleep, sometimes, but very rarely.

      Although certain strains work in much differing ways and if you were prescribed a certain type I'm sure it may have benefits. Try it out, pot isn't too bad but it does cause lung cancer more than smoking cigarettes(apparently). But apart from maybe some small breathing problems that exercise can fix pot has little harm. Just don't do too much because it will make you a bit loony, I can tell you that. But if used purely for your illness I'm sure it would be quite beneficial for some and I hope you as well. Good luck and Maryjayne be with you...lol

  7. QUESTION:
    I CAN'T GET TO SLEEP?!? Insomnia?
    HI,
    For 2 day I've been experiencing problems going to sleep...every night I go to bed and lay down and unable to sleep even though I try as hard as i can....last night i was awake for 6 hours straight because of this problem with not one minute of shuteye.....do i have a sleeping disorder or is it Insomnia or what is it??? I relying on on the yahoo answers to please help me on this:)

    • ANSWER:
      I used to be like that, where I'd lay down and not be able to sleep for hours. So I talked to my doctor and she gave a really silly answer: only go to bed when you feel sleepy. I felt like a moron :p

  8. QUESTION:
    A way to sleep. insomnia.?
    ok the insomnia is either coming on with the anxiety/panic attacks, or the depression. both of which i have decided and accepted i ll have to live with. i can go for about... ok the longest time ever was a week, without sleep. then their it suddenly switches and i can acctually lay down and sleep one day through straight wake up the next morning use the bathroom and then sleep the next hole day until the next morning. while the insomnia was one thing, this switching back and forth is definantly not something i can adjust, more than i have already, to. its seems though im not sure that this is causeing other problems, see when i go into the sleeping thing, i don't eat that whole time... thats two days without food, and then when im back to insomnia im just...... well not interested in food in any way what so ever. and sometimes i eat anyways but more likely than not i don't. so anyway to cure the sleeping after a bought of insomnia would be wonderful, or anything else that could help

    • ANSWER:
      To help you with the depression you have to be coming from the positive side of things. Tell yourself "I will have a great day, I am _______, _______, ______ "(Fill in with positive word about yourself. "I will show my happy and funloving side and apreciate every experience of my day." Do this while looking in the mirror and say it out loud. It also helps if you say it while smiling and sounding up beat, even if that's not what you are feeling at the time. Do this every morning. Also other things that will help; Wake up earlier than usual everyday and go for a brisk walk telling yourself positive things during the entire walk. Eating health is a big key in mood, if you eat junk, you'll feel like junk. Plain and simple. Keeping your mind set busy and positve will help you feel better sooner than you thing. If life is particularly stressfull right now, set aside a time to think about the things that you can change/take care of, and only alow yourself to deal with those things during that alotted time. If you can't change the circumstance, don't worry about it, it will become unneccesary stress. Meditating will assist in calming your mind and body to make space for your personal healing to begin. Star by working on your depression and the rest will follow. You can find great meditaion trainning in books by Sylvia Brown. Also, there is this GREAT new product on the market called Mona Vie that helps your body heal itself. It's 100% fruit juice from fruits all over the world. It's a bit pricey, but who can put a price on well being right?? Don't take my word for it, just look around at the website and see if it's something that can help you. Good Luck and Take Care.

  9. QUESTION:
    SEVERE SLEEP INSOMNIA 26 wks pregnant?
    I am a little over 26 weeks pregnant and haven't slept! For the last 2 months or so I have not been able to sleep. Its not a comfort thing, its I lay in bed and cannot get tired for the life of me!!

    In the last 10 days I have gotten 14 hrs of sleep! I got 45 min of sleep last night, was absolutly exhausted by 7pm tonight and here I am at 9, unable to sleep! I'm wide awake, but I'm so exhausted. I have never had issues sleeping in my life, so this is all new to me, and I can't handle it! I have an 11 month old daughter I try to keep up with during the day, but I feel like a bad mommy because I'm so exhausted from not sleeping!

    I'm the most paranoid person, and I don't even like taking tylonel, but I need something to help me sleep. Can I take tylonel PM? Or what is a safe sleep aid to help me sleep? I am calling my doctor tomorrow to see if there is anything she can give me, but I need to sleep tonight, because in the last 72 hrs I have slept a total of 3.5 hrs! My hubby said he would get up with our daughter tonight, so I could sleep, but here I am wide awake..

    • ANSWER:

  10. QUESTION:
    need help with sleep insomnia?
    OMG I CANT SLEEP.
    im like a vampire or something, lmfao.
    any tips on how i can fall asleep?

    • ANSWER:
      I'm sorry but did that girl actually suggest lavender from a bear???? WTF?? lol chamomile is a big help.

  11. QUESTION:
    How to resolve insomnia and sleeping problems?
    Could someone help me with insomnia and my sleeping problem? I have trouble sleeping at night, even napping throw the day. It is very annoying and exhausting at the same time. I fell very tiered and sleepy the next day. Please, could someone help me?

    • ANSWER:
      I had been facing the same problem recently, but I have overcome it very successfully. I have tried everything starting from pills, to visiting nostrums and different healers, but noting worked. Until I found the cure, just visit www.livebetterlife.najdi.biz follow the instructions and you will found the cure also.

  12. QUESTION:
    Cant sleep insomnia possibly?
    Its been about two weeks and I can't sleep in my own room, I will lay there for hours upon hours till i give up and go lay on the couch where I was fine till now. When im in my room I get paranoid over fires. My mind will buzz about how the furnace right out side my room will catch fire and stuff. So I get scared and move to the front room where i've been fine. Now tonight I can't sleep I swear i keep seeing figures that I think its a demon. So now my mind is buzzing with the thoughts that a demon is going to cause bad things. Which im very scared right now just sitting in silence with is another thing that's not helping my sleeping. Im sorry if alot of that doesn't make sense. But I don't know whats wrong with me! When my friend is here i will be fine falling asleep in my room but when im alone I can't sleep! Its 5:30am and i've been up since 2pm and im wide awake! Ever since this summer ive been having weird sleep habits and ive noticed I stay awake for about 18-20hours then sleep for 12-14hours. Im 15 female. I really don't know whats wrong with me and i want to know what it is so i can maybe get help, this is really starting to get annoying and i just want to sleep.

    • ANSWER:
      I had that and was told I got spiritual attachments in my room.

  13. QUESTION:
    Can sleep insomnia possibly?
    Its been about two weeks and I can't sleep in my own room, I will lay there for hours upon hours till i give up and go lay on the couch where I was fine till now. When im in my room I get paranoid over fires. My mind will buzz about how the furnace right out side my room will catch fire and stuff. So I get scared and move to the front room where i've been fine. Now tonight I can't sleep I swear i keep seeing figures that I think its a demon. So now my mind is buzzing with the thoughts that a demon is going to cause bad things. Which im very scared right now just sitting in silence with is another thing that's not helping my sleeping. Im sorry if alot of that doesn't make sense. But I don't know whats wrong with me! When my friend is here i will be fine falling asleep in my room but when im alone I can't sleep! Its 5:30am and i've been up since 2pm and im wide awake! Ever since this summer ive been having weird sleep habits and ive noticed I stay awake for about 18-20hours then sleep for 12-14hours. Im 15 female. I really don't know whats wrong with me and i want to know what it is so i can maybe get help, this is really starting to get annoying and i just want to sleep.
    Vito sorta im very attached to anime and ive been watching Kuroshitsuji that has a demon butler and theres a mansion thats burned down twice... my mom said that im so very attached to my anime that I almost make it real in my mind and she said about my room that i have a spiritual attachment to my room.

    • ANSWER:
      Speak to your doctor. I was like this, then she advised me to take some sleeping pills, and the ones she prescribed work brilliantly!

      You may have anxiety disorder, too, so mention the fires and how you can't sleep because you're anxious - your doctor will be able to help you with this as well as your insomnia :)

  14. QUESTION:
    Ways to Fix Sleep Insomnia For a Fourteen Year Old?
    I'm a fourteen year old canadian, I have had maybe one or two hours of sleep every night for the last two weeks. I can't sleep no matter what I do. I've gotten a new mattress, it doesn't help. I have listened to music while trying to sleep, it doesn't help. I have cut caffeine out of my diet, nothing is helping me get to sleep. I am a highschool student with many extra curricular activities, I'm also too young to take sleeping pills. Do you have any ideas on how to fix this problem? Please help, I need to sleep.

    • ANSWER:

  15. QUESTION:
    Sleeping problems and disturbing dreams?
    Okay, so... I'm thirteen years old, and I guess it's just like... hormones and stuff, but I think I've been pretty much suicidal for the past four or five months. It's kind of a compilation of reasons, but one of my major problems is with sleeping. Most nights I can't sleep [insomnia?], and I try to occupy myself but I tend to spend the whole night thinking too deeply into things that just make things worse... But it's a good thing, because eventually when I actually am too tired to stay awake, I have an extreme fear of sleep. I have these weird, disturbing dreams almost every time I sleep. If I were to recite them during the day, they sound stupid and can sometimes be pretty hillarious, but when I'm actually experiencing the dream, its a horrifying nightmare... And I wake up crying in the middle of the night because I think it's real for like the whole following hour. They're usually about someone dying in a weird way, or something continuing to repeat itself over and over to an extreme amount so I get this feeling like... It's running me over, again and again.

    I've told my parents that I think I have sleeping problems, I never told them about the dreams, but they don't listen anyway; they think I just need to regulate my sleeping... Is there some kind of medication for this that I can get my hands on without going through my parents?

    I honestly don't want to kill myself, and I hate thinking about dying all the time. I believe in the idea that this is a teenage phase, and I'll get over it, but it's been really hard for me to concentrate in school, and everything about school has been stressing me out. I get in trouble if I get anything less than an A, and it's kind of like an overload of work. I've been quitting my extra-curricular activities to release some stress, but then I just recently got in trouble with my parents and I'm grounded now because they think I'm not following through with anything. Is there anything I can do myself about the stress? I don't know if it's contributing to my inability to fall asleep, but I don't feel like I'll be able to get any professional help.

    • ANSWER:
      In my opinion, you're pretty stressed. Of course, that may not be the cause of most of your problems, but I guarantee that quite a few are stemming from that stress.

      Just take a little bit of time off of thinking about problems at school and sleeping and such. After school, just go do something you want to do, whether it be walking, or riding your bike, or my guilty pleasure, watching TV all night. Reading is also a great way to get away from problems. It's like being in a totally different world. I'm just 14, and I know what you're going through with the mounds of school work and constant stress. Just remember, you're never alone.

      As for the sleeping problems, when you go to see your doctor, then be sure to mention that you're having a lot of trouble with sleep and strange dreams, and that you're very stressed most of the time.

      Suicide is never the answer. When it comes to your mind, think about everyone else and how they'll be left, and then think about how much happier YOU would be if you didn't have to think about death in such a way. And think about your future and how happy you'll be when you are able to do whatever you want, and how you'll finally be able to follow your dreams.

      In true sincerity, I wish you the best of luck through all of this trouble. I know it must feel like hell, but just remember that things will always get better, even if it seems like it's taking forever.

      Best of luck =)

  16. QUESTION:
    Insomnia/Sleeping HELP?!?
    I've had severe trouble sleeping for the past week or so. Im at a young age, (still a teenager) and a full nights sleep is extremely necessary I can only sleep 2-6 hours at a time before i wake up. I usually take a sleeping pill to go back to sleep, but it seems that im becoming immune to them. I've been taking melatonin to fall asleep for a long period of time, due to the fact that I cant sleep well/fully without it, but it seems to have a faded effect now. So when I wake up after 2-6 hours, I WONT FALL BACK ASLEEP! & I have anxiety, but I take pills for that and it goes away. To go to sleep I take about 11 pills. (all natural) But it still doesnt do the trick.

    What should I Do? / Whats wrong with me?

    • ANSWER:
      I like your caveat that your pills are all natural, just because something is natural doesn't mean it's safe. Arsenic occurs naturally in nature would you ingest it?

      People can't sleep for lots of reason, guilty conscious, biological clock needs to be reset etc...

      I suggest you see an actual doctor, maybe these "natural" pills have something to do with it. Again, I don't advise justifying misuse of pills because it's natural or organic, because so is a lot of stuff that can harm you.

  17. QUESTION:
    sleep insomnia?
    okay doctors have diagnosed me with sleep insomnia. it takes me like 3-4 hours to fall asleep without medication. with the sleep medication perscriped i fall asleep within 15 minutes(normally). my mom really wants me to stop taking the pills and i want to also because i feel really dependant on them. I have been taking them over a year. But im scared that if i stop taking them i wont be able to sleep. please help

    • ANSWER:
      try an all natural sleep aid like Sleep So Good cream and you will be surprised at how quickly and effectively this product works helping support sleep symptoms associated with insomnia, restlessness, frequent waking, and other bothersome symptoms linked to sleep problems and disorders.

  18. QUESTION:
    What to do for insomnia/sleeping trouble besides sleeping pills?
    I've had sleeping problems since I was a little kid. When I was 6-8 it would always take me an hour or so to fall asleep. Progressively it has gotten worse to the point where now, at 16 years old, I have a horrible sleep pattern and I'm lucky if I get an hour of sleep per night. I'm already on two medications and one of them cannot be mixed with any type of sleeping pills and besides that I don't have the money to pay for another prescription.
    Is there any other way to go about handling this? I'm constantly sleep deprived and almost always in a bad mood because of it, I'd really appreciate any help/ideas. >___<

    • ANSWER:
      It may suck at first, but a rigorous work-out schedule may help. I'm not pulling a Tom Cruise and saying use exercise instead of medication, but rather, see if the exercise would help. I had a lot of trouble sleeping in high school. I joined the soccer team, but that only made the problems worse (girls are mean, and we spent more time drilling than exercising), but then I joined the wrestling team, and the energy required was incredible. After that, I'd make an effort to get in at least two hours of exercise per day. It may sound ridiculous, I don't even see myself as the athletic type, but it is what I need.

      I hope this helps.

  19. QUESTION:
    im a 14 year old boy with sleep insomnia, and i take unisom, but it doesnt help, what should i do?
    i dont know if size is a factor, but im 6 feet, and 150 lbs

    • ANSWER:
      Try taking different types of sleeping tablets that help you fall asleep, until you find the one that works the best.
      Some other ways to sleep easier are:
      -Wear a sleeping mask. (those masks you put over your eyes)
      -Tense every muscle in your body one at a time.
      -Sleep in a warm place.
      -Eat before you sleep. When you're full, your body tends to be more tired.
      -Listen to soft music.
      -Don't think about anything. Just control all of your thoughts to sleeping.

  20. QUESTION:
    sleep insomnia???inability to eat?
    ok i dont know why but for at least a week ive had very bad sleep insomnia and havent been able to eat very much in the past 7 days i ate mayb 3 meals TOTAL (combo of everything ive eaten) not even big meals at that and i havent been able to sleep at all. its been making me sick because i have a low blood sugar levels and if i dont eat then i get sick. its not that i dont wanna eat its that i take mayb 2-3 bites and it feels like i ate a huge meal and im full for the rest of the day and cant eat or i feel like i over ate and will puke. plz can anyone help me anyideas of wat to do? by the way im 15 and i dont think that this is natuaral for a 15 yr old and no im not sick like with a virus or nething i can tell the difference im not stupid.
    really tired and nees to b up in less than 4 hrs but i cant sleep help!

    • ANSWER:
      If this is happening for the first time, I'd tell your parents and ask to taken to a doctor for a checkup - sounds like a bug/virus. Be sure to drink lots of liquids.

  21. QUESTION:
    Self diagnoses of sleep insomnia?
    So I have diagnosed myself with insomnia. Which is probably actually from a touch of depression. My main problem is falling asleep. I usually sleep okay. It can take me almost 3 hours to fall asleep after going to bed. I make sure that it is completely dark, and that there is white noise in the background (fan), and I close my eyes. I've tried the counting thing, but it doesn't help, because I can count and think at the same time. It's usually just my brain that keeps me up. It doesn't matter what time I go to bed, it always takes longer than an hour usually for me to actually fall asleep. During school, I'll go to bed anywhere from 9:30-11 but not fall asleep until after 12:30. Almost every night. If I do exercise or anything that tires me out beforehand, I'm just in bed, really tired, and not able to sleep. When I can't get to sleep and I know it will be a while, I try to stay up doing something until I get tired. For example, getting on the computer (like i am now lol) or playing solitaire or reading. But it's usually always the same thing. Can anyone please help me with any tips or tricks for getting to sleep faster?

    I also usually ALWAYS wake up tired. Whether it's 7 or 12. I don't know why, and it really sucks. Can anyone explain this to me? Again, maybe some tips or tricks for waking up more refreshed.

    Thanks for reading this long bit. Preciate it :)

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  22. QUESTION:
    I need to sleep!!! Insomnia, please help me out.?
    I have been struggling with insomnia for the past three-four years. I used to get six hours of sleep and I would be dead tired, but unable to sleep longer. That was two years ago. Now it's gotten a lot worse! My sleep schedule is easily thrown severely out of whack, but it's usually 4:30am-9am if I am lucky. I am no stranger to two hours a night.

    Not only do I have trouble falling asleep, but I am a light sleeper; and once I am woken up it would be rare for me to be able to fall back to sleep. I've tried Melatonin and and Tylenol PM with no great success. I've tried relaxing showers, physical activity, the room is always pitch black, and my sister doesn't let me play music on a low volume.

    I CAN'T take it anymore! I have chronic migraines, and they're gotten increasingly worse the longer my sleepless nights have stretched on. It's taking a heavy tole on my body. I'm getting eye strain, neck pains, and dizzy spells that I am positive are resulting from my lack of rest. I feel so lethargic and sapped of energy because of the exhaustion that I can barely do anything, but I just do not fall asleep. It's happened before, but not to the degree it's happening recently. I'm ready to bash my head against the wall and knock myself out if only to be unconscious for longer than four hours. xD

    I had chronic nightmare syndrome as a child that went untreated for the span of my life. I don't know if that has any connection, but I haven't had a nightmare in years, so I don't think it does. I thought it best to add it just in case.

    Anyway, suggestion please before I fall over dead out of tire? What are some steps I could take, or possible some pills I could ask my doctors about, that might be able to help me?
    I'd appreciate suggestions which won't get me arrested.
    NOTICE: I will report anyone who suggests pot for spamming. Please stop.

    • ANSWER:
      my friend has the same problem, though not as extreme. she has found that pills allow temporary relief, but in the long run, is not a good idea. she has a few tricks that help her to get a full nights sleep. here are a few:

      - keep your bedroom cool
      - have some kind of air ventilation (fan, air filter, open window, etc.)
      - don't sleep with the TV on
      - don't eat before bed
      - drink lots of water throughout the day
      - when in bed, be able to see the door, but do not be in direct line of it (fung shway trick)
      - find a good balance between blankets and clothing (ex- thin shirt, heavy blanket)
      - only use your bed for sleep (don't do homework, read, or watch TV in bed)
      - establish a bedtime ritual
      - be clean when you get into bed
      - the scent of lavender is very relaxing (but don't use too much, or it'll give you a head ache)
      - when all else fails, concentrate on exhaling longer than you breath in
      - listen your heart beats and try to slow them down
      - master the art of thinking of nothing

      that's all i can think of off the top of my head but i've tried a few of them out, and trust me, they work. they might sound strange, but they work and are all backed by science.

      PS- i'm a horrible speller. sorry!

  23. QUESTION:
    How can I get rid of sleep insomnia?
    I have really bad sleep insomnia. For example, I'll go to bed at 11:30 pm sometimes, and I can't get to sleep until 6:00 am, if that early! A lot of them time I stay up all night and have no energy to do anything with my friends etc. I don't know if this is a side effect of insomnia, but I also sometimes am like afraid of sleep in a way, I don't know how to explain it. Please help me because I have really bad bags under my eyes and a lot of people comment on it and everything.

    Thanks!
    By the way, my mom has it too and I'm pretty young so it's hard to say if a lot of the medication you guys are suggesting is ok for me.
    By the way, my parents do smoke and I do live with them.
    I also drink about 3 or 4 coca colas a day, but at night I switch to root beer or water so it's not that I don't think...
    I love excercise and I do it a lot (I play a lot of sports) so it's hard to say if that'd help...
    I've actually been looking into Benadryll since I've heard it's ok for people my age...

    • ANSWER:
      First of all, make sure you are not consuming alcohol/caffine or any "illicit" narcotics such as pot, cocaine, ect... b/c these will DEFINITELY keep you up late! I know this from personal experience! Even just drinking alcohol (though it may make you drousy) it will NOT allow your brain to enter REM sleep, which is absolutely necessary for you to be functional on a day to day basis. Its the deepest state of sleep that not only allows you to dream, but also reorganizes all the random excess cluttered up data from your waking day. If you don't allow your brain to "reboot," it will cause you to have slow reaction speed in order to process ANYTHING! If you must drink anything, only drink water... And eatting foods is also absolutely fine! Just avoid sugars or anything that upsets your stomache.

      Second of all, you should really just try and relax and just mellow out man! Try reading a book on mindful breathing and meditation excersizes, like The Art of Happiness by His Holiness The Dali Lama... I know that may sound really odd or random at first glance upon reading, but I once had a Psychology professor who could literally hypnotize the ENTIRE class by just getting us to close our eyes, picture a "happy" place (usually around some type of flowing water for some reason...), and just allow your brain to fully accept that you ARE physically there. I don't know... I'm not going to try and remember EVERY single aspect of it, but what I can fully remember is that when he "brought us out of it," I literally felt as though I had had a full nights sleep!!! In fact, I felt unbelievable relaxed and happy! Then, the teacher explained to the class that all he was really doing was a guided breathing/meditation excersize! And he also added that if you suffer from insomnia or ever have trouble getting to sleep, doing similar breathing excersizes will most always do the trick. He even said that if your body is ready for sleep, you WILL sleep. Even if you had just drank a red bull, if your mind is ready to shut down, it WILL happen. So basically, its really up to you to just LET it happen, you know?

      Try this video (which is actually just audio) and close your eyes when you listen to it. Try to follow along with what he is asking you to do. If you do what he says, exactly how he says it, you should be feeling calm and relaxed and ready for a full night's sleep!
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYi4FKUQpR8&feature=related
      If you don't care for this guy's voice, their were SEVERAL other similar type of videos! Check it out! Hope you find your inner peace.... Actually, screw that first link, THIS one is perfect for your situation! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lGnB3w80b8M

      P.S. You DO NOT need meds to help you get to sleep...only do this as a LAST RESORT! Just keep in mind that ANYTHING can become habit forming...

  24. QUESTION:
    Medications Psychiatrists prescribe for Sleep/Insomnia?
    What are all of the Top Medications that are prescribed to a patient with mild/mediate/sever chronic Insomnia? Can you please list all drugs that you know of used for a sleep inducer, and also list all the medication's which can be used off label.....AS long as its practiced/prescribed for that reason. The Medication should be proven effective in helping fall asleep. Please help me out here I really need this info :( (any Rn.s, Dr,s, P.dr?) Thanks so much!!!
    I am not talking over the counter medications please, this is prescription medications only, through a doctor that i am speaking of, thank you.

    • ANSWER:

  25. QUESTION:
    What Medications Psychiatrists Prescribe For Sleep/Insomnia?
    What are all of the Top Medications that are prescribed to a patient with mild/mediate/severe chronic Insomnia? Can you please list all drugs that you know of used for a sleep inducer, and also list all the medication's which can be used off label.....AS long as its practiced/prescribed for that reason. The Medication should be proven effective in helping fall asleep. Please help me out here I really need this info :( (any Rn.s, Dr,s, P.Dr ?) Thanks so much!!!
    I am not talking over the counter medications please, this is prescription medications only, through a doctor that i am speaking of, thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      There are the drugs that were developed to treat sleep disorders (usually these will be the first choice for most patients) These are classified as sedative hypnotics:

      Examples:
      Lunesta
      Ambien

      Then there are the Benzodiazipines:

      Examples:
      Valium
      Klonipin
      Xanax
      Halcion

      Then there are some cases where the old tricyclic antidepressants are used as off label treatment for sleep disorders in low doses:

      Nortryptyline
      Ametriptyline

      Then in some cases anti-emetics and antihistamines can be used:

      Examples:
      Diphenyhydramine
      Promethazine

      Then, if the root cause is sleep apnea, then that is a whole different ball of wax and will require an oxygen tent apparatus that the patient has to sleep with.

  26. QUESTION:
    Is it sleep insomnia?
    Cant fall asleep til 3-4 am, wake up alot. Moody, sleepy during day, anxiety, headaches, Cant concentrate, lack of energy, And dont interact with people much anymore. Im losing alOt of people, including the love of my life because this is changing me soo much. Idk what it is or how to fix it, please please please help. Thanks so much.

    • ANSWER:
      I had the same problem, i was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder this march and am now on medication for it. Around march sleeping problems started for me, I couldn't fall asleep at night just like you. Now my doctor has prescribed me a medication that I take every night at 830 so i can fall asleep around 10-1030 and it really helps! Also the medication is not addictive so its not like I cant fall asleep with out it. It's actually helped alot with regulating my sleeping pattern so I can fall asleep at 10 at night without it! I would suggest talking to your doctor about making getting some medication to help you!

  27. QUESTION:
    Help needed to resolve my insomnia issues?
    Does anyone have any tips to help me with insomnia. Sleep deprivation is not a fun thing to live with.

    I don't like taking pills and would love some natural / alternative solutions to this problem.

    Thanks in advance.

    • ANSWER:
      I have a couple of suggestions.

      1. set a bedtime--->you don't have to force yourself to go to bed at that time, but just keep it in mind (think to yourself "I SHOULD be in bed by now...")

      2. DO NOT have a tv or computer on any time after your bedtime. The artificial light tricks your brain into thinking it's time to wake up... meaning you don't think you feel sleepy... even if you really are.

      3. Have something in the background playing that will keep your mind from wandering. I like to listen to comedy or radio stories on itunes. I don't like music because it lets my mind wander. But listening to someone talking keeps me from worrying or thinking about stuff which can keep me awake.

      4. Set your phone to go automatically on silent after your bedtime so you won't jump out of bed when your friends text you.

      5. Have some herbal tea (they have no caffeine) about an hr before bedtime. If you do this every night, you will start to fall into a pattern or a ritual and it will become more and more easy because your brain will register drinking tea with getting ready for bed... you can choose another ritual if you want (like calming yoga or reading a book) but it should be relaxing and not require any artificial light.. Once the pattern is set, you will be snoozing on time every night.

      I hope that helps, and good luck!! <3<3<3

  28. QUESTION:
    What is wrong with me and how can I fix it?
    I'm bullied at school and I finally told my mom about it. So she let me stay home from school today... But now when ever I think about kids or teachers or school I start feeling sick... What is wrong with me? Is it some type of anxiety.... I also recently have had sleep insomnia... Thanks for the help.

    • ANSWER:
      u know if u think of some things like cat guts u can feel sick hope that helps. and with the bullying thing talk with ur school councilor

  29. QUESTION:
    insomnia sleeping problems?
    im in high school and this makes it really hard to pay attention, i cant sleep at nite, its 11 p.m. here i live now, ive been in bed, lights out for over 2 hours, and im still up! i dont know how to deal with it, ive been falling asleep in class and nothing ive tried helps at all, any tips?
    any fellow sufferers?

    • ANSWER:
      I always get insomnia over summer breaks. Its usually caused by I heard loneliness like I stayed in the house alot so I heard thats why it happened then so tips would be to get out more and one thing that worked well for me is to drink warm milk add sugar if you want but it helped me get asleep but it has to be caused by something bothering you or something mayb something recent. I had it really bad though like Id stay up till liek 7 in the morning before I could sleep.

  30. QUESTION:
    I think my husband has sleep insomnia. Help!?
    He goes thru periods where he will sleep really good but then after a few days of that he will go about 2 or 3 weeks at a time with only a couple of hours sleep. We can't go to a sleep clinic because he works all week long and can't really afford to take off. I'm really worried that he will fall asleep driving and get hurt. Does anyone know of any NATURAL ways of falling to sleep easier???

    • ANSWER:
      I would suggest a sleep clinic as well. I work for one and we have people coming in at 9 pm and out by 6 am at the lastest. Usually this doesn't interfere with peoples works schedules. Most sleep clinics can accomidate peoples schedules too.

  31. QUESTION:
    she just cant sleep... insomnia?
    my best friend refuses to get help.

    she tells me frequently on the phone about her 3-hour-sleeps. she eats PRETTY balanced, a little less than she should but balanced with the amounts she eats, she doesnt drink coffee or tea before bedtime and shes 13 years old.

    • ANSWER:
      Sounds like maybe she is depressed or really stressed out. Depression can cause a lack of sleep or inability to fall asleep. Especially if you are stressed out you just can't lay down and get calm. Has she been upset about anything? At her age there has to be a medical reason because she needs more sleep than that.

  32. QUESTION:
    When does my not sleeping become insomnia...? And maybe help?
    I cannot sleep lately, I am barely functioning today with only 30 minutes sleep last night. And it is now 2 in the morning and I am taking a break from the past 4 hours of tossing and turning restless in bed for my own sanity.

    • ANSWER:
      I was just like you. . its really frustrating i know!
      Search 'binaual beats for sleep' in youtube and listen to it with earphones in bed. . it actually puts your brain in sleep mode! :)

  33. QUESTION:
    Help with Insomnia Cannot fall asleep until 3am?
    I have been having trouble dealing with Sleep Insomnia. I cannot fall asleep until like 3-4am recently. Usually I fall asleep around 2am but it has gotten later recently. I do not have a job so I am basically lifeless during the day. I do try to get outside and do some stuff but it still feels like I am ready to go at like 1-2am. I would ideally like to get to sleep around 12am-1am and then work my way down to like 11pm-12pm. Can someone help me with working with this? I know stuff doesn't happen overnight and would just like some advice on getting there. It is like losing weight. You have to work your way down to the ideal weight and I am trying to work my way down to the ideal hours. PLEASE HELP!

    • ANSWER:
      Don't drink caffinated beverages after noon.
      Don't eat anything after 7:00 pm.
      Don't stay on the computer past 10:00.
      Try some Advil PM to help you readjust.

  34. QUESTION:
    Tv episodes of movies dealing with sleeping disorders?
    I'm writing a paper for my Psychology course, and we have to find a tv show or movie that shows a disorder like insomnia, sleep apnea, narcolepsy, or sleep deprivation in general. the problem is, i can't think of any! The only idea i have so far is the movie Insomnia, but i've never actually watched it. Any one out there know of something? It can be any tv episode or movie, I greatly appreciate the help!

    • ANSWER:

  35. QUESTION:
    Chronic Nightmares and lack of sleep/ insomnia?
    I have depression with psychotic features according to one therapist and to another i have PTSD . I went through 10 years of abuse which towards the end I was self harming , drinking , and smoking tobacco/marijuana . Now I am 18 and I have stopped those for at least one year [ and up to two years and a few months on the other ] I was on some medication but currently cannot take medications because of personal reason soon to be resolved . When i was on medication i never got addicted [ i was pulled off of three medications cold turkey one day after 6 months of taking them by my psychiatrist and suffered no withdraw symptoms ] . Now the main issue is that there are nights when i sleep less than 3 hours because of nightmares or just inability to fall asleep because of excessive thought processes , and i need to sleep and i need to function properly which requires more than a few hours of sleep a night . Although when i sleep at my boyfriends house i sleep better in general , and was wondering if this was maybe anxiety related since i still do live with my dad even though he does not hurt me anymore it could be residual issues. I have a lot of anger that I redirect to myself afraid of getting angry at anyone else because I fear becoming like my father . My dreams are commonly me killing , torturing , or bringing severe mental/physical pain to other people . I was wondering what ideas you all had , i have looked into alot of theories about this and cannot find much and well having 5 hours of sleep being a good day is not healthy at all , especially when it reaches night of less that 2 hours . Please help point me in some direction of where to go with this and some easy ways to possibly sleep more .

    • ANSWER:
      try to occupy your mind with pleasant daydreams

  36. QUESTION:
    Is this a case of sleep insomnia? How can I fall asleep easier?
    I'm a freshman in high school this year and i don't know why but since I've started high school I can't sleep very well. I sleep fine on the weekends, usually go to bed at like 2AM on Friday night and 10PM on saturday night, or vise versa, depending on which night I am with my friends.
    ANYWAYS, Here's the story:
    I usually like to go to bed at a reasonable hour on school nights. Anywhere between 8:30 and 9:30 because if I go to bed past 10 I'm REALLY tired. But on sunday nights, I can NEVER sleep. I lay in bed from 9:30 to about 3 or 4 A.M. trying to sleep. I really can't keep doing this, especially with final exams and stuff coming up soon. I don't miss school because of it, im trying hard to pass as it is. I was just wondering how to fall asleep on sunday nights because all I do is just lay there because I can't sleep. I'm tired and everything, I close my eyes, and I'll be laying there for what seems like 2 hours, and it will have been 20 minutes. Sorry, maybe this question seems dumb but I can't go to school on monday's with no sleep! Please help me... Thank you! (The reason I'm up right now is because we're on vacation this week.) Haha. THANK YOU TO ANYONE WHO HELPS! :)

    • ANSWER:
      When we can't sleep something is bothering us. If we are in school we are often stressed about it. For a lot of people they put themselves under pressure. They wonder how they should be around others, the stress of grades and so on. So it is important to see what you are feeling. You can start by putting your hands on your chest close to your neck and breath in and out then over your middle section (under your rib cage) and last over your belly button. Notice how each place is different. You can start by just noticing the physical then go deeper and notice what feelings you have. Then in about a week after you have learned how to listen to your feelings start telling yourself what you need to hear. For example many people are tight in the midsection because they are scared. Then eventually they start telling themselves things like it is ok I will do my best.

      Caffeine lasts for about 6 hours in your system so do not have soda, coffee, tea, and other caffeine drinks before bed.

  37. QUESTION:
    High blood pressure and Insomnia... Any sleeping medications that can mix with HB meds?
    My father is on a cocktail of high blood pressure medications (Norvasc, Lisinopril, Terazosin, Triamterene, Probenecid, Atenolol, Amiodrarone and Coumadin) but also has, for years, had trouble sleeping through the night. In fact, he tends to only get about two to three hours of sleep.

    He had been taking Tylenol PM to help him sleep, and it was working, but I pointed out that the active compound in that, (essentially benedryl) probably doesn't mix well with the meds that he is on. He's going to go visit his doctor soon to see about some sort of prescription that he could try, but does anyone have any suggestions for us? He's in desperate need of something...

    Thanks for the help!

    • ANSWER:
      Here's the best, most natural and least harmful way to induce sleep that really works.

      I don't think your father needs more medications, they won't be an effective and permanent cure anyway. What prevents us from sleeping is an overactive mind which we cannot switch off. Anyone can quickly learn meditation and mind calming and stilling techniques as taught by a yoga teacher. The best yoga for this is Siddha Yoga as taught by it's founder Swami Muktananda, a wonderful, inspired, and greatly respected yoga teacher. Siddha Yoga meditation centers are all over the world and you can find out more online and get some of the many books written by Muktananda that deal with this very subject. I quickly learned the technique in one attendance at a yoga session and the result was immediate, restful relaxing sleep. I urge you to try this natural and really beneficial solution. You will be glad you did. If you email me(see my profile) I can give you titles of publications by Swami Muktananda and more info about Siddha Yoga and about meditation centers near you. Incidentally, this yoga is one of the best methods of alleviating BP- it calms one down and relieves any stress.

  38. QUESTION:
    Sleep apnea, little REM sleep, insomnia?
    Hi there-
    Recently diagnosed with moderate to severe sleep apnea. Also it has been stated that I am not staying in REM sleep for any useful length of time.
    I usually sleep very little at night...always have been nocturnal.

    I sleep best during the day. But the last 5 months have been rough.
    I only stay asleep for a couple hours and then feel hyper and irritable when I get up.

    New diagnosis of sleep apnea and very poor amount of REM Sleep.
    I am doing a titration study tonight with c-pap machines to see what volume works for me.

    I would like to hear from others on how if at all treatment has helped?
    If your situation is similar to mine as far as minimal amounts of sleep with diagnosis of apnea?

    What can I expect with treatment. Some have said they feel better right away. Others have said it takes awhile. I would like to hear anyone else's experience with this.

    Thank you.

    PS...Do you ever adjust to life with that machine stuck on your nose?
    And is there sex after c-pap even if your significant other doesn't have a thing for Darth Vader breath sounds?

    • ANSWER:
      I have the same problem. I am on a cpap machine I use the full mask. If there is a problemu will feel better right away. I think that it is all linked to oxygen in the body. I pap machine is like a small humidifer which u breath in thru your nose. do u have sinus problems? If your nose is plugged all the time, a full mask will force u to breath thr your nose. The first night I slept 12 hrs. I never woke up. I found out that I was exhausted, maybe half dead and did not know it.

  39. QUESTION:
    how do i get my menstrual cycle back to normal?
    A few months ago, I was dealing with A LOT of emotional stress. The result of this was difficulty sleeping (insomnia if you prefer), a bad appetite (i rarely felt hungry) and now, it's been i think almost over 4 months since i had my last period. i'm really afraid to see a gynocologist. anyone can help me? pleeasse!!

    • ANSWER:
      Why are you so afraid to visit a gynecologist? The best thing is to visit and tell your problem. I would also suggest you to do regular exercise and deep relaxation like meditation and making mind calm and cool by thinking positive...good luck!

  40. QUESTION:
    Insomnia/sleep labs help?
    I had my check up today and long story short, no medicine will help me with my sleep, we've tried changing my schedule a bunch of times, nothing.
    After years of this my doctor said she wants me to get tested at a sleep lab.
    I'm just confused as to how this will help with my insomnia. If I have insomnia, how am I supposed to even sleep there? I've done a lot of research on my own, and I know they just study brain waves and stuff, but what good is it to them if I can't fall asleep? I'm worried they're going to get annoyed that I can't fall asleep. I'm only 16, I really don't know anything about medicine and stuff like that. What exactly are they going to do, and how do you sleep at a sleeping lab if you have insomnia?

    • ANSWER:
      You don't have to worry about not being able to sleep in the sleep lab. First of all they are made to be very comfortable and homey. You will have electrodes, harmless little wires, connected to you head. They can watch your brain activity while you are trying to sleep. By doing that they will know if your insomnia is physical or mental. They will not ever get annoyed if you can't sleep. They are trained to make you feel comfortable and relaxed and they know why you are there. Honestly it is very simple and it isn't anything to worry about. I hope that your sleep lab test will get to the bottom of your problem.

      If your insomnia is caused by a lack of vitamins or nutrients your doctor would have told you.

  41. QUESTION:
    sleep, exersice, enviroment related asthma?
    Unbalanced Dysfunctional Breathing disorder, asthma sleep apnea gerds and sleep insomnia I like to get more information about asthma symptom while sleeping and at work and while exercising. polease help about my disorder i have. i have allergy asthma, gerds acid reflex, sleep apnea and insomia. I have breathing problem and gag reflexes get hot flashes dizzy spells extream headaches pounding headache throbbing headache and dizzy spell once a month. headache every day. cough every day i don't smoke or do any drugs. little over weight and have breathing problem while sleeping please help. i was thining about getting an oxygen machine and mask to sleep with. WHat about falling asleep with a nebulizer and meds please help me understand what Unbalanced Dysfunctional Breathing disorder is. I had a spell yester day morning after a shower i got a hot flash and dizzy spell with headhace dry hacking gaging cough with the burps. I sat down and felt fine. WIth exersice induce asthma can i useoxygen

    • ANSWER:
      I'm not sure exactly what your question is, but I did find what seems to be a good website on Unbalanced Dysfunctional Breathing. I'll post the link: http://www.breathing.com/articles/udb.htm

      Also you mentioned something about sleep apnea. This is a disorder in which you stop breathing while you are sleeping for a period of somewhere between 10 secs and 1 min before you breath again. If you want more information about this you can go to the forum:
      http://www.cpaptalk.com
      and they will help you out.

      I hope this helps. Good luck.

  42. QUESTION:
    Why can't I sleep during the night? What are some remedies that can help?
    For the past week or so I haven't been going to sleep during the night. I'm not thinking about anything that's keeping me up at night and I don't think I have sleep insomnia because prior to the week before I could sleep for 12 hours. So during the night i'll just lie down with my eyes closed and toss and turn but i'm not actually asleep...idk what's wrong with me I just can't fall asleep. I'm out of school so I'm not as tired as I usually am but I still should be able to go to sleep. The weird thing is that I can go to sleep during the morning like between 6am-12pm but that's it and that's only 4 hours of sleep. It's starting to affect me now...my hands are shaky and i'm starting to get bags under my eyes. Are there any remedies (besides sleeping pills) that will help me go to sleep?

    • ANSWER:
      Sounds like your sleeping is out of order. Have you been staying up late previous to now? If you have, you might be getting accustomed to a new sleeping schedule, yet your body is trying to fight it which is why you can only sleep for 4 hours. That's one possibility. You also said you were out of school. Are you doing anything during the day? Do you work? If you're just enjoying your free time at home and not doing anything try going out with some friends and doing activities that will give you a chance to use up all the stored energy that's forbidding you from sleeping at night. Go running or swimming maybe even work out a little. It will definitely exhaust you and have you going to sleep at the time you're aiming for. You can also try a warm glass of milk and reading a chapter or two of a good book. Good luck. Hope you get some sleep. ;)

  43. QUESTION:
    Troubles with insomnia please help?
    Ok so I am 19 now, going on 20 in September. I was diagnosed with mild insomnia when I was 13 years old. However, since I can remember I would have visual hallucinations which disrupted my sleep. Thing is that it was when I was a child that my night terrors and hallucinations would disturb me to the point where I would have scratches all over my body. Problem with that is I wasn't sure even then if it was real or not. Now that I am older I should not require as much sleep. It has been around 13 years since I had my extreme night terror that scared me to the point of not sleeping for a week. My problem now is that if I do not get 12 hours of sleep at least, I will have audio and visual hallucinations. They are not small at all either, things like having full out hour long conversations with friends when they were never there to begin with. I can remember something like that happening when I was a child with the teachers so I am a little freaked out. My mind is almost never at ease and I have become too paranoid to sleep much anymore. Ok down do the question. First, are the insomnia/sleep issues related to the paranoia. Second, is it in fact insomnia or is it something else that is making me hallucinate? Also a note to all of you, I do not drink often nor is it more than a shots worth also I do not use drugs of any kind.

    • ANSWER:

  44. QUESTION:
    Insomnia/ sleep deprivation?
    Hey, so ever since summer started, i have not got much sleep at all.
    Weeks 1-2 of summer: max of 5 hours a night
    Weeks 3-4 of summer: max of 3 hours a night
    Weeks 5-6 of summer: max of 5 hours of sleep EVERY 2 DAYS(48 HOURS)

    example: at most, i got 5 hours of sleep just about an hour ago and before i slept, i was awake for 48 hours. I feel tired around midnight or so, everynight. (hour or 2 range from midnight) as time passes, i will start to feel awake. Anywhere from sunrise to noon, i wont feel tired. My body will feel a little iffy when my day starts, but i will still be able to perform my physical and mental tasks with average or above average results.

    Im not trying to stay awake or anything. When im tired, i will attempt to sleep. There no results in over an hour of laying there. I have a really hard time sleeping- even when very exhausted/tired. And then after the tired phase, i feel wide awake. If i dont get much sleep, or get NO SLEEP AT ALL, i am still able to function great, pysically and mentally.

    I exercise everyday in a controlled environment- personal trainer: cardio(mixed martial arts) average of 4 hours a day- so i would say im in great physical condition

    I lift every other day- different muscle groups everyday, one muscle group a week.

    I eat good, and fairly healthy.

    My lifestyle is like most average teenagers- i watch tv, etc. But i don't spend countless hours on games, etc. But i would say im a lot more physically active than most.

    I plan on seeing a doctor very soon, but in the mean time (since office is closed sundays), i thought i would ask the public for your opinions on what the problem is.

    Thanks,

    This may also help with your opinions:
    Male
    Age:16
    Weight:128
    Height:5'6
    BMI: forgot but it was in a good range
    fat %: forgot but extremely healthy for my weight

    (currently studying in sports medicine so i have slightly more medical knowledge than the average person)-1 year

    • ANSWER:

  45. QUESTION:
    Insomnia/sleep deprivation?
    Hey, so ever since summer started, i have not got much sleep at all.
    Weeks 1-2 of summer: max of 5 hours a night
    Weeks 3-4 of summer: max of 3 hours a night
    Weeks 5-6 of summer: max of 5 hours of sleep EVERY 2 DAYS(48 HOURS)

    example: at most, i got 5 hours of sleep just about an hour ago and before i slept, i was awake for 48 hours. I feel tired around midnight or so, everynight. (hour or 2 range from midnight) as time passes, i will start to feel awake. Anywhere from sunrise to noon, i wont feel tired. My body will feel a little iffy when my day starts, but i will still be able to perform my physical and mental tasks with average or above average results.

    Im not trying to stay awake or anything. When im tired, i will attempt to sleep. There no results in over an hour of laying there. I have a really hard time sleeping- even when very exhausted/tired. And then after the tired phase, i feel wide awake. If i dont get much sleep, or get NO SLEEP AT ALL, i am still able to function great, pysically and mentally.

    I exercise everyday in a controlled environment- personal trainer: cardio(mixed martial arts) average of 4 hours a day- so i would say im in great physical condition

    I lift every other day- different muscle groups everyday, one muscle group a week.

    I eat good, and fairly healthy.

    My lifestyle is like most average teenagers- i watch tv, etc. But i don't spend countless hours on games, etc. But i would say im a lot more physically active than most.

    I plan on seeing a doctor very soon, but in the mean time (since office is closed sundays), i thought i would ask the public for your opinions on what the problem is.

    Thanks,

    This may also help with your opinions:
    Male
    Age:16
    Weight:128
    Height:5'6
    BMI: forgot but it was in a good range
    fat %: forgot but extremely healthy for my weight

    (currently studying in sports medicine so i have slightly more medical knowledge than the average person)-1 year

    • ANSWER:
      To sleep better just relax and switch off, if you can.

      If you are having trouble switching off at bedtime some light exercise (for example, push ups or sit ups) at bedtime often helps you to relax, unwind and switch off and that often improves your sleep. Strenuous exercise at bedtime is likely to ruin your sleep.

      Common sleep aids include warm milk, Chamomile tea, 5-HTP, Melatonin and Valerian.

      You can see further tips in a web search for "how to fall asleep and stay asleep".

  46. QUESTION:
    insomnia? sleep disorder? help? :( ?
    Ok so I have had this problem since I was about 12 years old, it being that I cant fall asleep until the early hours of the morning but when I do sleep I can sleep completely fine and don't wake up constantly.

    It used to be around 1 a.m that I used to fall asleep but it has increasingly gotten worse and now its 6.am that I end up getting some shut eye.

    This is really bad for me because I am a year 12 student and its making me tired during school hours and I have been getting sicker more often if thats got anything to do with lack of sleep.

    I have tried multiple things to fall asleep (e.g. lavender, sleeping pills, light offs listening to music, tv on, tv off, no caffeine after dinner and more)

    so what do you think is wrong with me?
    I have a doctors appointment booked in next week as well.
    I also have tried running before bed and exercise and have been told that it is actually bad to do that before you try and sleep.

    • ANSWER:
      Don't take offense to this but maybe you should try a lot of exercise, do pushups or go for a run before going to bed. Works for me.

  47. QUESTION:
    Chronic Sleeping Disorder... Need help sleeping?
    I believe I have a chronic sleeping disorder. From what I research I think I have chronic insomnia & sleep apnea. I don't have any medical insurance so I can not seek a doctor.

    I am 24 years old and its been happening to me for about 8 years now. I tried almost everything. I try to exercise, sleep earlier, sleep later, sex, alcohol, weed, and taken benadryl. It rare that I have a 8 hours of sleep. 2 hours is the norm and if I get even 4 to 5 I feel refreshed. When I do have an 5 to 6 house sleep I know the next night I will only have about 2 to 3. I feel like dying sometimes because I hate not sleeping. I am so fed up with it. I just want to go to sleep.

    When I was younger I use to smoke a lot of weed, drink, and smoke cigarettes. I was very depressed and had a allot of stress. 5 years later I quit all my bad habits and came out of my depression, Now I have a lil amount of stress and anxiety. When I am trying to sleep all these thoughts come into my head and the only thing I can think about is trying to go to sleep and constantly checking to see what time it is. The slightest noise will wake me up.

    Is there anything out there that will help me sleep?

    • ANSWER:
      I don't care what your problem is. The answer is always drugs.

  48. QUESTION:
    Hurts to swallow, coughing, stuffy nose, tired?
    My throat is killing me, my nose is incredibly stuffy and I find myself always trying to sleep. I was diagnosed with Mono a few months back but the doctor said the virus was there from years back and I was "coming out of it". My assumption is I got mono on a family trip to cancun (to answer your mental question: I did not share drinks with anyone who wasn't family nor did I drink the water or ice) back around '07 or '08.

    I'm feeling miserable now. I'm really tired but can't go to sleep (insomnia), my throat hurts to even swallow water or my own saliva, I have been coughing a lot from scratchy throat, my nose is continuously stuffy no matter how many times I blow my nose and I've been really out of it.

    I would try to take something but I don't know what to take to get rid of this. It's almost like I need an anti sleeping pill (but for insomnia I need a sleep pill) with a pain killer and cough and cold medicine.

    Help!
    Thanks,
    D

    • ANSWER:
      For tonight, go read the label on the bottle of Night time Nyquil, and consider taking that. It is potent, so be aware of its power, and all the ingredients, of which alcohol is one. It will not get rid of it, just make you not care for awhile. If you are taking any other medication at all, look it up to see if you can take Nyquil.

      Go get some cough drops with anesthetic in them. they help some.

      Buy a thermometer, and see if you are running an elevated temp and how high is it. Over 101, might want to see a doctor soon.

      Go get some icy cold water, and drink that, it will help temporarily. Some heavily sugared fluids will help temporarily.

      Have someone look at your throat with a flashlight. If they can see sores in your throat, go to a doctor, it might be strep.

      If you are blowing your nose and nothing is coming out, stop! It is irritated and swollen, not stuffy.Warm fluids to help this.

      If it feels better in a couple of days, and there are no sores and no elevated temp, then you had a cold. If you are no better in a week, call the doctor for a consult.

  49. QUESTION:
    I think I have some mental problem, what should I do?
    I'm under 16 and I have had some odd things happening with me.
    1) I hear voices in my head all the time.
    (One time I was being told to stab someone that is my best friend)
    I'm mostly worried about the voice, because it keeps telling me to do violent things. The voice sounds like nothing I've ever heard before and is very scratchy and loud. I can hear it very well, but its scratchy, It's very hard to explain.
    2) I hate the sunlight, and according to my doctor, see things brighter then most people do to some eye disorder. (Due to this, I stay inside most of the time, I am slightly "pale" because of being inside.)
    3) I prefer being alone, I do have friends, it's just that I prefer being alone.
    4) I sometimes feel like I'm not in my body, (Weird right ?) I'm not insane, (hopefully :) but I swear sometimes I see my body from a "3rd person" view.
    5) I have sleeping insomnia, and its VERY hard for me to sleep.
    More detail : I have a VERY difficult time sleeping on Sundays. I don't know why, but Sunday it is almost impossible for me to sleep. I have two cats, one which sleeps on my head. This cat doesn't bother me, and makes me feel more "safe". Sometimes I feel that someone is in my room.
    6) I'm paranoid about being in the "laundry" room. Ever since I was a small child, e.g. 5-9 I've had nightmares about this "Clown" which was named "The Clown". He would always come from the "laundry room" and attempt to kill me by dragging me through the Airconditioning vents. (Don't ask me why, I'm just terrified of them) Occasionally, I would actually see "The Clown" in my house, (no one else would though), so I'd just go into my bed or do something else while trying to ignore it.

    Any Help? I think I have a SERIOUS problem.
    If you know the disease/mental problem name, or something similar, that would be great.

    • ANSWER:

  50. QUESTION:
    Many problems....is this one more?
    So I am only 14 years old and have had many problems in my life. I have gone through a point where I was almost anorexic (Through a 2 1/2 year period) to a point where I gained alot of weight, now I have anxiety, OCD (Obsessive, Compulsive, Disorder), and social phobia that I am dealing with. I am also really shy. Now I think that I might have depression. I am always so tired, I can't even explain how tired I get. I try really hard not to, but I fall asleep in classes alot. I toss and turn all night long and I wake up alot. I always take naps. I always feel so guilty when I take naps but I feel like If I don't I won't/can't make it through the rest of the day. I am always so sad. I always feel so alone. I don't think about death or suicide but I feel worthless. I feel like there is a big hole in my stomach. Lately I have been clutching my stomach alot. I cry alot. Sometimes I have these outbursts of sadness and it is so hard to control. My parents have noticed that I withdrawl myself from activities I used to enjoy. I don't do alot of things I used to enjoy anymore. I feel lonely. Sometimes it is so hard to bare. I hate it. But then I don't want to talk to anyone about it. I don't know what to do. I go to a therapist but I hate going there. She always asks me so many questions and she talks to me like I am a baby. I don't think my parents will let me switch therapists again because I just switched a few months ago because I didn't feel comfortable with my other one. I really hate going to school. I don't feel happy there. I hate feeling this way. It has been going on for about 2 months now. I don't want to tell my mom and dad because I don't want them to tell my therapist. She already makes me uncomfortable enough. Could I have sleep insomnia/apnea too? Or would it just be all depression related? I haven't slept well for a really long time. I feel so worn out. Even though my therapist gave me a sleeping pill that is supposed to help me sleep alot better. It only helps me get to sleep. Not stay asleep. I take medication for my anxiety and OCD. But I feel so embarressed talking to my therapist I feel like this would only make it worse by talking about depression. I really feel uncomfortable at the thereapist's office. Do you think I have depression? What should I do? Please help me! No rude comments please, I am just a girl who has many problems and dosen't understand why I have to deal with all of these things. Your rude comments would only make my situation worse. Please, I would really appreciate any advice you can give. Thanks.
    I forgot to say that I have nightmares alot. (That is when I do sleep.) They are really vivid and I can remember so many of them. I am afraid to go wake up my parents and tell them because I don't want them to get mad at me for waking them up. So I just try to deal with it.

    • ANSWER:
      Believe it or not, a lot of people experience this when they are your age.

      Your brain is undergoing a big transformation at the moment. It is starting to change into it's adult form and during this time it is a very dynamic thing, getting rid of older connections that you don't need anymore and forming new ones that you will need in the future.

      At the same time (driving this process) your body is experiencing fluctuations in hormone levels, and this can make it seem like the world is caving in on you. It can make you feel hopeless, tired, and depressed.

      But all of this is temporary. Imagine it like when they close a ride at Disneyland. Maybe the park seems kind of crappy when it's down. Maybe they close down the entire land that the ride is in and then the park seems really crappy and you can't have the fun you used to have...but when they're done with the renovations and re-open everything they've made it into something spectacular.

      Your body is the same. You're undergoing renovation and so life seems kind of crappy right now.

      The best way to get through this is usually to realize that it is temporary and make an attempt to stay active and involved with things. Also, talk to your parents. Trust me, your parents number one concern in life right now is your wellbeing. If you don't like your therapist, it's no problem. It doesn't cost them money to find a new one.

      You should also see a doctor and get some blood work done to check for low thyroid function, and anemia and other things that can cause fatigue. Depression and hormone changes can certainly cause it, not to mention growth spurts, but it's good to rule out things that can be easily treated.

      If these come back negative and you find it really is impossible to make it through the day without a nap, you might want to be tested for a sleep disorder, as these often arise during the teenaged years.


Help With Sleeping Baby

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    How do I keep my sleeping baby asleep?
    My 4 month old baby will fall asleep easily in my arms, either by rocking or nursing. I then wait about 10-20 minutes to make sure he is in a deep sleep. However, when I try to put him down in his crib or on my bed he instantly wakes up and starts screaming. If I pick him up, he is fine again and falls asleep. How can I help him stay asleep when I put him down? It is difficult to get things done with him in my arms all the time.

    ps. this is for daytime naps only. in the night, he sleeps next to me fine all night long, with a few feedings as needed.

    • ANSWER:
      Let him learn to cry it out. It's the easiest way (maybe not for you). Put him down when he's ALMOST asleep. Not when he's fully asleep.

  2. QUESTION:
    If I need to shower, and baby is sleeping, can I go shower by myself if I have the monitor with me?
    I know this sounds stupid, but I'm about to be a first time mom and I don't have a mother in my life to help guide me through all these silly questions... So... if baby and hubby are sleeping (baby in the crib, hubby in the bed), can I go in the bathroom to take a shower if I have the monitor with me?

    • ANSWER:
      I'd say put the monitor right next to dad's head and go enjoy your shower! You need a break too and sometimes guys need it spelled out for them.

  3. QUESTION:
    I'm going to make a baby cake & I need help making bootie & sleeping baby with the little bum. Thanks?

    either gum paste or fondant. I'll love the best.

    • ANSWER:
      Here is Fondant instructions and information videos. Gum paste or fondant! You can by premade at Walmart but it's to much for just that. If your doing the hole cake it would be worth it. You can make a small amount form marshmallows,powdered sugar and lil water. I'll post a how to video at the bottom. Look at some ideas.
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  4. QUESTION:
    sleeping baby?
    i have a 2 1/2 month old baby boy (he is 12 lbs), and he wont sleep for more than 4 maybe 5 hours at a time at night as he wakes up because he is hungry. after he first wakes up, he then wakes up every 2 hours after that. i've had other friends with younger babies sleeping better than him. so what can i do to help him sleep longer through the night?

    • ANSWER:
      Different babies have different schedules. Your babies schedule if perfectly normal. Many don't sleep throught the night until 4-5 months. Some even longer. I have a friend whose son just started sleeping through the night at 9 mos. (for the record, I would go insane!). Unfortunately there is just no forcing it. He's still just an infant and it's normal for him to want a feeding every 2-5 hours.

  5. QUESTION:
    How can I get my baby sleeping better?
    She's nearly 6 months. She goes down to bed after a bath and bottle at 8pm, has a 'dream feed' at midnight-1am but is always up again at 5 and sometimes even again at 7.30! How can I get her sleeping through the night? Daddy doesnt help with these disturbances and Im so tired now!

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  6. QUESTION:
    baby is soooo noisy sleeping?
    the last four nights we have had no sleep.Baby stays alseep with eyes tightly shut but gunts crysand fidgits constantly...it is very loud and distressing for me.what is wrong.....we can't sleep at all which is not helping.She is bottle fed, has infacol, has slept well up to now...she is four weeks old now.She sleeps better during her day naps. She is also farting alot.Is this the dreaded colic. Please help!

    • ANSWER:
      It doesn't sound like colic - you'd know if it was believe me!

      If she has only just started this it could it be a cold coming. If so try and elevate the mattress a bit, put some inhalent (that is baby safe i.e. snuffle babe, Olbas Oil for children etc) on a muslin square away from their reach but close enough for the vapours to circulate the air around your baby. That should clear her airways a bit.

      Good luck with it. We always joke that my son turns into Darth baby when he has a cold.

  7. QUESTION:
    Night weaning our co sleeping baby....questions...help!?
    We are night weaning our 8 month old co sleeping baby.....he has slept with us since birth but he has become very restless and also I have become a zombie during the day with the frequent nursing, sometimes every 15 minutes-1 hour he is up! So, this past week, we have been GENTLY night weaning him (thanks to everyone who gave me ways to do this last week on Yahoo Answers). He fusses and cries (with me there) but I have been going longer and longer stretches with him not taking the boob in order to get back to sleep. He is slowly getting used to being rocked or pat, instead of nursing to fall asleep. It has been ONE WEEK. He still is waking up like habit every 30 min-1 hour, so it has been EXHAUSTING...but I am keeping with it so that eventually he will learn to self soothe without the boob and will begin to not wake up so much.

    My question is this: for those of you that have night weaned successfully, how long will this take? How long can I expect him to continue to wake up every hour? I thought that once he no longer expects the boob at night, that he would eventually not be wanting to wake up anymore for it? I don't mind 1-2 or even 3X waking up but 10 times a night is impossible for my hubby and I. So, I am hoping this will all end soon.....are we looking at weeks or months of the frequent wake ups or will he start to get it soon? I am sooooo tired but am willing to continue this process if there is hope around the corner. Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      I understand that you co-sleep and it's great I did it for the first few months with my two children. And then I transitioned them to the crib, although I was still breastfeeding. I think it'll be really hard to wean your son of a night feeding while hes there next to you. He can see, smell your milk but he cannot have it! it's like taunting him... you know..so it's really hard for him, it's usually tough to night wean in general because it becomes a habit, and nightweaning while he's right there next to you would be extremely hard.
      Right now he's using the boob to soothe -like a pacifier.
      My suggestion would be to transition him into the crib. In that way you can feed him before he goes to bed and then in the morning when he wakes up, or if he wakes up one time during the night.

      I know it's hard not to have him sleep with you, but in the end it'll be the best for both you, you certainly need a good night's rest to be able to look after your son and he needs to start self-soothing and resting well at night.
      It's going to be a process but it'll be worth it in the end.

      Good Luck!!

      ** Edited for Clarity :)

  8. QUESTION:
    What should I do about my co-sleeping baby?
    I have a 7 month old who co sleeps with me. I want him to sleep in his own bed though. Everytime I try to put him in his own bed he wakes right up looking for me. I bring him back into bed and he goes right back to sleep. I have no problem with him sleeping in my bed but I wake up earlier than him. I have to get up with my 7 year old to help him get ready for school. Yesterday while I was up the baby fell off the bed and bumped his head. This is the first time this happened. He usually stays asleep. Now I don't feel like it's safe for him to be in my bed anymore. Does anyone have any ideas for getting him to sleep in his own bed, or to make my bed safe while I'm up in the morning? I refuse to let him cry it out, I think it's mean. I'm looking for other ideas.

    • ANSWER:
      I am going through he same exact thing with my 8 month old. My 26 month old was transitioned to his crib at 5 months and I still had to get up every few hours to nurse him back to sleep he didn't actually eat he would just suckle for a couple of minutes and fall back asleep, it is now the same with my 8 month old, but I find myself giving in and bringing him to our bed. I think they sleep through the night without crying when they're ready not when you expect them too, all children are different. We all wake through the night the difference is when we wake we simply close our eyes and go back to sleep, a baby hasn't mastered this technique yet. Sorry to tell you but it will probably be a while before the baby will be comfortable with out you once sleeping alone.

      On the safety note they have bed rails you can slide right under your mattress put it upright while the baby sleeps and put it down while not in use. Wal-Mart & Target have reasonably priced ones, I have one on my sons toddler bed, it works great.

  9. QUESTION:
    8 month old wakes up every 2 hours, i'm co-sleeping (Baby in my bed)?
    hi this is my first time on here cuz i'm sooo desparate. i hope that someone can help me. my baby sleeps with me. i have a night time routine for her, i feed her before bed, and she falls asleep beside me - without nursing with a binkie in her mouth. she then wakes up every 2 hours. she's very restless, when she wakes i wait to see if she'll sleep but she usually wants to eat.. i feed her then she rolls over and sleeps. the problem is that i don't know if she's hungry or just doesn't know how to put herself back to sleep. can i encourage this somehow without the cry out method. i don't believe in it, if it has worked for a co-sleeping mom i'd like to hear of how the did it.
    how can i make my baby sleep longer stretches? please help i feel like i'm going to lose it soon. thank you.
    hi thanks for u'r replies. i don't want to stop co-sleeping. isn't there any mothers who co-sleep and have had a baby sleep through the night?
    i like having her in my bed and i can't imagine waking up going to her room every two hours to put her back to sleep. at least this way i can sometimes fall back asleep. i do give her cereal and fruits before bedtime and i feed her more breast milk at night.. she's eating meat and veggies and cereal during the days.
    if i was to concider movnig her into her own crib how can i do that when she's only ever played in her crib and in her room?
    as for breastfeeding, i would like to continue till shes at least one. i do give her formula in her cereal and in a sippy cup but she doesn't drink much, prolly like 2 ounces a day. she hates the taste

    • ANSWER:
      Start by putting your baby in her own bed. It will take a few nights, but it will pay off in the end. Your baby might be waking up because of your movement or sound.

  10. QUESTION:
    Burping a sleeping baby ... HELP?
    My little sidekick is 5 months old. She is bottle fed and in daycare. On the days she goes to daycare (M-F), she is so tired in the evening. She doesn't sleep much at daycare because there is so much going on. She also hates falling asleep and fights it with all her might. She will go to sleep on her own, but it takes a while. She has been sleeping through the night for a few months. Anyway, in the evenings and at night, she falls asleep while eating. I mean out cold asleep. You can't wake the little princess up! You can't burp her either. So, when we put her down she grunts and doesn't sleep peacefully. She doesn't wake up and will grunt and struggle all night long. I have tried putting her on my shoulder and patting her back, laying her down first and picking her up again, dancing and swaying while she is on my shoulder, and holding her in my hands (sitting up). Nothing works. She will just burp and belch once she actually wakes up, but nothing after eating. Any ideas?

    • ANSWER:
      Can you try feeding her earlier before she falls asleep??? Thats my only idea. Feed, pj's and then 2 bed?? Thats what I try to do with my little one, although sometimes she falls asleep like your little one.

  11. QUESTION:
    Help, sleeping baby in crib?
    My son now 2 months old has only slept in his crib 3 or 4 times. Every time I try putting him down to sleep he wakes up crying. He hates it.

    I've spent numerous days trying to get him to sleep in his crib.. He falls asleep and I put him in his crib, he wakes up screaming, I rock him for a bit and lay him in his crib, and again with the crying. After the 5th or 6th time I give up.

    Originally I had him sleep with me because he spit his milk a lot and now that he is older I think he needs to start sleeping on his own.

    Any suggestions?

    Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Please do not let him "cry it out" or put a bottle in his mouth to go to sleep. That is how babies get "bottle rot" of their teeth which can be a huge problem.
      There is no one answer to your question since we are all different. I had my oldest in a cradle by my bed when she was born. By the time she was six weeks old, it was pretty obvious that we were "bothering" her with our sleeping sounds so we moved her into her own room.
      My youngest had some medical problems at birth so he slept with us so that we would know if there was something wrong. As he got older we moved him to the cradle by the bed. When he starting getting to big for the cradle, and was showing signs that our sleep noises bothered him, then we moved him to the crib in his room. It was a little rocky for a few nights, but we learned that using 2 baby monitors (one for us to hear him and one for him to hear us at a lower volume) was a tremendous help.
      As long as he could hear that we were there, he was ok. An Intensive Care Nursery Nurse reminded me that the baby has developed and grown hearing your heartbeat since conception. When he is suddenly moved into a silent room, it can be frightening.

  12. QUESTION:
    Help! Leaving co-sleeping baby for one week!?
    My little girl is 9 months old, and she is completely dependent on either being nursed or rocked to sleep. She co-sleeps in my bed with me and wakes to nurse several times a night. I don't have an issue with this... in fact I'd love to continue co sleeping. The problem is, I am leaving Sunday for one full week and cannot bring her with me. Tonight, I have started putting her in her playpen to sleep on her own. I tried this last night and after 10 times of having to wake up and rock the whole playpen so she'd go back to sleep, I gave in and brought her in bed. I need some advice on what techniques to use to get her to sleep on her own. I only have a week to start the process (hoping to have some success). I'm trying to make it easier on her and grandma (she will be watching her) while I'm away. As I nursed and laid her in her playpen for bed tonight after our routine, she began to play and look at me smiling, standing up in her playpen. I continuously laid her back down and told her it was sleepy time... After about 20 minutes and gently rocking the playpen, she fell asleep. I reckon she will stay asleep for a couple hours before waking. Then what do I do? Just rock her back to sleep? She tends to wake up 20 times after the first waking. That's when I get tired and give up.... Am I doing something wrong?

    Thanks guys... i appreciate your advice/input.

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  13. QUESTION:
    sleeping baby help?
    my new son is 12 days old, and i cannot get him to sleep in his own bed. i can get him to sleep in it for a few hours but then he wakes up and cries until i put him in the bed with me. i dont know how to get him to sleep in it all night. please help.

    • ANSWER:
      My first son, when he was a baby, never wanted to be held...so when my second son came along and wanted to be held I made the mistake of always holding him and letting him fall asleep in my arms....it was heaven.....now at four my first son who would cry himself to sleep goes to bed with no problem and my second son, who just turned two on Sunday, has to have my hold him or lay in bed with him so he will go to sleep....I say get some earplugs and let him cry so he will learn. to sooth himself to sleep ....but make sure he is dry , feed and safe first....I am not saying let him cry so much he is sick but give yourself a break and go outside for a break if you have to. Good Luck and remember that it DOES get better and YOU will sleep through the night soon enough also.
      The hardest thing for me was that if he was crying I felt I had to fix it.......I finally understood that sometimes baby will just cry cuz thats what babies do and you CANT fix it. You are not a bad person if he cries.
      Check out babycenter.com ...it is a great site!!!!!

  14. QUESTION:
    One of my 7 year old twins is not sleeping through the night help!?
    My 7 year old has been waking up during the night .At least 2 to 3 times a night she comes to me.I ask her what's wrong she just says I can't sleep mommy.I tell her go back to sleep baby ,you have school tomorrow .It does not happen every night ,but a least 2 or 3 times per week . What to do ? She asks to go sleep with her twin.Is it separation anxiety from her twin or some kind of sleep disorder?

    • ANSWER:
      I think sometimes they just go through stages like this. My six year old will do this for a while and then she'll sleep just fine. But if it continues for a significant amount of time, consult your pediatrician.

  15. QUESTION:
    Help with sleeping baby?!?
    My son is five months old,sleeps in his own bed(crib) and is very active. When he sleeps he rolls in all directions. He sleeps through the night but im still up often to check on him. My problem is when I do check on him hes always on his stomach and or in the corner of his crib because he moves alot. Im very afraid hes going to sufficate. He doesnt sleep with anyrhing in is crib either. Ive found him face down many times as well. Any advice or ideas to keep him from moving so much? Im so scared and just dont know what to do...

    • ANSWER:
      He's moving...that means he is capable of moving to keep his airway open. Babies have slept on their stomachs for centuries, he'll be OK!

      I understand you're worried about SIDS. SIDS is not suffocation, it's death by unknown means. With him moving like you say he does, he'll be just fine...try to get some sleep yourself so you don't get sick with worry.

  16. QUESTION:
    Need help for a Sleeping baby PLEASE?
    I asked a question like this before but didn't get any help really. So I'm going to ask again with more detail. I'm a 24/7 single mom I would like some tips or help on my little girl for night time sleep. My child is 6 1/2 months and we get up in the morning about 9am, nap about 3pm till about 4-5pm. (you cant wake her up, if you do she goes back to sleep. I tried to make nap time earlier but if I do than she wants another one about 7pm) I have tried putting her to bed at about 8:30-9pm but if I do she will wake up in about 2 hours and stay up till 12:30-1am (maybe later sometime we don't go to bed till 3am) So I started keeping her up till about 10:30-11pm. But it seemed to work for a bit, and now when I do this she goes to sleep and about 2-3 hours later she wakes up and will be WIDE awake for about 3 hours till I can get her back to sleep. Can someone please help he out it would be great thanks!

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  17. QUESTION:
    Advice on how to get my co-sleeping baby to start sleeping in her crib?
    I know I know its my fault for letting her sleep with me in the first place but it was so much easier... She is now going to turn 7 months and I don't want her sleeeping in my bed until she is 15 lol.... She likes being in her crib for a while,she'll play and be content... But if I try to put her down to sleep she is yelling at the top of her lungs... I need help!!!

    • ANSWER:
      Where is the crib?
      I haven't personally had to deal with this as we decided against cosleeping as we felt with our health issues it was too dangerous.
      We did however room in with our son for the first 16 months of his life, his crib was positioned flush with the foot of our bed.

      From what I have heard, most of the issues with transitioning from bedsharing to the crib is that the crib is in a completely separate room to where the parents sleep.
      Try placing the crib in your room for a little while- you may need to remove other furniture for it to fit. If she is in the same room as you she can still hear your breathing which is very reassuring when you are in a strange place!
      Place a shirt you have worn while exercising or a pillowcase you have used for several nights underneath the crib sheets to give her a scent reassurance that you are nearby.
      When you place her down in the crib stay with her until she is fully asleep- this can take up to an hour. Make sure you are touching her- gently rubbing her tummy, hair or feet seems to work the best for soothing a child you are trying to get to accept sleeping in the crib.

      It may take a while, but if you persevere it will eventually work out in the end!

  18. QUESTION:
    does wearing a sleeping bag helps ur baby sleep better?
    just wanna seek out opinions and tots. feel free to share with me, thanks.
    i just started using a sleeping bag with my 6 mths old daughter and guess wat. she's asleep all night from 10pm to 7am! never did this happen since she was born. how i wish i've get the bag earlier on!

    • ANSWER:
      with my three it did when i used balnkets they would kick them off which wakes them up because they get cold also gro bags are safer as they baby carnt pull over there face like they can with a blanket, but just try it as all babies are different.

  19. QUESTION:
    Help is my baby sleeping too much? 8months old?
    I have an 8 month old and he seems to sleep A LOT. He wakes up around 8am goes back to sleep at 9-10 goes back to sleep around 12-2 then again 4-6 goes to bed around 9 or 10pm then sleeps through the night. When he is awake he eats a lot we feed him solid food as well as formula, and has a lot of wet diapers. Is there something wrong with him?

    • ANSWER:
      no, that sounds good to me. at that age my kids slept about 16 hrs total. 12 hrs at night and then 2 naps-2 hours each.

  20. QUESTION:
    My baby has been crying for the last hour solidly and I'm losing the will to live. Please help!?
    My 5 week old baby has been crying constantly for the last hour and nothing seems to be settling her. My wife's exhausted, as she's been with the baby all day, so is in bed and all I want is some peace and quiet so she can get some sleep!
    Baby's crying is really getting to me - and all I want is for it to stop.
    I know that baby's ok : not too hot, not too cold, clean nappy, doesn't want feeding etc.
    Any advice would be most helpful!!

    • ANSWER:
      Try walking with her wrapped up in a blanket or sling tightly against your body, walking, and then you could put on some kind of white noise such as running the dishwasher, vacum and/or the washer and dryer. Also, make sure she doesnt need to burp. I assume you know how to burp her, patting her gently on the back or you can try gently moving her legs up to see if any gas can get out that way. Sometimes babys have gas, and it is very uncomfortable for them. Being out of the womb is such a shock to a baby, its very hard to adjust. Thats why if you can try to recreate the womb by holding her against you and creating white noise while soothing her, it might help. Also making a loud "shhh" sound can help too.

      http://www.reflux.org/Reflux/webdoc01.nsf/(vwWebPage)/HarveyKarp.htm?OpenDocument

      That article might help. Remember your babies not trying to upset you, she only wants to be soothed. You and your wife and her only source of protection, food, warmth and comfort. If you are really feeling frustrated, put her down in a swing or crib for a minute, walk into another room, take some deep breaths and then once you are very calm, go ahead and go try to soothe her again.

      You can do this!! God bless you,
      Mary

  21. QUESTION:
    After using the bassinet, how often does your baby sleep in the crib?
    I am expecting my baby soon and my friends are telling me that the crib was a waste of money. After the baby grew out of the bassinet, they end up sleeping in the bed with them. I have a small apartment and I'm wondering do I need to get the crib or a really big bassinet. Help!

    • ANSWER:
      this is really your decison. Your baby deserves it's own crib. and the bassinet in your room is until you feel comfortable having the baby sleep in his or her own room. My opinion, Get the crib, but for space saving reasons, do not set it up until your ready to move the baby out of your room.
      As for sleeping in bed with you. that is very touchy subject. Some people are so against it, with so many risks..but when faced with a child who won't sleep unless it is in bed with you change..It is dangerous to an extent, some parents are careless in doing so. So bottom line, I say get the crib, set it up when ready, have baby sleep in the bassinet till your ready to move him/her to the crib. you willrun out of space with all the baby gear other than the crib anyways! Might as well give baby a comfy sleepin spot as well :) Good luck!

  22. QUESTION:
    have you used baby sleeping bags?
    how do yo use them? ie: are you supposed to wrap the baby in a blanket first and then put it in the sleeping bag or can you just put it straight in?

    what tog should you get? have you had success with yours? my baby keeps waking himself up when I try to half swaddle him and someone suggested sleeping bag for babies can help.

    cheers

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  23. QUESTION:
    My baby is 18 days old and I am wondering how to get her to sleep at night?
    My baby sleeps most of the day and she sleeps great. Only waking up every few hours to eat. I try to keep her awake in the daytime more but it is impossible to keep her awake. When she is ready to sleep, she is out. No matter if she is in the upright position or if she is laying down or what ever.

    At night around 12:30 she wakes up and that seems to be one of her most active times. I feed her but she is usually wide awake and will not go back to sleep until 3:00-4:00 am. Even then she is back up at 6:00am. It is terrible for my husband and I because we are so tired.

    My baby goes back to sleep at around 8:00-9:00am and that is when she begins her daily sleeping.

    She just can not seem to get her days and nights fixed....I try sleeping in the day while she is napping but in all reality that is not always possible. I have 3 other children to take care of as well. I never had this type of problem with the other children. They woke up in the middle of the night but not like this. HELP!

    • ANSWER:
      PLEASE DON'T FOLLOW THE ADVICE ABOUT introducing cereal this early.

      Keep in mind that 18 days is very, very new. She may not have the body weight yet to stay asleep for too long. But as she gets older keep trying to keep her more wakeful during the day. It may take a while, but hang in there...you've done it with the others ! You'll make it.

      Begin making the baby's bedtime routine just as if she were a toddler. Choose a bedtime (my kids always went down at 8 p.m.) All household sound should be at a minimum. All lights should be very low or off. If baby does wake up for a feeding or a diaper, do all of this without turning on any lights, and keep your communication to a minimum. I would only smile softly at my babies at night. They learned that night was different.

      I also have four kids. I wore my last baby. I bought an "Over the Shoulder Love Sling" and just kept her on me all the time. That left my hands free to tend to everyone else.
      There's also a great, old book called Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems. Possible your local library could order it for you. Good luck.

      p.s. I never used a swing, but that's just me. Let them learn to fall asleep without too many props !

  24. QUESTION:
    2 months baby sleeping only 5 hrs a day?
    my baby sleeps 1ly 5 to 7 hours a day...
    she gets enough milk...
    instead of sleeping she makes sound like ahhh,angu,akku,oohh...
    and playing welll...if we talk with her she used watch our lip movements...why she is not sleeping like other babies...help me...

    • ANSWER:
      I would definitely consult with your baby's pediatrician about this as soon as possible. A 2 month old baby needs far more than 5 hrs of sleep per day in order to grow and develop properly. Good luck to you!

  25. QUESTION:
    How can I help my baby sleep with a cold?
    My one year old daughter has had a stuffy nose for the past couple of days. I think she is starting to get a cold. She isn't sleeping very well at night. She wakes up several times crying and rocking her doesn't help put her back to sleep like it usually does. Does anyone have any tips on how to help her sleep better with her stuffy nose?.

    • ANSWER:
      Like Jen said, anytime mine had a cold, the ear infection went with it. She defiantly needs to see the doctor. In the mean time, you can take some luke warm water and put a little salt in it, stirring it real well. Then drop a small drop in each nostril, one at a time. Once you put the drop in there, use the bulb suction you got from the hospital. She will hate this, as it is annoying to feel that in your nose, but, it will clean her nose out so she can breath better. Do not put a pillow anywhere near her while she sleeps, baby can smother so fast. If you want her propped up while she sleeps, you can put the pillow under the mattress to elevate one end of the mattress.
      Not being able to help your precious baby feel better is so hard on you. Just hang in there. And get her to the doctor when he opens in the morning. God bless you both.

  26. QUESTION:
    How to make a baby sleep more soundly at night...?
    My one year old daughter is going to sleep fine; but wakes up between 10 and 12 every night; over and over, and is really restless. Before and after that she sleeps fine.
    This wouldn't be an issue other than the fact my hubby's having to start work at 3 in the morning, and due to wanting to spend time with the family; he's not going to go to bed earlier; ends up going to sleep between 8 and nine; doesn't leavehim with enough sleep; because he's a light sleeper, always wakes up when our baby stirs, even though she's in another room. Is there any reason she wakes up like this every night? And how do we prevent it, or help change her sleeping pattern at night?
    We can't take her to bed with us, she did that for the first 6 months while I was breastfeeding, but she's used to sleeping byherself now, and we don't want to revert her back to her old ways; my friend has a four year old still sleeping with her; and I don't want that. If nothing else, it makes it hard for personal time with the hubby; even just things like talking in bed, whatever, hard to do when you've got a baby there.

    • ANSWER:
      I have a 8 month old daughter myself. What I do is play some kind of music really soft, and let her sleep with her stuff teddy bear and another stuffed animal. This way it gives her some noice and something to hold, otherwise it gives her some comfort. We put her to bed anywhere between 7:30 and 9:00 and she sleeps all the way to somewhere between 6:30 and 8:30 in the morning then usually she just wants a bottle and then she goes back to sleep for an hour or so. I hope that this helps you out with your daughter. Good luck and have lots of fun with your daughter.

  27. QUESTION:
    How soon can I let my baby sleep on his stomach?
    I know we have to make him sleep on his back, but he seems to prefer sleeping on his stomach... that seems to help him with gas problems too... anyway, what is the OK age to let him sleep on his stomach?

    • ANSWER:
      When he can roll over from back to front/front to back by himself is when the risk of SIDs decreases.

  28. QUESTION:
    What's the best way to keep baby warm at night?
    Before she turned 6 months, my baby slept well in a peg perego "sleeping bag" that came with her stroller. Now that she's bigger, I'm looking for alternative products to help her sleep well through the night. Any recommendations?

    • ANSWER:
      socks, T-shirt, and fleece blanket sleepers with "feet" she'll move around too much during the night to stay under a blanket.

  29. QUESTION:
    Help baby wont sleep in his bed.?
    Ok, so here I am nine and a half months after my cute, sweet, and non sleeping baby was born. Greyson is my third baby but I waited 10.5 years to have him between children. I never let my other two sleep with me, but I started letting him sleep with me right away. I knew it wasnt smart, but I was breastfeeding and petrified of sids. So now I am more of a binky then anything and im not sure how to break it. We have stopped feeding all but nap and night time from the breast, he takes bottles great unless he wants me, then he wont touch the bottle. I have tried everything, he will fall asleep then I will put him in his bed, but he only stays for an hour and then flips out like I have abandoned him. I have tried laying him in there and rubbing his back, singing, I have even gotten in his bed to sleep with him. Sometimes this works, but when I leave it isnt more than an hour that he is waking starting all over again..
    I dont feel right letting him scream, it seems as his heart is broken and thats the last thing I want, so any good advice would be great..

    P.s I also give him a regular night time routine, eat then bath then lotion then rock a bye..

    • ANSWER:
      There are a lot of options in between sleeping with you and letting him cry-it-out. Don't just let him cry because he's been sleeping with you for 9 1/2 months. Since you already have a routine, you simply have to make some changes to where he starts sleeping in the night. He needs to fall asleep, at bedtime, the same way he will awaken during the night. We all wake periodically throughout the night.

      Focus on him falling asleep at bedtime, in his crib, with you there, but on his own. If he starts to get really upset, take him out and re-settle him and then put him back down. He MUST fall asleep on his own in the crib, though, for this to work. This will set his expectation that this is what he does every night. The first few nights, it might take a long time, but he will get faster with practice. After he masters bedtime, you can work on night-wakings the same way. When he falls asleep in your arms and then lands somewhere else, this is very disorienting. Imagine you fall asleep in your bed and then wake up on the couch. It would be weird! That's what it's like for him, so allow him to fall asleep where you want him to sleep all night and he will start to "get it".

      Also, spend non-sleep time in his room and crib, so it is a familiar place. He just needs to feel safe and secure in his crib.

      Good luck!

  30. QUESTION:
    Baby sleeping routines... help?
    I have a 2 week old baby and im just wondering how to phase her into a sleeping routine because the mroe alert she is becoming the longer she is awake during the night, she usually naps for 4 hours at a time adn is awake for 2 or so. But unfortunately this occurs at about 3 or 4 AM. Can anyone help me with some hints to get her into a routine??

    • ANSWER:

  31. QUESTION:
    Please help! I need encouragement about my baby's sleep habits!?
    My baby is 3 months and 1 week old and he still sleeps like a newborn! Up 2 or 3 times a night, catnaps all day long. Inconsistent time to fall asleep at night. There is no pattern developing, and I'm worried. Does he have a sleep problem? All of my friends with babies say their baby sleeps at least 5 hours per night! 2 of my friends have babies 4 and 5 months old that have been sleeping for 10 or 12 hours a night since they were 2 months. I'm sooooo tired and surrounded by people who have sleeping babies! Please give me some advice or encouragement.

    • ANSWER:
      I have five and they've all slept differently than each other. It could be that your baby is used to eating that often, or he likes to suck (try a passie) or likes to be held. Some tips:
      Swaddle the baby tightly. This makes them feel as if they're still being held.
      Put the baby in a swing while he's swaddled.
      Don't feed your baby at night (but only if your sure he's not hungry and only waking up for comfort.
      Get a "white noise" machine or turn on a fan in the baby's room. The constant soothing noise helps him sleep.
      I have done all these things at one time or another, but the one that seems to work the best for me is a combination of tha swaddling and the white noise (the louder the white noise, the better). I actually use a sleep/relaxation music CD in my home daycare for nap time. I play it in the computer and turn it up almost as loud as it will go. The kids sleep in the same room as it and they don't hear each other's movements. It helps them take longer naps. I believe that's because when they come out of that deep sleep and they've been asleep for two hours already, the music is in their subconscious and keeps them relaxed enough o stay asleep longer.

  32. QUESTION:
    baby sleeping on side?
    From day one my baby has HATED sleeping on her back...she is 11 weeks and I have started putting her on her side...my sister showed me how to fold a blanked abd wedge her with it....but baby is big and strong and I wake up and she has gone on her front! I can barely sleep for worrying but put her on her back and she is up ALL night yelling...its not wind though. I looked for a side wedge but they arent available in the UK...help!

    • ANSWER:
      I know you are not supposed to let them sleep on their front any more but..I am 24 and still alive and I was put on my belly to sleep when I was a baby..just keep fuzzy blankets away. Just make sure there is nothing that would sufficate her and she will be fine. My baby is 8 weeks and has slept on his belly some and is doing fine. Don't lose sleep over it..You need all the sleep you can get!!!

  33. QUESTION:
    Help with baby sleeping pattern.?
    My wife and I have a healthy 8 month old baby boy. For the last month or so, he has been waking up exactly at midnight and exactly at 3:00am every night. We know that he is teething, and that very well could be a contributing factor, eventhough one of his Pediatricians told us that the only symptom teething produces is teeth. is anyone out there that is going through this situation, or has gone through this situation, and what remedies you have encountered. We are very anxious and concerned, not to mention sleepless.

    • ANSWER:

  34. QUESTION:
    Sleeping habits of a 6 month old?
    MY 6 MONTH OLD SEEMS TO SLEEP ALOT SHE GOES 11 HOURS AT NIGHT THEN AFTER BEING AWAKE FOR ONLY AN HOUR AND A HALF IS BACK DOWN FROM 4 TOO 5 HOURS THEN UP FOR 2 AND BACK DOWN AGAIN FOR ANOTHER 2 TO 3 SHE GETS GRUMPY IF KEPT UP IM JUST WORRIED SHE SLEEPS TOO MUCH AND EVERYONE KEEPS SAYING A SLEEPING BABY IOS A GROWING BABY I NEVER HAD THIS PROBLEM WITH MY 3 YEAR OLD HE WAS A GOOD SLEEPER BUT AT THIS AGE DID NOT SLEEP THIS MUCH SHE HAS ALWAYS BEEN LIEK THIS HELP!!!
    i know everyone keeps saying a growth spurt but she has been like this for months

    • ANSWER:
      Babies do need a lot of sleep and when they are growing its even more sleep it is kind of scary but as long as she is eating right and playing & happy when she is awake then she should be fine i would make sure that whenever she is awake give her lots of food that is healthy to make sure she had the energy she needs. If you are really worried about her take her to the dr. but i took my son at about that age and the dr. told me what i just told you GOOD LUCK

  35. QUESTION:
    Co sleeping with baby?.?
    I went to a website (askdrsears.com safe co-sleeping)
    & I was reading other mothers experiance while co sleeping? Now I don't really understand ifs its better to let baby sleep with you or not, cuz they were saying that when their babies weren't sleeping with them they would notice their baby wouldn't be breathing? & as soon as they put them to sleep with them the baby would breath normally?

    Now my baby does the same thing,
    When his grandparents take care of him they say he only sleeps for about 15 mins n wakes up? He won't sleep sleep,
    (That's during the day)
    Now with me I put him 2 sleep by rocking him sometimes & than put him down in his basssint, but he won't sleep long he'll wake up, I notice he sometimes trys to catch his breath in his sleep & it worrys me,
    But when he sleeps with me in the bed, he'll sleep all night
    - ill feed him around 11 12pm & he won't wake up to to eat till sometimes 6 7 or 8 in the moring? Is that normal?,,

    On that website I mentioned aboved, it said something about SIDS,?
    What is that?, what are signs?,
    I'm a new mother & I'm 18 so I'm lost about things like this? Can anyone inform me on what I'm talking about in this whole story I just wrote! Thank you,
    Ohh & it would help if u googled the website above to read what I read?

    • ANSWER:
      Babies often sleep better in a bed with their mum - they miss their mum when they're in a cot or a stranger! They instinctually know their helplessness, and want to be with you, where they're safe.

      Sleeping from even 12pm to 6am isn't normal. You're very lucky! *lol* Lots of babies wake up more often than that. You've got a "good" sleeper. Don't panic if that good trend doesn't continue; its totally normal for babies, especially breastfed ones, to wake a couple of times during the night for a milky snack. :)

      SIDS is Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. In short, its where a healthy baby dies suddenly and no-one really knows why. Its different from suffocation. AFAIK, there's no warning signs. That's what makes it scary!

      SIDS is also known as "cot death", and that's where most cases occur. SIDS organisations usually recommend that to decrease chances, have the baby in its cot in your room (not another room), with a number of safety measures for cots like no pillows, sheets only at the bottom on the cot, no soft toys, etc., to reduce the chances of accidents.

      There's a lot of safety rules for cots, and similiarly, there's safety rules for co-sleeping. Co-sleeping is a safe and lovely way to go, but you should take care to follow the rules (like not falling asleep with it on a sofa, and using light or no blankets - no quilts). I know a mother who's child's life was saved because of co-sleeping when an emergency in the night where their child quietly had trouble breathing - if it'd been in another room, she never would have known. But her baby was in her bed, so she was alert to even the smallest noise, and she got an ambulance in time.

      FWIW, many babies have slightly irregular breathing when they're newborns. I don't know any mothers of newborns who *haven't* lain awake at night (sometimes for hours), worriedly listening to their baby breathe. Don't worry, it should settle down on its own. Also, a co-sleeping baby will often breathe better, slightly mimicking its mothers breathing pattern, unconsciously.

      When my babies were newborns, I had my bed mattress on the floor, pushed up flush against the wall (check *every* night to make sure there's no gaps), and my baby slept tucked under one arm (*not* at your head level) kinda with its head under my armpit. That way I'd feel it on my forearm if the baby (or my husband!) rolled about. Its normal and natural for a baby to fall asleep after a breastfeed, BTW.

  36. QUESTION:
    Our 7 month old baby is still waking up every hour or so....help!?
    From the start of our 7 month old baby coming home from the hospital he has not been a "natural" sleeper. He wakes up every hour or so still, needs to nurse or get rocked to sleep every time, cannot self soothe, does not like the pacifier. In the beginning, we tried putting him in an Arms Reach co sleeper, we like the idea of him being in the same room as us. He hated it, cried and cried and cried until I brought him into bed with us or nursed him on rocking chair. I am not against the family bed.....in fact, I grew up in one until I was 2 years old. So, of course, I assumed that he did not like being alone and I sure needed my sleep so we brought him into bed with us. Well, it worked sometimes....sometimes he would nurse himself right back to sleep and I would be able to stay in a deep enough sleep to not have my sleep interrupted as well. However, at 7 months old, he is still waking up (almost) as much as he did as a newborn, every hour or two if I am lucky, and now is needing more than just a quick nurse. He cries out, needs a nurse, then a rock to sleep, then maybe more nursing and so on until he finally falls back asleep maybe 30-45 minutes later. Good for him but I am now wide awake! Keep in mind that this happens every hour so I am not getting any continous sleep. So, my dilemma is this....we have tried every month or so the cry in the bassinet method. We have tried it due to Doctor recommendations and sheer exhaustion since the family bed isn't working great. He cries sometimes for 20 minutes sometimes for an hour (horrible, I hate it!), finally falls asleep but then wakes up about 30 minutes to an hour later.....then we have to do it all over again! And again and again all night! So, crying every hour or so for an hour? Way too much! Never mind the fact that it defeats the purpose because I am now awake. So, what do we do? We like the family bed.....my husband is an agreement, whatever works best for baby (crib or family bed) and however we all can get the most sleep is fine with him. He has tried soothing, rocking, sling, etc and baby still cries until I nurse him down. I have no problem with nursing to sleep or family bed....but why is it NOT working for us?

    The other thing is, I feel alone in this....all my friends babies have slept through the night since 3 months old (some earlier). THEY all say, "Oh, put him in his crib, let him cry for about 20-30 minutes, he will fall asleep and sleep at least 5 hours or so". Well, not our baby. If that was the case, the "reward" to such sad crying would be worth it...a sleeping baby.

    We have discussed this with the Doc....she has checked out our baby, nothing is wrong, no reflux, nothing I am eating, nothing to do with his clothes or the bedroom....she said that he simply cannot self soothe. Is anyone else going through this? We are open to suggestions....we have tried the crib in and out of our room, the family bed, the sling and baby wearing all day...I am a stay at home mom so I spend lots of time with him. We hate the idea of our baby crying for hours night after night......oh and did I mention that it does not end after 3-7 days of crying? Even the doctor was surprised because she said, just stick it out with the crying, he will eventually learn to fall asleep on his own after 3 or 4 nights....nope. Oh, he does take regular naps (in the family bed) at 9 and 12....the morning one only 30 minutes, the afternoon one about 2 hours (because I lie down and sleep with him). He goes to bed about 6:30 PM and wakes up officially at 5:30 or 6 am.

    We are sooooo tired but soooooo love our little one. Any suggestions?
    Thank you all for the great answers coming in.....it makes me feel like we are not the only parents on the planet that still have a 7 month old waking up this often. Whew! Some details to add....he has been eating solids since 6 months old....eats 3 meals a day....usually rice or oat cereal mixed with some vegie or fruit. He loves food and nursing. He eats his solid dinner about 5 or 5:30, takes a bath, reads books, gets rocked, then gets nursed to sleep in bed with soft music playing. He goes right to bed, sleeps about 2 hours and then the waking up every hour or two begins from there....oh and he is in the95% in both height and weight....so he is well fed! :) He has a happy, smiley disposition all day....so he must be getting enough sleep despite the frequent wake ups.
    Thanks again you all for your sweet and helpful answers.

    • ANSWER:
      Time is all that really works. Just wait it out. I know that's not the answer you want but it's the truth. My son is 10 months old and still up 4-6 times a night most nights. He also went through a spell where he would wake and want to stay awake for a while at 12-2am, it drove me nuts. We had the same issue with CIO, it never worked for us. We find some things that do work but only as long as teething doesn't interfere.

      We have a queen and twin bed pushed together for extra room. I nurse my son then roll away from him so he has his own sleeping space. After about 6 months old I noticed that he needed room to move in his sleep especially once he became mobile. I am willing to feed 2-3 times a night. Any other waking I let him cry a bit and pat his back. Most of the time he will go back to sleep within 5min or so. After a couple nights of this he decided waking for anything other than food
      wasn't worth it and he was up 2-3 times a night, until teething started again that is. I do use the crib for naps. Now that he is mobile I don't feel safe leaving him in my bed alone, I don't nap with him.

      Family bed sleeping method for over 12 month old babies
      http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp

  37. QUESTION:
    Baby sleeping problems part 2, please help guys this is getting serious!?
    Alright I posted a question recently with my 6 month old daughters horrible sleep habbits (waking up every 2 hours) and I got some great advise unfortunintly none of it seemd to help in fact a few things made it worse! the last two nights I've been up every hour on the hour!!! I've made sure to not let her nap past 4 kept her up later fed her right before bed bathed her with lavender bodywash, shampoo AND lotion, music nightlight on, night light off, nothin!!! the only way she sleeps for very long is if I hold her and I don't know why, she's never slept with us just occasionally at nap time I'll hold her but it's turning in to my only hope and I really don't want to start a dangerous habbit thats hard to break, please, please somebody help me I'm going crazy here, lol I actually ran into her door last night I was so tired, yup compleatly forgot to open it...I really need some help with this, I honestly don't know what else to do.

    • ANSWER:
      This is what i would do go to the shops and invest in a baby bouncer and lavender oil

      my son slept on a baby bouncer for hours on end through the morning til night if that's where he would sleep then i would leave him he always wanted to be held and i was going to get into the habit so they work very well

      lavender oil is to help relax your body and help you sleep so this may work just start to burn the oil 1/2 an hour before bed so when your baby goes in the room she can smell the oil hope this helps you a little

  38. QUESTION:
    Question About Baby Sleeping Position...?
    Hey guys! I've been doing some research and apparently having the baby sleep on her tummy increases the likelihood of SIDS, so, as popularized by the "Back to Sleep Campaign", it is best for baby to sleep on her back.

    Here is my problem with that. My daughter (7weeks old) seems to have symptoms of infant reflux (I have a doctor appointment today so I can verify it but she has all the symptoms). Because of this she spits up more than the average baby which poses the risk of choking. Also, even after I have thoroughly burped her she still belches while sleeping which is impossible for her to do on her back.

    Furthermore even if it weren't for the reflux, my baby absolutely refuses to lie on her back at all! Anytime she is on her back she cries and grabs frantically upward for some kind of physical contact. (Imagine the headache in changing her diapers! - But that's beside the point)

    So what I do is lay her on her tummy to sleep. The thing is I'm a bit obsessive with this. I never have her sleep without someone watching her. I stay up during the nights while she sleeps on her tummy and get some sleep during the daytime when my boyfriend comes over and can monitor her. I find myself keep on checking if she is breathing. But it's not only about the SIDS. Because she is so young she has poor head control. While sleeping she sometimes turns her head from one side to the other but many times fail to make a complete turn and gets stuck head down. So I have to adjust her.

    My question is. Staying up with her is no problem now because I'm am on holiday but I am a full time college student and this won't work once school reopens. Any similar experiences? Any advice? I'm a young and first time mother so I tend to worry a lot about my little princess! Any help would be much appreciated!

    • ANSWER:
      Its good to hear that you are such a dedicated mother. That is admirable. I to had the same issue with my daughter. She has acid reflux and is now eight months old, and still have reflux! It can definitely wear you out thats for sure.
      My doctor told me to get wedge (I got it from Target for about ) and let her sleep on that. It helped me out a lot! I helped keep her elevated and also held her in a secure position. She slept on it from about one months until about three months. Thats when I would notice that she would find a way to wiggle out of it and then it posed more of a danger then a benefit. I was worried she could suffocate in it, so I just took it out. Now that she is older she sleeps however she decides she wants to. I lay her on her back but when I go check on her sometimes she is asleep on her tummy. But she has mastered the ability to move her head to the side to breathe and her chest muscles are strong enough to help with her breathing and such.
      I think that you need to get a wedge for her. This will help out a lot and plus honey you need sleep. Having a newborn is stressful enough, not sleeping like you should is just horrible. But I understand.

      I wish you the best of luck!

  39. QUESTION:
    Co sleeping with baby....Advice!?
    I have been co sleeping with my baby boy for the last 4 weeks (he is 4 weeks old). He sleeps better when in the bed with us and for ALOT longer. I had a home visit from a mid wife today and i mentioned that i co sleep and she didnt seem too happy about this. I have tried to get him to sleep in his crib but i have to wait till he is in a very deep sleep and he seems to wake up after on a few hours. When in bed with us he sometimes only wakes once for a quick feed then sleeps straight away. Am i doing the wrong thing by co sleeping? The mid wife reccomended if i keep co sleeping to buy a mini bed type thing the baby sleeps in which is placed between me and my partner at the top of the bed. Has anyone used these? I want to get one as i want my baby to be as safe as possible. Im confused as what to do! Any help or advice from experience welcomed!

    • ANSWER:
      Co-sleeping is natural and that is why your baby is sleeps better. Co-sleeping has only been considered wrong and dangerous for the last 50-75 years. Babies have better breathing patterns, heart rates and blood pressure when in bed with mom. Also, the chance of SIDS is reduced with co-sleeping. If I were you I would make sure that your mid-wife has some better information.

      http://www.askdrsears.com/

      EDIT: I just have to say that all of these people that keep saying your child will never sleep on her own are so wrong. It is really not that hard to transition a child to their own beds. Mine all went willingly when the time came. My youngest is almost 3 and still sleeps in our bed about half time. But that is because we are in a very small home and it is just easier to but our child that is in kindergarten to bed when he is not in the room (he is a talker LOL) Co-sleeping is a wonderful thing and when things are done with patience there will be very few issues.

  40. QUESTION:
    Mother in law and new baby is she overbearing?
    I have a great husband and family. I always thought I had perfect in laws till now. They stayed out of our business and have been great with my son who isn't biologically my husband's. Me and my husband have been together for seven years and my son (who is nine now) calls him dad. This is my mil first grandbaby. It all started when I went into labor. I had said only my mom, mil and husband could be in the room. Then everyone else could come in after she was born. Well my mil brought her husband and her daughter. I was getting stressed because there were too many ppl in the room and my baby's heart rate kept dropping and when the in laws went to lunch my husband called and asked them to take their time (I wasnt even dilated to four cm) She started crying. When they got back we asked his mom to come in and she refused until I started to push. Right in front of my son after the baby was born she asked my husband how it felt to be a dad. (I haven't had "the talk" with my son all he knows is my husband is his dad) And let me also say that I know you can't help your feelings and I know she will be closer to this grandbaby than my son but all I've ever asked is dont show it. The baby was only three days old and she was asking to take her home with her for a couple of hours. We said no and I told my husband he needs to tell her that it'll be awhile before I let anyone watch her let alone take her anywhere. (she is breastfed by the way) She comes over at least three times a week since she was born, and stays two to four hours at a time. Also for the first three months my baby had colic. I was constantly having to walk around with her.Mil would come over and hold the baby when she was asleep, when my husband and I weren't looking she would change her diaper. She would say that she felt wet but I knew she was doing this to wake her up to play with her. Because she woke up my sleeping baby I would be stuck walking and bouncing her back to sleep.She always leaves as soon as she knows she cant hold the baby. Halloween I said I just wanted our little family to go out trick or treating when the baby was two weeks old. She showed up unannounced right as we started to walk out the door and then started crying because she could tell we were a little annoyed by it.(But we didnt say anything or act mean about it) She then kept asking if she could watch the baby while we took my son out. And when I said no she asked if she could come with us.(She never used to do this) Christmas before I had a chance to she went out and bought three baby's first christmas outfits. That would've been ok if she would have involved me somehow. She made a baby's 1st christmas keepsake and only put pics of her and the baby in it and only wrote about what she did with the baby and what she bought her for christmas.(It was a card she gave to the baby) Let me also say I was really young when I had my first child and didn't get to enjoy his first year because of my situation. I had to put signs up when the baby was a newborn to get her to wash her hands before she picked her up. The baby is teething now and she was letting the baby suck on her hands(my mother in laws hands) she didnt wash her hands before and she even said " Maybe I should've washed my hands first". Then on Valentine's day we told her we were gonna do our own thing and she showed up unannounced again and kissed my baby in her mouth!(GROSS)I cant let her do it and tell everyone else not to. Besides it's flu season!! She has been saying "Ive got a new picture frame that says grandma I need to find a picture of me and the baby" What about my son?? She has a Facebook page and its nothing but pictures of the baby and very few of my son. She has always called the baby "her baby" not "my grandbaby " but "my baby". She would pick up my son from school and he would ask her to come in and if the baby is asleep she wouldnt. My son said to me "nana doesnt want to visit me she just wants to see the baby and she only takes pictures of the baby" I just tell him its because the baby is new. She always brings gifts for baby and not my son. When she held her she would kiss her all over her face and talk to her loudly and (basically overwhelm the baby) she didnt like that so she would cry everytime mil would hold her. Mil would try for twenty minutes to calm her down while I go insane because the baby is screaming. I dont know if I should let her hold her while she is crying because I feel bad when I know she came to hold the baby and it was hard for me to take her from her, but its not fair to let the baby cry. My husband wont tell her not to do any of these things I've mentioned b/c he said how can I tell her not to love our baby so much. He sees her as this perfect person who does no wrong. I'm sick of arguing with my husband and dont want bad memories of my babys
    Thanks yall for yor answers!! Ok person who is named "question mark' really? obviously it was my decision to have my child from a different relationship but it is not my childs fault for being her grandchild and she shouldnt "show" favoritism. Like I said I know she'll have more feelings for new baby I just ask she doesn't show it. Like I said I didnt come here for criticism!

    • ANSWER:
      you need to stand up for both your children if your husband won't/can't. She needs to treat your children equally, already your son is seeing her favor and it's probably really upsetting him (I know it would upset me) She also needs to respect your space. lay down the ground rules, if she can't follow, then she's now welcome. It seems a bit harsh, but she's not getting the message.

      Does she know how her behaviour is affecting your children and you and your marriage? It's time to sit her down and tell her what's going on - nicely of course.

      I had to do that with my own mom - I don't have a child from another man, but she was overbearing - coming over everyday, over stimulating my baby. calling her "my baby" excuse me? it's MY baby. I eventually had to put her in her place - she didn't like it, and for a while it strained our relationship, but I have to protect my family...even if it's from family.

  41. QUESTION:
    What is a good book with good methods to help a baby sleep through the night?
    My twin boys are almost 7 months and not sleeping through the night. Their sleep seems to be restless. They do wake for a bottle about 1x each, but they also just wake to wake and I or my husband have to rock them back to sleep. With 2 babies I dont know how much more I can take. I know they can sleep through the night because they done it before, I just need it to be every night instead of once in awhile. What are some good books with good methods? I dont want to do the cry it out method because they will wake each other up and I know my babies...it just wont work..they will just get so upset and thats it. I heard of the book "BabyWise" but heard bad reviews about this method. What else can I do? Please help

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      I bought a couple of books when my James was having sleeping problems but ploughing through 150 pages or so when you're so tired is just horrible!!

      In the end a good friend of mine recommended an audio program called the Baby Sleep Solution that I could just listen to and learn some quick and easy baby sleep techniques. The techniques worked like magic on James and he was sleeping through the night within about a week. I found the audio very easy to listen to (it only took half an hour or so) and I was able to put the techniques to work that same night. I'm happy to recommend it to anyone whose baby is having sleeping problems.

  42. QUESTION:
    When did your baby start sleeping through the whole night?
    My baby is already 8 months old and still wakes up each night. she only wake up once, around 3 or 4am. i give her her bottle, and shell go back to sleep... but shouldnt she sleep through the whole night already? i put her to sleep around 9pm with a full belly. when did your baby start sleeping through the night and what advice can you give me to help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Perfectly normal. There seems to be a lot of expectation for babies to sleep through from just a few months old, I'm not sure why! My son was 10 months when he started sleeping through the night and I considered myself lucky. Lots of babies don't sleep through by a year!

      Edit: And there's nothing you can really do... just be patient and give it time!

  43. QUESTION:
    Disagree over co-sleeping about my baby with my partner?
    I have a huge argument tonight with my partner because my baby who's nearly 9 months still sleeping with us. I really don't mind actually her sleep with us but she always kicking and grunting. Moreover, when she awake, she will not bother that we both still need sleeping and starts trying to climb on us or play with us. This has been start over 3 months and I really can't handle it anymore. I'm sick like a dog at the moment and I dont want she'll catch my cough and cold. I want to put her in her cot tonight but my partner taking her for drive instead with hoping she'll sleep. (It works but it took more than 2 hours long drive to do that, and she used to get her on way when she throws a tantrum.)

    My partner complained that he has not enough sleep (we both never had enough sleep since she was born) yet he still taking her to drive at night time with telling me he wants to give me a break. I told him it's totally useless because after he arrived at home, my baby will just wake up and start playing around again. Basically, on my opinion, he just wasting time and money for fuel and I feel like I dont have that break because I'm the one who has to deal with her tiredness and cranky during the day time while he's at work.

    I told him I want to teach her to sleep on her own so she won't be dependant to me too much until the point she has a separation anxiety because she's too close with me. (Everytime I'm out of her sight, she's going to be panic and screaming and crying, crawling looking for me). This make everything worst because I cant do the houseworks. I have to wait until she has her nap during the day time so I can do the laundry, sometimes no breakfast and skipping my lunch so I can handle other things. (I'm working from home).

    Everyday, I go to bed after 12 and wake up in the morning before my baby and my partner wake up so I can have time to do some work and cleaning up the house. It leads to the point I'm sick and have to go back and forth to the doctor and totally exhausted.

    I really need help. Please if anyone has an idea about how to make my baby sleep by herself and how to make my partner understand my point of view.

    Thanks a lot...

    xoxo
    Crying mum :(
    Thanks for all the answers. For "do your own thinking", I dont need such an idiot answer from you. I know what motherhood is like and im not bitching about anything in here, i'm just asking what's the best way for my problem. I want my baby to sleep with her own like other babies, specially when I'm sick like this i dont want she will catch my cold and cough. And fyi, my baby really have a serious separation anxiety, one way to teach her for not dependant on me is to start let her sleep by herself. Seemed like you need to think before you give an answer.

    • ANSWER:
      Compromise? Is your room big enough to fit a crib in? That way she won't be keeping you both awake with the kicking but will still be aware of where you are, will still see you as soon as she wakes up etc. I think putting her in her own room may make her separation anxiety worse and she will probably spend at least a couple of weeks crying and waking frequently which is not going to allow you to have any sleep anyway. All I can suggest is that you start having a night time routine of dinner, bath, stories, cuddling, milk and than put her in her crib. Stay there with her, stroke her, soothe her. When she cries (and she will), pick her up and rock her and than put her back in her crib. Continue doing this and try not to get frustrated (it's very easy to do). I did this with my son but he was 12 months old. It took a week but he got used to the routine and I was able to put him in his crib awake and stay there until he fell asleep. After a month. I put the crib in his own room and I rarely had any trouble getting him to sleep. He slept better and longer in his own room too. We still had and still do (he's 22 months) bad nights, but for the most part, the transition to his own crib went smoothly and I didn't have to resort to using controlled crying.
      Good luck. I understand how run down you are and how exhausted you must be. Personally, if I have another child I will not co-sleep with them in my bed. I will simply use a crib in my room for the first twelve months.

      Edit: Ignore do your own thinking. She has a habit of giving very simplistic answers delivered in an arrogant manner

      Edit: I didn't realise you were an aussie too. I wrote crib instead of cot because I assumed you were from the US.....

  44. QUESTION:
    Baby sleeping routine... please help!?
    Hi, I'm having a little trouble trying to get my son into a routine.
    He is 4 months old, and we are doing well, but I need a little help!

    I'm not sure where to start and what info you need, so sorry if I ramble!

    Right, my son has been sleeping in my room since birth, even though he has his own room, and now I think its about time to put him in his cot, in his own room.
    At the moment, he's been sleeping in his moses basket next to my bed at night, and during the day, he sleeps in the moses basket in the front room whilst I get on with my housework.

    When he is tired in the day and needs to have a nap, he whines for ages before moaning himself to sleep, but at night, when he goes into my room, he is calm, and seems to love the atmosphere! And falls asleep quietly and sometimes without his dummy!

    I'm worried about putting him into his own room, as I live in a small block of flats and I don't want my poor neighbours to have to listen to a screaming baby when we are trying to get him to sleep at night!

    Should I start to put him into his own room for naps during the day as well as trying to get him in there at night?

    Does anyone have any advice for me?

    Sorry if none of that made sense!

    • ANSWER:
      i understand how you feel!
      my son is 4 months too. he also has his own room, but sleeps in mine in his bassinet. he naps in my room in his bassinet too. my son also whines himself to sleep for naps, i think its because its not dark so he has trouble falling asleep. if you want him to sleep in his own room, than go ahead. i don't know why you are worried about the neighbors, its not like he will be crying for hours..
      i have my son in my room because i am scared i wont hear him at night. but if your worried about your neighbors hearing him, than i am sure you wont have a problem hearing him too!

  45. QUESTION:
    3 month old baby sleeping on her own...?
    Ok so my baby girl is 3 months and 4 weeks old... Since she was around 2.5 months I started tl train her in sleeping on her own in her Cot (which is right beside my bed btw)
    Ok so I feed her and then instead of letting her sleep while feeding I start playing with her... Then after 5,10 minutes I put her in her Cot turn on the music mobile sit beside her in a way that I can see her but she can't see me. She plays there for like 5 more minutes and then go to sleep on her own... She is very used to this routine now... She in general is a happy and healthy kid... I don't rock her or walk her to sleep... If she doesn't sleep on her own and seems irritated then I pick her up calm her down and then put her back in Cot. And she usually sleeps on her own again.
    So my question is am I being too strict with her? Cz alot of people told me, including my MIL, that this is very harsh and babies this young shouldn't sleep on their own:( so do I need to change this routine??:(

    And please no mean answers. Any kind of help will be much appriciated:)

    • ANSWER:
      There is NO one-size-fits all routine for babies, ESPECIALLY when it comes to their sleep patterns! My son was pretty attached and wanted to sleep in our room until he was almost 6 months old. Then, suddenly, he hated our bedroom and loved his own crib. You never know, because every child and family is different. If your little one is happily going to sleep on her own, then that is awesome! As long as she's not screaming bloody murder and crying herself to sleep every night, what's the harm? Especially if she's still in your room, I see absolutely no reason to change your routine! You've also gotten her to the point where she doesn't have to nurse herself to sleep at night, she goes to sleep on her own - another victory! I think you're doing great :) Sometimes you just have to ignore everyone else's opinions and so what you KNOW is best for your child!

  46. QUESTION:
    Baby Sleeping and Breastfeeding / Eating Problem?
    Hi - I have a 4 mth old baby that rarely sleeps and never wants to breastfeed (or bottle feed or eat anything). His weight gain has been slow, bu he has never lost weight. He is extrememly active, very fussy and high maintenance/needs from day one. For the past two days when I try to feed him he screams at me. Can this be related to teething at all? We need him to eat to keep gaining weight (he;s only in the 5-10th percentile). Should I feed him less often so he eats more, or keep feeding him more often and then he only takes 2-5 min worth, one side only. At night he sleeps for a few hrs, wakes up and eats beautifully. Then doesn't sleep well and doesn't eat well and the cycle continues. He also doesn't want to eat before bed - its all a struggle with eating/sleeping right now. Should I try nursing him right before bedtime or earlier so he doesn't associate the two together - hence the screaming. Sorry for the multiple questions, but my docs have been NO help!
    You have all been great help. Cole has been diagnosed with reflux and is on renatidine (sp - baby zantac). We've done the elevated crib, burping, upright after feedings etc. I had some success this afternoon. I fed him while he was waking up...still slepy and he nursed for 1/2 hr total on both sides and fell asleep for about 10 more minutes. He also nursed again on both sides before bed tonight after a good screamfest and has been sleeping 2 hrs so far. I will continue to try to feed him as he is waking and before he sleeps. Thoughts - is this too many attempts at feeding during the day. That would mean trying to nurse every 2 - 2.5 hrs. He never seems hungry enough and just snacks. Thanks for all the advice and keep it coming.

    • ANSWER:
      I would switch doctors as well. Something is going on if he doesn't want to eat. My son had acid reflux and seemed to want to eat, but then everytime he started drinking his bottle, he would cry and arch his back. I originally breastfed, but ended up having to switch to hypoallergenic formula. He was a literally a different kid overnight. We also got rid of the Zantac after switching to the formula. The fussing/screaming went on until 4 months when I started to think, if it was colic, he should have been growing out of it by now. That's when I switched him over. I talked to two pediatricians regarding our problems, they never wanted to change formulas, etc. But I finally just decided I needed to trust my instincts that something wasn't right. Like I said, we started the Enfamil Nutramigen and within 24 hours he was a happy, sleeping, eating baby. Good luck and my son's name is Cole too! :)

  47. QUESTION:
    Turn the volume down while the baby is sleeping upstairs?
    I am taking a few days off to visit my sister and help her with her 9 month old baby. She put her baby down for a nap this afternoon in her room (with the door shut). My father and I were watching a movie downstairs. We didn't have it on very loud, just enough so we could actually hear it. My sister kept coming in and yelling at us to turn it down because the baby was sleeping. She would then turn it to about volume 1 or 2. None of us could hear any of the dialog so I am not sure why she just didn't go a step further and turn off the tv. She kept doing this to us, even when the tv would just get louder on its own through weird commercials or action etc. Is this normal behavior? The funny thing is that she was gone the day before and my dad and I had babysat. We were watching tv at normal volume and the baby actually slept for about an hour more than she normally does. We looked at the baby monitor today and the baby was knocked out asleep and happy in her crib behind closed doors, even with some noise.

    She watches her baby sleep with a video monitor. She lost it tonight and flipped out looking for it and called me asking if I had put it somewhere (after I spent 30 minutes looking for it with her). She also gets really annoyed when my dad tries to give her advice. For instance he advised her that if she keeps turning the volume down so much/stops doing the things she normally does, that she will condition the baby to basically run her life and not just get used to things. He also heated up the babies formula (safely, he is a dad after all) and she called her husband to complain about him doing that, even after noticing that, "oh wow, look how much she ate!"

    Is this normal first-time mom behavior? I feel like she is being a jerk to my dad and I. Especially when all we want to do is help her out for a few days and buy her baby some clothes and treats.

    :( advice?

    • ANSWER:
      She's overboard. The dad is right, she's only hurting herself by trying to be sooooo quiet while baby naps. The baby will eventually get used to the dead quiet and require it. Although your dad didn't need to heat the bottle either unless the milk had been refrigerated because that too can condition the baby to only drink warmed up milk and that's a hassle when you are out and about with no oven or microwave. But as obnoxious as she's being, it's probably normal first time mom behavior. I know I'm anal about raising my son too, but I know I'll have to chill on certain things when my next baby arrives.

  48. QUESTION:
    Newborn breastfed baby sleeping 4hrs or more? Help!?
    As of 9:19pm last night my newborn son is exactly 1 week old. He is breastfed almost 100%, sometimes he seems hungry still so I give him formula. Total at the most he will be fed 4oz of formula in 24hrs, everything else is breast milk. Yesterday he drank 3oz total of formula, today he has drank 1 oz total of formula. Everything else breast milk. From day 1- day 5, he has been feeding every 1.5-2.5 hours so I will wake up in the middle of the night like 3 times to feed him and all throughout the day about every 2 hours or less he will cry again he's hungry and i feed him.

    But for the past 2 days, all day yesterday and all day today, he has been sleeping for about 4hrs at a time. He moves around and stuff and nothing covering his face so I know he's breathing well and I'm in the same room with him all day. Last night he woke me up only once to eat and I fed him for about 30 min. He sleeps in bassinet right next to my bed so no way I didn't hear him crying.

    My concern is shouldn't breastfed babies be eating every 2hrs for a few weeks?? Could the tiny bit of formula I gave him really make him sleep this much? And if so, then how come all the other days he didn't sleep this much? Could something be wrong? Is this normal? Should I just be happy and take advantage of the extra free time for me? Or should I take him to a doctor? Is my milk production going to go down because of this? Should I force him to wake up to feed to avoid losing milk production?

    I know its alot of questions, you don't have to answer everything, it's just I'm kinda worried and this is my first breastfed baby so I'm just worried. Please help thank you.
    By the way if this helps, he does 3 pooped diapers a day, sometimes even 4.

    • ANSWER:
      my son is 2 weeks old and has slept between 4-6 hours at night since birth. i wake him to feed every 3 hours during the day but at night i let him wake when hes hungry (midwife's advice). i change him every time i feed him (more if his nappy is soiled) and its always wet so i know hes getting plenty of milk. every baby is different and they will change their routines to suit their needs (growth spurts etc) i wouldn't feed him formula at all. not only will it affect your supply which is trying to establish itself but it could also lead to him rejecting the breast as bottles are less work for babies to feed from and they get lazy. there is no reason why he needs formula. if he gets hungry breastfeed him again. yes you could lose your milk supply if you continue to formula feed. this is why its often said that 'supplementary feeding' very quickly turns into exclusive formula feeding.

  49. QUESTION:
    when did your baby start sleeping through the night?
    Hi. I have a 5 weeks old and I love him more than anything in the world, but I also love my sleep sometimes:) Just wondering when everyone's baby slept through the night the first time and when I can look forward to getting some sleep. I know every baby is different but is there anything you tried to help them sleep longer stretches at night? I feel like I'm doing a lot already, putting him to bed with a routine, bath, dimming lights, bottle, etc. He also has a super hard time falling asleep on his own. I'm not sure yet if I'm for the "cry it out" method, especially this young, but I'm not sure how to get the message to him that it's bed time. I have to rock him for hours some nights. I try to stay on a 3 hour routine during the day. eat, play, then nap. he has a hard time with his naps to.
    right now he is sleeping about 3.5, sometimes 4 hour stretches if we are lucky. Is that normal at this age? what can I do to train him to sleep??

    • ANSWER:
      Wow if I would of gotten 3.5 to 4 hours of sleep when my baby girl was little I would of been happy as could be. My daughter only slept 1 1/2-2 hours at a time until she was 3 weeks old (she was in her crib) Until I accidentally fell asleep with her on my chest one night (she slept the whole night on me). I woke up the next morning to a sleeping baby. Needless to say my accident of falling asleep with her on me, lead to her not wanting to sleep in her crib period, so she actually slept with her father and I in our bed until she was almost 6 months old. She slept all night in our bed for about 2 months and then it was back to waking me up 2-4 times a night. After I got her back in her crib it was anywhere from 1-3 times a night she was waking me up. Now she is 9 months old and she sleeps pretty good at night time, but I still get woken up 1-2 times a night. So good luck, hope your baby sleeps through the night quicker than my daughter. But all babies are different and your baby sounds like he is on a very good sleeping pattern for a 5 week old baby.

  50. QUESTION:
    11 week old baby sleeping up to 20 hours a day?
    My 11 week old baby is prone to sleeping for up to 20 hours a day and I have to wake her for a feed. She sleeps from about 12 at night, wakes around 5 but is pacified with a dummy until 7 when I give her 6 ounzes. Today she wouldn't take her 11 am 6 ounzes, only had 4, then slept till 3, wolfed down her feed of 6 oz at 4 then slept again till6, had another 4 oz and has slept again till 11. Is this normal to sleep so much, I'm worried. The Doctor fobbed me off a bit saying it wasn't her area of expertise but that babys have fluctuating sleep patterns, this did not reassure me! Help!

    • ANSWER:
      That is a terrible answer from a doctor. My son is 12 weeks old and he doesn't sleep that much. He sleeps all night and takes quite a few naps during the day. As long as your baby is eating, peeing, pooping, and gaining weight I would think she is healthy. Be glad that she sleeps too much rather than not enough.


Help With Sleeping Child

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Questions! Sleeping, child laws, help?
    My mom wants my thirteen almost fourteen year old brother to go to sleep at 7 pm and it just seemes a little early to me considering its still light outside? she wants my little 11 year old sister to sleep at the same time and she wants me to go to bed at 9 or 10. im 15 about to be 16. bree and josh have to wake up at 7:20 am and i have to wake up at 8:40 am. what time would we have to go to sleep by? and the other question is is it legal to beat a kid under 16 or atleast 13 with a belt? :l

    BTW yes i know this is pretty spoiled and bratty to post this and ask but i just need to know.
    gah no lol i know i wasnt referring to the bed times as laws i was talking about what are the laws of beating and spanking with belts and stuff
    lol no were not hit o_o

    • ANSWER:
      It seems unfair for a 14 year old to have to go to bed at 7 PM, but there's nothing that can be done about that.

      It's illegal to beat a child, period.

  2. QUESTION:
    Help! Child sleeping habits?
    Ok,this is coming down to complete differences in culture.I am an American living in Thailand.
    People are extremely communal here.Not just the poor,even middle class to upper class families will sleep with their children sometimes up until 10.Yes,I know this sounds insane to westerners but it is true.
    My wife and I needed to go back to America for some months after my mothers death and Thai grandma suggested we leave our 3 year old son to stay with her.She's a great lady but it was a big mistake.She slept with him every night for the whole time like a mother hen and now he is addicted to sleeping with people.I love my child with all of my heart but I cannot sleep with him everyday.It's not just because I need to sleep for work but because I don't want him to grow up with lack of independance and fear of being alone like Thai people have.Please give me some advice on how to break this habbit he's developed or a good website to read.Thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      It's not going to be easy to break this habit. It is going to mean long nights of no sleep but you HAVE to be consistent otherwise you'll be having a 13 year old sleeping with you. You start out by having a bedtime routine. Something that he will do every single night to get himself ready for bed. A bath/shower, maybe light snack, toothbrushing, a quick drink of water then a story, maybe a lullabye and then lights out. Of course it's going to be quite some time before it actually goes that smoothly he will probably scream and cry at first. (this is where you might want to invest in a child gate to put in front of his door. Let him scream and cry though. If you have the gate put it in his doorway so he can't get out of the bedroom...he's not going to like that and his screams will become deafening. This is where a set of headphones comes in handy. Just keep an eye on him to make sure he doesn't harm himself. After about 15-20 minutes go in, put him back into his bed (do not speak) and again walk out of the room. He is again going to scream and cry...you're just going to have to let him. Eventually he will get tired enough to fall asleep...and you'll have the following night of the same thing to look forward too...I don't envy you.

  3. QUESTION:
    1 1/2 year old child sleeping habits. He is a hand holder. Help!!!?
    My 16 month old baby boy sleeps in the bed with us. But the weird thing is, it seems he cant get to sleep without grabbing mine or his mothers hand and playing with it or holding it until he falls asleep. Whats up with this??

    • ANSWER:
      Your son has developed what is called a sleep association. Your son is convinced that this is the normal way to go to sleep and he is so convinced that he can not go to sleep now without it. Just like you probably have a pillow. If you suddenly did not have one you would most likely find it very difficult to go to sleep without it.
      My 12 month old son co-sleeps with us too. Until recently he woke up frequently and needed to feed to get back to sleep. I broke the habit by slowly cutting back the breastfeeds so he no longer associated me and my boob to go back to sleep. There was lots of crying but extra cuddles from me but we are slowly getting there. Next step is to get him into his own bed.
      I am not sure how to approach your specific problem. Maybe you just have to go cold turkey and refuse to hold his hand. There will be tears and tantrums but it might be the only way.
      Good luck.

  4. QUESTION:
    Help with child sleeping?
    I have 4 boys ages 10,8,3,8mths
    2 of them when u send to bed Thay are sleeping in less than 10mins, the baby is getting there,
    It's the 8yr old he fights sleep he gets same bed routine as the others but will not go to sleep, he hides under the covers with toys, it can be 1-2am before he finally drops off, then up around 7ish, and he is so grumpy when he gets very little sleep

    • ANSWER:
      I was the same way as a child. I could not sleep at all at night. But by morning I'd be sound asleep and ready to sleep the day away. It made school days miserable for me because I was so tired.
      I'm not sure there's a lot you can do to change this. Some people are just naturally nocturnal.

  5. QUESTION:
    Child sleeping with parent! 8 years old?
    Do you think its ok for a little goy to sleep with is mohter at least two to three times a weeek? He is 8 years old and has his own bed to sleep in. She aslo is a live in girlfriend which puts me out ok the couch those days.We are also engaged. Thanks for you help.

    • ANSWER:
      No it is not OK and boy oh boy do you have some competition in that situation.....She should have put a stop to the boy being in her bed 5 years ago give or take a few months and some extenuating circumstances.... He is going to blame you for losing his side of mommys bed and you are going to be the bad guy no matter what...
      if she is a live in GF why are you on the couch, if you are live in BF I can see the logic but I still do not think an 8 yr old should sleep with MOM.

  6. QUESTION:
    How do I get my wife to stop treating my child different from hers?
    She treats her four year daughter old like a princess (This is her nickname given her by her mom), while treating my seven year old daughter like she is boot camp. She is always talking mean to her, complaining to her about her clothes that her mother supplies, the foods that she eats, et cetera. She is nailed for everything, but she will let her child get away with anthing and everything right in front the other one. She insists that my child sleep on the other end of the house by herself, but her child must sleep every night with us. I could go on with paragraphs concerning the difference. She admits that I treat her daughter exactly like I treat my own. Why can't this work both ways? Help.......

    • ANSWER:
      This is a true case of an evil step mom. Your best bet is to drop her like a toilet seat!!!!!! don't look back, you daughter is going through hell, be her father, her protector and LEAVE YOUR WIFE! Then don't get remarried until she's grown. I am sure she could use just some good daddy/daughter time :) :)

      Good Luck

  7. QUESTION:
    Child sleeping at grandparent'ss house?
    I have a 13 month old little boy who's never spent the night over anyone's house. He nurses to sleep at night and sleeps in my bed with me. (No rude comments about that please)

    My parents have been pushing me for a long time to let him sleep over at thier house, which he's only been to once. Partially that's because they have a 3 large dogs and I am terrified of something happening to him. Even if they got rid of the animals, I still wouldn't want to leave my son there because he's never been away from me let alone in an unfamiliar setting.

    This is putting a major strain on my relationship with my mother and I think she's about to end our relationship over it. I can't help the way I feel and my anxiety about leaving him there for a night.

    I feel she doesn't repect my feelings or my life. So, I guess my question is am I wrong for feeling this way?

    • ANSWER:
      If your mother is willing to end your relationship over where you let your baby sleep, I say stick to nursing him to sleep and keeping him in your bed.

      If you can, why don't you both sleep over together. If you're comfortable with it, let him sleep in the bed with your parents. We are staying with my mom for the time while we're moving and I let her sleep with my mom some nights. When I was nursing her (up to 17 months) she didn't go anywhere without me. Too much hassle and it was her comfort.

      If you have anxiety and your son is still nursing then just wait. If she can't accept that, then she'll just seriously have to get over it!

      So you are not wrong. You are the mommy, not her. Good luck.

  8. QUESTION:
    Help With Child sleeping?
    My son who is 8 months old doesn't sleep through the night. He will put himself to sleep during naps and at bed time. He was a good sleeper and ever since he got his first tooth at 4 months. Ever since then he wakes up every 2 hrs even though he's not hungry. Before he goes to bed at night we have a schedule he wakes up from last nap at 4 and is up till 9 when he wakes up from his last nap he gets a bottle and then later some cereal and then another bottle before he goes out for the night he gets a bath to get him sleepy before bed. When my husband and I put him down for the night he's up every 2 hrs after that. We've tried to let him "cry it out" but that doesn't work. He would scream for hours at a time and we live in an apartment so it doesn't make our neighbors to happy. I've taken him to the dr and they said he is fine he's just an active baby he crawls and sits on his own and has 8 teeth. I don't know what else to do can anyone helP?
    My son who is 8 months old doesn't sleep through the night. He will put himself to sleep during naps and at bed time. He was a good sleeper and ever since he got his first tooth at 4 months. Ever since then he wakes up every 2 hrs even though he's not hungry. Before he goes to bed at night we have a schedule he wakes up from last nap at 4 and is up till 9 when he wakes up from his last nap he gets a bottle and then later some cereal and then another bottle before he goes out for the night he gets a bath to get him sleepy before bed. When my husband and I put him down for the night he's up every 2 hrs after that. We've tried to let him "cry it out" but that doesn't work. He would scream for hours at a time and we live in an apartment so it doesn't make our neighbors to happy. I've taken him to the dr and they said he is fine he's just an active baby he crawls and sits on his own and has 8 teeth.And isn't getting anymore for awhile and he does have reflux but he takes cimetidine for it.

    • ANSWER:
      I had the same problem with my baby boy. a friend of my wife told us that is a good idea to feed the baby an 1 hour before they go to sleep and them feed them again when is time for them to go to sleep. this work for us the baby would sleep through the hole night

  9. QUESTION:
    How to help my ADHD child sleep?
    I have a 12 year old ADHD child who is on Adderall. He gets up almost every night and gets into things, like eating and hiding it, or breaking his brother's stuff. His doctor told me to try melatonin and that is not helping. I have 4 children and he is the only one with ADHD and I am at a total loss with this kid. Any advice from other ADHD parents or people that understand this frustration I would love and appreciate some help.

    And for anyone who says its disipline, its not trust me, we have tried everything, and like I said I have 3 other children and if it was disipline I would be having these problems with all of them and I am not.

    • ANSWER:
      I feel your pain!

      The people advising you to give your son coffee or other sources of caffeine don't know what they are saying - it would probably make things worse. Caffeine is a stimulant. (So is Adderall) The stimulant will help him to concentrate, but it's still going to keep him awake.

      It's easy for people to pass judgement on ADHD kids until they've lived and loved with it. It's frustrating for parents, because we're beating ourselves up, wondering what we've done wrong & what we could be doing better. It's frustrating for the kids, because they know they aren't behaving the way they are supposed to. In first grade my son was misbehaving & had his seat moved. He broke down & cried so hard they had to call the principal & guidance counselor. He kept saying "I just want to be a good person!"

      My son has been on Concerta for 3 years. At first it was a Godsend, because it helped him be so much more successful in school. However, I'm planning to talk to his Dr. about an alternative to the Concerta. I don't doubt it's effectiveness for my son, I just think it's time to re-evaluate his needs. Concerta is a 12 hour time release, but for him the effects last much longer. He takes it around 8am, but it doesn't really wear off until about 10:30pm (I know, because that's when he gets really hungry & I'm heating up leftovers for him.) Lately he has been complaining that he can't get to sleep. So, like your son, he is up half the night, but he doesn't do anything destructive. He usually just snacks and watches tv. If he sleeps late on the weekend, I can't give it to him at all, or he won't get any rest.

      My advice is to check with your doctor about changing his medication. What works like a miracle for some people, doesn't work at all for others.

      Good luck.

  10. QUESTION:
    If a child is sexually abused once, yet has no/very little memory of the trauma, could they still have issues?
    Scenario-
    -child of 4-6 sexually abused(hymen was not broken) by another child at daycare facility during sleep.
    -child tells adult is taken to a hospital, police station, ETC big ordeal is made(as expected)
    -child grows up, having no memory of incident.
    -at 13 same child regains vague pieces of this memory.
    -this child's parents never got the child prolonged help( had one hospital session with a shrink after incident happened)

    now this same child grew up and has many self-esteem issues; self conscious, disgusted with body and looks. also up until 12, 13 years old child was weary of being touched by people not trusted. child fears intimate relationships, does not trust many people, very secretive, and very private. masturbates frequently , fantasies about rape, fears parenthood, is extremely shy, loner for most school activities. bad anxiety, fears social situations.

    could these issues above be because of a single trauma even if for most of childhood child was unaware of the sexual abuse?

    • ANSWER:
      Yea, sometimes even years of (insight) therapy doesn’t help this kind of stuff. I have been profoundly affected by molestation aswell. I don’t know if there’s a real difference when it’s child on child. Mine was not. It may have more to do with the fact that said child was asleep at the time. Like someone else said, the subconscious mind never sleeps. You might want to try hypnosis. I learned self-hypnosis a while back and have had some success with it, though I need to delve deeper into it. It is possible to “reprogram” your mind to (I’m just going to assume the “child” was you) trust others, enjoy sex, develop meaningful love relationships with the opposite sex, etc. Masturbating a lot for me has to do with not getting what I need from women (since there are none in my life). So yea, it’s all connected. And yes, even ONE measly bad experience, especially at that age can screw you up for life. A lot of people on here offer therapy as an answer. I’m here to tell you, sometimes it’s not enough. Atleast not traditional insight therapy. There’s also “cognitive behavioral therapy”, which I’ve been meaning to try. Helps with irrational thought processes (conscious and subconscious). Trust is key when it comes to finding love.

  11. QUESTION:
    My baby girl 10 months old not sleeping at night?
    My daughter doesnt have a sleep pattern yet.. She keeps playing till 3.30am and sleeps late.. She sleeps at around 10.30 pm and then wakes up at 12.30 but then no matter how hard i try i cant make her continue with that sleep. Till what age do children sleep late wen will they develop normal sleeping pattern?? Plz help

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  12. QUESTION:
    need help with getting 15mo. old child to sleep through the night?
    need diferent things to try at night to keep my child sleeping she wakes up between 2-6 times a night and its getting ridiculas, please any ideas are useful... thanx

    • ANSWER:
      well, each child is different. My son, being 3 1/2 yrs old.. JUST started sleeping through the night.
      Make sure you aren't giving your child anything besides water to go to sleep with. And try giving her a bath RIGHT before bedtime... use that lavendar/chamomile baby wash... realllllaaxxxinnnngggg

  13. QUESTION:
    are there long term disadvantages of co-sleeping with your child?
    I'm doing a project on the ideas of psychological development of child who do/don't co-sleep (sleep with) their parent(s). So far I've found plenty of information that says its good for the child/mom/dad...
    But i need to argue these points against findings that show that there are disadvantages as well, like the child being less independent or and more dependent on their parents or other individuals.
    Please paste the link in the answer too,
    and thanks everyone for your help!

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  14. QUESTION:
    Co-sleeping with child?
    My son is 2 months old today and I have been co-sleeping with him since the day he came home from the hospital. My pregnant friend came over to help me out with him and slept in my queen size bed with me and him then his father came after she left and slept in the same bed as us... I have become a very light sleeper since having him and it doesnt even take his cry to wake me up just when he starts moving i wake... I went to the doctor and she told me DO NOT sleep with him as it increases the chances of SIDS but my home visiting nurse disagrees... The bassinet i have for him is higher then my bed and it scares me to put him in there because i cant see him at all times or put my hand on him to make sure he is okay. He also will not sleep for more then an hour without me next to him and i told my doctor that and she told me it doesnt matter... What do you think I should do

    • ANSWER:
      As long as you don`t have a soft mattress and careful with pillows and blankets co-sleeping is safe. And if you smoke, don`t co-sleep, the chemicals in cigarettes stick to you hair, clothes and skin. Also if you drink or use any sedative drugs, you won`t be as aware. Some people believe that co-sleeping helps prevent SIDS, ie Dr. Sears.

      I have co-slept with both my children. One is eight, the other is almost a year. It`ll be fine, if you are comfortable. Doctors are kinda obligated to say co-sleeping is unsafe.

  15. QUESTION:
    until what age should a child sleep in her or his crib?
    my niece is gonna be 4 years old next year on feb 26 and she still sleep's in her crib and also she still sleep With diaper's on...she potty train but she is not potty train to sleep With out diaper...

    what to do to get her to sleep With out diaper i would love to help my sister on that..

    • ANSWER:
      At 4, I would think she should be in a toddler bed. As far as the nighttime diapers, I don't know what to tell you. Some kids just take longer to stay dry through the night. If she's really worried about it, your sis can mention it to the pediatrician.

  16. QUESTION:
    What is the ending song for tonight's Flashpoint, July 9th, 2010?
    Episode 34, Behind the Blue Line. Awesome song .... song ... the lyrics sounded like "try to let it go." The first line is "Don't got to sleep child, we're doing all we can." The singer was male, lots of piano, I would love to buy this on iTunes. I have uses Shazam on my iPhone, but like with most tv shows, it doesn't identify it. Any help would be wonderful! Thank you!

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  17. QUESTION:
    parents with experience only-kids sleeping with you?
    ideas on how to help your child sleep on their own? my daughter starts out in her own bed, somewhere in the night i wake and she is beside me (she is 18 mos old). and is there really an issue with her sleeping with me? what are your opinions.

    • ANSWER:
      I have the same issue with my three year-old. I could set up a reward chart, or wake up and put her back in bed, but she's not bothering me. She slept with us as an infant, and she misses her dad now (deployed to Iraq), and I don't mind. She's a bed hog, but I'm used to sleeping with a bed hog!

  18. QUESTION:
    how can i get my boyfriend to stop letting his dog sleep with us?
    I love the dog, but she is a pit bull, she's big and she's a bed hog. She has been sleeping with him since she was a puppy and is a hard headed dog that sighs and pouts. He treats her like a child and it is his baby that is why I am concerned. She is a dog and I don't think that she should be in the bed. I don't let my own real child sleep in the bed with us and my dog sleeps in a kennel. Help.

    • ANSWER:
      Let him know that it's you or the dog. If he chooses the dog, move to the guest room or the couch. He'll soon realize that the dog can't take care of him between the sheets the way you do.

  19. QUESTION:
    When to stop allowing a child to sleep in same bed?
    My boyfriend just recently got his daughter for a 4 month visitation, if not longer. About a year before he split from his ex-wife, he started sleeping on the couch. The mother then started having the child sleep in the same bed as her and continues to do so in their new home. He told me that he disagreed to this behavior but had no control over the matter at the time. We have since discussed then issue and both agreed that she sleeps in her own room and not with us.

    Now that we have her, she begs to sleep in our bed on a nightly basis. Before we got her, I was okay with having her sleep with us because her room was not fully prepared. Partly due to the laziness of my boyfriend waiting till last minute to complete the projected he told me he wanted to do alone. Of course, my boyfriend said that he DID not want her in our bed because he did not want to confuse his daughter.

    After the 1st weekend of having her, she came into the room at an inappropiate time and has now made me feel uncomfortable having her in the bed. He thinks its cute and that his "little girl" is coming into the room. I think its obnoxious of him because he complained so much about it and we had agreed to her sleeping in her own room. Now when I address my discomfort, my boyfriend just tells me that its his child and not mine and makes me feel that my opinion does not matter.

    I do not want to feel petty, but I feel that I have a say in this matter since its also my room (as we share the cost of the home) and my bed (which I purchased prior to the relationship) this is happening in. Since I do not have human children of my own, I am lost for words. When we first got together, I told him that I allow my dog and cat to sleep with me. He told me he did not like that and I started having my dog sleep on the ground. Now any time I try to have my dog lay with me, he tells him in a yelling manner to get off the bed immediatley. I feel this is a double standard and that its okay for his child to crawl into bed, but not okay for my child to lay with me.

    Does anyonoe have any suggestions to help me with this issue?
    I am sorry I left out the age. She is 4 years old.

    No where am I comparing my dog and his child. For those that are misunderstanding the concept, I was simply providing an example where I have made changes in my life to accommodate him into my life before we even knew we were getting her temporarily. A relationship is about give and take. I gave up having my dog sleep with me so he can feel comfortable in the same bed.

    For those with such a negative comment, I have been the one who has told him to fight for, to get her full time and that I would be there to help him through it. For being a single individual with no kids, that is a pretty big step for someone to say to a parent before the parent asks. Because he can be called to work at any point in time during the day, evening or night, I took the intiative to rearranged my life with school, work and Personal life to make sure she comes first before anyone else. To say that I am jealous of her is just purely wrong when I am doing ev

    • ANSWER:
      This child comes from a broken home and may very well need the security that co-sleeping provides. If both her parents are fine with it, you really have no say in the matter.

      Sorry to say, but in this relationship the child is more important for you. You have the option of breaking up and leaving.The child has no such option. If I were you, I would date someone without kids. This is what happens when you date someone with kids and then move in together. A sticky situation you have gotten yourself into, so either accept his parenting style (remember, you chose this relationship) or move on.

      BTW, A CHILD is not a dog, no matter how much you love your dog, sorry.

  20. QUESTION:
    help child sleep in a long flight,help with jet lag?

    • ANSWER:
      Make it so that they sleep on the plane if by the time u get to ur destination it is morning, if there is big time change (like New York to Hong Kong - 13 hours ahead). Tell them that if they sleep on the plane, they will enjoy their trip better. If there is video on demand (like Jet Blue or int'l flights), get them to watch one video then watch another after their nap. But even if u do that, they will still get jet lag later, due to prolonged flight. And tip: make sure they and u walk around, not just to the bathroom, it'll help improve circulation and ward off sickness (like feeling to vomit).

  21. QUESTION:
    unborn child, need help to prepare to fight for custody. Father UNFIT! HELP!?
    How do i prepare for court custody battle properly?
    I am 7 months pregnant. The father whom i lived with in northern california, is the father of a 4 year old boy. I have since moved to southern california to be near my family and friends for support. He is very neglectful of this child, (wont brush childs teeth for days on end, lets child sleep for weeks in urine sheets/blankets, has partys with drugs/alcohol while child is in the other room sleeping) My concern is how can i prove this is going on? I DO NOT want my unborn child to EVER be exposed to this environment when he is born. I do not have any personal bad feelings towards him, i just worry about whats in my childs best interest. What steps can i take now to be prepared for when my son is born? The father is already claiming that he can make me move back to northern cali which i know is untrue. But the threats and e mails will not stop. I am at my wits end and scared to death. He claims tht i HIT him in front of his son, Which is untue. He is an alcoholic with 2 DUI's and openly admits to using marijuanna. Plus i have pictures of all of his bongs/pipres etc. taht were in his home as well as where they are located in the home. I need help...

    Additional Details

    2 days ago
    I cant afford a lawyer. I have printed all e mails sent and have my phone with all text messages. I have pictures of his paraphanalia only, not him USING drugs. Plus i emailed his sons mohter telling her everything i saw going on in his home. She admitted to me that she has givin him food and money just so she can feel OK about leaving her son there. Apparently the other things i mentioned didnt matter to her at all. She is an alcoholic too. I feel lost because i know i need a lawyer and cant afford one. I am on state assistance and they are opening a child support case and will have to establish paternity. Which will in turn leave the door open for the custody, visitation issue. Im scared to death...

    2 days ago
    yes i picked him, but i was only with him for 5 months. After i saw the kind of preson he was, i got out of that environment myself. I had a lapse in judgement in trusting him. You know what they say about hindsight!!

    • ANSWER:
      It sounds like you are trying to do everything you can to hurt the father's reputation. Grow up! The kid needs both of you and its selfish for you to try and take the kid's father away from it. I seriously hope the father sues you so he can get full custody. I feel sorry for your kid that will have such a selfish brat of a mother!

  22. QUESTION:
    For all of you parents whose children sleep with them?
    I have a 6 year old who has been sleeping with me since birth. I know that there are alot of people who "frown" upon it, but for us, it just seems right. Daddy is in the Special Forces and gone about 85% of the year. It's just as comforting for her as it is for me. It still amazes me that between Jerry and I and God, we created this perfect, beautiful little girl. Sometimes in the middle of the night I'll watch her and she'll smile or giggle in her sleep and I can't help but to giggle myself. Our daughter is very emotionally stable. She doesn't have any separation anxiety and is a kind, loving, and nuturing child. When Daddy comes home, he enjoys having her close to us as well. We still have Daddy and Mommy time and when that happens, our daughter is more than happy to stay with her grandparents who have basically helped me raise her. I'm sure the time will come when she'll want to sleep in her room, but right now I'll enjoy what we have. Kids grow up to fast anymore as it is. I hope this post will help calm fears of the parents who keep hearing how "bad" it is to allow your children to sleep with you.

    • ANSWER:
      Thanks. That really helps. I think it is more common than people think or will admit.

  23. QUESTION:
    Help question about Sleeping with our baby...?
    We co-sleep with our 14 month old. I am so nervous at night that he is going to roll over on his stomach and suffocate in the pillows, but we have a king sized bed, and the pillow are large. Does anyone co-sleep and let the child sleep on pillow next to you? Thanks for the answers!

    Oh and please don't respond with how negative this is, this is how we do it. I just want to hear from people that co-sleep as well. Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      My son has been sleeping with us since he was 13 months old and now he's 3. I never had a problem with him and pillows and blankets. Most of the time he slept below the pillows anyway. So.. hope this helps.

  24. QUESTION:
    I'm having sleeping issues with my toddler and 3 month old?
    I know this is absolutely horrible but my children sleep when they want they have no set nap or bed time. Since before the baby was born I decided I knew I was going to be up a lot so I let my toddlers sleep schedule slip and now where having issues cause she's tired and cranky all the time.
    Now as for the baby she will not sleep unless I'm laying with her or unless she is in her swing or in the van. Now I want to get her in her crib for at least naps. She is just about 4 months old is it to late to swaddle her for her. I know for the most part I deserve this but our family will be going through some difficults times as my husband was diagnosed with cancer. So we can't have grumpy children around. I'm also not sure how to put my girls down to sleep if he's not home. Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      You simply need to decide what schedule you want your children on, and stick with it. It is not an easy transition, but it will be the best for them in the long run.

      It normally takes an infant 1-2 weeks to adjust to a new routine. A toddler takes up to 2-3 weeks.

      Stick to the routine/schedule you have decided on. That is the biggest challange. Don't give in.

  25. QUESTION:
    How to proceed with divorce or separation?
    My husband has been trying to "discipline" my son by yelling and spanking him hard these days when my son gets too close to me. We have been co-sleeping with our almost 2 yr old toddler since he was about 10 months.. prior to that he wud sleep in his bassinet and crib. While I prefer co-sleeping.. my hubby prefers my son sleeping in the crib. I'm ok with that. Last nite, at 3am my husband ( who was up late ) tried to get my son to cuddle with him. My son was asleep cuddled with me prior to that. In his sleep my son refused and cried to be back with me. That infuriated my husband and decided to discipline him at 3am by spanking and yelling at him ... a sleeping child. That woke up my son and he started crying even more coz his sleep was interrupted. I told my hubby to postpone the discipline to the next day and not in the wee hours of the nite. But he wud not listen and that led to a big fight between us .. since I was not going to just sit and let him spank my son in the nite. The next afternoon my son and hubby were sleeping in the afternoon in the bed. After a 2 hr nap my son began to wake up. I decided to lie down next to my son and take a short nap. Since my son was done with his nap .. and since he saw his mommy ( me ) he decided to cuddle with me. He was saying smthg and moving a little which woke up my husband. My husband then tried to pull my son to him which my son refused to do and cried to be with me. My husband got angry and said that I was spoiling him and that my son shd not insist on being with his mother and so again yelled and spanked him. That led to another fight with him and me since I told him that he was spanking the kid for no fault of his. Am I wrong ? Am I missing something ? Is there such a thing as a child being too close to his mother ? I dont think so ... becoz I love my child and I love being with him and cuddling with him. I started feeling that it was my fault for sleeping in the bed with my son and hubby. That maybe if I had slept in the next room my son would not have wanted to be with me and cud have been spared the spanking. I told my husband that this was breaking me emotionally. We in general have problems with our marriage and we trying to be together for the child. But I think that our being together is obviously causing jealousy issues with my husband and we have terrible fights in front our child and this is not good for the child. Our son gets stressed out when we are togehter.. when we even talk sometimes and when we fight, our son screams to make us stop. When I told my hubby that he shd not be getting jealous of my relationship with my son .. he denied that he was jealous and said that he was only disciplining our son. I asked my hubby for a temporary separation. He said I cud leave but that he wud not let me take my son with me. The only way he wud allow that is if we get divorced. I am not thinking of a divorce now. But I need a break from my husband. I am fiancially independant and can be on my own .. and all I want is a temporary separation. I suggested counselling earlier .. but hubby does not want it. He said I cud get counselling myself .. that he did not need it and that the problems in our marriage are becoz of me and that I need to chg. I did go see a counsellor .. and she said that unless my hubby comes too it wont help. That was 2 years ago. Hubby hasnt agreed for counselling so far and I have given up on things improving between us. I dont know ... maybe he wants me to file for divorce and is manipulating me to do so... or that he doesnt want me to move out and he knows that I am not ready for divorce and so is playing hardball by asking for a divorce... either ways he is manipulating me and I dont like it. What shd I do ? How shd I proceed ? I really want to separate ... not divorce and I dont want to go thru a lawyer .. .lawyers are really expensive. Is it possible for me to move out with my son without hubby's permission ? I am ok with him having my son with him half of the week. How do I do this without a lawyer and without calling the cops and without pressing any charges against my hubby or bad mouthing him ? I just want a separation with joint custody.
    Dot .. the problem is that we are past the cuddling stage. Our marriage needs a whole lot of repairing before we can get back to cuddling each other. So rt now the only person we want to cuddle is our son. But ya .. we will move him to his crib for his sake. But that doesnt solve the problem that my hubby does NOT like seeing my son and me getting close.

    • ANSWER:
      Wow, and you are still there because??????

      Get out now. Read back what you have written. How is this man treating your child. He is abusive, angry and a manipulator. He refuses help, blames everyone else.

      Get a lawyer and get out before he hurts this child permanently. Oh and file a police report. Spanking a child because an adult cannot get his own way is disgusting.

  26. QUESTION:
    car stolen, will insurance pay?
    my car was stolen out of our driveway . i wanted to go to work and had everything in the car . i left to get my sleeping child andwhen i went out the car was gone . not even 3 minutes later. they recoverd the car . damaged but not the person yet . my husband is affraid that the insurance will not pay since the keys were in the car along with all my creditcards and house keys .the car was on our property next to the house . i have nightmares about it . please help

    • ANSWER:
      good luck , most ins; co; will not pay if keys are left in

  27. QUESTION:
    Read and comment please? Need help!?
    This is the 3rd time I've posted it, and I don't seem to get very many comments, so I'm hoping it's 3rd time lucky.
    It's my sisters (13) for a school project. What do you think? How can she improve it so far?

    Ana walked to the window, Sky: her child, in her arms. Soft snow fell as tiny teardrops from the dark pregnated clouds. Condensation and mist had already begun to collect on the pane, though soon subsided as the young baby's hand rested on the pale glass. He soon moved to his mother's breast, his hands cold and sharp, but reassuring. But still his delicate, starfish shape hand print lay alone, imprinted in the mist. Unable to resist her urge, Ana lifted her own slender hand to the faded pane, and pressed hard enough so that her lips creased as a wave of pain fell through her body.
    Outside, the moon waned silenty above the singing sleep of everyone in the town. Yet still Ana had not been able to sleep and instead had chosen to comfort herself by holding her child. The warmth of the young child's heartbeat against her own subtle heartbeat forged a smile through her quiet tears. A simple kiss of hope embedded itself on her lips as she touched the now sleeping child. His hands still spread open, his tiny nails digging into her flushed skin. *How silent and peaceful he is* Ana though, cradling his head by her arm, waiting for his shallow breath to just brush against her fingers.
    And from the tainted silence, a stirring cry rivered from another room. At first Ana refused to hear the painful scream and instead attended to lying her child in his cradle. Still the newborn had not been awoken by the wail, his eyes still fused together with the love she bore him. But Ana could not ignore the cries now. She could not cry, laugh or speak. Beneath her breath she counted the seconds between cries and waited as the tears edged down her pale cheeks and onto her lips. Even then, despite her tears, Ana felt no emotion. Then, as she began walking towards the open door of the nursery, the crying stopped. She laid her palm against the cold metal of the door handle, and pushed gently. Her hands now resting on the door, she leant her body on the wall and looked through the open gap. An unspoken silence whispered in Ana’s ear, as everything dawned upon her. Her eyes bled with the pain she longed to conceal, but could not. A sense of guilt pulsed through her finger tips as they pressed against her lips, waiting for the pain to subside. Running her fingers along her neck, she traced her son’s handprint down her breast as she leant against the wall. It was small, and faint, but distinguishable from the rest of her pale flesh. Her skin flushed as her cold hand clasped her chest, and with a faded smile, she returned to the child’s room, where; her child slept distantly. His soft complexion and delicate lips pursed as Ana rested her hand on his head, running her finger down his nose and along his chest between each shy breath. Sometimes Ana would imagine Sky lying in his cot, his small hands clenched over his face, eyes closed as he gently began to stop breathing. In her imaginings, Ana could do nothing, she’d hold her baby against her breaking heart, and try to wash the pain away with her tears – but nothing seemed to work. Even the gentle kiss of Ana’s soft lips on his own would not wake him. But with nights like these, she could not remember these images. All she cared about was protecting her child, holding him in her arms, laying him on her breast when he cried and telling him there was nothing to fear, even when she was frightened herself. If she could do nothing else, she would comfort him.
    Ana woke to the sound of Sky laughing subtly in his cot. She watched by the door as he put his hand through the gaps between the wooden bars and clutched them with his fingers, running his palm down the ridges in the wood. The early sun shone through the curtains and onto Sky’s face as he desperately moved to shield his eyes with his palms. Ana leant in to kiss his forehead as she took him under her arm, sitting by open window so she could nurse him. Ana thought back to just a few weeks ago, when she had held him for the first time. They were the memories she would always remember; but he would not. It had been a quiet night. Ana could not remember what time the contractions had started, but knew that it must have been late in the evening for there were no children outside – or maybe it was just that Ana had not been able to concentrate on anything else. She had sat by the fireplace playing with names in her head and occasionally whispering them under her breath as the fire light warmed her face. Reaching into her pocket, she put the ultrasound picture on her stomach and waited in silence, flinching as Sky progressed and the contractions started again. It had been a home birth, but Ana did not regret that. Perhaps it was her guilt that persuaded her to not cry for help. But whatever it was: Ana could not regret it.
    Ana rested
    I realise that perhaps it looks quite scary at first, and understand that had it been in a book or written in hand or put in additional details instead it would be easier to read. Sorry - But I posted this for comments on the actual writing, not how I posted it. x

    • ANSWER:
      i'm sorry, this is just too long for anybody on yahoo answers to care... maybe try to space it out, post your paragraphs individually. i realize this is not what you were hoping for but... sorry

  28. QUESTION:
    Need help with a painting artist and year?
    The painting was a woman and a child sleeping on a couch with a man kissing the womans hand.On a book on the floor it says M. Goodman and the date 1902.

    • ANSWER:
      Sounds like this is a painting by the British artist, Maude Goodman (1860-1938). Her works (complete list of works) are very hard to find. Good luck. I'm not sure what the title could be.

  29. QUESTION:
    William Blake poems: which lines would you cut?
    I have to recite poetry for my class sometime soon, and I have chosen to do William Blake's
    "Little Girl Lost" and "Little Girl Found"

    It should be somewhere between 14(min) and 30(max) lines so I'm most likely going to start with about 10 lines from Little Girl Lost and end it with 10 from Little Girl Found

    Which lines would you cut in order to make the poems flow and have it make "sense"

    Little Girl Lost:
    In futurity
    I prophesy see.
    That the earth from sleep.
    (Grave the sentence deep)

    Shall arise and seek
    For her maker meek:
    And the desart wild
    Become a garden mild.

    In the southern clime,
    Where the summers prime
    Never fades away;
    Lovely Lyca lay.

    Seven summers old
    Lovely Lyca told,
    She had wandered long.
    Hearing wild birds song.

    Sweet sleep come to me
    Underneath this tree;
    Do father, mother weep.--
    "Where can Lyca sleep".

    Lost in desert wild
    Is your little child.
    How can Lyca sleep.
    If her mother weep.

    If her heart does ake.
    Then let Lyca wake;
    If my mother sleep,
    Lyca shall not weep.

    Frowning, frowning night,
    O'er this desert bright.
    Let thy moon arise.
    While I close my eyes.

    Sleeping Lyca lay:
    While the beasts of prey,
    Come from caverns deep,
    View'd the maid asleep

    The kingly lion stood
    And the virgin view'd:
    Then he gambolled round
    O'er the hallowed ground:

    Leopards, tygers play,
    Round her as she lay;
    While the lion old,
    Bow'd his mane of gold,

    And her bosom lick,
    And upon her neck,
    From his eyes of flame,
    Ruby tears there came;

    While the lioness
    Loos'd her slender dress,
    And naked they convey'd
    To caves the sleeping maid.

    Little Girl Found:
    All the night in woe
    Lyca's parents go
    Over valleys deep,
    While the deserts weep.

    Tired and woe-begone,
    Hoarse with making moan,
    Arm in arm, seven days
    They traced the desert ways.

    Seven nights they sleep
    Among shadows deep,
    And dream they see their child
    Starved in desert wild.

    Pale through pathless ways
    The fancied image strays,
    Famished, weeping, weak,
    With hollow piteous shriek.

    Rising from unrest,
    The trembling woman pressed
    With feet of weary woe;
    She could no further go.

    In his arms he bore
    Her, armed with sorrow sore;
    Till before their way
    A couching lion lay.

    Turning back was vain:
    Soon his heavy mane
    Bore them to the ground,
    Then he stalked around,

    Smelling to his prey;
    But their fears allay
    When he licks their hands,
    And silent by them stands.

    They look upon his eyes,
    Filled with deep surprise;
    And wondering behold
    A spirit armed in gold.

    On his head a crown,
    On his shoulders down
    Flowed his golden hair.
    Gone was all their care.

    'Follow me,' he said;
    'Weep not for the maid;
    In my palace deep,
    Lyca lies asleep.'

    Then they followed
    Where the vision led,
    And saw their sleeping child
    Among tigers wild.

    To this day they dwell
    In a lonely dell,
    Nor fear the wolvish howl
    Nor the lion's growl.

    I know, this is pretty tedious
    but I'd reeeally appreciate the help and yes of course I will be choosing best answer.
    Thanks a lot! xo

    • ANSWER:
      First, I don't understand why you haven't chosen the normalized, modernized spelling and punctuation for "Little Girl Lost" when you DO use it for "Little Girl Found." As you can see, reading "Little Girl Lost" with Blake's idiosyncrasies intact is unduly difficult. Here's the modernized version of "Little Girl Lost": http://www.poetryloverspage.com/poets/blake/little_girl_lost.html

      I also find it strange that you choose two narrative poems of the length these are and the connection they have and then decide you can chop them down to 30 lines maximum. This is, after all, Blake, whose Songs of Innocence and Experience are full of masterful concision. What you propose is butchery. Why not do one of his more sententious poems, like "Auguries of Innocence"? It would be extremely easy to cut a poem like this down to your 30 favorite lines:
      http://www.artofeurope.com/blake/bla3.htm

      But, in the interests of trying to preserve the two poems in the best way possible, I've tried my hand at destroying them enough to suit your purposes. Even so, the new version(s) come to 46 lines:

      "Little Girl Lost" and "Little Girl Found"

      In the southern clime,
      Where the summer's prime
      Never fades away,
      Lovely Lyca lay.

      'Lost in desert wild
      Is your little child.
      How can Lyca sleep
      If her mother weep?

      'If her heart does ache,
      Then let Lyca wake;
      If my mother sleep,
      Lyca shall not sleep.'

      Sleeping Lyca lay,
      While the beasts of prey,
      Come from caverns deep,
      Viewed the maid asleep.

      Leopards, tigers, play
      Round her as she lay;
      While the lion old
      Bowed his mane of gold,

      And her bosom lick,
      And upon her neck,
      From his eyes of flame,
      Ruby tears there came;

      All the night in woe
      Lyca's parents go
      Over valleys deep,
      While the deserts weep.

      Till before their way
      A couching lion lay.

      They look upon his eyes,
      Filled with deep surprise;
      And wondering behold
      A spirit armed in gold.

      'Follow me,' he said;
      'Weep not for the maid;
      In my palace deep,
      Lyca lies asleep.'

      Then they followed
      Where the vision led,
      And saw their sleeping child
      Among tigers wild.

      To this day they dwell
      In a lonely dell,
      Nor fear the wolvish howl
      Nor the lion's growl.

  30. QUESTION:
    HELP!!! I'm pregnant and he wants me to leave my friends, family, and job and move in with him!!!?
    I have a 12 year old and he has a 10 year old. I am nine weeks pregnant and am supposed to be moving in with him in 6 weeks. He lives an hour away and I will probably commute 2+ hours a day during pregnancy. After the baby is born, he doesn't want me to continue working so far since he won't get to see the baby that much since I will take it with me to my work daycare so I can still nurse.

    I might be okay with not working (if he helps me out financially) after the baby is born if I had friends and family near him, but I don't. I'm afraid I will be putting myself in an isolated position, without friends, family, or work. And having to figure out to help our kids get along is going to be difficult, since we are both defensive about our children and I have already seem some "finger pointing" when I try to address how to solve issues with the kids not getting along.

    My child doesn't like his house, does not get along with his child, and doesn't want to change schools. My child is older but seems to be getting hurt often from his child (it seems to happen when his child gets bored), and I can’t seem to make it stop. I told my boyfriend I can just give my child permission to fight back, but he wants to continue working with his child instead (which isn’t working). I feel like I am not giving her any resources to defend herself or make it stop. And I am terribly concerned after last week when I told him his child was kicking my sleeping child and he said it wasn’t “entirely his child’s fault”. Then he added that my child kicked his nephew (which sounded like he was trying to escalate the problem by finger pointing). I'm concerned there might be some territorial issues with the kids since his child is already acclimated to that being his house. Also, my child will be giving up a home and school to live in a small room in a house she feels is scary (its real old).

    He can’t meet me halfway and us move somewhere in the middle since he just bought his house and will lose his First Homebuyer’s Tax Credit. But he also is considering moving out of state soon. I was open to moving to the state my brother lives and may have led him to believe that I was okay with moving anywhere, but after I see how things are turning out, I don’t think that is a good idea anymore.

    I’m afraid I might resent him after giving up so much to move in with him. I really do want to be with him, I just wish I didn’t have to lose my career, friends, and family. I’m afraid if I don’t move in with him and give everything up, then we will break up. Does anyone have any advice?

    • ANSWER:
      I wouldn't move if I were you. You need to sit down & have a long talk with your b/f & share with him ALL of the things you've shared here. If you really want to be with him for the rest of your life, you need to learn to talk to him about problems within the family. Good luck to you.

  31. QUESTION:
    What do you think so far? Help needed?
    Well my sister (13) has to write a short story with the title 'No Regrets', and I was wondering what level you would give this if you were a high school teacher based on what she's written so far.
    Enjoy:

    Ana walked to the window, Sky, her child; in her arms. Soft snow fell as tiny teardrops from the dark pregnated clouds. Condensation and mist had already begun to collect on the pane, though soon subsided as the young baby's hand rested on the pale glass. He soon moved to his mother's breast, his hands cold and sharp, but reassuring. But still his delicate, starfish shape hand print lay alone, imprinted in the mist. Unable to resist her urge, Ana lifted her own slender hand to the faded pane, and pressed hrd enough that her lips creased as a wave of pain fell through her body.
    Outside, the moon waned silenty above the singing sleep of everyone in the town. Yet still Ana had not been able to sleep and instead had chosen to comfort herself by holding her child. The warmth of the young child's heartbeat against her own subtle heartbeat forged a smile through her quiet tears. A simple kiss of hope embedded itself on her lips as she touched the now sleeping child. His hands still spread open, his tiny nails digging into her flushed skin. *How silent and peaceful he is* Ana though, cradling his head by her arm, waiting for his shallow breath to just brush against her fingers.
    And from the tained silence, a stirring cry rivered from another room. At first Ana refused to hear the painful scream and instead attended to lying her child in his cradle. Still the newborn had not been awoken by the wail, his eyes still fused together with the love she bore him. But Ana could not ignore the cries now. She could not cry, laugh or speak...

    What level would you give that (for example 6-, 6, 6+, 7-, 7, 7+ etc.)?
    And could you correct any mistakes she has made please?
    Thanks,
    Lisa.Rr x

    • ANSWER:
      that is extremely good! very detailed and very good use of sentence structure and imagery. i would maybe extend the ending a bit and relate it back to the title as it is a bit ambiguous.
      i think that is definitely worth a grade A/A* (not sure how the levels work..)
      i love the line, "dark pregnated clouds" :D

  32. QUESTION:
    How do i get this child to sleep?
    I just recently opened a daycare center and i have a child that starts falling asleep at the table. Just as soon as I put that child on a mat to sleep they start screaming. I have tried leaving her up but she wants to play with the bigger toys. She is waking up my whole center and no one is sleeping past an hour i have other kids suffering because she screams and wakes them up. What do i do? Im thinking daycare may not be for her. Help!!

    • ANSWER:
      TRY TO GET THEM ALL ON THE MAT BEFORE NAP TIME IF THEY HAVE THEIR SLEEPING BAGS PUT THEM ON THE MATS SINGSONGS WITH THEM THEN LAY DOWN WITH THEM AND SEE IF THIS HELPS

  33. QUESTION:
    How to move 2 year old from sleeping in our bed to his own bed?
    My 2 year old son has been sleeping with us since birth. With my other 2 children, I had no troubles moving them to a crib between 6 months and a year old. We talked to them, let them cry it out while checking on them every 15-20 minutes and after a night or two they went to bed fine. We tried this with my son and he would throw up in the crib when we let him cry for about 3 nights so we gave up. Now he is 2 and no longer has a crib (he can climb out of it) and has a toddler bed. Any advice on how to get him in his own bed?? We are expecting another child in September and would like the toddler in his own bed by then. Thank you for any help.

    (Please don't lecture me on a child sleeping in the bed with us, it was a choice made by me and my husband and we do not regret it with any of them.)

    • ANSWER:
      I let my oldest son sleep with me for too long too while my husband was in Iraq. I solved the problem by getting him a new bed. We went to IKEA and he picked out one w/ a tent on top and a fort-type area underneath it. He "helped" put it together and then picked out his sheets and bedding. That was all it took b/c he was soooo excited to have a new bed he loved.

      ***Added***
      It did take a couple of months for him to stop coming in our bed completely. We never took him back to his room when he did (like many suggest) but he stopped doing it all together within a month or so.

  34. QUESTION:
    When did your baby/child sleep through the night consistently?
    My daughter started sleeping through the night fairly well at 6 months of age. However, at around one year or sooner she started going through phases of waking up in the night occasionally. She's now 17 months, and she does this about once a week. AGGHH!! I realize that night waking goes with the territory when you have children, and that's fine. But I was just wondering, for those of you with older children, how old were they when they consistently started sleeping through the whole night (i.e. you didn't go to bed wondering what time they would be up at!!).

    Edit- She also has had chronic ear infections since about 12 months, which partially accounts for her night waking. We are likely going to have tubes put in, which will hopefully help us all sleep!
    By consistently, I mean all night, every night (barring illness or other circumstances) for 6 months or more.

    • ANSWER:
      My daughter slept through the night once at 5 weeks and then consistently from 8 to 14 wks. When I went back to work full time at 14 wks, she started waking again. Now she still wakes up once or twice each night and she is 7 mos. Sometimes she wakes up five or more times! I have found that her naptime during the day greatly impacts her night sleeping. My friends say their 2 year old and 4 year old still wake in the night occasionally. I think the babies wake as their sleep cycles change and toddlers occasionally can't go back to sleep after waking (waking is part of your natural sleep cycle, adults just go right back to sleep without even knowing they woke up).

  35. QUESTION:
    Which Story Should I Write?
    I'm writing these stories, but I only want to write one (along with The Faerie Queen), and I can't decide which.

    The first is called The Creatures in the Mansion (better title needed). It's a detective story. The two detectives, Samantha (Sam) and James are called to investigate the 14-year-old murder case of two teenagers and a mother, that disappeared in a mansion one day. Only the mother's body was ever found. The mystery just becomes more complicated, as James and Sam must try to decipher the secret of the Creatures in the Manion...
    Here's an extract:
    Sam cast about, looking for something, anything substantial. How could she and James solve a murder if there was no body? The hallway was dark, and smelled damp and old. She looked up and saw a rope tied into a noose hanging from the ceiling. She shuddered. Her flashlight lit up a small area of the room. She cast about, and the light revealed a red patch staining the oak floorboards. Kneeling down, Sam realised it was blood. She jumped up, opening her mouth to tell James, who was also looking around. Instead of speaking though, she screamed.
    With a cry, Sam suddenly tripped on the uneven floorboards.
    “Sam!” cried James, reaching out, but not in time. She fell- through the wall. It just gave away, and she was left sitting dazed on the floor in a different room. Disoriented, she looked around, and spotted some broken pottery and scraps of fabric in a corner. There was more blood in this room; staining the floor, splashing the walls, spattering the ceiling.
    “James! Come look at this!” she called, getting up and rubbing her head where she’d hit it. He walked in after her, and stared in awe. Evidence of a violent, brutal crime was everywhere. Meanwhile, Sam walked over to investigate the pottery and fabric. Her eyes widened.
    It wasn’t just discarded, torn fabric.
    They were clothes. Clothes that had been ripped, torn to pieces and stained with the same blood that decorated the room.
    And that wasn’t pottery, either.
    They were fragments of bone.

    The second is called Sally (again, might need a better title). It's about a 16-year-old maidservant living in Victorian times. As a baby, her mother handed her to a stranger in the middle of the night. Sally doesn't even know who her parents were. But as Alistair, the man who took her from her mother, reveals more about her mother, Sally goes on a quest to find her with Frederick, Alistair's son. But if Sally discovers her past, will she wish it just remained secret?
    Here is an extract:
    Alistair knocked on the door of the grubby, run-down house. The same woman that had been there last week answered. She looked worse; thinner, and paler. The circles under her eyes were bigger, and darker. But her dull brown eyes filled with a small kind of hope when she saw him.
    “Thank God you came. A lot of people wouldn’t. One moment.” She thanked him, and disappeared inside the house. She came back carrying the blonde baby, and a leather bag. The child was sound asleep, and even the way her mother’s hands shook as she held her daughter didn’t wake the baby.
    “Here.” Gasped the young woman, pressing the baby into Alistair’s arms. He could se her strength was failing. “Her name is Sally. Please take care of her. In the bag are some gifts, from her to me, and her birth certificate.” She explained, handing Alistair the bag. “Please, make sure my daughter doesn’t fall into an orphanage or workhouse. Take care of her, like she was your own. My Sally.” The girl pleaded. Her face split into a smile, and she gazed fondly at the sleeping child.
    “You’re ill.” Stated Alistair. “Let me help you. You’ll die.” He offered. The girl shook her head.
    “No. I just wanted Sally to be safe. I’d rather die than go back.” She explained, and with a last, loving look at Sally, she closed the door. Alistair looked at the child, troubled; he could only just support his own family, let alone Sally too. But he would care for her, for the sole reason that abandoning her would be disrespectful to the dead, as her mother would surely soon be.

    So, which story should I write?

    • ANSWER:
      I think you have a solid start to both of your stories. The first one catches my interest more directly and immediately than the second, due in part, to the fact that it has a little more original of a spark. Both seem like great ideas but the first really stands out more to me. Feel free to send me a message or e-mail if you need any assistance with developing your plot, editing, making your work sharper or working out your title. I'd be more than willing to assist in any way I could!

  36. QUESTION:
    Should i be able to move out?
    I'm 17 and have a daughter. I've been living at home with my mother and stepdad but recently things have gotten really really bad. My mom and i can't get along for anything.Our fights gets physical on her side a majority of the time. A couple nights a go she hit me in the face while my sleeping child was in my arms because she claims i said everything is her fault. She emotionally abuses me constantly by telling me i'm incapable of caring for my daughter and delusional. She recently decided that I can no longer date the father of my child after he sent her a text pretty much tellin her to burn in hell after I told him she had hit me. As of right now She has disconnected my cell phone, turns the internet off when she feels like it. She doesn't allow me to have any contact with my baby's father when she hasn't allowed him to be very involved in her life since she was born 7 weeks ago. My baby's dad family has told me that i'm welcome to move in with them. If i try to leave my mother threatens to turn me in as a runaway and fight me for custody of my daughter. I've been looking into emancipation.
    BTW; I have been taking care of my daughter on my own. My mother does not allow my babys father to help financially so she holds that over it me. I do have a steady job while finishing my senior year and earning college credits. So do not tell me I'm not able to care for my child without her

    • ANSWER:

  37. QUESTION:
    can you help me in the explanation for Edward Dowden's poem First Love ?
    My long first year of perfect love,
    My deep new dream of joy; She was a little chubby girl,
    I was a chubby boy.

    I wore a crimson frock, white drawers,
    A belt, a crown was on it;
    She wore some angel's kind of dress
    And such a tiny bonnet,

    Old-fashioned, but the soft brown hair Would never keep its place;
    A little maid with violet eyes,
    And sunshine in her face.

    O my child-queen, in those lost days
    How sweet was daily living!
    How humble and how proud I grew,
    How rich by merely giving!

    She went to school, the parlour-maid
    Slow stepping to her trot;
    That parlour-maid, ah, did she feel
    How lofty was her lot!
    Across the road I saw her lift
    My Queen, and with a sigh
    I envied Raleigh; my new coat
    Was hung a peg too high.

    A hoard of never-given gifts
    I cherished, priceless pelf;
    'Twas two whole days ere I devoured
    That peppermint myself.

    In Church I only prayed for her
    'O God bless Lucy Hill;'
    Child, may His angels keep their arms
    Ever around you still.

    But when the hymn came round, with heart
    That feared some heart's surprising
    Its secret sweet, I climbed the seat
    'Mid rustling and uprising;

    And there against her mother's arm
    The sleeping child was leaning,
    While far away the hymn went on,
    The music and the meaning.

    Oh I loved with more of pain
    Since then, with more of passion,
    Loved with the aching in my love
    After our grown-up fashion;

    Yet could I almost be content
    To lose here at your feet
    A year or two, you murmuring elm,
    To dream a dream so sweet.

    thank you in advance ^^

    • ANSWER:
      Dowden was an Irish professor of English Literature at the end of the nineteenth century. Here he writes a typically sentimental reminiscence of a little girl he developed a crush on when he was a little boy.

      He says how they were both young, and how they both dressed in children's clothes. How the girl he crushed on had flyaway hair (much commoner, and more acceptable, in young children - particularly in the 1880's) and how he envied the nurse who walked her to school.

      The poem is really just a list of aspects of two young children who have developed a crush on each other. The point of the poem is to make us think how sweet and innocent childish love is. (Dowden specifically contrasts childish love with its more mature form - which he clearly doesn't like as much:

      Oh I loved with more of pain
      Since then, with more of passion,
      Loved with the aching in my love
      After our grown-up fashion;)

      There is a strong hint that the girl child never grew up - but died in childhood:

      In Church I only prayed for her
      'O God bless Lucy Hill;'
      Child, may His angels keep their arms
      Ever around you still.

      Since Lucy never grew up, Edward would not have needed to deal with the awkward transition to an adult emotion.

      .......

      The sentimentalisation of childhood, and the sentimentalisation of death (especially the death of children) were standard features of Victorian art. One sees similar representations of childhood innocence on postcards, and sentimental prints.

      These days with infant mortality much lower, most people would consider Dowden's sentiment here mawkish - and there is certainly something dubious in any poem which has such a positive attitude to a child's death.

      But the Victorian's were dealing with a different reality. They sentimentalised children partly because it was such a dangerous period of life. Modern society probably sentimentalises AIDS related deaths the same way.

  38. QUESTION:
    Help me Interpret this very Vivid Dream!!?
    Last night I had a dream that seemed so real to me that I need some assistance with figuring out what the dream means. In my dream I did not seem myself rather it was like I was looking a scenes from a movie. I saw the street in front of a house although I did not see the house I knew where I was. This was where I use to live a very long time ago when I was a child. Then I saw a silver BMW that was parked on the opposite side of the street start to pull out onto the road and it appeared to have had a sleeping child laying on the trunk. Then came what appeared to be a homeless man and pulled the child off the trunk of the car onto the ground. The man then stood over him looking down at the body that then turned into a dead man. The man stood there for a second and then started to run down the street and behind was a mass of people. Then suddenly I was in what appeared to be the apartment where I am suppose to move to in a few days inside things were unfinished and there was some unfinished wood stairs that went to a second floor to and open door. Then the lady from the leasing office said to me that I did not want to live there because the sewage came up thought the toilets( Although I could not see myself I knew she was talking to me) then I woke up.

    I would appreciate any help I can get with this dream, just to put my mind at ease.

    • ANSWER:
      The fact that you're not seeing this dream through your own eyes means that you're trying to distance yourself from the message.

      The dream starts at the place of your childhood; it represents your childhood. An expensive car drives away from this place -- in your success you are abandoning your childhood. This becomes embodied in the child.

      The child is you-as-child. You're attempting to take your inner child away from the situation of your childhood, but I have to say you're not doing it very well. You don't even put the kid in the car; apparently you don't even tie him down like you might a deer.

      I'm not making fun of you, but I'm saying you don't seem to take the kind of care of your inner child you ought to.

      So, enter the bum. The bum isn't going to let the kid leave the situation of childhood -- that's your inner headtrip of childhood -- we all have one. You think this tendency of hanging on to the childhood situation will bring you into poverty. That's why you represent him as a bum. The idea is that the stuff that's still with you from childhood is incompatible with the professional success it sounds like you're having.

      The effect of this is that it's killing you. (The body.) Your response to that is to flee; the mass of people is probably everyone's expectations of you. And that's interesting, because the bum's flight from everyone is similar to the car attempting to drive away. A lot of avoidance.

      So, back to the theme of success -- not in terms of flight now, but in terms of safety. A nice place, not entirely finished, stairs up to the next level, room to climb -- a good place to live, if you're a climber -- but the problem with living there is that you'll have to deal with an unbelievable amount of crap.

      So, all together, this is a portrait of a person who's professionally successful, but who doesn't know how to deal with the stuff from childhood. So you've been avoiding it, trying to put it behind you.

      While in its way that's admirable, and sometimes it's the advice that society gives us, the thing is that if we have unfinished business then putting it behind us doesn't make it go away.

      It's best if you find a pro to help you work this stuff out. Pick something meaningful to you, whether it's art therapy, spiritual guidance, hypnotherapy, or talking things through with a psychiatrist. Get engaged with the process and make sure you can relate to the professional.

      I don't mean to imply that I think you're in especially bad shape; I'm not saying that at all. But I *am* saying you ought to put just as much care and effort into your inner mind as you do on your appearance or keeping your bedroom tidy. Both because you shouldn't have to deal with freaky dreams and because it'll improve your moment-to-moment experience of life.

      Take care,

      Conrad.

  39. QUESTION:
    madelene disappearance?
    I live in Portugal, just a mile down the place.
    For too long, we have had to live with the searches.
    For too long, here, most of us have made our minds on incomplete facts, and with prejudices.
    For too long, we have had to see the familly going into fame advertising.
    This has to stop and Madelene has to be put to rest, or the guilty to be found.
    A friend just asked me question that, I believe, has never been asked:
    "What IF the girl was NOT in her bedroom to start with? That is, she was already dead?"
    I have friends who were there at the time, and they told me that the "evening visits" to the sleeping child did NOT happen.
    So the question above MAY be of importance.
    Has the police (ANY police) ever consider the possibility that the child MIGHT not have been in the room when she was "abducted"?
    In that case, the search should not be to "what happened after", but to "what happened BEFORE" the tragic dinner.
    Any thoughts?
    I intend to work out this possibility. I need your help!
    I shall repost this several times: forgive me!

    • ANSWER:
      the mc canns are wealthy people and have influence in government

      in Britain wealthy people rarely go to prison and hardly ever end up on court , just look at our government stealing money from us
      most british people do not believe the mc canns stories

      its one rule for them and another one for us
      the mc canns are becoming wealthy celebrities for neglecting 3 babies

  40. QUESTION:
    How does this piece of writing sound? Could you help me edit it?
    So I've started a short novel, here's chapter one, help me edit it?! I haven't gone over the spelling yet, just working on getting the lines flowing nice.
    Thanks a bunch!

    I was wirled out of bed, stumbling into the antique nightstand where I felt my hand go through the old photograph of Daddy and Mamma that used to comfort me so long ago when sleep seemed so far away. I stood for a second, crying inside, but there was no time for that. Her hand was enough to drive your tooth right through your cheek. I lay on the floor, anticipating her next blow. I managed to catch a glimpse of my alarm clock, Six fifteen, five minutes late.

    I was 15, living with my twin sister and grandmother. Daddy had left us in the care of Mary after Mamma's disappearance nearly seven years ago.
    Grandmother was extremely strict and highly abusive. Many times a shake to the body or a slap to the face served as a punishment for a minor miscommunicated order.
    Despite Grandmothers bad qualities, Kelsey and I were pretty well off in the money world. We had top quality clothes, grand dresses and the nicest house in the area for miles with acres and acres of rolling green hills with grand white fences. I have to say, the view was quite spectacular. It was spring so the forests were tinted with light green buds, the gardens began to sprout wild colours and the whole earth chimed to the returning spring song of the birds. The sun sat low, but the rays felt warm and comforting against the skin.

    Our days were rather boring and repetitive. We were to be up, dressed and lined for Grandma by six ten. Breakfast was at seven and school at seven thirty. We got home from school at three thirty, completed our homework and changed for dinner by five pm sharp. Chores were at six, then bed at nine. Nothing rarely ever changed, except Saturdays and Sundays. Sundays were my day, free to do what I please. I covered Kelsey's chores on Saturdays, she covered mine on Sundays.
    If for any reason you were to be late for any of these times, I'm telling you, the consequences you will pay are not worth it.

    I flashed back to when I was nine, waking up to the sweet smell of scrambled eggs and toast. I raced Kelsey to the table, the first one to the table would get to sit beside Daddy. I was rounding the final corner when I caught a glimpse of something in the kitchen. Rubbing my eyes my thoughts were soon confirmed. Daddy was making breakfast., but where was Mamma?

    we were ordered to wash up and be seated for breakfast. There was a hurting tone in Daddy's voice as he sat to eat. Something was wrong. It spread an uneasy feeling over me, like a mother spreading a blanket over her sleeping child. Daddy explained how Mamma had "gone away on a long trip" and didn't know when she'd be back. Kelsey bough this, but I was no dummy. I sensed from his shaky voice and trembling hands that something wasn't right. I had a feeling she wasn't coming back.
    I know it was not my right to know what went on and why Mamma decided to leave us, but it really bothered me when Daddy hid the entire truth from us and soothed us with hugs and reassurance that she would be back soon as if we didn't sense something was up. The way I looked at it was this, Mamma went on a long trip to some unmentioned place without taking us, never mind telling us and leaving Daddy a wreck. Yeah, something was wrong with that picture, she wasn't coming back.

    Lost in the past, I stumbled to my feet. Weakly I left my fingers to my tender lips where I felt for evidence of Grandmothers attack. A fat lip, split gums and a deeply gashed and swollen hand from the wrist down. It sparkled and shimmered with remains of a beloved possession which once sat proudly on my nightstand.
    As I reached for my alarm clock, I heard the faint squeak of the old oak floorboards outside my bedroom door. Quickly I hopped to my feet, realizing I had done some damage to my right knee cap. The door cracked open and Kelsey silently stepped in, observing my destroyed room. Slowly her eyes turned to focus on me. I watched her eyes travel from my swollen knee to my fat lip. Her hand fluttered to her mouth as she flew to my side. I really didn't know what the big deal was. I mean, what could be so new and alarming about a fat lip, a purple knee and a gashed hand? Maybe Kelsey was just being over exadurative. With the help of her hand, I stood to grab my clothes and only then did I see the stream of red running down the floor and felt the rush of dizzy pain.

    I'm 14, btw. d=

    • ANSWER:
      Omg that was really wonderful! Especially since your only 14! You have a lot of talent, keep writing! There are only 4 mistakes I spotted. One is that In the 5th paragraph of the story, there was a typo, where you said Kelsey bough it instead of Kelsey bought it.

      Another mistake I spotted was that you said you are 15, and your mom left around 7 years ago. That would mean you would be around 8 years old, but in the 5th paragraph you said you were 9.

      There also were some sentences you forgot to capitalize, like in the 5th paragraph.

      The last thing I realized wrong was that you forgot to indent your paragraphs. When you form a new paragraph you leave a space at the beginning. This helps to easily distinguish earch paragraph not only for the reader but for paragraph - by - paragraph editing purposes.

      But all of those are just minor mistakes that is just a part of the editing process, other that that I found your story to be flawless and really, really good. I'm very proud of you :) Thanks for this wonderful piece of work! I would love to hear more from you!

      If you need any more help, feel free to email me any time: lexibearx3@yahoo.com

  41. QUESTION:
    Parent's expectations?
    for the past few years of my life, i've drastically changed my lifestyle to suit my parent's expectations. i use to be a messy, lousy at school, doing nothing but sleeping child but now i work hard and receive good grades. i help out with dishes and taking out the trash. and my parents always spoke with some praise when they talk about me to other people. however, no matter how good of a student i might be, they were always disappointed with me. why? i never got along with my sibling, especially with my toddler sister. i've always stayed in my room to study and left everyone else alone. it seems that whenever i go out of my room i only attract rain clouds. my older brother, who is not very bright and is always sleeping, brought more smiles to my parents than me. does it matter if i'm bright or hard working if i dont show compassion to my siblings? it seems that i'm doing everything right, besides my family relationships. yet all my work, for nothing?

    • ANSWER:
      I understand how you feel, since I'm in a more or less similar situation. I'll say from experience that relationships with your family, both parents and siblings, are a lot more important than any grades. My advice is spend some time with them, get to know them, kill off those expectations and be genuine, get to know them as people.

  42. QUESTION:
    Portugal: Madelene disappearance...?
    I live in Portugal, just a mile down the place.
    For too long, we have had to live with the searches.
    For too long, here, most of us have made our minds on incomplete facts, and with prejudices.
    For too long, we have had to see the familly going into fame advertising.
    This has to stop and Madelene has to be put to rest, or the guilty to be found.
    A friend just asked me question that, I believe, has never been asked:
    "What IF the girl was NOT in her bedroom to start with? That is, she was already dead?"
    I have friends who were there at the time, and they told me that the "evening visits" to the sleeping child did NOT happen.
    So the question above MAY be of importance.
    Has the police (ANY police) ever consider the possibility that the child MIGHT not have been in the room when she was "abducted"?
    In that case, the search should not be to "what happened after", but to "what happened BEFORE" the tragic dinner.
    Any thoughts?
    I intend to work out this possibility. I need your help!
    I shall repost this several times: forgive me!

    • ANSWER:
      There are and have been so many conspiracy theories about what happens and this is not the first time I have heard this one, but the fact is that none of this can be proven and people need to stick to the facts

      The issue is that a little girl is missing and it is not proven that she has been killed, so she is still officially missing.

      Now whilst that might inconvenience local residents, if you are a father then put yourself in the shoes of the parents or grandparents of Madeline. Would you ever stop looking? Publicity is the only way to get new facts and for people to carry on watching whilst they are abroad. You call it fame advertising. I call it the acts of parents who are trying every possible avenue to getting people to remember their child and to carry on the search for her, and to discover the facts

      The Portuguese police frankly did an horrendous job of investigating this case. There were so many errors that they should frankly be ashamed. I have read a lot about "both sides of the story". The British media are very pro-parents and the Portuguese media very anti-parents (but there have been no facts that the parents have killed her).

      The media has a strong influence in how people's perceptions are formed so I will not comment on this aspect further

      However, as a mother I(noting the fact that I never have or would leave my kids alone like that in the first place), if this happened to me and my child, I would do exactly the same as the McCanns. I would never let this rest and constantly be trying to find out what happened, and where my child is.

      If you are a parent or a grandparent then put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself what you would do.

  43. QUESTION:
    i need help understanding a peom?
    This house, pitched now
    The dark wide stretch
    Of plains and ocean
    To these hills over
    The night-filled river,
    Billows with night,
    Swells with the rooms
    Of sleeping children, pulls
    Slowly from this bed,
    Slowly returns, pulls and holds,
    Is held where we
    Lock all distances!

    Ah, how the distances
    Spiral from that
    Secrecy:
    Room,
    Rooms, roof
    Spun to the huge
    Midnight, and into
    The rings and rings of stars.

    • ANSWER:

  44. QUESTION:
    Can someone give me some feedback on my writting please?!?
    This is just an excerpt from something I've written:

    So many people, their voices speaking over each other until no sound around me was comprehensible to the point of audio-chaos. My body became anxious and my blood began to boil under my skin, I could feel my face getting red hot with the tension and the back of my neck start to sweat. But before I was completely coerced into a state of panic I felt cold muggy hand barley touch my forearm with an odd sort of grace from behind, as I turned my breath came short realizing it was Skylar. Her face had shifted in an instant it seemed, her skin became a pasty vanilla color of ill, her eyes glazed but terrorized at the same moment, she was unrecognizable. I pivoted around so quickly on my right leg I didn’t even notice I had moved. She didn’t blink; I held my mouth agape in speechlessness and utter shock. Skylar reached her trembling hand toward me again, I don’t know why I didn’t react, take her hand, say her name, all I could do was stare at her like I was staring at a dying angel.

    A swell pierced my throat as she tried to grip my arm, but failing the minuet she curved her bloody carved knuckles around my dirty pale wrist. She looked at me directly in my eyes as if I were the only person in the world, my mind quickly flashed to the moments and memories in my life where this was the only thing I had ever wished of her, but romance was far and dismally away from this place, this gaze was a sharp look of nothing but trust and a burning need for help. The moment quickly changed as her fragile looking body began to heave deeply from within her breast. Instantly her knees toppled and her body tumbled into a sick lifeless drop to the ground, a jolt of adrenaline surged throughout my whole corpse and caught her in the midst of her plummet to the cold earth. I lifted her head and held her like a sleeping child, bending my knees forward and back trying to find balance in the chaos as I picked her up.

    No one seemed to notice at all what had just happened, I switched my head around looking for someone to help, how could no one see?! I could feel my arms begin to jitter involuntarily under the backs of her knees and shoulders. I looked down at her face, it was inhumanly calm and soft, her eye lids were sealed so gently and the tired swollen caves under her eyes had a beauty of their own. For so long I had craved to see her, but my wish had come with an atrocious lug .A hot meek breeze fluttered at the dark hairs that had fallen onto her docile face as her pink lips parted but hardly with a resound liquid tick. At that moment her hideous beauty had distracted me from the bedlam that surrounded us, in the awkward position that I held her the weight of her head slipped from my shoulder and slopped facing the ground head dangling in a stomach-turning way, between the open crease created by her lips began to stream a thick dark line of red blood draining onto the ground and my torn shoes. My arms and legs became parlayed as I gaped at the sight, while my mouth let out one short and quiet wail of pure raw terror.

    • ANSWER:
      Awesome!! Your absolutely wonderful at writing! This is great! Love the description and vocabulary! I gasped when I saw the word chaos because that is my favorite word! Ha!
      I have one question, will you put dialogue in it? I'm just asking, but you don't have to!

      I helped you, PLEASE help me!!

      http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AomsP__78bQIhyew0acalTjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090910192942AARR8KD

  45. QUESTION:
    how do you deal with your boyfriend and the father of your child sleeps with someone else? help plz?
    answers to kyliehall@hotmail.co.uk

    • ANSWER:
      You dump him. Period. Why would you want to stay with someone that you can't trust and sit around and wonder what he's doing all the time? That's not a good thing for your child to see either.

  46. QUESTION:
    how to make my child sleep..19 months old?
    these are the things i have tried...
    1-sleeping in my bed..doesnt work
    2-rocking to sleep singing, reading, talking, ect...
    3-crying it out....doesnt work been doing it for almost a month and he will cry all night if i let him
    4-strict schedule..i mean really strict
    5-letting him make his own schedule..
    6-late warm baths,
    7-early baths, letting him play before bed after bath to try and wear him down
    8-warm milk before bed
    9-nothing to drink before bed
    10-no naps during the day
    11-a nap at the exact same time every day..
    12-letting him fall asleep in my bed, then trying to move him
    13-giving him dinner right before bed. and not giving it to him before bed
    14-driving in the car...wont let me move him without him waking up
    15-rubbing gums with alchoholic beverage

    the only thing i havent tried is cat nip...lol
    please help me...all of the doctors i see tell me that there is nothing wrong, but i feel different, help

    • ANSWER:
      Is it falling asleep or sleeping all night?

      You are doing everything I have ever done. What we do is a bath, book, warm milk routine. Sounds like you tried it. I also try to get a good hour outside before we start the routine. We just run around a lot.

      Sometimes only time helps.
      Wish I could help!

  47. QUESTION:
    How do I get my child to sleep in her crib?
    My daughter is almost 17 months old and she will not sleep in her crib. She has slept with me since she was born. I have her crib two feet away from my bed but she will not sleep in it at all. I really need her to sleep in her own crib. The older she gets the harder it is going to be to break her from sleeping with me. Please help me!!

    • ANSWER:
      During the day if she takes naps you should put her down in the crib. Maybe even put her in her crib to play & she might just tire herself out & eventually fall asleep in it.

  48. QUESTION:
    Teething and not sleeping. Help.?
    Hi there my little one is 20 months now and she is a late starter with her teeth she got her first one at 15 months and now has 2 bottom, one top molar, one top middle and she now has 2 cutting at the same time ones a molar and a fang i feel really sorry for her and give her painkiller and things to chew on but she is really suffering with them.
    Its worse at night as she will not sleep she is always crying out for me and i am forever going into her as soon as i go in she settles then 10 minutes later shes crying again least to say i have not had alot of sleep for weeks now.
    Last night was really bad as she was awake at 1 and did not go sleep till it started getting light at about 5am in the end i put her in our bed as i was fed up of getting out.
    What else can i do to help her she has painkiller things to chew on and plenty of loves and cuddles i am getting really worn down as everyday i am having to deal with a grumpy tired child its a vicious cycle i cant seem to get out of and me and my partner are both shattered.
    All her teeth are coming all in one go and the poor little mite is just not herself she keeps getting viruses as she is that run down.
    What did you do to help your child sleep whilst they were teething? i dont want to keep putting her in our bed as she will get used to it so tonight i am going to camp on the floor in her room if she starts so at least my partner can get some sleep. Any advice would be helpfull.

    • ANSWER:
      i hav d same problem

  49. QUESTION:
    Hi, i need help interpreting this poem called death snips proud men by carl sandburg. can someone help me?
    DEATH is stronger than all the governments because
    the governments are men and men die and then
    death laughs: Now you see 'em, now you don't.

    Death is stronger than all proud men and so death
    snips proud men on the nose, throws a pair of
    dice and says: Read 'em and weep.

    Death sends a radiogram every day: When I want
    you I'll drop in--and then one day he comes with a
    master-key and lets himself in and says: We'll
    go now.

    Death is a nurse mother with big arms: 'Twon't hurt
    you at all; it's your time now; just need a
    long sleep, child; what have you had anyhow
    better than sleep?

    • ANSWER:
      Well I think he's jsut getting at the fact that death has dominion over us. Humankind is arrogant, we act as if we are the masters of the universe which is where "pride" comes in but he is pointing out that next to death we are nothing.

  50. QUESTION:
    State Law on co-sleeping with your child?
    I am a 26yr old single mother with a 7 year old daughter. At times I allow her to co-sleep in my bed. I raised her that way, she has co-slept with me pretty much all the time up until age 6 when I told her she was big enough to start sleeping in her own bed. My ex-husband (her father) is now hollering that it's against state law to allow your child to sleep in your bed when they are older than 3 yrs and that he is going to call CPS on me. He told his mother that and she's close to me so she called me and told me about it. I told her that I highly doubt that there is any such law, but that I would look into it. Well, I've called CPS and they couldn't tell me that such a law existed and they told me to ignore him. I called the County Sheriff office and they told me to call the Attorney General Office who also did not know of such a law and said it was "ridiculous" and advised me to call a Family Law Attorney and maybe they could help me. I don't have the money to hire a Family Law Attorney so, that's why I'm here.

    Has anyone ever heard of such a law against co-sleeping with your own child?

    I am in Texas, BTW.

    TIA
    The people I spoke to didn't know of a law, but said that didn't mean it didn't exist. No one I spoke to could tell me for certain that no such law existed.

    • ANSWER:
      There is no law in any state prohibiting co-sleeping at any age.


Help With Sleeping Disorders

Heartburn, as most people know, isn't really your heart catching fire, its just that the pain comes from that area. This pain is caused by a condition known as acid reflux, where liquid from your stomach goes in the wrong direction, moving up the oesophagus, or refluxing. As this acid attacks the tissue in your oesophagus (your throat in other words) it causes a great deal of pain and this pain often feels like it's coming directly from your heart. Some people have mistaken severe attacks of acid reflux as actual heart attacks.

Small amounts of this happen with everyone, and most people will have experienced the foul taste of vomit in the mouth when you're not actually being sick. However, with severe acid reflux, known to scientists as Gastroesophageal Reflux Disorder, or GERD, acid stays in the throat for longer, causing much more pain.

During the day, acid reflux happens frequently in tiny amounts, as your stomach churns around digesting food. Unless you eat lying down, this generally isn't a problem, as the acid drains straight back to the stomach, and the next time you swallow, saliva neutralises and flushes out any remaining acid.

It's at night while you are sleeping that acid reflux can cause real problems. Fluid will find it much harder to drain out while you're lying flat, and this is combined with the reduction of saliva production and swallowing. It's also the time when you want to sleep; the last thing you want is to be rudely awaken to a mouth full of acid.

While anyone can suffer from acid reflux, certain groups are far more prone to it. The high hormone levels associated with pregnancy can trigger severe bouts of GERD, as the lower the pressure in the stomach and allow the valve joining the oesophagus and the stomach to relax, allowing acid to move upwards. This is made worse by the baby pushing the stomach upwards, therefore forcing some of the fluid out.

Minor acid reflux will lead to minor symptoms like heartburn, regurgitation of food and perhaps nausea. If it's more severe, then logic says that so will the symptoms be more severe. Acid can damage the oesophageal lining, and the body will respond by swelling the lining to get a better blood supply and aid the healing. An ulcer can often form, and bleeding may occur. When this happens, blood transfusions or surgery may be necessary. If you suspect your acid reflux is severe then you should see a doctor immediately.

Several steps can be taken to reduce the effects of acid reflux. Sleeping with a pillow that tilts your head forward slightly can aid drainage back to the stomach, and trying to eat less but more often will prevent your stomach from overflowing, which is often a cause of acid reflux. Don't go all out, but try cutting back on spicy or acidic foods like citrus fruit or fizzy drinks, and reduce consumption of chocolate, peppermint, alcohol and consider stopping smoking.

Experiment and see what works, its different for everyone so find something that works for you.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    What are some key theorists or scientists associated with sleeping disorders?
    I would like to know about some people who are important when learning about sleeping disorders, if you know of anyone specific to a certain sleeping disorder, or sleeping disorders over all it would help a lot. Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      There's an excellent book, Handbook of Self-Help Therapies. It has a chapter on insomnia that could probably help you. If you can't find a copy in your library, you might get names from a Google Book Search.

      You might as well buy it. This is the kind of book every household should have, like the Red Cross First Aid Manual.

  2. QUESTION:
    Tv episodes of movies dealing with sleeping disorders?
    I'm writing a paper for my Psychology course, and we have to find a tv show or movie that shows a disorder like insomnia, sleep apnea, narcolepsy, or sleep deprivation in general. the problem is, i can't think of any! The only idea i have so far is the movie Insomnia, but i've never actually watched it. Any one out there know of something? It can be any tv episode or movie, I greatly appreciate the help!

    • ANSWER:

  3. QUESTION:
    I need help with sleeping disorders?
    I am researching sleeping disorders for a story I am writing, I know I want the character to be unable to sleep, (example: she can't naturally go to sleep, she needs sleeping pills to make her fall asleep.) but I was wondering if that was a disorder or if there was something similar...

    • ANSWER:
      Insomnia is a frequent cause, but what many people dont know is Anxiety and panic disorder also causes sleep related drug/alcohol abuse which is used as an excuse to allow them to sleep through the night.
      For some, going to bed is a time when they feel alone and vulnerable. A few beers takes the edge off and makes them feel more at ease.

  4. QUESTION:
    what sleeping disorders can cause u to holar in ur sleep and tlk outloud should i seek medical help for this?
    people complain about my sleeping patterns including my husband it even wakes me up sometimes is this nightmaresthis has been going on for along time whats wrong with me?

    • ANSWER:
      Read about this disorder. See if it fits your behavior while sleeping.
      http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro99/web1/Cohen.html

      More information on it:
      http://uuhsc.utah.edu/sleepcenter/disorders.html

      http://www.emedicinehealth.com/disorders_that_disrupt_sleep_parasomnias/article_em.htm

  5. QUESTION:
    need help from people with sleeping disorders?
    ok so, I am writing a paper for my english class and I decided to do it on sleep and how it affects your life and I need some people who have a sleeping disorder, like hypersomnia, insomnia to tell me some of their experiences and how it affects their daily life, also if you have experienced sleep paralysis I would appreciate it if you told me about your experience, I'd like you to leave your first name only and your age so that I may observe what age sections sleeping problems happen most often and so that I have proof that I did not make any stories. thank you very very much!!

    • ANSWER:
      Restless leg syndrome with periodic limb movement disorder is a serious sleep disorder. It causes a person to feel uncomfortable at all times. The more you relax the worse it gets. So when its time to fall asleep is extremely difficult.When experiencing painful or unnerving sensations the urge to move is instinctive leaving a person unable to be at relax or rest.
      Periodic Limb movement causes a person to move throughout sleep. These movements cause constant arousal's from sleep and happen so much a person does get restorative sleep.
      Restless leg disorder is extremely difficult to treat. The medications available for RLS are Parkinson's disease drugs and/or opioid.
      Some people get relief from avoiding caffeine,cigarettes and some certain antidepressants. Others have more severe forms and rely on dopamine agents and benzodiazapines in order to rest. Opiods and certain seizure medications are used to combat the pain. Most medications only work so long. Before you know it RLS over shadows the medication. RLS is progressive meaning it tends to intensify with age.
      I am 32 and have had RLS/PLMD since childhood. It started off as a nuisance and became a constant intrusion. Medications have failed to be adequate but lessen RLS's intensity. One can only hope more research wil be done and treatment other than opiods will be available.

  6. QUESTION:
    Can teenagers get insomnia/sleeping disorders?
    Okay, so simple question: Can teenagers get sleep insomnia? I ALWAYS have trouble falling asleep which is REALLY annoying and aggravating. If I try to talk to my parents about it, they blow it off like I'm too young to have a sleeping disorder EVEN THOUGH they both have sleeping disorders and take prescribed medications for it. You'd think they'd realize it runs in the family, but obviously not. I have a feeling I may have insomnia or some other sleeping disorder because I can't seem to find myself tired until the wee hours of the early morning (usually between 1-3 am) and even then, I have to pry myself into bed and hope to god I get tired. It's really frankly pissing me off especially when my parents don't listen. It's not that I DON'T want to go to sleep I WANT to sleep but can't. And at sometimes when I skype with my friends, it's like 11 pm to 12 am and they are like falling asleep at their computers wondering how on Earth I'm still awake and not even a bit tired. SO what do you think? Could I possibly have a sleeping disorder?

    Don't say to be more active in the day, I do plenty in the day and even when I've had long, tiring, stressful days, I still cannot sleep.

    And don't say to go to bed earlier, because how can I do that if I'm not tired!

    Any opinions will help, I'm considering trying to go to my doctor, but like I said, my parents blow me off. Thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      A delayed sleep phase disorder is the most common sleep disorder of adolesence. This condition is characterized by difficulty falling asleep until much later in the day. This is very common and to some extent staying up later is a normal physiologic feature of adolescence.

      However, when the issue becomes distressing to you it would qualify as a disorder. Usually the biggest problem with this condition is that school requires you to get up five days a week by 7 am or so. If you don't go to sleep until 2, you are getting by on five hours of sleep per day. Many teens make up for this by sleeping until (or past) noon each weekend day--parents often interpret this as laziness when it is, in fact, a normal response to sleep deprivation!

      Is this your pattern (less than 6 hours of sleep on weekdays and sleeping until late morning/early afternoon on weekends)? If so, you probably have a delayed sleep phase disorder. The most straightforward way to fix this is to get up at a set time every morning, including weekends. Eventually you will get sleep deprived enough that you will be tired and fall asleep at a more socially acceptable time.

      There are other causes of insomnia, like depression and primary insomnia, that affect teenagers as well. If the above doesn't sound like your problem, it is a good idea to see your doctor for an evaluation.

  7. QUESTION:
    help with sleeping disorders?
    lately I have been having serious sleeping disorders. they're are becoming so bad that I normally don't get sleep till 6 am. as a result I wake late and am unable to sleep early the next day. btw I am a heavy sleeper so no alarm clock can wake me which makes it even harder to wake up early. in addition to that where I live isn't very safe so I cant go for a jog or something to exhaust myself and get sleep. I really want to stop this and get back to normal .

    ANY ADVICE????
    I know the cause and have for a long time. its because a few weeks ago I took a night flight and I am not able to sleep on flights so I stayed u all the time in the plane and didn't sleep till 7 am when I got home that same day I woke up at 2 pm. and ever since then it's been this way.

    • ANSWER:
      Hey :)

      I'm sorry to hear about your problem. Lack of sleep is incredibly difficult to deal with at times, not to mention detrimental!

      I think you need to sit down and try and back track, try and pinpoint what may have caused the change in your sleep pattern. We rarely experience such a drastic change for nothing.

      Hopefully this may shed some light on the initial cause. If not, then I'd advise you to seek medical counsel. Not simply as a means of obtaining sleeping tablets, merely for the advice and for a general health check?

      Doctors aren't just there to hand out prescription drugs - sometimes their professional advice is all that's needed.

      The three articles underneath may help. The first is simply related to falling asleep - how to prepare yourself prior to retiring. The second offers info on quality sleep - in terms of sleep aids and the third one is about foods that may help you settle down and sleep better overall.

      None of it is rocket science and you won't find info relating to prescribed drugs. They're all about natural ways to assist you to sleep easier or to return to a natural sleep pattern.

      Ultimately - as I said at the start, try and identify the cause, it would be a good starting point upon which to base your journey back to a good nights sleep.

      Good luck :)

  8. QUESTION:
    "Seroxat" as a cause for sleeping disorders? help?
    hey,

    so basically, i'm taking "seroxat" daily cuz i have ocd. i've been taking it for a few years, and i had a lot of problems with sleeping for these past few years. so a few months ago i decided to stop taking the meds, and after a month or so the sleeping disorder vanished as i predicted (i always thought it was the seroxat causing it). however the ocd symptoms had risen dramatically as well, so now i started taking it again, and the sleeping disorders started again too.

    now, it looks like i'm gonna have to live with the pill, because i definitely feel much better when i'm on it anxiety-wise. but i was wondering if anyone experienced these problems too, and do you have any suggestions as to solving it.

    note - my problem with sleeping is actually the falling a sleep part. i just can't seem to relax my mind a fall asleep. i have to be really really tired to actually fall asleep and that results in sleeping a really long time - over 10 hours at least - due to the tiredness. this way every night i go to sleep later and later and every morning i wake up much later too.

    well, thanks a lot in advance :-)

    • ANSWER:
      Unfortunately a majority of AD HD meds (seroxat, ritalin etc) are amphetamine based which shares a chemical structure with the street drug 'speed'. A side effect of amphetamine is that it keeps people awake. The best advice I can give you is to see your GP or doctor.

  9. QUESTION:
    What kind of doctor do I need to see for a sleeping disorder?
    I need to get back my sleeping pattern. I sleep no more than 3 to 4 hours and I wake up about 3 to 4 times with in those hours. I have tried everything recommended and nothing seems to work. I feel depressed and tired. I have no energy and eat at all hours of the night, so I've gained weight too. I need to see a doctor but don' t know if a reg. MD can help or if I need to see a specialist? I am also in school and under a lot of stress from that and, this coming up year I have a great deal taking place. Have had this sleeping problem for a couple of months now and I need to get back to where I was. HELP!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      The Dr you will need to see is a neurologist. But you must go to your regular internist first because most insurance companies require that. He will then send you to the specialist who will then send you to a sleep clinic or sleep lab where you will do a sleep study. Good Luck. A lot of people have your problem and it can be fixed.

  10. QUESTION:
    Is there a sleeping disorder involving nightmares?
    Ok, my best friend... Has been having nightmares lately. And they've been getting HORRIBLE... He can't sleep and he's gone 3 days without any sleep what so ever. He refuses my advice of going to the doctor and is taking nearly OD of sleeping pills...
    Is there any disorder connected to dreams? Please... I need help with this! I love him and this si driving him crazy and I can't stand him like this.

    What should we do?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes, Night Terrors. Also some sleeping pills can actually cause severe Nightmares so taking more can make it worse! Night Terrors is a name for a sleeping disorder that usually effects children but has been known to effect some adults too. It usually takes the form of a nightmare associated with the sense that something or someone ominous is in the room and the dreamer is paralyzed and must scream out but cannot do so. In real life the sleeper may actually be paralyzed and then begin flailing and screaming.
      Going 3 or more days w/o sleep can produce psychosis in an otherwise mentally healthy person. I do not doubt that it is "driving him crazy" and you "can't stand him" this way. He needs psychiatric intervention asap.
      Meanwhile you and I can pray for him. Never underestimate the power of prayer. It has been researched and found to work. I am praying right now.

  11. QUESTION:
    Sleeping Disorders? Woke up In a diffrent room. Help?
    Hey, Last night I was watching TV in my own Room and had my computer on as well wide awake and it was around 10:30-11pm. I wasn't tired or sleepy I was wide awake watching TV and then I wake up In my moms room under her computer desk with a pillow at 3:30 am. I also had a very strange dream of protecting her and my younger sister since I am the man of the house at night. I couldn't explain it I don't see
    how it was sleep walking if I was WIDE awake sitting watching tv. When I was telling my mom about it, Her body was fading away and I had to move to see if she was still there which was pretty fucking weird.Also,When I woke up all confused of being in my moms room I go to my room and see that the window was closed when It was open and the blinds were half way and when i came back they were all the way down.(dont remember pulling it down when i checked my room.) I also suffer from Sleeping paralysis(not as often before), I have a REAL hard time falling asleep at night sometimes I don't sleep till 8-9 am in the morning.Also when I do fall asleep at night I wake up at 2-4 am each time. Pretty much my sleep time gets screwed up alot, also have bad memory. Any suggestions What This means First time happening. Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      it sounds like you should see a doctor... that does sound pretty wierd..

      if you do want to try some natural, sleep aid, I used it as a flight attendant, melatonin (spelling??) it can be picked up at any vitamin store...

      I never woke up drowsy, it apparently just mimics the chemicals your brain releases when you fall asleep.

      it is very mild. and I never felt drowsy with it (before falling asleep or when waking up)

      good luck, it really sounds like you should see a sleep specialist.

  12. QUESTION:
    Advice on sleeping disorders?
    Okay, I'm 18 yrs. Old and I am a female...if this will have any signifigance. I seem to be tired a lot. Even when I get a good amount of sleep. The other day I went to bed at a normal time...lets say 12 30 midnight. I woke up at 4 30 pm the next day. That's about 16 hrs. But that happeneds more then once every 2 weeks. Other times I sleep for at least 12. I still feel tired all the time even with that kind of sleep. But I can't help it. Its making me depressed and angry. People say when I'm sleeping its almost like I'm in a coma...no one can wake me hardly. Please... does anyone know what this is?

    • ANSWER:
      Maybe you have mono. It causes you to be sleepy constantly.

  13. QUESTION:
    A lot of sleeping disorders, help?
    I have a lot of trouble sleeping and it's getting very stressful and affecting me during the day as well.
    It can take me up to 1-2 hours to sleep (with the odd case being more than this).
    But then once I'm asleep I wake up at least 4 times through the night, with my total sleep time being between 3-5 hours. I often lie in bed thinking over and over, and being in bed with the TV on results in me falling asleep faster, although not by much. I also have very vivid dreams normally, often lucid dreams too. Also I have dreams where I believe I'm awake, in many cases I'm looking exactly where I was before falling asleep, then I'll be overcome with fear and something frightening will suddenly happen, my head will make loud noises and I'll wake, not in pain though. Tonight for example before coming on this I was sleeping and I was lying in bed and looking at the wall, I got a strange ringing in my head and then it felt as if some 'thing' threw me out the bed, it's frightening because I don't realise I'm sleeping then something like that will happen. My research on line suggested hypnagogic hallucinations and exploding head syndrome. Excessive alcohol is the only thing that keeps me asleep, but for my sakes I don't want to head down that road.

    My question is getting a bit long winded so a quick few personal points to aid in answers.
    I'm 20 years old, a bit overweight, but muscular, I often do weights, and I'm a frequent walker.
    I'm not a confrontational person, shy around new company, not so much anxiety though.
    In some dreams I see my childhood fear which was a clown with melting skin called Shwado;
    The clown told me it's name, maybe being able to remember that nightmare phase so well affects me in some way?
    I'm quite intelligent and creative, sometimes quite impulsive, 'on the spot' decisions.
    Once a week/fortnight I will binge drink around 30-40 units. (I've actually reduced this over time, and still working on it, I know it's bad).

    Searching Yahoo questions only gave me partial answers to some symptoms I have.
    I want advice before any doctor visits.
    Also medication is a last resort.

    • ANSWER:
      ask your doc to refer you for counselling it may help

  14. QUESTION:
    Is It Possible I Have A Sleeping Disorder?
    My Husband seem's to think i sleep to much, that when ever he see's me its when im sleeping. I just cant seem to help it. I work from 4am-9am everyday, then i have school 11am-8pm tuesday's & thursday's. I just don't get it, could there be something wrong with me?

    • ANSWER:

  15. QUESTION:
    Do i have sleeping disorders?or watever? Read details? I'm 13 & a girl?
    Couples days ago i just woke up in the morning Still a little tired then went back to sleep then i had a wierd dream of a creepy little girl with long hair,pale white, & with a long dress just staring at me creepily Then it's like in my dream i'm paralized i try moving and calling for help but i cant I was trying to call for help but i couldnt scream or talk told at all i can only whisper So i think i was kinda awake but still dreaming. I pretty sure my eyes were kinda open & i was dreaming at the same time still calling for help. Then when i woke up i was sweating So bad & asked my little sister if she can sleep with me incase i have a bad dream agian.

    Ook i slept with my mom one time because my Dad painted my room So i slept in my moms room one night then i forgot what kind of dream i had But i remember in my dream i was hitting my head trying to wake up really bad then in the morning my mom told me i was hitting my head last night (like banging on my head)

    • ANSWER:
      What you experienced is something called lucid dreaming. It is very common in people your age and younger, look it up on Wikipedia.

      I had one were a monster was chasing me on a tricycle and the sensation felt really real. In a lucid dream you feel as though it is real life.

      There are ways to force yourself into a lucid dream which involves a sensation of paralysis. Which is why you felt paralyzed. Most people will do a reality check to see if they are in a lucid dream.

      Bottom line is that you had a very common lucid dream and they are nothing to worry about. Sometimes they can be very exciting and fun and other times they can be horrifying, but almost all have this out of body experience where the experience feels realistic.

  16. QUESTION:
    I think I have sleeping disorders?
    Could these be a sign of Sleep Apnea? Here are some things that heppen:

    1. Sometimes while in bed (Usually from waking up) I try to get up, but phisically can't. I start by moving my toes if I can, then work my way up. This happens all the time...

    2. Sometime while going to sleep or already alsleep, I feel like I am falling and I hit the ground, and my body jumps up without my control.

    3. Usually while trying to go to sleep I would breathe out slowly, and try to breathe in, but without control I hold my breath & eventually breathe out when my body feels like it.

    I am 23 years old with asthma, please help!

    • ANSWER:
      Sleep apnea is when you stop breathing during periods of REM sleep. These things are happening to you as you fall asleep. They sound alot like sleep paralysis or little like a neurological disorder. And as always, stress must be considered a factor. Have you taken any OTC treatments for sleep in the past? And if so, how did this affect your sleep patterns. If you find that sleep medications assist with this problem then the cause is more than likely psychological. Sleep ceneters are VERY expensive but also very helpful. I found a great technique to tracking the nature of my sleep disorder is to keep a sleep journal. Record any unusual happenings and the day and time they occured. Also, (if not a neurological condition) pay attention to events that ocuured during the day that sleep problems occur. You will be suprised how much direct, external influnce can have on our sleeping patterns. Worst case scenario, you can see a doctor for a prescribed medication, but I would only do that as a last resort. I have been taking sleep medicine for 3 years now (every freakin' night) and I really wish I could sleep with out them but I just cant anymore...I've become extremely dependant on them now. Its important that you exhaust all other avenues before taking a chemical route. What your describing is EXTREMELY common and many people experience these exact same things. Its important to know and understand, that sleep disorders, even cases of severe apnea (which it dosen't sound like you have), are rarely fatal or even cause much harm at all.

      http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=9806
      http://www.buzzle.com/articles/sleep-paralysis-symptoms.html
      http://helpguide.org/life/sleep_apnea.htm

  17. QUESTION:
    My girlfriend has a sleeping disorder to where she wont breath while she sleeps.?
    I want to get the mask thing that forces air into the person at night. Like a Respirator but with an air tank. I want to know what those are called and where I can find them because I fear every night that I'll wake up and she wont. So please, please help me.

    • ANSWER:

  18. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know about sleeping disorders, like getting dressed in your sleep?
    Last night I went to bed naked like I always do. When I woke up this morning I was wearing a red tank top, pink skirt, and one sock. I looked around my room and my dresser, and closet were both open. The light was on in my bathroom and I had a curling iron plugged in.. Im freaked out needless to say. I have went to bed with clothes on and woke up with then off, but i figured it was just because I was un comfortable. I must have been busy last night. And it really scares me, because of the curling Iron.. my apt could have caught fire. Any clues?? Help!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      I would start with sleeping habits. Elimate day time naps, go to bed same time every night and try to wake up at the same time. Dont use your bed for anything but sleeping/sex (like dont watch tv in bed). Elimate stimulants such as caffine or nicotine or diet pills. Dont eat late at night, last meal 2-3 hours before bed. If none of this helps try a psych doctor or family doctor.
      Oh and you may want to put bells on yourself or something that would wake you up incase you do that again. And move your iron or anything else dangerous out of the room you sleep in. And try not to go to sleep with thoughts on your mind of things you need to do, clear your mind before you go to sleep.
      You might want to have someone sleep with you at night just to keep you safe, in which, I would be willing to volunteer my services :) (just kidding)

  19. QUESTION:
    Do I have insomnia or some other sleeping disorder?
    A few months ago I started taking medicine to help stablize my mood and my psychiatrist told me to take it every night before i go to bed. I recently foregot to take it with me on vacation and haven't slept in 3 nights. Does this mean I am an insomniac?

    • ANSWER:
      It's not likely that insomnia is a withdrawal symptom of not taking some mood altering medications for three days. Whenever I go on vacation, in a new room, a new city, a new country, et al. I usually don't sleep for a couple nights as well.

      It might be excitement and more likely is has to do with anxiety. To get myself over the initial hump I usually, eat a light dinner (full of leafy greens, low in protein, protein being bad for sleep and glycerin which is found in leafy green vegetables being a sleep inducer) four hours before I intend on going to sleep, and a glass of warm milk or better yet chamomile tea about an hour and a half before I want to sleep.

      The thing for me is to actually convince myself that I'm not in a different country, but lying in my own bed at home. Hard to do but if you can like I did in Rome you'll wake up with the weird experience of feeling like you've been abducted during the night;)

      But the short answer is "yes". If you can't sleep a single night and despite the fact that you desperately want to you do have insomnia; maybe not chronic insomnia, but you have it at some level.

      Three nights or more can be quite serious. You're problably going to start losing functionality and eventually even start hallucinating if you don't get at least some sleep at night.

      If you want a natural remedy try chewing valerian root, taking melatonin or drinking chamomile tea. A more drastic root would be trying to get prescribed a drug like Ambien or Valium. Consult a doctor wherever you are before you go to those sorts of lenghts though. For more information please visit:

      insomnia360.com

  20. QUESTION:
    Some kind of Sleeping disorder please help?
    I can't go to other peoples houses and sleep over because I feel scared and get adrenaline. It's like I wake up with crazy adrenaline rushes wanting my parents nearby. I find it hard get sleep because of it. I get so scared I start to feel sick sometimes, and I know it's not home sickness. Can someone please help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Insomnia is a common problem that results not only in personal frustration and discomfort, but also is associated with decreased work performance, lost productivity, accidents, and hospitalization. . Insomnia is not a disease, but a symptom, meaning that it is secondary to another physical or mental disorder, depression, anxiety, and mental stress. It can be caused by an underlying sleep disorder , or might be brought on by something as simple as a change in schedule, a stressful event at work, or an afternoon cup of coffee. Insomnia is probably the most common sleep-related complaint among women and men across all stages of adulthood along with daytime drowsiness. Insomnia is very common in psychological conditions such as depression or anxiety. A sudden unexpected stress such as a job loss or death in the family may also cause sleepless nights. For many, the problem is not episodic but chronic. While insomnia is typically a symptom, it can also be a disorder with complex and, likely, multiple causes.
      Modern technology has provided us with a drug-free way to cure insomnia that is called binaural beats. Binaural beats are a way of listening with headphones to differential frequencies which can induce the brain to reduce itself gradually through slower frequency ranges that can result in deep sleep.

  21. QUESTION:
    could my daughter have a sleeping disorder?
    my daughter stays up all night and turns on her tv, computer and her light even when i turn them all off.i bought here a night light so she wouldn't turn her light one, but she still does. she has already been diagnosed with ADHD. she really does have a problem sleeping once she stayed up for 48 hours and didn't even fall asleep through the day.
    im very worried and would love some ideas to help me.

    • ANSWER:
      YOu don't say how old she is but I am guessing that she is under 16...the only way is to remove the TV and computer from her room...children should not have access to those things at night...it's potentially dangerous to give them free reign on the net and as you can see...it also disturbs their sleep!

  22. QUESTION:
    Are hallucinations due to sleeping disorders usually this serious?
    I've been unable to sleep lately, some nights I will get 2 or 3 hours of sleep, most night I don't get any. After a week without a long amount of sleep I will start seeing things with perifial vision but when I turn to look at them they disappear. It's always of this random little boy smiling and waving.
    Last night was the third night in a row without any sleep and I saw 3 or 4 of my friends standing in a corner crying, when i asked them whats wrong they pointed to my closet where my best friend had hung herself. Then another a couple hours later i watched the little boy shoot himself, it made no noise and there was no blood but he fell to the floor and when i reached to put my hand on him my hand went all the way through and he disappeared.
    I tried to calm myself by telling myself its only because i need sleep, i was surprised to find out that most peoples hallucinations are not as.. big? I'm wondering if maybe I was dreaming while I was awake since I have dreamed about my friend hanging herself ever since she told me she was suicidal... which is partially the reason I don't sleep. Anyone know if this is "normal' for no sleep?

    I'm a 14 year old girl btw, I don't know if that helps?

    • ANSWER:
      There can be several reasons for sleeplessness. At your age it should not be like that. You should sleep well. As you say generally "hallucinations are not as ... big". In any case, you can get a good Doctor's opinion also. Take an appointment and consult him.

  23. QUESTION:
    Need medical help about sleeping disorder?
    I have been lacking of sleep I don't have trouble falling asleep, i have problems staying asleep, i also experience panic attacks while sleeping, which i cant control.. Is this something i need to take concern over with or just i should deal with it.? Thank you for your time

    • ANSWER:
      You need to see a Ear, Nose and Throat Doctor. They can give you something like Ambien to help you sleep at night. You may need a sleep study done to determine any underlying problems associated with your sleeping patterns. It is simple and pain free and they can help.

  24. QUESTION:
    What Herbs help with sleep disorders?
    I stay away as much as 7nights without any sleep, then I want to sleep a couple od days and nights. How can I control this?

    • ANSWER:
      passiflorra incarnetta --mother tincture or extract 10 drops night
      coffea cruda-30
      will induce sleep and restore normalcy without any side effect
      kali phos- 6x bio salts helps
      do not drink too much coffee that prevent sleep
      with above medicines no coffee cas it antidots

  25. QUESTION:
    One of my 7 year old twins is not sleeping through the night help!?
    My 7 year old has been waking up during the night .At least 2 to 3 times a night she comes to me.I ask her what's wrong she just says I can't sleep mommy.I tell her go back to sleep baby ,you have school tomorrow .It does not happen every night ,but a least 2 or 3 times per week . What to do ? She asks to go sleep with her twin.Is it separation anxiety from her twin or some kind of sleep disorder?

    • ANSWER:
      I think sometimes they just go through stages like this. My six year old will do this for a while and then she'll sleep just fine. But if it continues for a significant amount of time, consult your pediatrician.

  26. QUESTION:
    Coherent conversations while sleeping... Is this a weird sleep disorder? What is it and how do you treat it?
    Apparently while I'm completely asleep I hold conversations with other people. Nothing random but an actual coherent convo. But I have no memory of anything I have said or heard when I wake up. The other night I was hit with a flipflop and didn't wake up but I could still talk to people while asleep. I have also called people in my sleep for hours but can't remember it ever happening. Never under the influence at anytime this was happening. It's kind of scaring me alittle and need help with this.

    • ANSWER:

  27. QUESTION:
    Do I have some type of sleeping disorder?
    I don't know if disorder would be the right word but..
    For about...2 months maybe, I have been sleeping ALOT.
    I would go to bed at like 10pm then sleep all the way through the night, wake up at 7, go to school, come home and sleep until 8pm. Then repeat.
    I don't know does this have something to do with my depression? That I have been diagnosed with.
    Someone help?
    I mean sleep Is good.. But it's like all I do now. Not good. =/

    • ANSWER:
      that may be a bit much... i know i take naps sometimes when i get home from work.. but yea it could be linked with depression.. try to find something to do when you get home.. keep yourself busy until its time to go to bed... sleeping thru the night is good tho.. wish i could! lol

  28. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know from experience whether or not 5-HTP helps with sleep disorders?
    I have chronic insomnia. It started probably 8 years ago. On an initial appointment with a new OBGYN, my doctor asked if I was on the pill. I answered yes, and he advised me to go off of it because over time, the pill interferes with serotonin levels. I did that, and in a week was sleeping like a baby. Then, over the course of time, my sleeping problems came back. It has been years on and off of sleep aids. I have tried Valerian root, melatonin, tylenol pm, and of course the prescription stuff, but then I end up a zombie the next day. I read about 5-htp and was wondering whether or not this might be a solution.

    • ANSWER:
      your last statement is your answer, there is no guarantee, this product is not better than the ones you are describing though. on the other hand, if you have gone through so much then it is worth a try, good luck

  29. QUESTION:
    Do I need help for my sleeping problems?
    I have had a "sleeping disorder" for a long time now. First of all, I am only 22. I cannot make it through an entire movie at home without falling asleep. I am usually dog tired around 9 p.m. I sleep every chance I get. I can literally fall asleep before my head hits the pillow and this is not a joke. I can sleep for 2 hours on the couch with my b/friend beside me screaming about his favorite team losing the game and not even be awakened. I am too tired to even think about sex at night with my boyfriend of 6 years, plus like I said, I'm asleep as soon as it lay down. The only change in my life is a second part time job so I work 7 days at week, Mon-Fri 5:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. and Sat and Sun 5 a.m. to 1 p.m., as well as Wed. 6-10 p.m. Could this second job be contributing to this or not? I actually do get a lot of sleep because I sleep on the couch at least 2 hours before going to bed at night where I get at least 5 more hours of sleep. Should I seek help for this or what should I do? HELP

    • ANSWER:
      Yes, this sounds like a great question for your doctor. Personally, I found I had a sleeping problem because of my sinuses. It was causing me to snore and not get into my deep REM sleep; this caused me to feel very sleepy even though I slept 10 hours the night before. With the help of my doctor and allergist, I am now sleeping much more soundly and not so tired during the day.

  30. QUESTION:
    Do I have a sleeping disorder?
    I have a problem sleep related and wanted to see if anyone would be able to help. Ok so sometimes when i am sleeping i will wake up and cannot move a muscle, now the next problem is i feel something strange when i am asleep its not an emotion but a feeling in my body that is very strange it is hard to explain. I usually wake up with my heart and breathing accelerated. My question is Is this symptoms of a sleeping disorder and is there anything i can do to stop this from happening?

    • ANSWER:
      The first one where you can't move is sleep paralysis. During sleep your body paralyzes your muscles as a protective measure to prevent from acting out dreams and harming one self sometimes it takes a while for the body to snap out of while awake.

  31. QUESTION:
    sleeping disorder and the boy is part of it?
    i always go to bed at nine but I always end up waking up like at 3 in the morning and cannot go back to sleep this has been happening since I had drama with a boy and when i wake up I just think about him what could I do to stay sleeping and get over this boy help please.

    • ANSWER:
      Get over him..

  32. QUESTION:
    HELP ME, PLEASE: Teenager with a sleeping disorder?
    I'm a teenager and my sleeping is getting RIDICULOUS!!!! I can't go to sleep at night and am tired, irritable, and moody all day long, and the next night i can't fall asleep AGAIN! In the last 48 hr. I've only slept 2 hours!

    Do I have a sleeping disorder, and do you have any idea on how to fix it and where it's coming from??I'm desperate!

    • ANSWER:
      Okay well first of all you are stressed out, and I can understand that, being a teen and all. Lots of work to do and pressure and its really stressful. You should sit down in a comfy seat or lay down and watch funny videos on YouTube. It can help you relieve some stress by making you laugh, and then you can sleep.
      Another way you could relieve stress and feel better is.. well, it's a suggestion that you probably won't use, and I can understand why, but you could try.. playing with yourself, ill call it? You know, masturbating. I know it probably seems nasty at first glance and I understand why people think that, but really it could make you feel better and relive stress, and then you could fall asleep. Good luck, and go to sleep!

  33. QUESTION:
    How can I get proper and relaxed sleep?
    I always feel very tired in the morning, even if I get enough sleep (7-9 hours per night). I have tried sleeping with relaxing music on or playing before I sleep, quietly reading or meditating before bed, drinking warm milk but avoiding caffeine, sugar and big meals directly before bed, having warm baths before bed and focusing on my breathing, but I still feel tired in the morning. I know that I am NOT affected by any sleep disorders in any way.

    Any tips will help greatly.
    XOXO,
    Laurie

    • ANSWER:
      Have you been checked for dust mite allergies?
      Make sure your bedding is changed regularly and the room aired and dusted. Allergies can make you feel very tired.
      Your bed might be too hot? Do you eat properly & exercise? Stay away from chemicals. Do your bowels work properly?
      Could be anything.

  34. QUESTION:
    need help with outline paper for a paper on cause and effect of sleep disorders?

    • ANSWER:
      there are a wide range of reasons and effects for sleep disorders...

      you should google the topic and read about it as much as you can...as it is "YOUR" homework... :-) )

  35. QUESTION:
    I need help with a possible sleeping disorder.?
    See, I can work all day and be tired enough to go to sleep, But once my head hits that pillow i cannot sleep. i dont know why and i stay up morning times and usually go to sleep sometime during the day most days i dont get that pleasure. I will stay up all day and all night and then finally go to sleep.
    i dont know if my body finds it exciting to be tired or what!
    anyone have anything similar or even able to help me out?
    i dont know what to do.
    please help.

    • ANSWER:
      I'm sorry to hear you are having trouble sleeping. Most working persons sometimes do. Here's what you can do. Drink some lettuce tea. It works, I have tried it myself. It's the white latex from the plant's stem -- known as lettuce opium -- that helps induce sleep. The substance in the plant's stem works the same way as the opium poppy. Lettuce tea has a sedative effect and it is an excellent recipe for inducing sleep. You can add a taste of mint to make the slight bitterness of the lettuce taste a little better. Simmer three or four large lettuce leaves in a half-pint of water for 15 minutes. Remove from the heat, add a couple of mint leaves, strain and drink before climbing into bed.

  36. QUESTION:
    sleeping disorder - difficulty waking up?
    Hi, I'm concerned about my younger brother who I believe may have a sleeping disorder. I've tried looking on the internet and connecting his behavior to a sleeping disorder, but the closest thing I found was delayed sleep phase syndrome, which sounds somewhat like what he has but not exactly the same.

    My brother has difficulty waking up in the morning and can practically sleep through anything. If a bomb were to explode next to our house and blow off our roof, I'll bet that he wouldn't even STIR. That's how serious it is. He sleeps through alarm clocks (he sets two alarm clocks at full volume next to his head every night) and if anyone tries to wake him up (they have to shake him hard), he'll find it hard to wake up. If he does wake up, he'll go back to sleep unless that person continues to shake and nag him to get up. He also never has any recollection of ever being woken up.

    I think he's always been a heavy sleeper, but now that he's getting older (he's 13 right now) it seems to be getting worse. He goes to sleep late at night (usually after midnight) everyday, and on weekends, he wakes up around noon. I'm especially worried for him because practically anything could happen to him and he wouldn't know. The house could burn down and he'd just continue dozing until he burns to a crisp! :[

    I hear that diet and exercise plays a role in sleeping disorders. My brother is slim, but he is really unhealthy. He eats a lot of junk food but not much nutritious stuff. He also doesn't exercise and spends most of his time playing on the computer. He's also one of the laziest - if not THE laziest- people I know. He always seems to be dull and out of energy every day, and if he's not on the computer, he'll lie on his bed until he eventually falls asleep.

    Could his laziness have something to do with his sleeping problem? I've considered that, but the fact that he is able to sleep through almost anything and forgets ever waking up seems too serious to be linked to his laziness.

    I found this link, and the girl who talks about her sleeping problem has almost exactly the same symptoms as my brother does : http://forum.neurologychannel.com/hc-forum/sleep-disorders_peer-to-peer_f344/coma-like-sleep-i-need-help_t42915.html .

    I've talked to some people, and they say he's just a heavy sleeper. I think it's a bit too serious to be simply called "heavy sleeping." What do you guys think?

    • ANSWER:
      He's going to bed too late to get up early that's all. He gets up at noon all by himself doesn't he?

      Some people are heavier sleepers than others. Some may even sleepwalk, but that's not considered a disorder.

      He's got himself into a bad pattern though, and his school work can be suffering. You continuing to get him up is just enabling him.

  37. QUESTION:
    Is this sleeping disorder or insomnia?
    This summer, I was diagnosed with depression. The pills I'm on can cause a sleeping problem if you take them at night. I rarely take them at night mostly right when I wake up. Now, in-order for me to go to sleep I have to take "P.M" pills and some times they don't even help me sleep. I go back to my doctor soon, should I tell him about this? Sorry if this question is not detailed enough. Thanks,

    • ANSWER:
      Of course, you should tell your doctor right away if a medication is giving you problems. There are many MEDS out there for depression that will not cause sleep problems.
      Are you having trouble falling asleep or STAYING asleep? Sometimes, the "PM" meds you buy over the counter can make some sleep disorders worse, believe it or not. If you have RLS or PLMD (leg movements and Restless Legs Syndrome, these meds can be like poison if you are trying to sleep.
      The ingredient in most of the PM's is Diphenhydramine, and can actually bring on symptoms of RLS or make them worse.
      Tell your doctor right away! You need your sleep. Sometimes when we start a new med it is a "trial and error" thing until we find the right fit, especially with antideptessants.

  38. QUESTION:
    What Sleeping Disorder Do I Have?
    Well, I have been not been able to sleep for a couple days... Yesterday I slept 2 hours today I slept none. What's wrong with me? I Always feel well rested and hyper even without sleep... HELP!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      Insomnia. Have you tried otc medication that will help you sleep? They are non addictive and work great! You really need sleep or your body will suffer with weight gain, disease, etc. Even if you feel okay you need to let your body and mind recharge to stay healthy.

  39. QUESTION:
    sleep disorders. is it time to seek help?
    i posted on here the other day about how im having real bad problems sleeping, its been going on at least 2weeks or more now, it just feels like i never sleep, i´l be led in bed and really tired but just cant switch off and stop ´thinking´or singing a song or something like that, i also noticed the last few nights that i cant stop moving my legs when im in bed im just constantly tossing and turning, iv googled sleep disorders and there is a thing called RLS which is restless leg syndrome however i dont feel the pins and needles, itchying, burning sensation that it describes so im guessing its not that but i just cant stop moving my legs. normaly when im drunk its easy for me to just come home and pass out but even that latley hasnt helped, i took 2 sleeping tablets the other day(they´re spanish as im in majorca for the summer) so im not sure how strong they are ect but they didnt help either. guys im really starting to worry now that i may have a serious problem and wont ever be able to sleep again, its starting to show effects on me too like being clumsy and droppin things, getting frustrated and angry and i just keep crying cos im so tired but i cant sleep. i really dont no what to do? should i see a dr out here in spain? thing is they´l prob just give me more tablets that wont work. can u die from sleeping disorders? i feel like im guna start loosing the plot. please what is wrong with me??

    • ANSWER:

  40. QUESTION:
    help with diagnosing a sleeping disorder?
    symptoms include:
    -laying in bed for hours(not being able to sleep)
    -only being able to sleep everyother night or so
    -when able to sleep, only for a few minutes at a time
    -super drowsy during the day

    • ANSWER:
      That could be one of a hundred things, depression, anxiety, insomnia, sleep apnoea, and many other things.

      Depression fits best due to both the somnolence in the day and difficultly sleeping at night. Sometimes people feel tired all of the time yet can't sleep.

      Are you sure you are only sleeping for a few minutes? You need to know if you only think you sleep a little or actually do just sleep for a short time so time yourself.

      You might look on line and do a self test with the Epworth Sleepiness Scale available here:

      http://www.umm.edu/sleep/epworth_sleep.htm

      If it has been going on for a while, if your quality of life has been significantly lowered, and/or you are falling asleep when driving or doing anything that requires full concentration you should see a doctor. If, for example, you start to nod off in the car it means you are truly sleep deprived in a medical sense. It is not normal to feel sleepy constantly and it should be evaluated. But there are likely effective treatments no matter what the issue is. If it is depression an antidepressants might be used, a short "burst" of a hypnotic like Ambien or Temazepam for 4-10days could greatly help, certain conditions respond to therapy, and even using a "wake promoting agent" like Provigil (modafinil) or Nuvigil (armodafinil) could help certain problems.

      And avoid caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, excessive at night, looking a computer or TV screens within 30min of sleep and other good sleep hygiene.

  41. QUESTION:
    Is this just normal or is it Sleeping Disorder?
    I ALWAYS wake up in the middle of the night, I don't know why! One minute I'm asleep then all of a sudden I'm awake on my pillow in the darkness of my bedroom ( Well, I share with a twin )

    I always wake her up and ask her is she okay cause I'm scared to be awake alone ( I'm a scardey cat xD ) I usually don't do this but just last night I did, so I made her stay awake with me till I felt better and could fall back asleep but a few minutes later ( Yes, I looked at the clock ) I end up waking back up, I barely got ANY sleep last night DD: ( I didn't wake her up seeing that she would probably yell at meh xDD ).

    I've been having nightmares that have been waking me up for the past week, I wake back up with headaches! They aren't that bad, it's just irritating for that to happen nearly every morning. I just watched Paranormal Activity and that only made it worse....So, I looked up on the internet about this and came up to Sleeping Disorders...help? DD: I'm 14. :3

    • ANSWER:
      Lonely Muffin, You need to try some relaxation techniques before bed. Try meditation or guided imagery. Look these terms up on the internet for some ideas how to use them. They will help your mind to rest, so your body can rest too. And stay away from the scary stuff before bed!

  42. QUESTION:
    Sleep Disorders?
    I'm snoaring when sleeping, I'm definitely have sleep apnea as well. Recently, I always woke up with my mouth very dry. I realize that now I sleep thru my mouth not my nose. This condition really killing me, please help

    • ANSWER:
      Hi, read about Buteyko, it helps with sleep Apnoea etc. Would like to share my healing but that is a faith thing and not for here, good luck and u have my sympathy, it is a living hell

  43. QUESTION:
    Does my dad have a sleeping disorder? In need of serious advice.?
    So my dad, who is in his mid-40's, retired, has a pretty severe sleeping problem
    that somehow splits his personality. This has been going on for about 2 years.
    He will either sleep very long periods at
    a time (about 3-5 days) only getting up to go to the bathroom or eat. The
    other is that he is awake for usually the same amount of time (without any
    naps/sleeps!). Okay, now his "sleeping" phase makes him a person who is
    mean, extremely grumpy, hostile, resentful, and at points hysterical. He just
    sleeps away in his room the whole time and the worst thing is waking him up.
    His "awake" phase is the same dad that we've grown
    up with (funny, loving, caring, getting things done). I never really wanted to ask anybody what's
    wrong with my dad but I guess I should. This habit of his is destroying his
    relationship with my mom. We don't know what to do. He makes sincere
    apologies when he is acting like my dad when he's awake, but sometimes
    we just can't put up with the way he acts when he is asleep. What's wrong
    with my dad? Is he aware of his behavior? Anything at all would truly help.

    • ANSWER:
      You present a wide variety of symptoms for your dad who shows the possibility of a few disorders. I think the best thing to do would be to get him to see a neurologist. A sleep disorder is remotely possible as is a mental illness, but this sounds like much more to me (I am a therapist) like something else. My guess is that what is occurring is happening in the brain and could possibly be from a tumor, some sort of damage to the brain (a severe blow to the head) or some sort of possible dementia or disease of some type. Were there any significant events that occurred two years ago, prior to the onset of this odd behavior?
      I believe a neurologist would be my first choice, I am not sure if a regular medical doctor can treat this or if they would refer you.
      Whether he knows what's going on, I really don't know. I would guess he must know that there is something wrong. Please take this issue and treat it seriously. I am really glad that you finally asked somebody. I hope this helps and perhaps someone else might answer that knows more.
      Good luck.
      Doc

  44. QUESTION:
    Help with sleeping problems?
    I've been having troubles sleeping for the past 2 months or so. I usually fall asleep quite easily but end up waking up 2-4 times in the night. In the mornings getting up is really hard and i get tired really early. Could it be a sleeping disorder? Does anyone have tips for getting better sleep? I've been under a lot of stress lately because of all the tests and projects we've been having in school. Could that be a reason? Thanks already :)

    • ANSWER:
      if you don't want to use medications try chamomile tea.

  45. QUESTION:
    working with sleep disorders?
    Im already a health care assistant but i have a massive interest in sleep disorders (i have a mild one, so can relate) and would like to go into a field where i work with people who suffer from them and try to help them.
    I'm thinking of registering to do either a adult nursing or mental health nursing course (not intelligent enough to be a doctor) but can't make up my mind which one would be more suitable, as sleep disorders fall under both medical and mental health.
    Does anyone have any advice on how best i can go about getting a career down this path?

    • ANSWER:
      Well, I have sleep apnea, and went to an ear, nose, throat specialist for a sleep study. He didn't do the test himself, but had an assistant administer the test. If you could find work as a medical nurse with an ENT, you could probably be involved with this kind of thing. I'm assuming the assistant was a nurse of some kind. It may do you some good to call such a doctor and ask for advise on the matter.

  46. QUESTION:
    Thesis statement about sleep disorders?
    Can someone help me come up with a thesis for sleep disorders?
    Please and Thank You :]

    • ANSWER:
      Three very serious types of sleep disorders that can cause severe physical and psychological problems are obstructive, central, and complex sleep apnea.

  47. QUESTION:
    help with sleeping problems, please?
    this has been going on for quite a while. ill feel tired, and lay down to go to bed at 930-10 oclock. i really try to sleep, but i dont fall asleep until 330am. no matter what i do, i can not seem to falll asleep. and if im not woken up, i sleep till around 12. when i am woken up at like 6, for schoool or whatever, im perfectly fine. i could go a whole night, without sleep [which,happens a lot] and ill be perfectly fine the next day. i dont know too much about sleeping disorders, but i really want this to stop,and for me to go to bed at a normal time. i know i said im fine the next day on no sleep, and i am, but its catching up to me. recently, i was falling asleep in schoool, i can hardly focus. im soo tired. now that its summer, its not as big of a deal, because i can sleep. some people have said i have insomnia, while others say its delayed sleep phase response or disorder, or something like that.

    can you help me, tell me what you think it might be,and help me solve this?
    what do you mean looking for attention?

    what i meant, waas im not as tired because i can sleep till whenever i want, instead of getting 3 hours of sleep.

    but it still affects me,and im starting volunteer work at a summer camp,and i have to wake up at 6 everyday.

    • ANSWER:
      Delayed sleep phase syndrome (DSPS) or delayed sleep phase disorder (DSPD) or delayed sleep phase type (DSPT)

      "is a circadian rhythm sleep disorder, a chronic disorder of the timing of sleep, peak period of alertness, core body temperature, hormonal and other daily rhythms relative to societal norms. People with DSPS tend to fall asleep after midnight and have difficulty waking up in the morning...they fall asleep at about the same time every "night" no matter what time they go to bed."

      It is responsible for 7-10% complaints of chronic insomnia...it is often untreated or treated inappropriately...misdiagnosed as insomnia or a psychiatric disorder...few doctors are aware of its existence...

      Edit: You are not alone, and it is normal for you...and for many of us...it is not about attention seeking and it's not all in your head

      Find much more at the sight below...

  48. QUESTION:
    Sleeping all day and night, can't stay awake or do anything?
    I've recently been sleeping almost constantly..Had this problem for years, but now I'm at uni so my mum isn't around to drag me out of bed. I've missed loads of lectures over the past few weeks and I'm scared I will fail the year if I can't stay awake to revise for my exams.

    I've looked on websites about sleeping disorders but they are all about getting too little sleep or having disrupted sleep. I am always tired even after 24+ hours of sleep. I have depression and think sleeping may be a way of coping. Today I woke up at about 11am, but I couldn't find the motivation to get out of bed for another 8 hours or so. I kept thinking, 'another hour won't make any difference'. This happens EVERY DAY!!!! I hate myself for doing this and know I just need to get out of bed, but I can't.

    How can I stay awake? I'm only taking a small amount of my anti-depressents now so will be willing to stop them and try anything that might help me concentrate in order to work. T

    I'm only ever awake at night like now, which is when I need to be asleep. :(
    What is wrong with me? How do I get out of bed?

    • ANSWER:
      It seems (to me) some sort of (clinical, mild) depression, but be aware that no one can make a diagnosis by internet.
      The best bet is seeing a psychiatrist for a proper diagnostic and treatment. If for some reason that's not an option or if you cannot afford therapy, read http://natural-depression.blogspot.com/
      In many cases depression will respond quickly to the use of this treatments (within a few weeks), but if this still doesn't work, see a psychiatrist; psychiatric treatment for depression involves antidepressants and usually but not always, therapy.

      Hope this helps.
      :)

  49. QUESTION:
    Sleeping I can't breath or move?
    Lately in the past few weeks or so , when I am laying in bed and dozing off. My body freezes up. It starts out with me not being able to breath it feels like there is a pillow over my face but muffling the mount of air that I can take in. This freaks me out so I try to change positions but no matter how hard I struggle I cannot move any part of my body. My eyes are opened when this happens. I try to call for my husband for help but my mouth will not move. I feel like I'm laying there dying and there is nothing I can do but wait alone and afraid. After a few minutes ( seems like forever) I am able to move again and breath. I tried to look this up under sleeping disorders but the only thing similar was sleep apnea however with this disorder you do not know that you are not breathing and there is no loss of body control. Please help I am afraid to go to sleep so I have been staying awake longer and longer. I cannot see a DR. I have no insurance. If you have been through this tell me what to do before I suffocate.

    • ANSWER:
      That sounds like sleep paralysis. It's pretty scary--I've had it before

      Here's some tips
      -Get enough sleep: irregular sleeping schedules are most likely to increase the frequency of attacks. Do not deprive yourself of sleep, ever.
      -Try to relax: take a hot bath just before bed if you can.
      -During the attack, try moving your eyes of any facial muscles that you can move even if it's a minor movement. This can help you to snap out of the attack.
      -Reduce stress
      -Exercise regularly but avoid doing it just before bed.
      -Avoid caffeinated products before bedtime
      -Learn to recognize the symptoms. Track your sleep patterns and the attacks so that you may identify the triggers and take appropriate action. This may also come in handy when you decide to see a sleep paralysis doctor.
      -You should also do Research on the experiences of others. There are many videos posted on Youtube about narcolepsy and sleep paralysis.
      - Avoid falling asleep facing up if attacks come when you are in this position
      -Learn to Lucid Dream .

  50. QUESTION:
    I'm having trouble Sleeping?
    Hi,
    I am currently 21 yrs old and I work 48hrs a week on a 4 on/4 off or 2 days + 2nights with 3 days off. I am writing this because I am suffering from the following symptoms:

    1) Lack of sleep
    2) Stress
    3) Headaches
    4) Upset stomach

    This all started 2 weeks ago.

    Now I have been working since the age of 16, but my work pattern has always been different to most people because you see I used to work nights all the time. Its only recently since I started work again that I've had to work days too.
    My job is heavy and it involves a lot of lifting, so normally you'd think that I would be tired when I got back from work, but no. I would normally get back 6pm, have something to eat and then go to bed at about 9pm.
    My trouble is trying to sleep because I can barely make it past 12am, so I would normally be awake by 1am and my shift starts at 6am. This sleeping problem of mine normally happens only when I'm on days, but when I'm on nights when I leave home at 6pm and arrive at 6am, I have no problem sleeping. Also, on the last day of my day offs, I would also have trouble sleeping.

    I've tried a lot of methods to try and sleep when I'm on days like for example I would try and sleep late, say 11pm instead of 9pm, but the last time I did this I wasn't able to sleep at all, all the way through 4am, so I was just lying in bed till 2am before I got out.
    I haven't been on any medications, I've never done drugs, only drink on special occations, I don't smoke and plus I workout both at home/work with that job that I do, so why am I suffering from not being able to sleep? One thing that's always been on my mind is that maybe I am an imsomniac or that its because of my long history of doing night shifts?

    I have some clue to what is causing this, i.e. my body clock accompanied by stress, but I don't know for sure if this is true and if so how to fix it. Also, I know that no one will believe me if I use stress as an excuse, especially at work. I mean maybe it is stress that's causing all this because over the past 2 weeks or so, I've been really stressed out by my forman at work. I work hard and try my best, my forman is always finding ways to have a go at me.
    Also, the 2nd to last nightshift that I did was my worse one ever because I worked with this guy who wouldn't listen or try to help me, so I was really stressed. I was so stressed that I nearly had a mental breakdown, so I went over and I said to my forman that I'm not working with this guy unless he stops his abusive nature and tries to help me with the lifting. My forman wouldn't have it, so my boss got involved, but luckily my boss listened to me, so we were able to sort things out.

    Anyway, these are just a few of my theories that I think are related to my past 2 weeks of sleeping disorders and I out stress down because I read that stress can cause insomnia. I just hope that there is somebody out there who can advice me because I need help, serious help before something bad really happens to me.

    Please can someone advice me on what to do.
    Hi H.Potter,
    Yes I am having a very stressful time with my life, more stressful than some who know me might think. However, no one will believe me even if I use the excuse of stress at work because they'll argue that they are also stressed. All I can say to them is that you'd have to be in my position to believe me.

    Anyway, I want to find another job, but what job would hire me, even though I have a lot of qualifications? I mean I'm not completely desperate yet because there are a few places that I could go back to (old jobs), but they're even more stressful than this one, well except for one which was my job at Sainsbury's. I was in produce lifting, but I loved that job. Simple night job because you see I like working on my own. I don't like having to socialise with people all the time because if I work with other people and they look sad or don't talk, then I worry because I'm thinking that its because of me.

    Anyway, thanks for your advice. I'll try to look for a new job.

    • ANSWER:
      You are having a stressful time aren't you?
      Have you thought about changing your job to one with 'normal' working hours? Without a full quota of sleep and the support of your fellow workers your health will begin to suffer. Try this site...
      http://www.sleepnet.com/
      Hopefully you will find something to help you.


Help With Sleeping

Furniture is a noun that can be used to describe any movable objects that are to be used to help in any human activities. This can really refer to almost anything. Beds help with sleeping, tables with eating and chairs for sitting. Really any thing mobile in a home or office can be considered furniture, any thing used to hold objects or used for storage.

Furniture is not just a useful product but is also considered an art form by many people and can be used to decorate any living space. Above and beyond the functional and artistic uses many pieces are used in a symbolic or even religious manner. Furniture can be made from just about anything including but not limited to metal, plastic, and wood.

Now with all the fancy things you can pick up at your local department store you might not think that furniture has been an important part of human culture for a very very long time. Evidence of furnishing exists in ancient paintings from the neolithic period, in sculptures in Pompeii, and tombs including furniture have been excavated in Ghiordes, Egypt, modern day Turkey, and modern day Vietnam.

Through out history furniture pieces have changed drastically. Starting in the Neolithic Period from three thousand to twenty five thousand years BC there are a large number of stone furnishings that have been found in Scotland.

Luckily for us there was a wood shortage in the area during that time so most homes and in the area have been build out of stone and include furniture such as dressers, cupboards, beds, shelves, seats, even early aquariums for raising and eating limpets. The stone dressers where the most important and central piece in these ancient homes probably used to display and show off wealth or religions objects.

Later in history during what is considered the Classical World there are pieces that still exist from the 8th century BC Assyrian palace of Nimrud including tables and inlaid serving stands. Carpet has been found dating to this period in a frozen tomb in Siberia. Ancient Egyptian beds have been discovering in Tarkhan in the tomb of Queen Hetepheres along with some of first chairs. Chairs have also been found in Ancient Greek.

Early modern Europe usually made their furniture of heavy oak wood and would carve very ornamented designs. These Baroque designs are characterized as being gilded and opulent usually incorporating lots of carved designs. During this time period the designs where usually inspired by Greco Roman art.

In the 19th Century there where many changes in style and even a revival style including Neoclassicism, Rococo, and Gothic. The Aesthetic and the Arts and Crafts movement along with Art Nouveau were some of the new styles during the 19th century

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Does cereal, dairy and bananas really help you sleep at night?
    do they also help with sleeping at night with depression?

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  2. QUESTION:
    Sister sleeping with my ex. help!!?
    My ex and I recently broke up after together 4 years and have two children. I am not over it completely and am still in love with him. I just found out he slept with my sister a few nights ago. She just recently (a week go) separated from her husband (7 year relationship) and thinks she's in love with my ex. I'm completely crushed and don't know what to do. She said part of her hates herself because its wrong but part of her wants to see if they have a shot. I tried bringing up the Aunt step mom thing, as well as the fact that we are sisters, but I don't know what to do. They both have depression issues, alcohol issues, and emotional issues. Am I wrong to be upset and completely crushed? Help?!!?

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  3. QUESTION:
    Would marijuana help a person with insomnia sleep?
    As of lately i've been only sleeping 2 to 3 hours a day, before I slept a good 5 hours tops. Do you think smoking would help me? I'm desperate because it's really affecting my school work and personal life. I don't want to take sleeping pills cause I already take other pills, I don't want to damage my liver.

    • ANSWER:
      IMO it may worsen it...as pot works on the psychotropic part of the brain that deals with sleeping you may find that pot excites it more and will make it harder to sleep. Although it also could have the reverse affect i'm sure and make you much more sleepy after you come down from the initial high.

      I suggest trying it out, insomnia is hard to live with, i have big time sleep problems too and I smoke pot everyday. It does not help me sleep whatsoever. It actually stops me from dreaming and I toss and turn all night after smoking a lot in a day and night and then trying to sleep my brain feels fuzzy when i wake up i am still high, so i believe that IME it does not help sleep, sometimes, but very rarely.

      Although certain strains work in much differing ways and if you were prescribed a certain type I'm sure it may have benefits. Try it out, pot isn't too bad but it does cause lung cancer more than smoking cigarettes(apparently). But apart from maybe some small breathing problems that exercise can fix pot has little harm. Just don't do too much because it will make you a bit loony, I can tell you that. But if used purely for your illness I'm sure it would be quite beneficial for some and I hope you as well. Good luck and Maryjayne be with you...lol

  4. QUESTION:
    Weird problem with sleep.Help me please!?
    Ok so,i've been having this really weird problem for several months now.Could be a year,dunno.When i lay down to my bed and close my eyes in order to sleep,i immediately wake up the moment i start falling asleep.The reason is because i feel like earthquake happens.Or something like that.I have noticed that i am not exactly "shaking"but something like this.

    Summing up,i close my eyes and the moment i am about to sleep,BAM!I wake up because i am-kind of shaking(not exactly shaking.more like shaking from the inside of my body o_O)and think like earthquake happens.
    ANY help on what is this problem and how to solve it would be DEEPLY appreciated as i cannot enjoy my sleep
    Thank you. :)

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  5. QUESTION:
    Need help gettin my little girl sleeping in her cot ?
    My 9 Month old daughter started not wanted to sleep in her cot and only sleeps with me in my bed and don't think that right as not getting no sleep as worried any help or tips will be great? X

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  6. QUESTION:
    Having a VERY hard time sleeping!? Please help!?
    GOOD ADVISE ONLY!! I have been struggling with sleep since last year in August. I have tried so many sleep medications from the doctor,otc sleep-aides and natural sleep-aides. NOTHING WORK. THE WEIRD THING IS THAT I NEVER FEEL TIRED TO GO TO SLEEP AND THATS 24/7. I CAN'T EVEN NAP WGEN I TRY. WHEN MY HEAD HITS THE PILLOW, I GET NOTHING! Its like my brain is not producing the things for sleep. Exercising doesn't help,same bedtime routine doesn't help and neither does staying busy. My little boy needs me so bad. I don't understand how I went from sleeping so well to NOT SLEEPING.,MY EYES SHOW IT. I HAVE BAGS/dark cirles. Never had them before. I am SOOO MISRRABLE. IT HAS RUINED EVERY ASPECT OF MY LIFE. I THINK I MAY BE GETTING REFERRED TO A NEUROPSYCHOLOGIST. DOES ANYONE KNOW WGAT THEY WOULD DO? IDK WHY I NEVER FEEL TIRES EVER. IS IT FROM ALL THE SLEEP MEDS OR IS IT CAUSED BY CONSTANT WORRY about sleep? Even worrying about nit sleeping u would think I would have daytime/nighttime drowsiness but I NEVER DO. ANY GREAT ADVOSE.WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED. I NEED OUT OF THIS SCAREY LIFE. ITS NIT ME AT ALL. I USED TO BE SO MUCH FIN AND OUTGOING BUT NOW I DON'T go anywhere. I CRY ALL THE TIME CUZ I DON' sleep. I have been on serequel for 6 days now. Its not helping. I just wantt out of thisviscious circle and be able to sleep and be comfortable and enjoy life. Everyday is such a struggle. ANYONE KNOW WHAT I CAN DO? I want my natural sleep.back. I hope and.pray I get vwtter for my.lil boys sake and mine. GOOD ADVISE.PLEASE. THANKS SO MUCH. I NEEEEED SLEEEP. MY BRAIN NEVER GOES INTO SLEEP MODE. :(
    WHOEVER READS THIS PLEASE READ IT THOROUGHLY. I NEED GOOD ADVISE ONLY. DID I LOSE MY NATURAL SLEEP? I HAVE MY WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF ME. I DO NOT WANT TO LIVE IT LIKE THIS!!
    OH AND I HAVE ALREADY BEEN SEEN BY A SLEEP DOCTOR. THAT WAS A JOKE. THEY DIDN'T recommend overnight stay since I don't have sleep apnea. I NEED out of this craziness weird sleep problem. My doc even said I am beyond his expertise., :( IM SUPER SCARED. MY LIL BOY IS ALWAYS TRYIN TO GIVE ME HELPFUL HINTS HOW TO SLEEP. NOTHIN WORKS. I HOPE SOMEONE OUT HERE CAN GIVE ME HELPFUL ADVISE. MUCH NEEDED.
    I have tried Melatonin. It didn't help. Trust me. I have tried everything. Do sleeping medicatioons cause insomnia? I haven't been on anything for about 3 months. I am on serequel and thats not helping. I hate taking sleep meds and wish this wasn't happening to me but it is. I need my life back. So frustrating and makes me super sad.

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  7. QUESTION:
    Please help me with this girl I can't stop thinking about?
    Ok I'm in college and me and this group went to a football game and the girl I like a lot was with her ex(broke up in July and yet dated for 2 yrs) and she was like in his jacket and it was zipped up. This made me really jealous. Anyways after te game we went to a party and she drank and she said she was tipsy then she didn't drink anymore well when it was time for bed we were right next to each other and she was cuddling with me and putting her head under my chin then we woke up and she made it seem like nothing happened. Well later she texted me "sorry for laying on you I barely remember sleeping with you" then she said" I mean I wasn't drunk but it was fuzzy and idk I woke up holding your hand" she kept apologizing then she said I thought it might have been awkward but I don't remember and she has been texting me like 3 word responses and just been acting really different. Well today we talked and she thinks I like her but I said I don't (i didnt want to get embarrassed because if she said she didn't like me) so can you please help me I really like this girl

    And I can't stop thinking about her and this situation plus I'm really shy so please help me I'm not really good at relationships

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  8. QUESTION:
    girls: please help me with this situation?
    Ok I'm in college and me and this group went to a football game and the girl I like a lot was with her ex(broke up in July and yet dated for 2 yrs) and she was like in his jacket and it was zipped up. This made me really jealous. Anyways after te game we went to a party and she drank and she said she was tipsy then she didn't drink anymore well when it was time for bed we were right next to each other and she was cuddling with me and putting her head under my chin then we woke up and she made it seem like nothing happened. Well later she texted me "sorry for laying on you I barely remember sleeping with you" then she said" I mean I wasn't drunk but it was fuzzy and idk I woke up holding your hand" she kept apologizing then she said I thought it might have been awkward but I don't remember and she has been texting me like 3 word responses and just been acting really different so can you please help me I really like this girl

    And I can't stop thinking about her and this situation plus I'm really shy so please help me I'm not really good at relationships

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  9. QUESTION:
    I'm 20 and afraid of sleeping alone? help?
    I'm scared of sleeping in a room alone. If I have to I go fetch the dog and let it sleep next to the bed. I guess I'm afraid of the dark, burglars, ghosts... I know its highly illogical, but even if I tell myself that nothing will happen I'm still scared. I literally lay down only to stay up all night jumping at every little noise. Sleeping pills didn't help much, and I don't want to get addicted to them. I don't drink coffee either. I can't sleep until I hear everyone else is awake :/ It's getting really annoying.

    I've tried sleeping with music but the music just annoys me. I've tried watching TV until I sleep but its of little use. I've tried jsut closing my eyes and taking deep breaths but then when something squeaks or I hear a loud car drive by I freak out even worse then usual. The only thing that works is if someone else is in the room or the dog is there. Even just a chihuahua.
    I can't sleep with the lights on, its to bright. but I can't sleep with them off, its to dark. Night lights don't help. I'm not really afraid of the dark, i can sleep in the pitch black if there's a dog or a person there. I just can't sleep by myself. =/

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  10. QUESTION:
    Why am i more attracted to the idea of sleeping around help please?x?
    I am now finally in the longest relationship might it be its only been 3 months, i am used to sleeping around and having one night stands. In any relationship i have been in it's been on a superficial level and has resorted in me cheating on them from my own paranoid or insecure reasons. Now in this relationship i know i love her with all my heart, but at the same time cannot stop fantasising about other woman and missing my old lifestyle of sleeping around..now i don't want to hurt this girl but we argue so much that it drives me away and i feel barely attracted to her. I also feel like im losing my friends and my social lifestyle because of her. now has anyone else has theese kind of problems and could they tell me about their experiences pleaase?x

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  11. QUESTION:
    I saw Hide and Seek, now I'm too scared to go to sleep ... HELP?!?!?
    I keep thinking Charlie is watching me in the dark with his knife and torch, and I keep imagining the part of the film with Emily holding her toy clock at 2.06, and I keep getting scared that I'll wake up at 2.06 and find someone or something dead in the bath, or that I'll be killed and put there ... HELP ME?!?!

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  12. QUESTION:
    hey im Kayden, im 21- can you help me with this situation?
    There is this guy i care about but Hes extremely hot. and knows he can get anybody he wants. Hes 26 and i'm 21. Lets just call him "Jon". Weve been sleeping together for the whole summer so far. Friends think hes sweet. Hes sweet if your not the one sleeping with him. He is-yes then hes-no. & is a huge dick sometimes. There is no strings attaches. I told him last weekend, when we were having sex that i wanted to date him. He told me i was beautiful but he didnt want to date anybody The Fri that just passed- i was @ the bar with my friend and 2 guys were talking to us. Jon walked in, saw me talking to these guys. Wen i made eye contact with him, i quickly looked away. Jon came over to us and introduced himself to the guys saying, "Who's your friends?" ( in a jealous playful tone) Then Sat night i ran into him at the bar and I was lost from all of my friends because my phone was dead. I was waisted. I approached him and asked him if i could use his phone cuz mine was dead. And he said in a really nasty tone, "Nah- get lost." I feel stupid and desperate. Wat should i say the next time i see him. Do you think he felt a little pissed about Thurs, maybe i made him feel awkward in front of those guys? Idk. Have you ever dealt with a guy like this and if you ARE one.. tell me why guys act like this?

    • ANSWER:
      stay away from him, he seems like a complete asshole and a waste of ur time. he obviously doesnt want to date or have a relationship with you, it seems like he just wants to get layed. im not trying to be a bitch, its more like tough love...... in fact i would move on, there are wayyyy better guys out there that will treat you like u want to be treated. but im sure u already no that. if u see him again, i would seriously just ignore him. dont even acknowledge him. if i no one thing about guys, it drives them nuts when u do that. he seems like the kind of guy that can walk all over you and hold power over you. if u seem at ease and act like he is nothing special then he will be like suddenly more interested. (play hard to get). and if he isnt more interested and moves on. then u should no from that move what his intentions were the whole time. be strong and hold ur ground. u know whats right and whats wrong. what he is doing is wrong.

      good luck!! ;)

  13. QUESTION:
    Anxiety affecting sleep, help?
    I can't relax with my lights out, I start freaking out being very paranoid and nothing stops it other than having the lights on but I can't sleep with the lights on because my eyes are kinda sensitive and I already have insomnia to deal with. It feels like I've tried everything, can anyone help?

    • ANSWER:
      I did this to help me sleep. For one hour every night before I went to sleep I would right down every plan, thought, dream, worry, problem I had that day. It took a few weeks but it worked.
      By exhausting your mind you can sleep. If anything new pops in. Turn on the light write it down.
      This was therapy after my last Iraq tour.

  14. QUESTION:
    please help me with my marriage before i go crazy!?
    My husband don't sleep in the bed with me, or help clean,or help with any of the bills. I have tried to talk with him he don't listen he says im just trying to fight with him i am trying to go back to school to get my RN degree and i have a 2 year old little boy and i want him to have the world but my husband blows all his money so its like im a single mom so what do i do im so tried of cleaning up after my husband he never does it himself he told me he does not fold clothes or wash dishes but i guess he does not do anything else he says he is tried well what about me i work everyday plus go to school 2 night a week plus take care of a 2 year old plus clean up away both of them where is my me time or time for me to take a bubble bath or do my nails i never have time for myself at all so what do i do?

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  15. QUESTION:
    How do you sleep at night knowing children are being killed in the wombs of mothers with no help from POTUS?

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  16. QUESTION:
    Someone please help me. Sleep paralysis and nightmares?
    Well, a while back I had bad problems with sleep paralysis and nightmares. It lasted for quite a while, but eventually went away for the most part. I still had some of both, but it wasn't almost every night like it was. Now, it's starting again. :/ I can wake up I don't even know how many times during my sleep from nightmares, and a lot of times, it's also sleep paralysis. And now it's to a point where it's not just waking up and not being able to move and being scared that something's there, it's where I actually see things now. I'm not crazy, I know it's not real, and just part of it, but it's still so terrible. But I AM awake, I can tell. It's just like.. hallucinating. And now sometimes I even wake up just flat out unable to breathe. Last night I thought I heard and saw something right in front of me, and it's just.. yeah, I hate it. I know it's from waking up in the REM stage. And surprisingly, it's not really when I sleep on my back. I rarely sleep on my back. But I've been trying to tell my parents and they just look at me like I'm crazy. :( None of my friends understand, only a couple have even had it before. Can someone please help me with what to do about this? I'm getting serious sleep deprivation from it, and that makes it worse, because I've heard that also contributes to more sleep paralysis. I really just don't know what to do.

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  17. QUESTION:
    i cant sleep. the only way i can get myself tired is if i go a day without sleeping. anyone have any clue why?
    like i said, i can only get my self to feel sleepy, or get my body into sleep mode is if i go a night with out sleeping and waiting for the next evening to come. this usually comes with hallucinations from sleep deprivation. its like my body needs over a full 24 hours to feel the need for rest.

    i do sleep though with help from sleeping medication:
    - trazodone / 150mg

    not sure if this is relevant but i also take other medication for bipolar and depression:
    - cymbalta / 60mg / at night
    - lamotrigine / 200mg / at night

    not sure if this is insomnia or my brain not wanting to shut it self off at a normal time.
    any help would be greatly appreciated. i really want to figure this out.

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  18. QUESTION:
    Whats wrong with me help ?
    I was going to sleep last night when i became aware that my whole body was vibrating and i became uncomfortable (i was on my left side at the time)so i turned over to my right side anyway after a minuite or so i realised i hadn't even moved i was still on my left side in the same position as i fell asleep in but it felt so real and i sortof felt like i knew my body was behind me when i turned to the other side what do you think? I was awake at the time what do you think also i have sleep paralysis now and again but this was nothing like that i usually see scary stuff with sleep paralysis oh and i had not been drinking or on drugs

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  19. QUESTION:
    What's wrong with my dog?! Please Help!!?
    My 3 year old Yorkie named gizmo has always had a peeing problem. It got better for a few months up until we moved 2 months ago. Ever since he pees EVERYWHERE. He also sleeps with me now opposed to our old house where he slept in a cage. He also bites a lot too. He never bit before. He has never bit me but he bites my mom and brother and anyone other random person who walks into our house. Please help or my moms going to get rid of him. :(

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  20. QUESTION:
    My friend wants me to sleep with her? HELP! ?
    I'm at my friend's house right now and I'm spending the night with her because my parents went on a business trip. So she had this idea that we sleep together...naked. We're both girls and were not lesbos but she just wants to try it. Should I? I do admit she is pretty attractive. We're both 15. I mean have you ever done something with a friend?
    She isn't lesbian. She has a boyfriend. Maybe she's bi?
    I'll just sleep with her tonight and see if I like it. (:

    • ANSWER:
      Try it. Jk well u never know

  21. QUESTION:
    Would it be weird to sleep with the guy i like? No one's really answering, help!?
    I just want to sleep with him, no sex. I told him that i want to sleep with him, he thinks that we wont' have an opportunity to sleep together.
    I'm 19 and he's 21.
    He knows i like him. I don't know how him and i get away with nobody knowing we slept together.
    I think i could tell my parents that i'm gonna sleep at his sister's house but i don't know if my brother would go to his sister's house to check on me, i'm not saying that he would cuz my brother's 17.
    Any ideas? Help!
    He didn't say he didn't want to sleep with me, but he thinks and i think he's right that we won't have an opportunity to sleep together. Unless i can come up with a good plan, but idk :(

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  22. QUESTION:
    Im sleeping at my bf's house for halloween any advice?
    So this halloween me and my boyfriend are planning on going trick or treating and dress as a couple of superheros. Then go to his house and watch movies . He told me to sleep over at his house and well the next day when we wake up we go to school. No where not going to have sex where just going to sleep togheter! , Do you guys have any tips oh and also should i sleep with bra or no bra on ? :/ Help meee ... any advice.

    • ANSWER:
      Keep your superhero costume on under your pj's and you'll be ok! ;)

  23. QUESTION:
    I can't sleep...help?
    I am having real problems with sleeping. My husband snores and that has kept me awake on and off but even when him or I sleep in the other room I still don't sleep. I toss and turn alot and wake up 2-3 times per night. I wake up early. Sometimes I can go back to sleep and catch up on a little rest but 1/2 the time I'm up. My neck and upper shoulders hurt alot. I wear a night guard because I have TMJ and clench my teeth. My jaw is sore all the time. I slept on a feather pillow and just bought a mypillow from www.mypillow.com I've slept on it for 2 nights now but so far it hasn't help but it is different than a feather pillow so may need to get used to it. I thought about going to a chiropractor but where do I find a good one and is this what I need. I am so tired all the time.

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  24. QUESTION:
    How to keep your hair in place while sleeping?10pts?
    I take a shower at night times and I air dry my hair.It looks perfectly fine, until I go to sleep.In the morning my hair turns wavy but it sticks out in weird ways!D: My hair style is meant for straight hair and i don't want to straighten my hair, because i dont want to damage it.I've heard satin pillow cases help, but I don't have one.Can anyone help me with this problem?

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  25. QUESTION:
    My daughter runs cross country I need help with diet please?
    She started junior high and joined cross country. Its 7am before school. She has been complaining to me how tired she is now that she is in junior high.

    I took her to a meet this past Saturday and watched my energetic 12 year old come home dying for sleep. I know this is wearing her out but she loves it.

    I told her 2 things.
    Food and SLEEP.
    She clearly is not getting enough sleep first off but I cannot control that since she lives with her mother. But I also wonder if there is some food she can eat to really help her.
    Any suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      Im a Junior and has been running CC since i was in 7th grade...
      my coach always tells us to Pasta up the night before a meet
      meaning lots of carbs so we have have energy to burn off

      on a daily basis she should not drink so much coke, only lots of water and a power aid or gatoraid every so often

      as for sleep she should go to bed early and try not to sleep more then an hr before her bed time. going in and out of sleep will just make her more tiered

      as for food she should eat things with lots of carbs so she will have energy turn burn off throught the day

      hope this helped =]

  26. QUESTION:
    How to deal with semi selfish inlaws who are using you for financial aide? Help!?
    Hey there!

    So-my boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together. I am having issues with his parents a little bit and I need advice on what to do. We get along. I like them and they like me. We chat a lot and I even am around when he is not. I feel very comfortable with them and we don't really fight etc.
    My boyfriend is living with them (well his mother moved to AZ for a job but still owns the home and his dad still lives here in our state in the home). He is living with them to help with bills and remodeling the home. He is very loyal to his parents. His dad moved into the garage to leave the master bedroom empty. They have now thrown there son (my boyfriend) into the living room to sleep/live. His sister has a room and pays 200 in rent a month. My boyfriend pays more a month in rent then she does. I also help every month with needs such as everyones t.p, shampoo/cond/cleaning things etc. I also pay for ALL of the food in the home and often am at the store constantly grabbing this or that. Due to my boyfriends loyalty he will not leave his parents home as hes helping them. His dad also is suffering from throat cancer.I am proud of him! He is an amazing son. But what is bothering me is why he is out in the living room? We have a baby on the way and we have offered to rent the master room with me moving in of course. I currently can not help his parents out so much with their needs and my own and rent my own place. Why can we not pay rent and continue doing what were doing...helping his parents not loose their home? If it wasn't for us it would have been lost as his mom took off but still wants the house in her name. His parents have rented to a few people off of CL. They've rented the master for 400 and other room for 300. We offered to pay 500-600 in rent and still pay for food and ness. needs. I am frustrated because I almost feel used. Especially since his sister has a room to rent and she isn't there helping her sick father, she comes in and out and has no regard for anyone.

    What do I do? I CANT help them and myself at the same time but they are family to me so I feel obligated.

    • ANSWER:
      You do not have inlaws as you are not legally married.

  27. QUESTION:
    help with my virginety?
    i first spoke to this girl on facebook and she said about her family being ill so on. then i don't know why but i asked her out she said yes and we have planed to meet up after school one day. and have intercourse. im 15 ( don't say too Young ) and shes 16 and she has arranged to sleep over. this all happened in 1 facebook chat within 3 hours and i think she is a bit of a bitch. she hangs around with the wrong people apparently and i don't know what to do. i have high standards. i want to have intercourse. but with someone i love. i don't know what to do. i need advise on what to do. and before you ask i am respectable. never drunk, toutched drugs or smoked and i al a bit of a teachers pet. plz help i need advise

    • ANSWER:
      wow im am blown away by your morals!!! I didn't think people had morals anymore w jersey shore being the #1 watched show. If you want to be careful just hold her or make out when she's over and maybe say shes so beautiful that you'd like to get to know her first and that you respect her. Dam son but you seem noble to even ask this question most guys are sleaze balls. Perhaps this will make her like you even more because i dated a girl for a year before we had sex when i met her junior year so sex may complicate things idk maybe not

  28. QUESTION:
    Help with very bad dreams?
    i have been having bad dreams for about 3 weeks now and theyve become much worse the last 3 nights. i go through phases of good dreams then bad dreams then back to good dreams. bad dreams are zombies, rats, humans, and demons trying to kill me, kill people around me, or try to take something from me. some dreams feel like im watching a movie and other dreams are so real. last night was the worst dream i have ever had where there was a bunch of demons trying to take my friends away, but my "friends", i had never seen before and i was refusing to let them go. i really dont want to sleep anymore and i dont want to take sleeping pills because i think i might get trapped in the dream and not be able to wake up. yes i pray to god and it doesnt seem to help :( i also have ocd and i am now very scared to look into a mirror. im not on any medication.
    not scared to look into a mirror, terrified
    im not eatting before i sleep not watching tv, dont have cable

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  29. QUESTION:
    This may sound weird but I really need help with this?
    Well my uncle moved in and he wants his girlfiend to live here to. ( we have a huge house). My mom told him no but she always sleeps there and says she has a cold. I can't blame her since she really does. But anyway they are both unemployed and expect my mom and dad to feed them at dinner and clean up after them and. Can't ever have my friends over since my uncle and his girlfriend are always playing my Xbox. His girlfriend lives with her parents but always comes to our house. Every single day ever since my uncle came back she's here from about 9 am to 11 pm and then secretly sleeps at our house. We have proof since she parked her car far down the street and when we asked she and my uncle said oh they did that to save room in our driveway, even though the day before she parked there since she was sick. So that night she slept over and my mom said it was ok but then she did it again and said even though we left at five she got at our house at three am. Aren't they taking advantage? She is a whore always saying let's go have sex and things like that but my parents don't know and just thinks she comes to our house with her baby since her parents may not like her that much. My mom never believes me that my uncles girlfriend sleeps there and says let's have sex. They are in there 30s and still living with their parents how do I get my mom to find out that she's been sleeping there? Please I really don't like her...

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  30. QUESTION:
    Help me out with this girl I like?
    Alright long story short I really like this girl but she still has feelings for her ex but the other day she drank and was tipsy she cuddled and slept with me all night then when we woke up she said sorry a lot for doing that. She doesn't remember that we cuddled. And I said to her I didn't think you liked me like that and she said well not really but I thought maybe you did. I said I didn't like her but the truth is is I like her a lot and can't stop thinking about her. What should I do?(I'm extremely shy and kind of embarrassed cause I think she thinks I like her and it's true I do like her)

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  31. QUESTION:
    Paralyzed while sleeping.....?
    Sooo obviously I was sleeping.
    I don't know what time I went to bed but it was around 1 I think.
    I was watching tv and I felt tired so I went to go to sleep.
    Every time I closed my eyes I felt like something bad was gonna happen when I fell asleep.
    And when my eyes were open, I felt like there were a whole bunch of people or ghosts or something leaning over me, watching me.
    I slid under my covers and eventually fell asleep.
    I had this dream that really phased me... (I remember every detail. It scares me.)
    It was halloween and I was throwing a halloween party.
    It was time to eat and all my friends gathered at a table.
    In my dream, everyone turned into what they were dressed up as..
    I don't remember what I was though.
    My guy friend who was really cute was some kind of person thing that could control you and your mind with the click of a button.
    Of course I didn't believe him so he pressed it and said "Go get me a glass of water." I didn't respond cause it didn't work. But then he did it again and it worked.
    In my dream my head got very heavy...but it also felt as my head really was getting heavy.
    I felt in while I was sleeping. You know how when you're having a really good dream and you're smiling in your dream but you're also smiling in real life cause it's a really good dream and you can tell that you're smiling? Yeah well it was like that for me only with my head getting heavy...
    It felt like everything in my body was getting very heavy. I couldn't even open my eyes from the dream. That's how bad it was. Eventually I opened my eyes for whatever reason but I could feel myself waking up when I did.
    What the eff was this?!
    Pleasee help me.
    I'm only 14 and I've experiencedriencd anything like this.
    Is there a spirit in my house?
    Was my dream just that vivid?
    If my dream was that vivid...explain what was happening before. I've never felt anything like what I felt before I went to sleep.
    Pleaseee help me....
    I've never experienced anything like this.** <-------------------what I mean to type.

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  32. QUESTION:
    Depression - chamomile tea question?
    I read chamomile tea can help with sleeping if you have depression (with nervousness especially) but can it help with depression without the nervousness ? if that makes sense. Thanks.

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  33. QUESTION:
    My cousin touched me inappropriately while I was sleeping?! Please help!?
    This happened about 1 week ago. Most of my extended and direct family and I went down to the coast for the week for a family reunion. We were sharing my aunt's beach house (which is quite large), all of the bedrooms were full with the couples and really young kids in the family, so my cousin, who is 17 and I, I'm 16, volunteered to sleep on the couch downstairs in the living room.

    The couch was L shaped and I slept on 1 side and he slept on the other. We watched a couple of movies and talked a bit and then we decided to go to sleep. I had fallen asleep but I woke up when I felt the blankets being pulled off of me and my cousin lying down next to me. My back was to him, so he couldn't see that I was awake. I was about to ask him what he was doing, but his hands began touching my breasts and other more....private parts. I didn't know what to do because I was in shock and I was scared so I pretended to still be asleep. He kept touching me for what felt like ages until he went back to his side of the couch. I stayed awake until morning, he didn't come back.

    I don't know what to do! He's been my best friend since we were in kindergarten. I can't believe that someone I've known and trusted for so long would do something like this! The next day, he was using every opportunity he got to touch me, in the car his hand would linger near my chest and lap a bit longer than necessary when he reached over me along with other situations.

    I know that this is wrong, but I don't know how or what to tell my parents. The nights after that I was making up excuses to sleep in my parents room. Should I confront him? Or just tell my parents? I do love him like a brother and I don't want him to get arrested or anything. Is there a way we could resolve the situation without the authorities?

    Any answers would be appreciated and please no silly answers, I really need help!

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  34. QUESTION:
    depression - chamomile tea question?
    I read chamomile tea can help with sleeping if you have depression (with nervousness especially) but can it help with depression without the nervousness ? if that makes sense. Thanks.

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  35. QUESTION:
    Do you think that Jesus will help me with my Paranoid Schitzophrenia! Please Read and Respond!?
    HI, I am currently a senior in high school and over this past summer I developed Paranoid Schitzophrenia, and i know for sure that I have it because i have had Delusions that I was being watched and that Someone would break into our house at night. I have also been seeing things, like little movements in the air when I look at a certain area for a few minutes, and I have have also been experiencing obsessive compulsive like disorders and I have also had thoughts of Commiting Suicide by hanging myself with a rope from a tree.

    So, do you think that I should pray to Jesus because many times I feel very bad and miserable that I lock myself in the bedroom for the entire day and dont eat or sleep because of this? So should I pray to Jesus for Help and Comfort?

    Please Respond,

    Thank You and GOD Bless!

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  36. QUESTION:
    acne HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
    Anything at home I can use to get rid of my acne. I have bangs and the oil from my hair causes my forehead to break out. My bangs cover it but I would love to clip my hair back but its to embarrassing. I have tried EVERYTHING. I am thinking of trying something I can do at home. I am drinking more water(i heard it helps), and i wash my hair everyday and face twice a day. I heard sleeping with a warm cloth of the spots help. Same with baking soda and tooth paste. Is it true? What else can i do before I blow of fmore money?

    • ANSWER:
      I'm not sure whether you have heard of it but I use a type of thing called Tibicos. It is something like wine but NOT wine.i'm an asian an it is very popular in my place. U can bathe,wash your hair and even armpits with this tibicos :) it's really effective and it will cleanse your skin througly and it will also make your entire body smooth! Good luck :) why don't you try surfing the net about where to get this...

  37. QUESTION:
    I really need help with this relationship problem.?
    First a little background. Sorry this is going to be a long one, but I really need some advice.

    My boyfriend is in his last year of college. He is 24 and has been living with his mother across town to save money. But he has never really felt "at home" in the house. He constantly feels as though everyone looks down on him and doesn't care about him. Recently, his mother broke her leg, so his aunt has been staying at their house to take care of her. Unfortunately, his aunt is a drug addict. His mom asked him to hide her pain medications in his room so that the aunt wouldn't steal them. But he forgot about them after a while and someone found them, and his aunt accused him of stealing them. She threatened to have her son "beat his ass". He is not a drug addict though. He recently quit smoking and he does not even drink alcohol.

    Anyway, after this happened, he asked if he could stay with me for a few days to get away from it for a bit, because he was really upset after that happened. I said of course.

    Well it has been a week and a half since he has been staying with me. I wouldn't care to let him stay with me as long as he likes, but I have a roommate and have to be considerate to her as well. We got into a situation like this a few years ago where he starting living with me and a different roommate for months and I felt really bad that he didn't pay any rent or anything. I didn't want this situation to happen again.

    So last night, I politely asked him how much longer he would be staying with me and when he would be going back home. He immediately jumped down my throat and got extremely upset. He accused me of "not wanting him" and trying to "kick him out". It was absurd. He was putting words in my mouth left and right. I remained very stoic because I didn't think what I asked was that bad, but he really blew everything out of proportion. Finally, he asked me to take him back to his house and started packing his things. But the real shocker came when he said, with malice and contempt dripping from his voice "I'm going to cut my wrists tonight when I get home. I just want you to know that." It was such a slap in the face, I didn't know what to say. He said it with an air of trying to guilt me into letting him stay. I didn't want to be forced into letting him get what he wanted, after everything I've already given him.

    I let it go, thinking he was just threatening me. Finally, we got in the car, and as we pulled away, he broke down into terrible sobs and starting punching himself in the leg. I stopped the car in a parking lot and just sat. I had no idea what to do. I'm not good with extreme emotions.

    He started yelling about how "no one wants him" and about how "he is a burden to everyone". I told him that I want him and loved him but he never listens to me when he is upset like that. His word is all he can hear when he gets those ideas in his head. He said he would rather sleep on the street or in a homeless shelter than go back to his house. And over and over he kept saying that if he had to go back to his house, he would cut himself. And I know he would too, because he has done it before, with an old girlfriend. How could I have that on my conscience? Finally, I broke down, and we went back to my house.

    I am so extremely frustrated. He is 24 years old and he acts out like a child. He lets stupid, false accusations from his aunt get to him. He seems to think it is everyone else's responsibility to take care of him and give him a place to live. He thinks the idea of getting a job and getting his OWN place to live is out of the question.

    I don't know what to do. When I try to tell him he needs to act like an adult and either put up with the crap at his house, or get his own place. He blows up and yells at me, accusing me of not wanting him. How on earth do I respond to that??! It's like he refuses to be an adult.

    It's not fair to me. He can't live with me again, not when I have a roommate. I've done him such a huge courtesy by letting him stay with me for this long, not to mention that I give him rides everywhere because he doesn't have a car. I don't want to break up with him, either because I do love him. I just wish he would get his act together and be an adult.

    And honestly, if I did break up with him, because of how bad he claims everything else in his life is, I have no doubts that he would honestly try to kill himself. He constantly tells me how much he loves me and I am the best thing he has in his life. But what do I do? I do not want to lay down and be a doormat for him to walk over. I have to stand up for myself, too. But he is just so unstable and fragile, and he won't talk to a therapist about it either.

    Can anyone give me any advice? I really need help.
    Thanks Caroline. I do love him, though. He have been dating for nearly 4 years, but this is the first time something like this has really happened. I was quite shocked, and lost, to say the least.
    Well, I tried to sit him down, and told him I wanted to have a mature conversation, with no yelling and screaming, and the exact same thing has happened all over. He just breaks down and shuts everything out. I believe him when he said he has had a hard life, but it's just not fair to me. I guess it is just my fault for getting tied up with someone who was so damaged. I never will again.

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  38. QUESTION:
    I need help with my current situation?
    Okay,this is going to be a relatively long post so if you really don't feel like reading I'd suggest you turn back now but I'd highly appreciate if you'd give it a shot and leave some serious feedback.[Also,please don't suggest that I should see a psychologist because I am seeing one but I would also like to hear your advice.]
    I'm yet another teenager with problems,and quite a lot for that.
    First of all,3 months ago I moved to a new country,namely Italy, to live with my mother of which I've been separated for years(sure,I saw her now and then,but not that much since we lived in different countries.I won't go into detail though) and since then we've been trying do deal with the problems I've accumulated throughout the years I've been away from her(which are plenty).At first,I even tried going to school in my new country,but due to the panic attacks I had every morning when going to school both me and my mother came to terms that I would stay home to learn the italian language(The language too has been a problem for me,and it still is.I find hard to speak two languages[mother language,namely romanian and english] and now learn another one) and take care of my other problems.
    My biggest problem is that I'm overweight.Now,it might not seem that important to some people,but I've always been bullied because of this and this bullying of course had some consequences.I have become very insecure,shy,I have no self-reliance,low self-esteem.Oh,both me and my mother have been suspecting that I might also have general anxiety(The symptoms match my condition perfectly).
    These problems aside,there are other things about myself that I want to change.Such as my extreme laziness which is really getting in the way,my lack of routine(by routine I mean I don't go to a certain hour to sleep and when I go,I go late at night,not to mention I wake up very late)my short attention span,lack of motivation,my indifference regarding my own life and what's going to happen with it over time(I'm kind of apathetic in general),my dissatisfaction with everything and anything(I don't even get satisfaction out of something I achieved myself) and last but not least,my internet/gaming addiction.
    What can I do to change myself?I really want to go school like normal people do,to have some self-confidence,motivation and will to live more than anything.
    Thank you for reading and please don't judge me.

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  39. QUESTION:
    Hello, is there anyone who can help me with my laziness?
    I'm beginning to think that I am the laziest person alive. So, it goes like this. All I ever do is listen to music and play the guitar. I really love sleeping and I could spend an eternity just lying down, doing nothing. I don't use social networks and I use my computer only for music and occasionally movies. I don't ever watch television and I keep my flat really clean, I hate it when it's messy. I guess that's how I feel on the inside too, simplistic and clean. I love reading books but nowadays I don't even read. I've asked some other people the same question and they told me some stuff like I should identify my life goal, etc. Well, that's not the issue here, I know what's my goal, I know what I need to do and I know that I want to do it, the only thing that gets in my way is procrastination. I don't know, I'm just so relaxed, rarely ever nervous, I never get cold feet, stuff like that. Sigh, can anyone help. Thanks. :-)
    Of course it has occurred to me that simply by asking the question I am being lazy. And I don't play any games. Come on people, wake up the philanthropist inside yourselves.
    Also, I can't dance to Tchaikovsky and stuff like that.

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  40. QUESTION:
    Help with my Pokemon FireRed team?
    Ok, Im about to challenge the fire gym in fire red version and my team is:

    Blastoise - Lvl 50. Modest. Ice beam, surf, rain dance, bite

    Vile plume: Lvl 52. Mild. Giga drain, sleep powder, petal dance, acid. (I know, this needs a lot of work)

    Dug trio - Lvl 51. Jolly. Earthquake, rock slide, aerial ace, slash

    Arcanine - Lvl 52. Rash. Flamethrower, bite, extreemespeed, dig.

    Aerodactyl - Lvl 49. Jolly. Wing attack, earthquake, fly, hyper beam. (this needs help to hah)

    So what do you think of my team and their move sets? And what should my sixth Pokemon be? Thanks!

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  41. QUESTION:
    Help with my book please?
    In my book, the characters live in an abandoned fire station. Realistically, what rooms did fire stations have? I know garage, lockerroom, kitchen, place to sleep. Anything else?

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  42. QUESTION:
    I'm having trouble with my host-family? help?
    Ok, I'm a 16 yr old exchange student in France.
    so i mean, they feed me, i share a nice room with my host-sister and i have a comfy bed etc. My room is the favourite part of the house.. the thing is.. i spent all the day here because they never do ANYTHING! all they do is watch t.v and i cant even undertand/care about french reality shows.

    Theyre a nice family.. but idk.. its like, they're not mean nor nice.. theyre nothing.. its as if I wasnt even there :/ like.. I eat and sleep. I'm alive.. thats all I do. They dont even talk to me.. they pretend I'm not even there.. I start conversation sometimes to my same-aged host sister and sometimes shes nice and keeps the conversation going. but sometimes shes soo bitchy and sais ''yeah'' or ''i dont know'' really meanley.
    I've heard her whispering with her mom about me.. probably in a bad way, but the thing is i have no fucking idea what in the world i could be doing wrong!!! I'm literally eating and sleeping (and when i'm awake i just read or use the computer) in which way could that annoy her???????? ugh.

    Help?? hwo do i get along with them? i'm scared to change host families because it took a long time getting used to this one and it would be like starting again, plus i really like my room here (even though i share it) its super pretty and cozy,, its the only place i feel ''at home'' ugh.. help :(

    NOTE* right now I'm on vacations, but school is going really good.

    ******************* I just want to get along with them.. or not feel so fucking USELESS.. im like a thing that eats and sleeps and reads and uses the computer THAT ALL I DO. sometimes i go out for walks.. but ugh.. back home i was so active! i would always be doing something (kickboxing lessons, jogging, cooking something, with my friends, painting, playing guitar . etc)

    • ANSWER:
      There are several things that you can do. first, remember that the french culture is markedly different from american culture. (We) tend to be more playful and out-going than the french (and that is not a bad thing, just different). You could suggest to your host family that you would like them to show you the sights; museums, historic places, countryside, etc... Ask your family what they like to do for fun or recreation, and if they give you examples, ask if you could participate with them. There is every possibility that they are as uncomfortable as you are. Communication is key! It is very OK to explain to them that you feel very much an outsider and ask if they can suggest some activities that may help you feel more a part of the culture? You can do this without saying to them that it is (they) who are making you feel uncomfortable. If all else fails, well, id rather be alone for all the right reasons than with someone for the wrong ones. A room is a room, and Im sure that you would like to spend more time in France and getting into the mix than cooped up with a bed, dresser, closet and a computer...that you can find anywhere. Explain to your teachers or exchange committee about your concerns. Best of luck!

  43. QUESTION:
    How often does an adverse reaction occur with Phenergan (promethazine)?
    The last time I took some generic Benadryl (diphenhydramine HCl) to help me sleep, I was up almost all night. This was March 2009, and I believe I had an adverse reaction to it - instead of making me drowsy, I believe it made me wired. (Course, eighteen months later I found out I was hyperthyroid, so that theory may be invalid.) In short, I believe that instead of making me drowsy, that all antihistamines will perhaps make me excited, nervous, or anxious. As I already have a severe anxiety disorder, this is something I want to avoid at all costs.

    So, I'm wondering...how often does Phenergan (promethazine) cause such events in people? Have studies been made? Is there a known percentage of patients who report feeling edgy?

    I ask because I have a vial of promethazine tablets that were prescribed for nausea, although my doctor has stated in the past that I may use them for occasional insomnia. They used to work phenomenally, allowing me to sleep for roughly five hours, then wake up feeling very refreshed instead of groggy. I am worried now, though, because I have both an anxiety disorder and hyperthyroid disease. I am on a beta blocker to reduce my heart rate and keep my panic attacks minimalised, but there are still times when my heart rate does quicken due to small amounts of caffeine I might have ingested.

    I know. I am such a paranoid whiner, aren't I?

    Anyway, thank you in advance for your answers!

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  44. QUESTION:
    Please help me with these bowel symptoms. Just IBS?
    -I eat lots of fiber, I like to think it helps (a slice of whole wheat bread daily, only whole wheat pasta, and often eat all bran buds dry - no milk).
    -Chocolate milk and Ice cream = INTENSE abdominal pain, needing a bathroom within 30 seconds or ELSE, gas, abdominal distension, nausea (although I have never actually vomited from it). This usually goes away after getting to a bathroom and staying there for about 10 minutes.
    -I often get very watery diarrhea without any pain or distension for no explainable reason for a few days in a row (no trigger foods that I can think of).
    -I CAN drink milk, if I down it very quickly it will make me sick or drink it on an empty stomach, however it doesn't usually cause intense symptoms.
    -sometimes I get the urge to need a bathroom immediately for no reason at all, when I haven't eaten anything recently or have only eaten what is normally a "safe" food.
    -During severe episodes I often notice that the food is very undigested in the diarrhea (sorry a lot of information but I figured it important)
    -I have mucous in my stool every once in a while
    -I never have blood in my stool.
    -I am very often fatigued even though I sleep 8 hours a night and go to bed/rise on a fairly regular schedule.
    -Last time I was at the doctors I had blood drawn and they said they would call me if anything was abnormal, they did not call so my LAB values are apparently all in line.

    I am in my mid-20's and these symptoms have been occurring since my mid to late teens. My mother and sister also experience them but not nearly to the severity that I do. I mentioned everything to my doctor and he said that I likely have Irritable Bowel Syndrome and left it at that. My symptoms vary in severity, I can go through a month where I have diarrhea every day and then a month where it is rare.

    I AM going to bring this up again with my doctor and push to have it looked into but in the mean time I am curious of other opinions? It this just IBS in your opinion, what about lactose sensitivity, crohns, celiac? Anyone want to offer their input?

    And please...no responses saying "Go get that looked at" that is already the plan.

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  45. QUESTION:
    Help with my Pokemon team in FireRed?
    Ok, Im about to challenge the fire gym in fire red version and my team is:

    Blastoise - Lvl 50. Modest. Ice beam, surf, rain dance, thunder

    Vile plume: Lvl 52. Mild. Giga drain, sleep powder, petal dance, acid. (I know, this needs a lot of work)

    Dug trio - Lvl 51. Jolly. Earthquake, rock slide, aerial ace, slash

    Arcanine - Lvl 52. Rash. Flamethrower, bite, extreemespeed, dig.

    Aerodactyl - Lvl 49. Jolly. Rock slide, earthquake, fly, hyper beam.

    So what do you think of my team and their move sets? And what should my sixth Pokemon be? Thanks!

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  46. QUESTION:
    Is this anxiety? Can it make you feel like this please help I'm begging! Help me ?
    I am 17 years old and have dealt with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts for four years without medication. I am on medication now which is Ativan and I take 0.5 mg a day. I've been taking it for two months now. Although I still feel stressed. I don't know what's going on with my heart but it feels like it's going to stop now and it's struggling. I get night time anxiety I think (only happens most at night time), and a few months ago I noticed I couldn't really feel my heart beating and I made it go faster til I could feel my whole body pulsating. (it's been that way for four years also, my heart has always beat fast and hard but now it doesn't and I'm freaked out). I have a high heart rate even when resting (in the 100's usually) and low blood pressure. I don't know what this means. Im not active and it's only feeling like its going to stop when resting most of the time. I lost my grandma about a year ago to heart failure and then I lost my god mother after to a heart anyrusim, then my friend who died recently (Courtney Nash, the girl who died from a brain amoeba, it was all over the news nationwide) and I've been scarred and depressed ever since. I do go to a therapist but not often. All I'm asking is, can non stop stress and depression make you feel like your body is going to shut down and just stop working? Because I just feel so exhausted. Mentally and physically. I also have abnormal breathing patterns because of anxiety (always tense and expecting something bad to happen). Should I go to the dr? I've been and he said I was healthy :/ but I think there's something wrong with my heart. I just feel like I'm dying and I cry everyday and I usually cannot sleep. Someone help me please? Am I going to be okay? It's 4 am. I have no one to talk to.

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  47. QUESTION:
    PLEASE HELP!!!!!! HAVING PROBLEMS WITH MY HEART?
    ok well i think im having some problem with my heart i do have a history of heart problem my dad has had 2 heart attacks ok well here is whats wrong ok when ever i stretch or stand up my heart rate will drop alot like from 90 down to 50 or 60 when i stretch or stand up and when it drops it feels like there is pressure on my neck/throught and i am a little dizzy 24/7 and after i get a full night sleep ill wake up fine then after about a hour ill get real tired all day oh and when my heart rate drop from stretching or standing up i feel like i all the energy just went away until my heart rate goes back up and i did go to the hospital about 2 months ago but not for these symptoms i went for a fast heart rate the doctor said it was in the 200 and i was lucky to be awake and alive at that speed but they said all i had was palpitation but now my heart rate dont go up it goes down and i feel real bad when its this low oh and did i mention that when my heart rate drop i get a pain in the middle of my chest maybe on a scale from 1/10 pain wise maybe a 2/3/4 but i just wanted to know if im gonna die of some sort of heart related disease problem or if you guy can try to figure out whats wrong so i can stop being worried if i gonna fall asleep and not wake back up im only 14 i have alot ahead of me no joke im in tears right now thats how worried i am so please help ;( OH AND MY DADS HEART ATTACK WERE 11 YEARS AGO

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  48. QUESTION:
    My boyfriend has had sex with 6 girls and I'm a virgin...please help me understand?
    I am 18 and my boyfriend is 22; we have known each other since October 2008 and been together since April 2010. We are both Christians and both strongly believe in reserving sexual intimacy for marriage. I still am a virgin, but he has had 6 or 7 sexual partners (he can't remember, but he's told me about 6 of them), starting in early 2007 and ending somewhere around January 2010. He became a Christian in 8th grade and intended to save himself for marriage, but his first serious girlfriend pressured him and ignored him when he told her no, and he did what a girl would normally do: gave in to make her happy, thus losing his virginity.

    Since then, he has done the same with most of his girlfriends, with the exception of one incidence that was a result of alcohol he was drinking to dull the pain of another recent breakup (by the way, it was a relationship I warned him against in the first place). He now strongly regrets his sexual past and wishes I could be his first--he's even cried about it in front of me (though it's hard for me to tell if he regrets it as much as he should), but I think he is failing to recognize the destructive effect his past may have on our relationship, especially once we get married and start having sex. I have told him this twice. The first time, he got defensive and said it would be different with me, then dropped the subject. The second time, he validated my feelings, sympathized, then assured me that he had let go of his sexual past, but I am not sure he is being realistic. Even if he doesn't intentionally think about his exes when he's having sex with me, or consciously compare me to them, I am pretty sure sex is too powerful an experience not to produce "ghosts" of past experiences, or cause many other repercussions.

    I thought I had forgiven him for his past a long time ago--when I met him and he'd only had 3 partners, and then again later when we got together and he'd had 6. But it's very difficult when he still talks about his ex-girlfriends, casually relates fun stories about when he ran off to Hawaii with his girlfriend when he was 19, fails to accept what might be a painful reality, etc. I don't know if he's gotten anyone pregnant--I am still afraid to ask because he seems to get angry every time I bring up his past.

    He told me he has been tested for STDs and doesn't have any, and that he will get tested again if I want, but I know STDs can take years to show up on tests. Also, when I asked him how it was possible that he didn't have any STDs (the girl he had sex with when he was drunk had herpes), he said most of the girls he slept with were virgins, but all that means to me is that he took a bunch of girls' virginity, and doesn't seem to care as much as he should. I have been battling with this issue for the past five or so months since he told me the basic full story of his past. I'm not quite sure what my question is, I just want answers.
    I guess he doesn't get angry so much as just upset when I bring up his past
    Sounds like some of the people answering think I am saying he cheated on me...you will see that is chronologically impossible if you actually read the question
    Stuff and Things - When I talk about the effects of sex, I am just going off of what just about everyone has told me, books I have read, etc. They all seem to say that even if you don't intentionally think of past partners while having sex with your current partner, flashbacks and emotional pain can occur.

    • ANSWER:
      you either have to forgive him his past transgressions or you will not

      Mat 18:33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?
      Mat 18:34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.
      Mat 18:35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.

  49. QUESTION:
    What's wrong with my PC? It has troubles restarting/sleeping/hibernating.?
    Hi,

    I recently had my laptop fixed by DELL because of a bunch of problems. Before it was taken, it was shutting down/restarting etc. fine. However when I recieved it, everything was uninstalled and I had to reinstall soo many things.

    My question is why is my computer having difficulties restarting/sleeping/hibernating. It ends up staying on with the power button on, and the fan still running, yet with a black screen. The only way I can bring it back to 'normal' is to hold the power button making it crash. This means I lose everything I hibernated etc. with.

    I am curious as to whether this problem may be due to lack of installed drivers. I have installed loads of updates but could i still be missing some. And if so, how can I find the ones I am missing to fix this issue (possibly)?

    FYI these are the specs:

    CPU - Intel i7 Q40M
    GPU - Nvidia GT435m
    HDD - 640GB @7200RPM
    RAM - 4GB @1333

    PLLEEASEE answer helpfully - I would really appreciate some help to fix this issue.

    Thanks :)

    P.S. I have Windows 7.

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  50. QUESTION:
    Always sleepy no matter how much i sleep. HELP!?
    I am 18 years old and i have a problem with my sleep. No matter how much i sleep i am always tired. I study at the university 4 hours a day and am at home for pretty much the rest of the time, unless im out with friends or at the gym a couple of times a week. I have tried sleep 8 hours, more than 8 hours, and even less but it's all the same result. I don't have any health problems or anything what so ever that might affect this (at least i don't think i have any). I should say that i am a pretty lazy person aswell, incase that has anything to do with this problem. I have problems concentrating at school because I'm so tired. Please someone if you have a solution help me out. I've almost had a blood test to see if i had enough iron in my body since that can affect your sleepiness, but it was fine as it should be. Best answer gets 10 points of course.

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Help With Sleep Regression

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Sleep regression in my 5 month old, please help!?
    My son is 5 months old and has had a stuffy nose (no other symptoms) for almost 2 weeks now and his sleep habits have gone haywire. I can't remember when it all started so I don't know if it's related to the stufy nose or not. Since he was 2.5 months old, he has slept 7-7 consistently, with 2 1.5-2 hr. naps during the day. He was able to get himself back to sleep and go to bed awake no problem. Now, he wakes super early (between 4-6am), wakes up after 40 minutes in a nap and cries and cries and can't get himself back to sleep. He is noticably tired and just fights it. But I have no idea what is going on, his sleeping patterns have regressed to what they were like when he was 2 months old. Now he ends up waking from a nap so early, that by the time he needs another feeding, he is ready to sleep but too hungry, then once he eats he goes right down to sleep. I don't want to start that habit! And he doesn't like to be alone and wants the pacifier more. He used to be independent...help!

    • ANSWER:
      My son was always a hard one with his sleeping. By the time he was 8 months old, I had it down pat pretty much. He is now a year and still wakes up at 5 am, but will play until 7:30 in his play pen. This weekend he slept with us all in the tent and he woke up at 5 am, but played happily without waking anyone up until 7:30... I was SO happy, lol.

      Here is what worked for him. First of all, the stuffy nose is very common with babies. I think that all babies have 'minor allergies' when they get out of the womb and hit the air out here, lol.

      I started letting him cry at 6 months old. Also, if he was hungry, I gave him a bottle of water and took it out after he was alseep later on. He was one that was born fighting his sleep. And when I would try to help him and soothe him, I only made it worse. So the letting him cry (after 6 months old) and the soother and the bottles with water worked great. The first 6 months was tough because I tried to soothe him and he was only nursing.

  2. QUESTION:
    5 Month Old (Breastfed) sleep regression?
    My baby girl will be 5 months on the 5th of April. From about 1-4 months she could sleep for 6-8 hours, have a feed then sleep for another 3-5 hours. However for the last few weeks she'll wake up every two hours or so. She'll fall back asleep either in my arms or with a quick feed but it's getting tiring, as I work and do university!
    I've tried cutting out solids for a couple of days but that didn't help. She also seems to be more peckish about feeding during the day (and yes I have enough milk, I pump for daycare and have no difference in amount, it's going up in fact.)
    Anyone have a similar problem and know a cure or is this just one of those things where I have to wait it out? Thanks for any advice!

    • ANSWER:
      Solid are suppose to be introduced at 6 months and even then it's just baby cereal to start. Babies don't have the serotonin to understand the difference between night and day until 8 months old.

      You can consider yourself lucky if she slept for 6 - 8 hours during the initial 1 - 4 months as many times women only get about 4 hours of sleep during the over night. She many be going through a growth spurt and just want more feeds throughout the day/night; or, she just may be feeling needy and wanting to know someone is there. Lots of times my son would wake up crying and either just need soothing or want to suckle for a bit. Most of these times he never even opened his eyes so I knew he wasn't really awake. You will probably just have to wait it out. As you know they say you can never spoil a newborn and if they cry for you during the first year you are always suppose to go to them for reassurance. Working and going to school can be straining but it will get better.

  3. QUESTION:
    Baby sleep patterns...... and other questions.?
    Hello
    I asked a question yesterday and did not get many replies so I am trying again. I have a couple of questions in regards to my sons sleep. He is now three and a half months old and I have one or two issues you might be able to help with. He had his shots two weeks ago and since then his sleep has changed - alot. He was sleeping anywhere from four to six hours at night before the shots with me getting up to him usually once or sometimes twice and waking up about 6.00am - 6.30am.
    Now he is sleeping only two or three hours at a stretch (sometime nearly four but not quite) and I am getting up to him three or four times a night. He is also waking between 4.00am and 5.30am.
    My questions:
    1. Does the immunisations have this kind of affect on them - even two weeks later or is he perhaps having a sleep regression?
    2. Is it normal for a baby to wake every two hours or less during the night? For instance, last night he slept 2.30 hours, then 2.20 hours, then 1.45 hours and then 1.30 hours. How can I make him sleep longer?
    3. He nurses to sleep at the moment, is there an easy way to put him down awake or is it too soon? I hate seeing him screaming.
    4. When he wakes very early like this morning at 5.40am I took him to bed with us - is that okay or are we making it harder for ourselves later on and is he going to expect this every morning? How can I make him sleep a bit later? The other night he spent the whole night with us after two and a half hours screaming! He slept like a log then!

    So many questions - I am so tired and confused! He is exclusively breast fed, he is 3.5 months old and he sleeps in his own cot (mostly). I swaddle everynight.
    He could be teething too - lots of dribble and grabbing at his ears and plus his mummy had early teeth at four months.

    If only there was a magic pill to make them sleep and for daddies to produce breast milk so they could help feed LOL.

    Any suggestions????? Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      I can try to help with a few of these.

      First, the shots probably triggered an upset in his sleeping and now he's just continued them out of habit. The effects of shots generally don't last more than a few days.

      Be consistent with him at bed times and nap times. If he wakes up and is hungry, feed him. But I wouldn't start a habit of feeding him each time he wakes if he didn't need that feeding before. Try soothing him by rocking him or singing to him before you off milk. If you try this and he still cries, assume that he's hungry and feed him. There is a growth spurt at three months so he could be in the middle of that and need a little extra milk at night.

      There is nothing wrong with Co-sleeping but I wouldn't start any habits that you don't want to carry out. If you don't want him sleeping in your bed, I'd try to soothe him other ways. Sometimes, though, the need for sleep overrides things and you do what you have to do.

      You can try putting him down awake. Now is a good time to try doing that but if he isn't ready for that, try again in a few weeks.

      His sleep patterns will even out over time. Just be consistent so that he knows what to expect. Routine is very comforting for babies, even this young.

      I doubt that your baby is teething. While there are a very few babies who teeth soon, the drooling at this age is generally normal and not a sign that teeth will erupt any time soon.

      I hope this helps!

  4. QUESTION:
    My baby is not getting enough sleep.?
    My baby started sleeping well at 3 months. She was sleepy 6-8 hrs at her long stretch at night. At 4 months after we took a trip across country she started having trouble sleeping and waking more and more at night up to 6 times in one night. I'm not sure if the time change created the problem or the "4 month sleep regression" that I keep hearing about. She is currently 5 months old now. She has reflux but is on medication to manage it, but has also been a high needs baby.

    After 2 weeks of work i got her on a consistent schedule with good bedtime routines. Going to bed between 830-900, waking for the morning at 730-830 (with night wakings being random) and then naps at 10 for an hour, 130 or 2 for 2 hours and a short 30 min siesta in the evening usually at 530. She tended to sleep later if I put her to bed later, but was more fussy in the evening than normal. She was starting to let me put her down sleepy but awake occasionally for her am nap.

    We decided to try the Ferber method because we thought her night wakings were due to her needing me to put her to sleep. She did great at night. It's been 3 nights and she only cried the first night for 18 Minutes and has been going to bed fairly consistently sleepy but awake. She now goes down at 830, awakes between 12-1 and at 530 for feedings (I'm not ready to stop night feedings yet as she seems hungry and I am fine with 2 wakings). The problem is after the 530 feed she has trouble getting back to sleep. She sleeps on and off and finally gets up at 630 which is only giving her about 9 hours of sleep total. She is so tired in the am and is hard to keep awake and is very fussy a lot of the day. I know she needs more sleep. I moved her naps up and let her sleep a little longer at naps, but Ferber says not to let them make up night time sleep during the day. How can I help her sleep the few extra hours she needs in the morning or just at night period? Putting her to bed early is hard too. Originally she was going to bed between 9 and 10. So 830 is an improvement. Anyone else have this same issue?

    Thanks for your help

    • ANSWER:
      I included two links that have the resources to compare to your experience with your child

  5. QUESTION:
    Three and a half month old sleep patterns?
    Hello
    I asked a question yesterday and did not get many replies so I am trying again. I have a couple of questions in regards to my sons sleep. He is now three and a half months old and I have one or two issues you might be able to help with. He had his shots two weeks ago and since then his sleep has changed - alot. He was sleeping anywhere from four to six hours at night before the shots with me getting up to him usually once or sometimes twice and waking up about 6.00am - 6.30am.
    Now he is sleeping only two or three hours at a stretch (sometime nearly four but not quite) and I am getting up to him three or four times a night. He is also waking between 4.00am and 5.30am.
    My questions:
    1. Does the immunisations have this kind of affect on them - even two weeks later or is he perhaps having a sleep regression?
    2. Is it normal for a baby to wake every two hours or less during the night? For instance, last night he slept 2.30 hours, then 2.20 hours, then 1.45 hours and then 1.30 hours. How can I make him sleep longer?
    3. He nurses to sleep at the moment, is there an easy way to put him down awake or is it too soon? I hate seeing him screaming.
    4. When he wakes very early like this morning at 5.40am I took him to bed with us - is that okay or are we making it harder for ourselves later on and is he going to expect this every morning? How can I make him sleep a bit later? The other night he spent the whole night with us after two and a half hours screaming! He slept like a log then!

    So many questions - I am so tired and confused! He is exclusively breast fed, he is 3.5 months old and he sleeps in his own cot (mostly). I swaddle everynight.
    He could be teething too - lots of dribble and grabbing at his ears and plus his mummy had early teeth at four months.

    If only there was a magic pill to make them sleep and for daddies to produce breast milk so they could help feed LOL.

    Any suggestions????? Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      If he's grabbing at his ears, he could have an ear infection. My first got one with every single tooth that came through, and the symptoms are almost identical. If that isn't the problem, you could try a pacifier to soothe him at night. With my kids, I found that immunisations only affected them for 3 days at most, and no, it's not normal for a 3 month old to wake every couple of hours. I would take him to the doctor and get him checked out. Based on my experience with 3 kids, it sounds like either an ear infection or teething pain.

  6. QUESTION:
    8.5 month old daughter pulls to standing position at 3am instead of sleeping, need help pls?
    My daughter has been crawling up a storm for the last 2-3 weeks and for the last couple of days has been waking up in the middle of the night and standing up in her crib and crying. She doesnt go back to sleep unless I go in there and get her and bring her to bed with us where she will nurse to sleep or I nurse her in her room and she falls asleep. I wanted to know if I can get her back to her usual routine of sleeping through the night again. I have been reading about sleep regression and am wondering if this is the issue or just that she is so pleased she can stand in her crib. She has been pulling up to a stand since she was about 4 months so that is nothing new either.

    Thanks in advance!

    • ANSWER:
      As babies grow and develop new skills like standing or crawling they want to practice all the time so she probably doesnt want to sleep and practice. Try giving her a warm bath at night and warm milk and play some soft music in the background, im sure she will eventually get back into a routine. Also teething maybe why she keeps getting up, mybe use a teething powder or drop a little oil in her ear incase she has ear ache

  7. QUESTION:
    Where can I download some binaural beats for various things like help to sleep or meditation?
    I had seen a website but I can't find it anymore! I want some binaural beats that are tailored to help with different things like sleep, meditation, and past life regression?

    Thanks in advance!

    • ANSWER:
      I think you may be talking about http://binauralbeats-store.com. They have binaural beats for everything from losing weight to improving memory - including the things you are looking for!

  8. QUESTION:
    anyone experience the "4month regression?
    Has anyone else experienced what is known as the 4 month regression? My daughter use to sleep beautifully, (sleeping through the night) and now....... well lets just say that bedtime has now become a nightmare. She falls asleep fine but then 40 -50 min later she is awake and upset because she struggles to get back to sleep. Her daytime naps rock and she has no problem with those, but as soon as it's bedtime..... her self settling skills fly out the window! This has been going on for the last 2 weeks, I go to her to soothe her and nothing seems to help. she will be 5 months next week, has anyone else gone through this? If so how long did it last and was there anything that you did that seemed to help them through this tough period?
    yup, she's definately teething her two bottom teeth are coming through. I've also read that once they start solids they revert back to normal behavior, because at this time they need more calories....... something for me to think about. Thanks for your answer :)

    • ANSWER:

  9. QUESTION:
    How to help 7 month old nap on her own?
    Starting around 3 months old my dd began struggling with sleeping on her own both at night and at naps. We decided to tackle nighttime sleep first. The first approach we tried was from No Cry Sleep Solutions. Unfortunately this did not work for our dd and after a month of trying we moved on to the Baby Whisperer. This too did not work after a month of attempts. What we eventually did that worked was put her down drowsy and then rub her tummy and stay with her until she fell asleep. She has now been sleeping well at night for about a month (drifting off to sleep after about 5 to 10 minutes and only getting up 1 to 2 times a night usually). So, we have started to tackle naps. We tried doing what worked at night for her but after 2 weeks it is not getting any better (we followed the exact same bedtime routine minus the bath). It takes about 30 minutes to an hour to get her to sleep and then she only sleeps for 30 minutes to 45 minutes. Up until this attempt, I would hold her for her naps. She naps in my arms on a glider in her dark nursery. One of her naps is usually an hour to an hour and a half and the other is 2 hours to 2 and a half hours. With the attempt not working I’m not sure where to go. I don’t mind holding her, I actually enjoy it and I know that down the road I will miss these days of cuddles. But I worry that I am not helping her be a good sleeper and I worry about having to hold a 2 year old for naps. I just worry that I need to help her learn to nap independently. So I am hoping that other parents out there who have had children like mine might be able to share their advice and expertise. Here are my questions:

    Did your child eventually outgrow this without any intervention? If so, at what age? How did you know they were ready?

    If you had to help them, what did you do that worked? Did it disrupt their nighttime sleep (I worry about that regression if we push to hard and that is the last thing I want to do)?

    We are going out of town this coming week (so I will stick with holding her for naps) but want to get some advice and come up with a plan (maybe) for when we get back. Any advice would be great! Thanks so much!
    We don't run the vacuum but we have the Happiest Baby on the block CD and play the recording of the blow drier on repeat. Thanks for the idea though!!

    • ANSWER:
      have you tried turning on the vaccum? sometimes that helps us get our little guy to nap through out the day. we put him in his pack and play, turn on the vaccum and after a few minutes hes out. also, the vibrating bouncer helps. car rides?

  10. QUESTION:
    My 3 year old is having toilet training regression - HELP!?
    Over a year ago, my daughter's day care providers told me that my daughter exhibited signs that she was ready for toilet training, and asked me to start the process with them. I did. For the last year and some months, we have been struggling to totally seal the deal on potty training.

    Last week (my daughter just turned 3), she was doing GREAT - going to the bathroom on her own, not missing - it was bliss.

    Then, 3 days ago, she started peeing all over herself! I'd say she has more accidents than successful trips to the bathroom, and almost always refuses to go into the bathroom with me at all.
    I have been very diligent about rewarding with treats and praising her, and I don't know what could have brought on this sudden surge of accidents.

    I don't know what to do!! Is something wrong with my child? Does she have a psychological problem? She seems happy. I'm just worried, I don't know... any advice would be appreciated!

    PS - she still takes a bottle before sleep, so I haven't tried to toilet train her at night yet. She wears a diaper during sleep.

    • ANSWER:
      Hey I hope I can help a bit. My nephew was like this as well. He knew for one thing how to use the potty,but pretty much refused it after doing so well. Most toddlers simply are too busy to take the time to go pull down their pants and pee. To them other things are more important like playing with toys,friends,snacks,and cartoons or what not. Firstly try to get rid of the bottle,because if she's drinking still like a baby,then maybe she thinks she should still be wearing her diaper like a baby.It's a start. Try giving her an incentive for every time she pees in the potty like a favorite toy,snack,or small piece of candy.I doubt she has a psychological problem considering you said she's happy,and she's been doing well in the past.Everyone is entitled to a set back every now and then,maybe your daughter is also just slipping up a little bit. With my nephew we let him sit in his pee for some time.For one thing,they hate that! Even kids don't want to smell pee and feel wet. Maybe if you'd like, you should try that.Great chance of her figuring out that going to the potty is much safer than peeing on her self. All the best :)

  11. QUESTION:
    8 month old baby and physically regression?
    My son is 8 months old and hit all of his milestones and recently he wont roll over, but only in his sleep onto his tummy. I am worried that something is wrong, we have done the same things we always do. Playing with him on the floor or in his walker. He has never liked tummy time since he was born. I keep telling myself that maybe because we have hard wood floors he doesnt like to roll around and hurt his head.

    When I work my MIL/SMIL watch him, but I know atleast my MIL plays with him all day long and goes on play dates with him, but I think my SMIL just puts him in front of the TV.

    I need help/reassuarnce that I am not a bad mom like I feel right now :(

    • ANSWER:
      He's fine; you're fine. If he's perfected something, he may be waiting to try the next big thing. If you need a soft surface, try something like http://www.amazon.com/Boppy-Tummy-Play-Pad-Blue/dp/B000G34FLG. It kept our girl interested a wee bit longer in tummy time. It's more her size than a big Boppy.

      She rolled over well at 5 months, and then there was a lull. Now, she RUNS everywhere.

  12. QUESTION:
    The Regression of a Toddler - HELP!!!?
    First of all, I know it's a long read, and please if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all ;) . Remember, I'm here asking FOR help and we need it.

    Our 2.5 year old DD is watched by me, her 'Daddy Ben' :) , on Mondays and Tuesdays while her Mom has started a new job a month ago. She has lately been getting worse and worse everytime I watch her, a lot of regression with just being in her 'terrible two's' and add that to what is going on. We had to put her back in diapers because she was regressing with potty training and not telling us when she had to go, peeing on purpose, it was just too stressful for everyone involved and we put her back in diapers with plenty of warning. I think she finds it comforting in a way while all these changes are going on, and I'm not going to force it, because in two weeks she's also going to be moving to a new home. My girlfriend lived with her parents since she moved here a year ago, and they were basically forcing her out to find a new place. So not only does she have a new job, they're going to live somewhere else. Now these are both HUGE changes for a child, I get that, but it was a no-choice matter in both cases, obviously.

    So we're already dealing with a difficult toddler, because lately this is what happens when she has to nap or go to bed... the scream that is so high-pitched, painfully loud comes out and it goes on for a while. She knows she gets in trouble for screaming like that when my cousin is sleeping, so she knows it bothers us, therefore she uses it. Now she is not only hysterically crying and screaming like that, she's purposely drooling/spitting, she hit and kicked me more than ten times last night, she wouldn't let me take her clothes off to take a bath, wouldn't let me wash her hair (she normally has a hard time with it, but she physically wouldn't let me wash it this time), wouldn't let me put on her diaper afterwards or put on any of her jammies. She just hysterically cries, pushing down the diaper or bottoms I'm trying to put on, clutching them with her hand not letting them go. She knows she has to go to bed, she doesn't like it so she freaks out that's why her diaper took like 5 minutes to put on with her screaming top-pitch, clutching her diaper, pushing it off, slapping me, pulling on my mouth... it's just an absolute nightmare! We are trying to stay calm and not resort to spanking at all anymore, we really want to do away with spankings, and are trying other positive methods while she is in what hopefully is just a phase.

    I know it's regression, I know it's a lot to go through right now for her, and we are all stressed, but we also need help dealing with it. So, what would you do? Have you or are you going through this? What tricks do you have? Anyone got Super Nanny's phone number? ha :(

    • ANSWER:
      I would say your doing most thing right, I would have put her back into diapers as well. The one area I would say you are lacking is who is in control. I know you don't want to spank but if time-outs are not working and she is that defiant, she will continue to have the will to resist and that will needs to be broken. I would say you need to tap her little behind a time or two and just below the diaper line will get her attention.

  13. QUESTION:
    All of the sudden, my 17 month old freaks out when I try to lay him down...?
    About a week ago, he started to wake up at 4am everynight, but the temperature was too cold/too warm those nights, so I would adjust his clothing and room temp and passed the waking up off to the temp.

    Now, for the past 3 nights, he won't sleep in his toddler bed (has been fine in it for over 2 months) and screams for about 5-10 minutes before falling asleep. I don't want him regressing to the crib regularly because I am expecting #2 in December. I have let him sleep in there the past 3 nights (even though he still cries at first) because I don't know what is causing him to be so upset.

    He has gone to sleep on his own since he was 7 months old or so and has slept the whole night through (12 hours) since he was 13 months.

    What is with this regression? Last night he went to sleep at 7:45 and woke up at 9:00, 1:30, 6:30 and 8am for good. I am 32 weeks pregnant and the lack of sleep is brutal on me right now... I want to sleep while I can!!! HELP!

    • ANSWER:
      My 19 month old slept his first night through all the way at 4 months, he never woke.....until he turned 16 months old...then he started waking up in his newborn pattern all over again.
      I will attribute this regression to all of the new things they are learning at this stage...think about it....when you are excited about something new in your life....is it hard for you to sleep??? But as adults, we have the ability to hopefully, finally, shut off our thoughts to sleep....our babies don't have that ability yet....so.....
      he has probably been either walking for a short time....or beginning to....he is probably starting to babble a lot...or is saying a few words....
      lots of stuff is going on for him. Just try to keep his waking to a minimum of noise, lights, etc. If he feels safer in his crib right now...let him sleep there. He will be fine in a little while.

  14. QUESTION:
    Help with Past life regressions?
    I have been trying to listen to a past life regression cd every night unfortunately I fall into a deep sleep every time (my sleeping has never been so good- I might recommend the cd for that) I have felt a little bit disappointed. I live in a small rural town and can't see anyone to do this professionally but I truly feel that not far beneath the surface of my subconscious are experiences that are ready to be rediscovered - how can I tap into these effectively? Do I need someone to help me?

    • ANSWER:
      the fact that you are sleeping well is a sign that you are tapping into your deeper subconscious. I am sure you can find a reputable hypnotherapist who can work over the phone. ( I do). In normal session, to get you relaxed and deep enough for a past life regression takes about a half hour to 45 minutes, let alone to get you into your past life session. You are right about experiences to be re-discovered. They can be remembered with past life sessions. The question I have to ask you ( as a certified hynotherapist) is what do you want to uncover? It is important to set your intention before each session. Perhaps it is unlocking past life gifts and skills ( piano playing as a music lover), or releasing your bonds from the drama of a parent in this lifetime....You are more powerful than you know. It really is easier to work with a professional. Are there any holistic magazines at your local health food store that advertise holistic practitioners? Look for someone who has been in private practice at least 5 years minimum..( the longer the better!) and is a graduate of a school you can find on the internet and read up on. In my honest opinion, it is better to start with a professional, who can guide you through the process, and then you can use these skills to inquire on your own into what your deeper self wants to tell you. You can e-mail me for more info if you want...send me your email as I haven't figured out how to respond via yahoo answers..smile...my gifts are not in technology! lol. good luck!

  15. QUESTION:
    psychology questions for a big test tommorow please help!!!!!!!!!!?
    1. Define psychology.-
    2. Understand how psychological theory is modified.
    3. Name the four principle aims of psychology.
    4. Know the where the greatest number psychologists are employed and what area of psychology they are trained in.
    5. John B. Watson argued for a psychology based on what?
    6. Pavlov's technique in teaching dogs to salivate to a bell is called what?
    7. B. F. Skinner made major contributions to what field of psychology?
    8. What field of psychology has emphasized the roles of insight and understanding in problem solving.
    9. Who established the school of psychology known as Psychoanalysis.
    10. Jean Piaget is associated with which psychological perspective?
    11. What is empirical research?
    12. What is a hypothesis?
    13. What is an operational definition of a variable.
    14. Define:
    a) random sample
    b) selection sample
    c) stratified sample
    d) volunteer bias
    e) validity
    f) reliability
    15. Be able to choose the weakest correlation from a set of correlation statistics.
    16. Distinguish between an independent and dependent variable.
    17. Explain the all or none principle of neural firing.
    18. What process reveals the influence of nature through the unfolding of traits as determined by genetic code.
    19. Recognize the order and describe the stages in Erik Erikson developmental theory.
    20. Know the defining markers of secure attachment.
    21. Be familiar with the classic rhesus monkey research of the Harlows on attachment and material deprivation.
    22. Understand Baumrind’s description of the relationship between competence in children and parenting styles.
    23. Understand Piaget’s definitions of assimilation and accommodation.
    24. Name Piaget's stages of cognitive development in order of increasing age.
    25. Name and describe Kohlberg’s stages of moral development.
    26. Differentiate between sensation and perception.
    27. Understand:
    a) the principle illustrated by the Rubin vase.
    b) the phi phenomenon
    c) stroboscopic motion
    d) direct inner awareness
    28. Understand levels of consciousness described by Freud. (conscious, preconscious, and unconscious)
    29. Understand Freud’s common defense mechanisms including:
    a) repression
    b) suppression
    c) sublimation
    d) displacement
    e) regression
    f) reaction formation
    30. Why is REM sleep called paradoxical sleep.
    31. How do behaviorists define learning?
    32. Ivan Pavlov provided evidence that reflexes can be learned through what process?
    33. Understand the concepts and mechanical relationships between the following in Pavlov’s theory of conditioned response and learned association:
    a) Unconditioned stimulus
    b) Conditioned stimulus
    c) Unconditioned response
    d) Conditioned response
    e) Extinction
    f) Spontaneous recovery
    g) Higher-order conditioning
    h) Stimulus generalization
    i) Stimulus discrimination
    34. Define and understand the relative effectiveness of each of the following:
    a) delayed conditioning.
    b) simultaneous conditioning.
    c) trace conditioning.
    d) backward conditioning.
    35. Why is taste aversion considered to be a special case in learning theory?
    36. Distinguish between positive and negative reinforcement and punishment.
    37. Define and know the relative effectiveness of each of the following reinforcement schedules.
    a) variable and fixed interval reinforcement schedules
    b) variable and fixed ratio reinforcement schedules
    c) continuous reinforcement schedule
    38. Understand the current research findings on the effects of viewing violence in the media in children and adults.
    39. Understand the following terms in memory theory:
    a) procedural
    b) episodic
    c) semantic
    d) iconic
    e) acoustic
    f) echoic
    g) eidetic
    h) elaborative rehearsal
    40. Know the three stages of memory: encoding, storage, and retrieval.
    41. Define and distinguish between dissociative, retrograde and anterograde amnesia.
    42. Define and distinguish between achievement and intelligence.
    43. Know who developed the theory of multiple intelligences.
    44. Understand that the Wechsler intelligence scales highlight children's relative strengths and weaknesses as well as measure overall intellectual functioning.
    45. The Wechsler scales are made up of subtests grouped into what two categories?
    46. According to the Wechsler scales, the middle 50% of scores fall within the "broad average range". Know this range.
    47. Understand the following terms in drive reduction theory:
    a) Need
    b) Drive
    c) Homeostasis
    d) primary drive.
    e) acquired drive.
    48. Understand the basic orientation of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. (you will not have to name them.)
    49. Understand Attitude-discrepant behavior and justification of effort as used with cognitive dissonance theory.
    50. Describe the personality theory of Freud and the defense mechanisms we covered in class.
    51. Know the five common traits in the Trait theory of personality.
    52. Understand how the concept of free-will is viewed by all the different perspectives we cover

    • ANSWER:
      1) OK, I'll just write a book in this box.
      2) What?
      3) Ask 100 psychologists, get 100 answers.
      4) In the world? In the USA? How are you defining a psychologist? In the UK, anyone can call themselves a psychologist.
      ...

      50) Right, I'll just go and find out what was in your class. Even though I don't know *which* class.
      51) Here's a clue: OCEAN.
      52) And that would require knowing the perspectives you cover.

      I think you get the gist. These are not answerable questions. Hopelessly optimistic just pasting them here. I suspect you're going to fail. But you're going to deserve it.

  16. QUESTION:
    Why do I feel this way???I am so stupid and dumb?
    ok so hi i am 16. i am 5 foot 6 and 119 pounds. I feel fat all the time.
    I also wear diapers and suck baby bottles and can not sleep without my pacifier and teddy bear. I have been diagnosed with regression and anorexia. Why do I have this? What are the symptoms of these?
    I need some help.

    • ANSWER:
      You have that because you are a freak. Anyone who posts fake stuff like that is a FREAK! Grow up.

      P.S. Thanks for the points <3

  17. QUESTION:
    What disorder follows these symptoms?
    I'm a psychology student and we were assigned a patient to assess but still confuse on which mental disorder to announce.
    the diagnosed symptoms:
    Sudden mood swings
    insomnia; inability to sleep on time
    homesickness; associated with the feeling of nostalgia
    irritability
    regression; cries like a baby
    highly spontaneous
    auditory and visual hallucinations
    trembling; muscle tension; twitches(rarely occurs)
    nausea; a need to go to the bathroom at times
    restless; fatigue
    he has no apparent suicidal thoughts.

    I have come down to a list of disorders:
    he probably has one of the following:
    Schizophrenia
    Bipolar Disorder I
    Delusional Disorder
    Major Depressive Disorder

    We're going to make a case report. I need to pick ONE disorder to present and discuss.
    I want to be certain but I am not aware how. help please

    • ANSWER:
      With those symptoms, I think he has Schizophrenia

  18. QUESTION:
    Psychology, please help. It's easy to understand, first part is question then underneath are answers. help pls
    Dissociation or a split in awareness is an experience commonly associated with
    hypnotic induction
    amphetamine intoxication
    schizophrenia
    withdrawal symptoms
    relaxation training
    The reduction in the body's response to a drug which may accompany drug use is called
    withdrawal.
    addiction.
    dependence.
    tolerance
    aphasia
    According to psychodynamic psychologists, the unconscious
    processes information of which you are unaware
    includes unacceptable feelings, wishes, and thoughts
    is characterized by a loss of responsiveness to the environment
    is synonymous with the preconscious
    develops after the ego and superego
    After her bridal shower, a young woman dreamed that she was dining with her parents when a young guy grabbed her wallet containing her driver’s license, credit cards, cash, and family pictures. She awoke in a cold sweat. After discussing the dream with a friend, she realized that she felt anxious about losing her identity in her approaching marriage. The explanation of her dream represents the
    manifest content
    latent content
    ego
    activation-synthesis theory
    cognitive analysis
    Drugs with names like Xanax, Halcion, and Valium are
    opiate
    stimulant
    hallucinogen
    tranquilizer
    alcohol based
    Of the following, which does you hypothalamus regulate over the course of 24 hours? I. body temperature, II. Hormonal levels, III. Memory of the day’s events.
    I only
    II only
    III only
    I and II only
    I, II, and III
    Which of the following is a circadian rhythm?
    The ebb and flow of an individual’s emotions during a 24-hour period
    Jet lag experienced after an airline flight from Los Angeles to Tokyo
    A cycle of biological functioning that lasts about 25 hours
    The series of four stages that people go through during a normal night’s sleep
    The systematic alternation between alpha waves and delta waves during sleep
    Nicotine is classified as a
    barbituate
    stimulant
    hallucinogen
    tranquilizer
    depressant
    Perhaps the best known hallucinogen is
    alcohol
    cocaine
    heroin
    LSD
    nicotine
    Alcohol is classified as a
    depressant
    stimulant
    hallucinogen
    barbiturate
    opiate
    “Humans developed a unique waking-sleep cycle that maximized our chances of survival,” is a statement most typical of
    developmental psychologists
    physiological psychologists
    psychoanalysts
    sociologists
    evolutionary psychologists
    Which of the following is most likely to occur as a consequence of hypnosis?
    increase in strength to superhuman levels
    loss of bodily and mental control
    genuine regression to earlier age levels
    altered sensory experiences
    increased clarity and accuracy of memory
    Zen Buddhists and others practicing meditation are better able than most other people to stimulate their
    sympathetic nervous systems
    parasympathetic nervous systems
    somatic nervous systems
    salivation
    urination
    Of the following, which psychoactive drugs shares the most similar effects on the brain?
    alcohol-marijuana
    caffeine-morphine
    nicotine-heroin
    amphetamines-cocaine
    barbiturates-LSD
    REM sleep, generally an “active” state of sleep, is accompanied by which of the following paradoxes?
    Slowed heart rate
    Slowed respiration rate
    Lowered blood pressure
    Paralyzed muscle tone
    Reduced eye movements
    Which of the following will NOT increase behavioral and mental activity?
    Cocaine
    Caffeine
    Benzedrine
    Amphetamines
    Barbiturates
    Nightmares most frequently occur during
    stage 1
    stage 2
    stage 3
    stage 4
    REM
    Which stage of sleep typically has spindles?
    REM
    1
    2
    3
    4
    During paradoxical sleep, muscles seem paralyzed and
    eyes dart about in various directions
    breathing is slow and shallow
    night terrors are likely
    sleepwalking occurs
    the sleeper is easily awakened
    Night terrors most often occur during
    Stage 1
    Stage 2
    Stage 3
    Stage 4
    REM
    Hypnosis:
    is characterized by brain wave patterns similar to sleep
    is an altered state characterized by narrowed attention and increased openness to suggestion.
    is a sleep state in which the subjects are partially aware of their actions and able to perform many activities not normally carried out during sleep
    is considered by most scientists as a trance-like state where hypnotists have complete control over individuals
    was introduced by the Austrian physician, Karl Zener
    When a person is shut off from the world such that he or she cannot even tell what time it is by light or dark, their sleep-waking cycle
    stays at about 24 hours.
    shortens to an average of about 20 hours.
    lengthens to an average of about 25 hours.
    becomes completely disrupted
    shortens to 12 hours
    As you are reading this question, you are probably not thinking about what you ate for lunch. The memory of what you ate for lunch is most likely in your
    nonconscious
    preconscious
    unconsciousness
    sensory memory
    attention
    Which stage of sleep is characterized by brain waves with spindles and K-complexes?
    stage 1
    stage 2
    stage 3
    stage 4
    REM
    A person who has trouble getting to sleep is said to suffer from
    narcolepsy
    sleep apnea
    insomnia
    somnambulism
    night terrors
    Hypnosis is best characterized as a state that
    gives the hypnotist complete control over the thoughts and emotions of the person undergoing hypnosi
    induces heightened suggestibility in the hypnotized individual
    is similar to the condition produced by excessive alcohol consumption
    is similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder
    is similar to the REM stage of sleep
    The chief characteristic of hypnosis is
    heightened arousal
    increased suggestibility
    enhanced creativity
    increased awareness
    increased clairvoyance
    According to Freud, dreams are very often a means of
    wish fulfillment.
    solving daytime problems.
    telling oneself what's missing in one's life.
    categorizing one's experience
    organizing random neural brain activity
    Freud believed that, in order to protect sleep and prevent the arousal of conscience, the content of our dreams is
    suppressed
    disguised
    enriched
    synthesized
    fixated
    Research suggests that the two most basic states of sleep are
    alpha sleep and beta sleep.
    light sleep and deep sleep.
    alpha and delta sleep
    REM sleep and non-REM sleep.
    REM sleep and paradoxical sleep
    A sudden, irresistible urge to sleep, which lasts a few minutes to half an hour during the daytime, is called
    narcolepsy
    hypersomnia
    sleep apnea
    sleepwalking disorder
    insomnia
    Physical cravings for a drug and unpleasant reactions when the drug is withheld are signs of
    drug tolerance
    psychological dependence
    emotional dependence
    physical addiction
    mental dissociation
    In small quantities, alcohol can be mistaken for a stimulant because it
    inhibits control of emotions
    stimulates the sympathetic nervous system
    speeds up respiration and heart beat
    induces sleep
    affects the cerebellum
    Which has enabled psychologist to learn the most about sleep processes over the last 50 years?
    psychopharmacology
    lesions
    EEGs
    CT scans
    MRI

    • ANSWER:
      do you own homework.

  19. QUESTION:
    Economics Analysis Help!?
    The following model is a simplified version of the multiple regression model used by Biddle and Hamermesh (1990) to study the tradeoff between time spent sleeping and working and to look at other factors affecting sleep:

    sleep = β0+ β1 totwrk+ β2 educ+ β3 age+u

    where sleep and totwrk (total work) are measured in minutes per week and educ and age are measured in years.

    (i) If adults trade off sleep for work, what is the sign of β1?

    (ii) Using the estimated equation:

    sleep = 3638.25-.148 totwrk-11.13 educ+2.20 age
    n = 7.06
    R^2 = 0.113

    If someone works five more hours per week, by how many minutes is sleep predicted to fall? Is this a large tradeoff?

    (iii) Discuss the sign and magnitude of the estimated coefficient on educ.

    (iv) Would you say totwrk, educ, and age explain much of the variation in sleep? What other factors might affect the time spent sleeping? Are these likely to be correlated with totwrk?

    Thank you so much for your help.

    • ANSWER:
      (i) β1 is negative (more work less sleep)
      (ii) 5*(-0.148*60)=44.4 less minutes of sleep (assuming that -0.148 is in hours). i believe that this is not such a big tradeoff. Howeverm (5 hours versus 44.4 minutes). However, check your numbers, -0.148 seems extremely small
      (iii) more education = (a lot of) less sleep. I'll leave the rest of the analysis for you
      (iv) your R^2 is way too low so there maybe problems in the regression. sleep could also be affected by health issues, communting times, lifestyles (eating, smoking, drinking, noise pollution) etc (analyze these further and think of more). most of these are work-related.
      i've shown you the way now do the essay. and please study more... please.

  20. QUESTION:
    I think my niece is being sexually abused?
    I'm not quite sure what to do. I think that my 2 year old niece is being abused. She is potty trained and when she goes to the bathroom, she only wants myself or my mother to go in with her. If my father goes to help her, she freaks out. I know my father isn't abusing though. My brother in law is scum of the earth and so are his friends. She has shown no real behaviour changes. Just some minor regression. She went from not drinking bottles to needing a bottle to go to sleep at night or to suck on when she is crying. She has no physical signs of abuse either that I can tell. When she is in the bathrub, she'll stand up, grab her genitals and giggle about her "peepee." I have no way of proving if she's being abused and since she is so young, I can't ask her if she is either. I don't want to report it if there is nothing going on because it will kill my sister!
    What can I do? Is this normal sexual behaviour for a two year old? PLEASE HELP!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      As an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I wish someone in my family had been vigilant enough to stop it early on. That said, I agree with you that this is a difficult situation to call and I understand your dilemma in wanting to protect your niece, whether that is through addressing abuse that might be occurring or through not falsely raising an alarm.

      You can't ask a doctor to treat her without her parent's permission and you can't disclose your suspicions about abuse to a doctor (or other health care provider) and then ask him or her to not report it. There is a case in the news right now of exactly that situation (child's mother brought him but asked him to wait on reporting until she had more evidence) and the doctor was charged with failing to report suspected abuse. So please, that is not a route to go until and unless you are ready to report your suspicions.

      What can you do? You can continue to be vigilant. You can spend time with your niece at your home and at her home. If you notice more behavior (other than crying about bathroom with a man...this could have come about from her becoming implicitly aware of her scum bag dad's likely rotten attitude toward child care. If the guy really is a loser, he's probably scary to her. Also, it is possible he doesn't treat his daughter well, but there's a world of difference between being a generically crappy parent and an incestuous criminal), talk to your sister or to your parents about it and about your suspicions. Educate yourself. Research "behavioral symptoms of sexual abuse" online. And most importantly, whether or not this turns out to be a worst case scenario, it sounds like she needs some extra support, so be there for her.

  21. QUESTION:
    Need help with some words?
    Please match them if you can.

    -projection
    -regression
    -ventilation

    "Im going to do well when i try out for the school play."

    "The reason I didnt make the soccer team was because the coach doesnt know anything about soccer."

    "I only need my teddy bear when i sleep at night."

    thanks guys.

    • ANSWER:
      projection
      vent
      regression

  22. QUESTION:
    can you help me with this psych hw?
    11.
    Marcello has finished studying for a test. As he prepares to go to sleep, he wants to remember what he studied tonight when he takes the test tomorrow. To best meet his needs, he should
    A.have a friend awaken him each time he goes into non-REM sleep.
    B.be sure that he has a lucid dream.
    C.avoid stage 2 sleep.
    D.experience as much REM sleep as possible.
    12.
    Jacob is dreaming. If this is all the information that you have, you can state that Jacob
    A.is definitely in REM sleep.
    B.is not in REM sleep.
    C.is probably in REM sleep.
    D.probably has night terrors.
    13.
    Dr. Evil decides that he must work night and day to come up with a plan to defeat Austin Powers. However, Dr. Evil also realizes that he has to sleep. Dr. Evil believes that he may be able to consciously direct his dreams so that he can form a plan while sleeping. Which of the following phenomena might be taken as evidence for this possibility?
    A.REM rebound
    B.Sleepwalking
    C.Lucid dreaming
    D.Night terrors
    14.
    Of the following, who is the least likely to dream?
    A.Arnold, who is blind.
    B.Biscuit, a lazy cat.
    C.Clarence, who is taking a ten-minute nap.
    D.Derek, a newborn infant.
    15.
    Ronald had a dream that he was crowned the Burger King, and Grimace tried to dethrone him with a gigantic onion ring. In the morning, Ronald remembered the dream and thought that it symbolized his unconscious desire to be the best hamburger clown in the world. Ronald seems to agree with the _________ theory of dreaming.
    A.wish-fulfillment
    B.dissociation
    C.survival
    D.activation-synthesis
    16.
    Which of the following statements about hypnosis is true?
    A.Hypnotized people feel forced to follow the hypnotist's instructions.
    B.Hypnotized people are actually sleeping.
    C.When people are hypnotized, their bodies are deeply relaxed.
    D.When people are hypnotized, their minds are inactive.
    17.
    Mikey, a highly disturbed adult, is undergoing hypnosis. During the session, he begins to reenact a horrible event from his childhood in which he was forced to eat stale, awful breakfast foods. In this example, Mikey is apparently displaying
    A.posthypnotic suggestion.
    B.withdrawal syndrome.
    C.age regression.
    D.posthypnotic amnesia.
    18.
    Tiffany was hypnotized. Afterward, she said that she felt as though some part of her "split off" and agreed to give some control of her thought processes to the hypnotist. What theory of hypnosis best fits her experience?
    A.Role theory
    B.Dissociation theory
    C.State theory
    D.Alter theory
    19.
    According to your textbook, which of the following has not been consistently demonstrated as an effective use of hypnosis?
    A.Relief of pain from dental work
    B.Reduced nausea after chemotherapy
    C.Decreased bleeding during surgery
    D.Help with recovering repressed memories
    20.
    After reading about meditation in psychology, you decide to try it. Which of the following benefits is most likely to result from your regular practice of meditation?
    A.Increased extrasensory perception
    B.Decreased anxiety
    C.Weight loss
    D.Greater physical strength
    21.
    Dr. Krain's specialty is psychopharmacology. This means that she studies
    A.psychoactive substances.
    B.the interaction between the nervous, endocrine, and immune systems.
    C.abnormal behavior patterns.
    D.neurotransmitter systems.
    22.
    A person has been taking a drug regularly for an extended period and cannot seem to stop. However, she is taking the same dosage as when she began and experiences the same effects. These circumstances indicate that she
    A.has acquired a tolerance for the drug.
    B.is psychologically dependent.
    C.is physiologically dependent.
    D.is addicted.
    23.
    Which of the following statements about learned expectations and the effects of drugs is false?
    A.Learned expectations may play a role in the effects of drugs.
    B.The learned nature of responses to drugs is shown when there are changes in the model for appropriate drug-induced behavior.
    C.Drug effects are determined mainly by biochemical processes.
    D.Expectations about drug effects develop in part as people watch other people react to drugs.
    24.
    Louise is using a "club drug" that depresses the nervous system, causing feelings of relaxation. Unfortunately, the drug can also cause memory loss, paralysis, breathing problems, loss of consciousness, and even death. Louise is most likely using
    A.amphetamines.
    B.GHB.
    C.LSD.
    D.ketamine.
    25.
    Research indicates that marijuana use is associated with all of the following except
    A.severe withdrawal symptoms.
    B.motor impairment.
    C.reductions in creativity.
    D.lasting impairments in reasoning and memory.

    • ANSWER:
      11 - D
      12 - C
      13 - C
      14 - C
      15 - A
      16 - D
      17 - C
      18 - A
      20 - B
      21 - A
      22 - B

  23. QUESTION:
    GCSE, is this A grade quality?
    im a 15 yr old gcse student, do you think my english short story builds tension? what mark will you give this out of 27? can u please help me if i need to improve, thnx
    25-27 A*
    24-22 A
    19-21 B
    16-18 C

    “I write to anyone who is reading; something as small as the flutter of a butterfly’s wing can consequently cause a typhoon halfway across the world. How you react to a circumstance can alter one’s destiny. Don’t change the past, don’t leave anything behind, and most importantly don’t bring anything back. The slightest alteration might impact on life in ways we can’t imagine”.

    * * *

    I couldn’t have turned out any better. I graduated university, my grades were flawless, I had a car, a house and a successful career as a lawyer. Or so I thought to myself.
    What good is having a good life with no one to share it with? All my friends from School ended up with their boyfriends from University and are married with kids living a nice life. During my High School years, my friend Jason had asked me to be his date for the prom. I really wished I said yes. I could have been married to him and been so happy. Now, I’m single and lonely, no matter what I do I can never find love. My life could have been so different. I should have listened to my heart, being a strong believer in destiny and fate. Right until yesterday night when I had finally triggered that long lost memory, I hadn’t realized how incomplete my life was. I thought I had it all, when in fact I had nothing. From that night, I lost my appetite and I lost sleep. My memory started to diminish, as I could not remember some periods of my life such as my preteen years. I was less focused in my career as a lawyer, as I started to lose cases. I got so stressed, I gave into gluttony, smoking and drinking. I basically lost zeal for life

    I decided to attend a psychiatric regression session. It was at St Benedict’s Hospital. The place was gloomy, dark, silent and depressing. I checked in and then walked to Mrs Brenner’s office, my psychiatrist for today. I walked in, greeted her, and then she told me to lie on the sofa. I did so. As soon as lay down, she said “Close your eyes Miss Jennifer Williams”. Now try to go all they way back to your childhood, try to recollect sounds, images, memories at the time…”

    Her voice was hypnotising, with every syllable she spoke, her tone got deeper and deeper, her voice drifted away as the sounds of nature drifted towards me; sounds of birds chirping, soft serene sound of fish swimming in the water, and then the distant sound of children having fun. I opened my eyes; I was standing in the midst of trees, sunlight and great tranquillity out in the open. I looked up quite curiously at the crystal clear blue sky, watching all the birds fly. Everything felt so new to me, I had the curiosity of a young child. I looked down at my feet. I saw a pair of small feet in flip flops. I looked at my hands, my God; I was a child again, my little squishy fingers wriggling and my wide eyed curiosity taking the better of me. I gazed around; this looked so familiar, was I recalling this? I heard something from the distance, a woman, I could hear her from my heart, her voice was mellow and lovely, yet I couldn’t make out what she was saying. My heart felt warm, I placed my hand on my heart and closed my eyes. Suddenly, I felt as if I was being pulled through a time warp, everything unbelievably fast and vivid, the scene of calm atmosphere being dragged away from me literally.

    All the vividness and speed came to a halt. It was dark; I could hear a buzz of teenage conversation, fast, loud, yet I couldn’t make out what was being said. I heard loud music, cars, and crowds of rebellious young people. Wait, this makes sense, the night before the prom, I was sixteen, and I was downtown at a party. The darkness vanished, replaced by scenery of 100 raging youth at a party in a car parking lot. I sat in a car with Jason. I’m so happy I’m reliving this again. He looked at me and smiled, then asked “Hey Jenny, can I ask you something?” It felt like he wanted to ask me something very important. He looked into my eyes, as I felt dejavu. “Jenny, will you be my…” He is about to ask me to be his date for the prom, this will definitely change my life, we will end up together, get married and my dream will come true! Changing the past really is great! I said “Yes!!!” not letting him finish. He said “I haven’t finished, how do you know what I’m about to ask you?” I replied “Yes I’ll be your date for the prom!” he smiled ecstatically. I touched my nose, signalling I know stuff. Perfect, I have corrected my mistake, and I’d like to go back and live the life I was supposed to live, as I thought these things my naivety stunned me. The scene disappeared, darkness came back, and then I saw a flash.

    I heard a car crash, ambulance siren and people screaming. The noise of the chaos drifted away, slowly. I opened my eyes, but my vision was blurred. Some one was looking down at me, wearing a white coat. I could smell that vivid smell of chlorine. I reached to itch my eye but my arm didn’t move. I think I was still in a state of unconsciousness. I tried to move my arm, but it didn’t move. It felt heavy, no, I couldn’t feel it. What is going on? My vision became clear, and I was in a hospital bed, bruised all over and my neck in a brace. I was armless. I panicked, where are my arms? What? I couldn’t cry; my body felt ultimately lifeless, my heart was beating very quickly, and I felt like screaming. The only thing I could move was my eyelids, yet I couldn’t cry. What on earth? I couldn’t even talk. I had a flashback, I was in a car with Jason when he suddenly lost control of the wheel and crashed into another vehicle, we both flew out the windscreen, and I got caught between two cars while Jason landed on the road. Oh Gosh is that what happened? I came back to reality, and I saw Jason’s family by my hospital bed. Jason’s mum was crying on her husband’s shoulder, Jason’s sister and younger brother stood there looking really fierce at me. My mum was there too, yet I didn’t see a look of sympathy in her face. There seemed to be negativity and tension from everybody, the silence was electrifying. Jason’s sister step forward “You listen to me; you deserve the place you’re in now. Do you know how much grief you caused me and my family?” She fiercely threw at me. I thought they are here to comfort me, what is going on? What did I do? I’m here fighting for my life after a traumatic incident, armless and in a brace, wondering how Jason is doing, when he’s sister tells me this. What did I do? She burst out in tears “He didn’t make it! He gave up his life for you! You took my brother! How do you live with yourself? He would have been alive if he wasn’t so damn happy about you being his date, which caused the accident! You killed him!”

    She ran off, her words echoing in my head. My God what had I done? Jason is dead, because of me? My only love. My guilt and anger bottled up inside me. The fact that my own mother disowned me, Jason’s death, and his family’s hatred towards me made me so upset, my body almost magically leaped of the bed, crashing to the floor on my face. Darkness. Oh my Gosh, what is happening? I feel as if I’m having an out of body experience, this does not feel real. I felt myself drifting off the floor, I felt very light, yet very scared and confused. As I floated, I looked down and saw doctors and nurses rushing towards an armless tangled body on the floor. I looked up, and then saw the crystal blue skies which turned into fiery demented flames. I could hear volcanoes erupting. I was in a blazing hot furnace, my skin alight, burning, as I yelled in agony. I felt a hole through my body, and then I felt extremely cold gushes going through the hole. Spirits were using me as a portal to earth. Upon realizing this, i was frantic and deeply disturbed. Horrifying images ran through my mind; violence of humankind, the colonilization of the third world countries, the angry proclaims of Prophet Nostradamus, the race hate Ku Klux Klan, the mass murder of Jews, September 11 bombings, America and Iraq war…

    There was a flash, I was in the skies, forced to look down at earth by hands that had a tight painful grip on my head. “Look at what you have caused!” A mighty huge voice declared.
    I looked down, it was complete chaos, the world was flooding, people panicked, there were all sorts of natural disasters, meteorites shattering the only few buildings left.
    People screamed out of fear, agony and oppression. The dead were coming out of the graves; there was one currency, nuclear bombs being dropped, and three sixes written on people’s foreheads, demented spirits filled the sky. It was catastrophic; it was the end of this world.
    It was the Apocalypse. The mighty voice proclaimed “By going back in time, you have triggered a whole new portal of disaster. Being in between life and death, you are the one whom spirits used as a gateway to earth, thereby causing all this destruction. You have empowered the force of darkness and have made Lucipher greater than me. You have caused Judgement day!” You have one chance to set everything right.” The Lord’s mighty voice filled the skies. With that, the grip on my head diminished, and I was being pulled through a time warp again, everything rushing by fast and vivid, flashing lights, buzzing sounds.

    I came to a halt. I found myself walking down a dark cynical hallway, the lights flickering, I could hear dripping water, the strong smell of blood in the air, droplets of blood trailing the corner, a creaking door and distant faint cries of agony, I was in a hospital. A knife was in my hand, I felt very small, and as I stretched my arm forward to push open a door I noticed my arm was that of a child’s. I was a child, yet I had my adult knowledge. I didn’t know what I was after but my legs were taking me somewhere. I seemed to psychologically know where I’m going. Looking into the room, there was a woman holding a new born baby, with her husband standing next to her. It was my mother and father, and I was that baby.
    My existence should never have happened, I lost my successful life, I lost Jason, my mother disowned me, and Jason’s family hated me for causing his death. Because of me, the world is literally coming to an end. My existence was the worst mistake known to humanity. I didn’t have to exist; I can evaporate off the face of the earth forever. I looked at that knife in my hand, walked in front of my mother, a picture of Mary crying real blood, and with one thrust, my very existence was erased off the face of the planet…

    “I write again to anyone who is reading; something as small as the flutter of a butterfly’s wing can consequently cause a typhoon halfway across the world. How you react to a circumstance can alter one’s destiny. Don’t change the past, don’t leave anything behind, and most importantly don’t bring anything back. The slightest alteration might impact on life in ways we can’t imagine”.

    19-21 B
    16-18 C

    • ANSWER:
      G

  24. QUESTION:
    MY HIDDEN EMOTIONS: the primary cause of my insomnia???
    How is it true that my these hidden emotions and feelings of mine are the primary cause of insomnia?

    here's how severe it is:
    ...anger, hatred, regression, and disappointment to myself i can say, are the most dominating emotions i have for 5 years from now...

    but the thing is, most of the causes of these emotions are actually concealed especially to those persons i have it on (anger & hatred)
    Though i do have lots of friends and really close older people that i share it to, and console me the best way that they can. But its seems like they were never enough to help me get through with those emotions...! Is it because the only remedy for this is confession to the people who are personally involved with my problems? Though i don't usually think of it anymore as much as before, and as far as i know, i have learned a lot of ways how to escape from those emotions, still and still.....i have the same problem on how to sleep esily ever since the day i figured out that im preoccupied by those feelings...

    please...help me with this confusion....!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      Your emotions, while hidden to the people around you or the ones who caused them are still emotions that can most definitely cause insomnia.

      I'm not sure what confronting these people would do as I don't really know what the problems were to start with. By doing this it may cause more problems in the long run.

      I think talking to a professional, a therapist or consular would be in your best interest to come to grips with what they have done to you to make you feel this way. A therapist is educated and has an un biased opinion. They will validate what you have gone through and help you figure a way to get past it. The people who caused this will most likely deni what they have done. They can also help you if you still choose to confront them.

      I see a therapist weekly and though I still have sleep problems, they are getting better.

      Hope this made some sense to you.

      Take care and never give up!

  25. QUESTION:
    (PLEASE HELP ME!!) Has anyone here ever had experiences with self hynosis?
    What does it feel like? I am asking because I think I might have hypnotyzed myself last night (it was on purpose) I read how to do it online and I decided to try it. I was trying to do a past life regression. So anyways what happened was I was laying in my bed in the dark, and I was following to instructions that was on the website. Then I felt myself jolt, and then I felt myself going into a weird tranze like state, my heart was pounding (and I was laying in my bed completely still) I felt weightless almost like I was floating.I saw splurs of violet. I was completely aware of what was going on. Then I decided to open my eyes. Afterwards I lay there for a while trying to process what happened.

    Then, I turn over and layed down on my stomach I was still thinking of what just happened, I tried to go to sleep, I closed my eyes, then I felt that same jolt again and this time I saw splurs of gray. I felt sort of weightless again not as much as before but I still felt it. Is it possible to unitentionally slip into hypnosis?

    Can someone please explain to me what happened, I am kind of freaked out!

    • ANSWER:
      Wow!
      I would be surprised that your question was not selected among the best of Y!A: really!
      I do not think of being able to help you with an answer as valid.
      I also believe that you would know the answer more detailed and correct.
      Congratulations ...

  26. QUESTION:
    Is something bad going to happen to me?
    I've been going through alot of weird things in the past two days.
    I recently had a dream where I met a very pale boy with big light blue eyes. Then the same day I found out I was really married to him for two years and we had four children together. (My mom has four kids and has been seeing her boyfriend for two years) He was like paper-white pale, and had a very small dark mouth, like purple lips. Later on, when I started to anaylyze it and had guidance from friends, I agreed with them like it was as if he was dead (so pale and lifeless) His name was Fero. Fero means to bring in latin. Yes, I know that. But from recent research it also means to suffer or endure..Yesterday I went through a very terrifying experience; while fully conscious, I had something like a "past regression" and was living the life of a woman from either 1889 or 1918 named Anna Mae, and she lived with a man named Lucifer. He killed her sister (Christine. I don't have a sister in real life) and killed me when night approached. I was crying hyserically (this is in reality, me, as jasmine) and hyperventilating. Also, as I was laying on my left side it was like a male voice whispered "right there" in my right ear, followed by another rushed phrase. I can't sleep (It's five in the morning over here) and it's kind of starting to make sense as I put the pieces together. Am I getting a sign? Is there a possibility I might endure suffering? I'm thirteen and I've never been through anything like this. Please help.

    Thanks in advance.
    ..no, i'm not on any meds. i'm not crazy and i'm not laughing. so please don't take this as a joke. if you're not going to answer accordingly, don't answer at all.

    • ANSWER:
      um.. i think you should try to relax.. you're thirteen girl, don't scare yourself..

  27. QUESTION:
    I Nedd Help With My Preventing Injury Work Can Someone Help Me !!!!!!!!!!!!!?
    1. A well-stocked first-aid kit should include which of the
    following items?
    A. A bottle of adult multivitamins
    B. Sterile gauze in assorted sizes
    C. A small knife to remove splinters
    D. Injectable steroids
    2. What kind of injury is an avulsion?
    A. A scrape C. A tear
    B. A bruise D. A fracture
    3. When an emergency occurs, it’s important to
    A. stay calm and keep all involved calm.
    B. begin CPR immediately.
    C. move injured individuals to a different location.
    D. attempt first aid.
    4. What should you look for when purchasing a pair of fitness shoes?
    A. Insulated, nonporous material C. Stable, nonflexible front
    B. Tight, snug fit D. Properly fitting arch support
    5. What would tweezers be used for in a first-aid kit?
    A. To remove objects from the eye
    B. To set a stress fracture
    C. To pull back skin from a wound
    D. To remove a splinter from the hand
    6. What can you do to prevent running injuries?
    A. Limit your water intake throughout the day.
    B. Reduce the amount of walking you do during running sessions.
    C. Wear properly fitting running shoes.
    D. Run on hard surfaces, such as concrete and asphalt.
    7. A well-stocked first-aid kit should include what type of product for cleaning wounds?
    A. Antibiotic ointment C. Benzoin
    B. Aloe vera D. Witch hazel
    8. Why is it important to get a medical checkup prior to beginning a fitness program?
    A. To determine which vitamin supplements would best complement a specific
    fitness regimen
    B. To check for preexisting conditions that would make some exercises dangerous
    C. To determine what types of exercise equipment work best for your body
    D. To decide upon the type training needed for different areas of the body
    9. What is a strain?
    A. A twist or tear in a muscle
    B. A stretch or tear of a ligament
    C. An open wound with minimum bleeding
    D. A punctur10. What are some of the psychological stages of healing following an injury?
    A. Anger, denial, bargaining
    B. Shock, realization, acknowledgment
    C. Depression, regression, acceptance
    D. Fear, self-loathing, apathy
    11. Which of the following signs may indicate heat exhaustion?
    A. Hunger, fatigue, and back pain
    B. Muscle cramps, fatigue, and lightheadedness
    C. Lethargy, thirst, nausea, dry skin
    D. Overexcitability, inability to sleep
    12. Which one of the following conditions requires immediate medical attention?
    A. Muscle soreness after running a 10K
    B. Skin abrasions after sliding into home base
    C. Bleeding from the head after a fall
    D. Black-and-blue marks on the shin
    13. What can you do to prevent in-line skating injuries?
    A. Skate in the streets, not on the sidewalks.
    B. Keep your head up while you’re skating.
    C. Try to fall backward, not foreward.
    D. Wear a limited amount of padding.
    14. How could you determine the amount of fluid lost during a workout in hot weather?
    A. Weigh yourself in the middle of the workout session.
    B. Weigh yourself in the morning and evening on the day you work out.
    C. Weigh yourself several times throughout the workout session.
    D. Weigh yourself right before and right after the workout session.
    15. If you engage in seasonal sports, such as skiing, what should you do in the off-season?
    A. Relax and recuperate
    B. Reduce strenuous activities
    C. Engage in a strength-training program
    D. Engage in activities that will preserve fitness
    16. When a body part is injured, it should be
    A. exercised. C. rested.
    B. stressed. D. stretched.e wound with no bleeding
    17. The acronym RICE stands for
    A. reduction, injury, communication, explain.
    B. rest, ice, compression, elevation.
    C. relaxation, immobilization, care, exercise.
    D. restriction, instruction, CPR, equipment.
    18. When running in cold weather, which one of the following materials is not recommended
    for layering next to the skin?
    A. Wool C. Nylon
    B. Polyester D. Cotton
    19. What is a sprain?
    A. A twist or tear in a muscle
    B. A stretch or tear of a ligament
    C. An open wound with minimum bleeding
    D. A puncture wound with no bleeding
    20. How can you prevent injury while cycling?
    A. Get your bicycle custom-fitted.
    B. Pedal slowly.
    C. Release some of the air from the tires.
    D. Lean over while riding.

    • ANSWER:
      If you have difficulties with weight do what I did - try acai berry. If you want to lose weight its superfood qualities help lots - nevertheless those same qualities also help those who are trying to bulk up. Magic! There is a free trial going on at the moment at http://lupert.fatburnshop.info , why not check it out, how worse could it make things?

  28. QUESTION:
    Could the essay be edited and made to be less distant when read?
    ‘Though age from folly could not give me freedom,
    It does from childishness.’

    I believe that for progress to occur, sometimes regression is necessary.

    I remember from a young age wishing and longing to be a teenager thinking that being a teenager would give me freedom. After a number of years, I became a teenager. Freedom was non-existent. Wherever I went my mother was there. Whatever homework I had, my mother knew about. I had no life.

    I began to hate my mother. I loathed her. She became the bain of my life.

    It got too much for me to handle when I reached grade ten or eleven was is when I delved into depression. My depression spiraled out of control whilst I tried desperately to contain this information from my family. I contained this information for about six months. Within the six months, my depression deteriorated.

    My parents found out when my mother noticed that I had self – mutilated myself. My family immediately got me onto anti-depressants and into therapy. The anti-depressants helped immensely. The therapy was merely a waste of time.

    During my depression, I regressed dramatically. I responded to each situation in a child like manner. Everything that happened was either my fault. If people did not respond to me, I would think that they loathed me. I was constantly thinking of myself and expecting to be treated as though I was the center of the universe and that I was the only person in the universe that had issues.

    Throughout this time, I thought that I was very mature and that I behave accordingly. It only dawned on me that this perception was incorrect when I heard of my aunt’s pregnancy, after hearing the news from my mother. I felt that her child would somehow replace me. She told me that I was highly immature and that I was pessimistic about every situation. She had offended me by being brutally honest. I did not respond. Later that night, being unable to sleep, all I could think about was what my aunt had said to me. I realized that she was correct. I was ashamed and appalled at the fact that someone else had to point it out for me to realize it. I cried myself to sleep that night.

    I wondered how O would be able to resurrect the situation if it were possible. I felt after a few of consideration that there was no way to be resurrect the situation and that the only way forward was to apologize and move on with my life.

    I was unaware at the time that this single event would partially change my life. I did not gain freedom however I did gain understanding that I lacked. Through my pain and struggle, I had within myself; I matured and gained more in one year than I had with all my years experience combined. I feel that if I had a choice to redo that year, I would choose to do it again because what I gained cannot be replaced by anything.
    I don't need it summarised, I need it to be edited and made to read more easily!

    • ANSWER:
      Do you have corel wordperfect? It does a good job of making summeries of essays.

  29. QUESTION:
    2 year old regressing with potty training and sleeping through the night?
    Need some advice. My 2 1/2 year old has been potty trained since November, when she was 22 months old, and has been sleeping soundly through the night since way before that. Now for the last 3 days, she has been having "accidents" wetting herself and has been waking up crying at 2am and 4:30am. I am SO tired from getting up with her and frustrated with this sudden regression. Nothing that I can think of would be causing this, she isn't sick, there have been no major changes in our lives recently, nothing out of the norm, she just all of a sudden is forgetting to go potty and waking in the middle of the night. Anyone else experience this, or have any advice on how to help her get back to normal? I should add, I stay home with her, so she is in my care 24/7, so I am positive nothing is going on that I wouldn't be aware of. Thanks!!!

    • ANSWER:
      First of all don't listen to mommy of 3 as she is a complete idiot. Using a timeout because she had an accident is a horrific concept that will do more harm futher down the road.

      Regression is completely normal. Only about 6% of children don't go thru potty training regression. First and foremost you need to curb this anger you have over the regression. As you said your "SO tired from getting up with her and frustrated with this sudden regression" This frustration is easly picked up by your daughter. Plus frustation always clouds a persons ability to see an issue clearly. Secondly go back over your potty training method again. After a week or so she should be ok.

      Something else to note, most girl her age see an increase in energy. If she is still taking two naps, it maybe time to cut back. If she is only taking one then either elimanating that nap or pushing her bedtime up is advised. With my Daughter, I took her out after dinner until bedtime to run around outside and burn off alot of the new energy.

      Finally, give a quick call to your daughter doctor. Thought she may not be running a fever, doesn't mean there isn't a medical reason she is having accidents. When I was 4 I had a kidney issue that caused me to have accidents, but it wasn't immedetly apparent to my mother. It wasn't till she took me to see my doctor that it was discovered.

      Just remember no matter what anyone says here you always know whats best for your own child.

  30. QUESTION:
    Health Questions!!!?
    Health multiple choice questions.
    any answers will help!!!

    What is the major hormone that allows us to cope with stress but may also cause organ damage with chronic stress?
    A) insulin
    B) growth hormone
    C) testosterone
    D) adrenaline

    David does not do well in school because he can't read well, but he dreams of a college scholarship because of his excellent basketball abilities. What defense mechanism is David showing?
    regression
    reaction formation
    projection
    compensation

    Newlyweds Renee and Sam are on an extremely tight budget while Sam goes back to school, yet Renee continues to make expensive purchases like she did when he was working. What defense mechanism is Renee showing?
    compensation
    denial
    projection
    regression

    shlee is taking three advanced placement classes, and she will be participating in a state competition as well as completing her senior portfolio. She also loves to scrapbook and has been spending her time doing that as well. She has been staying up all night to try to accomplish her tasks. She is now sleeping through her alarm clock. What type of fatigue is she experiencing?
    chronic
    physical
    synaptic
    pathological

    35. What is positive stress that allows us to get our work done at school or work?
    stress
    distress
    eustress
    wistress

    36. Using your mind to develop thinking skills is an example of which of the following?
    physical health
    social health
    spiritual health
    emotional health
    mental health

    • ANSWER:
      My guess

      Adrenaline
      Reaction formation
      Denial
      Chronic
      Eustress
      Mental Health

  31. QUESTION:
    will you help with this! anyone!?
    21. Joe and Marsha were dating for six months when Marsha breaks up with Joe, saying that they both need to meet other people. Joe continues to call and tries to see Marsha, ignoring the fact that they broke up. What stage of grief is Joe in?

    denial
    anger
    bargaining
    depression
    acceptance

    22. What stage of grieving occurs when the potential loss has been accepted, but the person makes deals to get more time?

    denial
    anger
    bargaining
    depression
    acceptance

    23. What type of risk factor is breathing in secondhand smoke?

    genetic
    environmental
    social
    physiological

    24. You are influenced by your peers to not wear a safety belt when driving. What type of risk factor is being described?

    genetic
    environmental
    social
    physiological

    25. Melinda is confused about what she should do because she feels like she has several voices talking to her and telling her to do different things. From which mood disorder does she most likely suffer?

    bipolar disorder
    panic disorder
    schizophrenia
    social phobia

    26. Which of the following risk factors poses a health threat that would increase over time?

    swimming with friends after dark
    eating fast foods every day
    driving fast to get home one time
    taking one drag from a cigarette

    27. You should compare the potential benefits of a decision against which of the following?

    its risks
    your habits
    fitness level
    your teacher's values

    28. Which of the following describes the physical and social conditions in which we live?

    population
    inheritance
    limit
    environment

    29. Which of the following would be considered a defense mechanism?

    esteem
    anxiety
    creativity
    denial

    30. What is the correct order of needs as described by Maslow?

    physical needs, safety needs, social needs, esteem needs, self-actualization
    safety needs, physical needs, social needs, self-actualization, esteem needs
    social needs, safety needs, esteem needs, physical needs, self-actualization
    physical needs, social needs, esteem needs, self-actualization

    31. David does not do well in school because he can't read well, but he dreams of a college scholarship because of his excellent basketball abilities. What defense mechanism is David showing?

    regression
    reaction formation
    projection
    compensation

    32. Which of the following best describes Maslow's hierarchy?

    the needs must be met in order
    the needs can be met in an unpatterned process
    the needs can be met in a different order for each individual
    the needs can be ignored by most people

    33. When individuals feel threatened with their current situation, what behaviors might they use to protect themselves?

    objective behavior
    self-actualizing behavior
    self-esteem
    defense mechanisms

    34. Ashlee is taking three advanced placement classes, and she will be participating in a state competition as well as completing her senior portfolio. She also loves to scrapbook and has been spending her time doing that as well. She has been staying up all night to try to accomplish her tasks. She is now sleeping through her alarm clock. What type of fatigue is she experiencing?

    chronic
    physical
    synaptic
    pathological

    35. What is positive stress that allows us to get our work done at school or work?

    stress
    distress
    eustress
    wistress

    36. Using your mind to develop thinking skills is an example of which of the following?

    physical health
    social health
    spiritual health
    emotional health
    mental health

    37. Newlyweds Renee and Sam are on an extremely tight budget while Sam goes back to school, yet Renee continues to make expensive purchases and not controlling the family money. When Sam talks to Renee about it she throws a childlike temper tantrum. Whcih of the following defense mechanisms is she using during the tantrum?

    compensation
    daydreaming
    projection
    regression

    38. Which of the following disorders may be most closely linked to air pollution and difficulty breathing?

    breast cancer
    asthma
    diabetes mellitus
    stroke

    39. In order to use the decision-making model effectively, what does one need to recognize first, before looking for possible solutions?

    problem
    choices
    consequences
    stress

    40. Important decisions are usually

    • ANSWER:
      21. Joe and Marsha were dating for six months when Marsha breaks up with Joe, saying that they both need to meet other people. Joe continues to call and tries to see Marsha, ignoring the fact that they broke up. What stage of grief is Joe in?

      denial

      22. What stage of grieving occurs when the potential loss has been accepted, but the person makes deals to get more time?

      bargaining

      23. What type of risk factor is breathing in secondhand smoke?

      environmental

      24. You are influenced by your peers to not wear a safety belt when driving. What type of risk factor is being described?

      social

      25. Melinda is confused about what she should do because she feels like she has several voices talking to her and telling her to do different things. From which mood disorder does she most likely suffer?

      schizophrenia

      26. Which of the following risk factors poses a health threat that would increase over time?

      eating fast foods every day

      27. You should compare the potential benefits of a decision against which of the following?

      its risks

      28. Which of the following describes the physical and social conditions in which we live?

      environment

      29. Which of the following would be considered a defense mechanism?

      denial

      30. What is the correct order of needs as described by Maslow?

      physical needs, safety needs, social needs, esteem needs, self-actualization

      31. David does not do well in school because he can't read well, but he dreams of a college scholarship because of his excellent basketball abilities. What defense mechanism is David showing?

      regression
      reaction formation
      projection
      compensation * <- here i'd guess compensation

      32. Which of the following best describes Maslow's hierarchy?

      the needs must be met in order

      33. When individuals feel threatened with their current situation, what behaviors might they use to protect themselves?

      defense mechanisms

      34. Ashlee is taking three advanced placement classes, and she will be participating in a state competition as well as completing her senior portfolio. She also loves to scrapbook and has been spending her time doing that as well. She has been staying up all night to try to accomplish her tasks. She is now sleeping through her alarm clock. What type of fatigue is she experiencing?

      chronic

      35. What is positive stress that allows us to get our work done at school or work?

      eustress

      36. Using your mind to develop thinking skills is an example of which of the following?

      mental health

      37. Newlyweds Renee and Sam are on an extremely tight budget while Sam goes back to school, yet Renee continues to make expensive purchases and not controlling the family money. When Sam talks to Renee about it she throws a childlike temper tantrum. Whcih of the following defense mechanisms is she using during the tantrum?

      regression

      38. Which of the following disorders may be most closely linked to air pollution and difficulty breathing?

      asthma

      39. In order to use the decision-making model effectively, what does one need to recognize first, before looking for possible solutions?

      problem

  32. QUESTION:
    2.5yr Old with possible behavioral problems?
    My family and I moved out of state 4 months ago to a new house. My son transitioned pretty well, until I started him in daycare for the first time. I started working part time after being home with him for about 2 years. He started daycare in Sept and at first it was a nightmare. He cried nearly all day and would have a tantrum upon drop off. The director assured me this was very common and that soon enough he wouldn't want to leave daycare! We are now about 7-8 weeks into daycare. He goes Mon, Wed & Fri from 9-5. It started getting a little better, less crying, fewer tantrums...etc. Recently the school told me he is suddenly not napping (which he only does in daycare), and he screams "NO" while kicking the chairs in the room! This just started the last two times he attended. The class teacher said this kind of "regression" isn't common and that by now he shouldn't be behaving this way. I'm completely stunned and very sad. We had a lot of changes in the past 4 months which I knew would stress out my toddler but we've been working on all of these changes. He was acting out more at home (not listening, hitting...etc). His sleeping patterns have changed. Once upon a time he slept in his bed no problem. Now its a major battle at bedtime and I have to stay with him until he falls asleep. He still wakes up 3x's a night looking for someone to lay with him. Its usually me and not my husband. Now with this daycare report I'm really worried about my son. Not to mention my MIL keeps telling me that he might be ADHD. Help!!!!
    This is not a question on how to handle my childs occasional naughty behavior. But rather, is the behavior normal under the circumstances? Does it sound like a major case of separation anxiety, ADHD or something more severe?

    • ANSWER:

  33. QUESTION:
    christian advice please[about my daughter]?
    should i tell my pastor who runs a camp my daughter is going to problems she is having speachally regression issues[wetting bed, sucking thumb, ect.] so he is aware. also how much should i tell him, when she was little like 5 or 7 he knew how sometimes she would still have "accedents" and if saw her pantts wet or could smell it he would take her to the side and tell her she may want to change but i dont know with her being 14 how she would feel and she usally sleeps in next day clothes there.

    also what is a way to get the smell of wetting the bed out of clothes any ideas please help?
    and we did start christain counseling it isnt helping yet though
    all this is after her moms death
    and she has been to all the doc

    • ANSWER:
      This is not really a spiritual question so much as a psychological one. You can certainly tell anyone you would like to have involved, but be careful not to make it too widely known for your daughters sake.

      What she is going through sounds like a natural state of psychological progression. In this case, regression. Progression follows. A developmental psychologist named Piaget developed a very solid theory of development. When transitioning from one phase to another (there are 4), people regress to a state that their mind is used to and comfortable with. It is simply how the mind works. In your daughters case, that is a state of childhood in which these things are normal. I can see your concern, but increased stress also intensifies these little transitions and can also trigger them. The death of a parent, especially at this age can be very traumatizing. It is possible that the increased chaos that comes with loosing a loved one triggered this event. What she needs to pull through this is lots of love support and the reassurance that she is not at fault.

      Do a little research on Piaget and you may find some enlightening information that will help put you at ease and help you help her.

      Feel free to get her to a doctor too as there are medical issues that can be ruled out. A child psychologist can also be of help. This could be a medical problem. Doctors have their place. (Matthew 9:12) The writer of the gospel of Luke was a physician and worked closely with the apostle Paul (Colossians 14:10)

      Hope this helps.

  34. QUESTION:
    psychology questions for a big test tommorow please help!!!!!!!!!!?
    1. Define psychology.-
    2. Understand how psychological theory is modified.
    3. Name the four principle aims of psychology.
    4. Know the where the greatest number psychologists are employed and what area of psychology they are trained in.
    5. John B. Watson argued for a psychology based on what?
    6. Pavlov's technique in teaching dogs to salivate to a bell is called what?
    7. B. F. Skinner made major contributions to what field of psychology?
    8. What field of psychology has emphasized the roles of insight and understanding in problem solving.
    9. Who established the school of psychology known as Psychoanalysis.
    10. Jean Piaget is associated with which psychological perspective?
    11. What is empirical research?
    12. What is a hypothesis?
    13. What is an operational definition of a variable.
    14. Define:
    a) random sample
    b) selection sample
    c) stratified sample
    d) volunteer bias
    e) validity
    f) reliability
    15. Be able to choose the weakest correlation from a set of correlation statistics.
    16. Distinguish between an independent and dependent variable.
    17. Explain the all or none principle of neural firing.
    18. What process reveals the influence of nature through the unfolding of traits as determined by genetic code.
    19. Recognize the order and describe the stages in Erik Erikson developmental theory.
    20. Know the defining markers of secure attachment.
    21. Be familiar with the classic rhesus monkey research of the Harlows on attachment and material deprivation.
    22. Understand Baumrind’s description of the relationship between competence in children and parenting styles.
    23. Understand Piaget’s definitions of assimilation and accommodation.
    24. Name Piaget's stages of cognitive development in order of increasing age.
    25. Name and describe Kohlberg’s stages of moral development.
    26. Differentiate between sensation and perception.
    27. Understand:
    a) the principle illustrated by the Rubin vase.
    b) the phi phenomenon
    c) stroboscopic motion
    d) direct inner awareness
    28. Understand levels of consciousness described by Freud. (conscious, preconscious, and unconscious)
    29. Understand Freud’s common defense mechanisms including:
    a) repression
    b) suppression
    c) sublimation
    d) displacement
    e) regression
    f) reaction formation
    30. Why is REM sleep called paradoxical sleep.
    31. How do behaviorists define learning?
    32. Ivan Pavlov provided evidence that reflexes can be learned through what process?
    33. Understand the concepts and mechanical relationships between the following in Pavlov’s theory of conditioned response and learned association:
    a) Unconditioned stimulus
    b) Conditioned stimulus
    c) Unconditioned response
    d) Conditioned response
    e) Extinction
    f) Spontaneous recovery
    g) Higher-order conditioning
    h) Stimulus generalization
    i) Stimulus discrimination
    34. Define and understand the relative effectiveness of each of the following:
    a) delayed conditioning.
    b) simultaneous conditioning.
    c) trace conditioning.
    d) backward conditioning.
    35. Why is taste aversion considered to be a special case in learning theory?
    36. Distinguish between positive and negative reinforcement and punishment.
    37. Define and know the relative effectiveness of each of the following reinforcement schedules.
    a) variable and fixed interval reinforcement schedules
    b) variable and fixed ratio reinforcement schedules
    c) continuous reinforcement schedule
    38. Und

    • ANSWER:
      LOL don't you have a book? open it


Help With Sleeping At Night

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Does cereal, dairy and bananas really help you sleep at night?
    do they also help with sleeping at night with depression?

    • ANSWER:

  2. QUESTION:
    How do you sleep at night? I'm very worried about sleeping positions and baby?
    I've been having difficulty sleeping now that I'm getting bigger by the week. I'm very worried that I might be hurting the baby while I'm sleeping due to my positions. I usually lay on my left or right side but occasionally I wake up and find myself slightly laying on my belly. Could this be hurting my baby at all. Also it seems like lately when I wake up my ribs are painful? What's going on? Anyone else experiencing this! What helps you sleep at night? Any suggestions would help!
    31 weeks 4 days with my first...

    • ANSWER:
      My Dr told me that I could sleep on my tummy for as long as it was comfortable for me. The reason side sleeping is best is because you get the most circulation that way. On the back, you are putting all your weight on a main artery and it can cut off blood flow to the baby, which is obviously bad. But tummy sleeping is not bad, your baby is protected in there and your body would tell you if something was wrong with laying that way before anything bad would happen :)

  3. QUESTION:
    I have problems sleeping at night, what can i do to help me sleep better?
    I get up for work at 5:30am and cant fall asleep at night until 1 or 2 in the morning, i get fed up with it and have started taking sleeping pills but i dont want to have to take them just to fall asleep. i know one thing is i have a hard time shutting my brain down, any ideas?

    • ANSWER:
      justme,

      I bet thats frustrating. Thats a tiny amount of sleep. Sorry. I know some things you can do that you won't hear just anywhere.

      Here are some very practical ideas to help:
      - Wear socks and gloves to bed and keep the room at 70deg. This will get the body temperature uniform and correct
      - Eat a protein snack 2 hrs before bed (perhaps a cold cut or chicken nugget)

      Then when you need to shut the brain down:
      - (this one is most important for you I think) Do a complete brain dump before bed. Write everything down that is bouncing around in your head.
      - Start an audiobook as you go to sleep.

      And to really relax:
      - Breathe Deeply where each breath cycle takes 10 seconds, focus on the sound of your breath and the feel of the air rushing over your lip.

      I have an excellent resource with a lot more detail and other tips on how to get deep sleep. I have posted the link below if you are interested.

      Good luck getting a great nights sleep with those practical tips. Try them and they will help.
      John

  4. QUESTION:
    How can you help make a kitten sleep at night while you are sleeping?
    We have a kitten that keeps us up all night while we try to sleep. The kitten attacks anything that moves, and when she does want to sleep, she trys to sleep on our heads. We've tried locking her in the bathroom at night with a bed and toys, but she goes crazy and meows until we let her out.

    • ANSWER:
      Cats are creatures of the night, so get used to it. Stimpy plays at night, BUT she does'nt wake me up any more. Unless theres a thunderstorm; she loves those.

  5. QUESTION:
    question to others on here with bi-polor. do you take sleeping tablets to help you sleep at night?
    cause I know with bi-polor it is hard to fall asleep unless your medicated. I take Abilify in the morning, 2x500 milligram Epilim at night, 1x300 milligrams of seroquel at night and about 1 hour later a sleeping tablet called Zopiclone. also what medications are you on?

    • ANSWER:
      I do take Ambien. I don't sleep well at all. It worries me that my body will become dependent, but if I don't take them, most nights I wouldnt get sleep. I still wake up around 2 am most nights even with the pills.

      I take 150mg of effexor xr and 1500 mg Depakote at night. The Ambien is 10mg and I take that right before I go to bed which is usually around 9 or 9:30 pm

  6. QUESTION:
    Do you have a hard time sleeping at night when on adderall? What time of the day do you take it?
    I'm treating my ADD with Adderall. It works well, but i have a hard time sleeping. Maybe i'm not taking it early enough. What time of the day do you take it? How many times a day do you take it?
    I take mine dosage once a day and its around 10:00 a.m. or later.

    Any suggestions to help me sleep while on adderall? Like take it early way early in the morning?

    • ANSWER:
      Adderall is a mixture of four drugs (salts) that metabolize at different rates. In most adults, Adderall's half life is about 10-13 hours.

      If you take it earlier (first thing when you wake up) you should see an improvement in your ability to fall asleep. I take 30mg of Adderall around 7am during the week and 9am on the weekends.

      If that does not help, check with your doctor about your dosage. It could be to high.

      Here are some other tips:
      - No more caffine
      - Do not eat before bed
      - Do not watch TV or be on the internet 2 hours before bed. They are hyperstimulants.
      - Try doing some gentle stretching, meditation or yoga before bed.

      Best of Luck!

  7. QUESTION:
    My baby girl 10 months old not sleeping at night?
    My daughter doesnt have a sleep pattern yet.. She keeps playing till 3.30am and sleeps late.. She sleeps at around 10.30 pm and then wakes up at 12.30 but then no matter how hard i try i cant make her continue with that sleep. Till what age do children sleep late wen will they develop normal sleeping pattern?? Plz help

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  8. QUESTION:
    What is something that will help with sleeping at night instead of being awake most of the night?

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  9. QUESTION:
    Extreme sleeping/night problems?
    I know it sounds stupid but i feel so scared at night, i am fine until like the last person goes to bed and i am left downstairs on my own, i just seem to have this idea that i will see a ghost. I have seen quite a few "paranormal" things which really scared me. I forgot about it and have been fine until i was reminded about one of my experiences a few months ago. It is just ridiculous. I dont mind the dark when it isn't properly night, but even when i go to my room to go to sleep i have to sleep with the door open and keep the landing light on, it may be a waste of electricity but i cant help it.

    Before i saw this man, which couldnt of been real because he looked tall but he was stood on the outside of my window ledge which not even a baby would manage to stand on and he was laughing at me, i screamed, looked away and looked back again and he was still there, so i ran out the room and when my mum had a look there was nothing there. I havent really seen anything since, but i am just so scared for anything like that to happen again. I had to get rid of my blinds and get curtains, which i never open because of what happened then.
    I like to think it was just bad dreams still going on while i was awake, but at night i cant help but be scared anyway. When that must of happened a couple of years ago.

    I even get so scared that i am taking temporary sleeping tablets every night to make me sleep, i had trouble sleeping anyway, but that is the only thing i can do to actually manage to get some sleep, without being too scared to sleep. It has always took me hours to sleep but i really do need my sleep and the pills work great, but that cant be good for me.

    Anyway, i cant go on like this, i have enough problems as it is. So what should i do? Please don't say i have seen demons or whatever, it will just make me even worse. I feel like such a freak.
    I am 17, eat healthily and hardly have any caffiene, i mainly just drink cold water. I have had sleeping problems as long as i can remember, i have no idea why. But i havent always been so paranoid, it is horrible.

    • ANSWER:
      Take precautions. Its okay to sleep with a night light. Its okay to sleep with your curtains drawn. Its okay to be scared of the dark. Lots of people are. If this is about getting to sleep at night, then you have to be able to relax and that can only happen if you turn off your brain and stop thinking about the things that scare you.
      So try going to bed. Drink some warm milk or something that makes you relaxed (I usually take a hot shower). Then when its time to sleep make sure that you check to make sure the windows are locked and the doors are locked..this is to give you peace of mind..turn on your night light and lay down.
      At this point you need to clear your mind of bad imagery so try meditation. The way you meditate is focus on a mental image that makes you happy..when you have that image in your mind slow your breathing down by taking deep breaths in through your nose and exhaling out your mouth. Once you have your breathing down focus on relaxing your body..imagine your body getting heavy and keep focusing on the image that makes you calm..It should work after a few minutes and with practice you will get better at it. Before long you should be able to go to sleep without any fears creeping into your head.

      Now if for some reason you can't stop thinking about the things that make you scared at night..then by all means go talk to a professional and seek some counseling.

  10. QUESTION:
    All of a sudden, im having toddler sleeping troubles at night!! I need help?
    Hello all,
    im a mother of one. A two year old girl, she just turned two end of october.
    Shes always been a good sleeper, from about 7 months old she was sleeping through the night. At 18 months she was in a single bed, always in her own room. (I live at home with my parents).

    All of a sudden, probably the last 2 weeks, i have had soo much trouble, JUST at night, getting her to sleep.
    Before these past weeks, soon as 8pm hit, she would have some milk, say goodnight, brush teeth and be in bed. I give her hugs and kisses, say goodnight, door was shut, and she'd be asleep in 5 minutes.

    BUT the last two weeks have been hell. For everyone!! I tell her its bedtime, and she screams. She wants her bottle, and to take it everyone. (She has like a toddler bottle to have her milk in at night before bed.) And then i litterally have to like force her into bed. She will get in, with encouragement but soon as i take one step away from the bed she has this like terrified, blood curdling cry. It breaks my heart, its like a spider is crawling up her arm. I dont know why she does it. I ask why, and every night i get a different answer as to what is scaring her. Ive taken out about 5 random things she is asking me to remove and still it happens.

    I admit now, the last 2 months i have moved her room, i put her bed in a different spot and she wasnt sleeping well as it was closer to the window and she could hear the birds in the morning so she woke earlier. But i put the room back to its original state, a few things different (like ornaments and such) but otherwise its fine.(i kno they say its bad to move around and infants room but she never had any major issues) Shes ALWAYS had a night light, enough light to see everything in the room.

    When she first started this, and even now, i tried everything. Lamp on/lamp off, door open.door closed, fan on/fan off. (as its summer here in australia). I had a feeling it might be the heat as her room gets quiet hot now days, but she has never had any other issues. I try tell her stories and make up things to what noices are outside when she states "loud puppy outside". My dad has sat in with her for an hour trying to calm her down, but she gets soo worked up. My mother interfers a little and goes and picks her up and then mucks around. I dont want her to get used to us being on call. She cries-we come. I dont want that. Im a firm believer in stuff like that. But these days, she gets soo worked up and is up till 1030 crying and carrying on, ive had to just give her a bottle of milk in bed to calm her down. Sometimes gets her to sleep but sometimes not. Last night i had to as we were out and she didnt sleep much, so i wasnt up for a terrible night of fighting her to sleep.

    Im soo utterly confused. As during the day, she goes to bed and she is gone, asleep within 5 minutes. So its not like soemthing in there is scaring her. I dunno if this is something to do with the "terrible twos" but it was just like BAM one night, and then onwards she played up. Her cry is heart breaking, but at this stage im letting her cry, she stands at her door crying and calling me, but i dont want her getting all the attention from having a cry. And its literally wearing me out. Used to be relieved for night time so i could have a relax now i dread it cause i wonder if there will be a fight with her to go to sleep.

    Also if it means anything, she is toilet training, she wears undies during the day, all day, and just nappies for nap and night sleep. I dont know if that has anything to do with it, i did think it for a second, but just letting people know!

    Please anybody give me some pointers or things to do. Even if its personal experience or if ppl wants to list things that might be scaring her or anything.
    Feel free to ask me anything if u need more info, im just at a standstill.!

    thankyou

    • ANSWER:
      Their imagination comes out between the age of 2-3. With this means nightmares. With that means being afraid of having nightmares - which means being afraid to sleep. Typically at nap time, they don't have nightmares, so nap time isn't scary. They're also able to wildly and vividly imagine that those outside noises are something far scarier - and that they're under the bed, or in the closet - or going to come get them in their sleep. It's possible something really gave her a fright two weeks ago - and she can't get it out of her head now.

      One thing that can help is to buy her a special teddy or cuddly toy/blanket - and tell her the toy/blanket will keep her safe and keep all the bad things away. Show her what she can do to the toy when she is upset - she can rub teddy's ears, give him big hugs, etc. to keep the bad things away. A white noise machine might help block out the sounds, too. The security Teddy or blanket will act like a bridge for her between you and self soothing. It'll help teach her to soothe herself, without her having to cry it out.

      It's also not necessarily a bad thing to go to her when she cries as long as you don't make a big deal out of it. Just think, she's possibly sitting there thinking of all the scary things that in her little head are REAL, and now on top of it she's afraid you won't come save her from those scary things that she thinks are real. You can gently grab her hand, no talking, lead her back to bed and rub her back for a few seconds while she settles. Let her know you're there to save her - but that it's still bed time.

      This could also be a signal that she needs a change in her routine. An earlier nap, or shorter nap. It might just mean that she's now too alert at bed time and is awake enough to let her imagination run wild while she's laying in bed, and then getting worked up.

  11. QUESTION:
    7 month old baby not sleeping through the night at all? Help please!!!?
    Hi everyone

    My little boy is 7 and a half months old and the last couple of weeks his sleeping at night has been awful. Each night has gradually been getting worse and last night he spent most of the night screaming and ended up in my bed with me wide awake. He has a bedtime routine of 8pm bath, then 7oz bottle (he usually falls asleep when hes feeding) and he usually sleeps through til around 5am. At 5 am i give him breast milk and he'll sleep for a further 2 hours. He has a couple of naps through thr day, varying from half an hour too an hour.

    Last night however was awful. He had his normal routine but woke up as soon as we put him in his cot and he cried and screamed. He just wouldnt sleep. Everytime we put him in his cot, he wopuld scream and have a tantrum like a 2 year old. He has a dummy / pacifier which does settle him but as soon as he spits it out, he screams and wont take it again. This lasted until 11.45 when he finally dozed off in his cot. He then woke up at 1.20am and cried and screamed until he fell asleep in my bed at 3.30 am (I couldnt take anymore and knew I had too be up early). We tried everything to get him back to sleep (winding him, conforting him, giving him calpol etc) but nothing worked until I breast fed him. At around 4 am i mamanged to put him back into his cot (which is in his own room) and he slept for another hour and a half.

    His first tooth has cut through the gum and I know he is teeting but is this normal?

    Too make matters worse, today was my first day back at work and I was so tired! Luckily I am only working 3 mornings a week and my mum is looking after my little boy who he sees all the time.

    My partner is now giving him his bath and hes happy and splashing around but I dread too think what tonight will bring.

    Has anyone expereinced anything similar and how long did it last? Any tips on getting him to have a better nights sleep? I know he is a light sleeper anyway but surely waking up this much at 7 months isnt normal?

    Im trying not too get too stressed about this as I know it will only make it seems alot worse.

    I hope everyone can understand this lol. Im falling asleep as I type! :) x
    I should also add that he had his injection for swine flu a couple of weeks ago. Could this have anything to do with it? :)

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  12. QUESTION:
    Baby standing in crib, not sleeping well at night.. HELP!!!?
    Okay, so here is some background information. My daughter is 9 months old. She has always been a great sleeper, sleeping from 8 PM to 8 AM with a dreamfeed at around 5 AM. She was a great napper, too. All I would have to do is place her in her crib and she would roll onto her side, snuggle her blanket and fall asleep. At night, her bedtime routine is bath, pjs, breastfeed, bed. I usually don't breastfeed until she is completely asleep, and she still would roll onto her side and fall asleep on her own.

    Sooo now everything has changed. She wont nap well during the day. More importantly, she is having the worst time sleeping through the night. She is waking up at least once a night screaming. She has recently learned how to pull herself up, so when I go in the room she is standing in her crib, crying. If I try to lay her down again, she gets more upset, rolls over and starts crawling towards the rail to stand up again. She wont settle at all, it doesn't matter what I do. I have tried leaving her in the crib and rubbing her back, I have tried rocking her, feeding her something like a yogurt or cereal, reading her a story, breastfeeding.. even bringing her into my own bed, and watching television which I am completely against, but really I am running out of ideas! Through all my efforts she cries to the point that she is practically hyperventilating. I can't leave her standing in her crib because she is not quite able to get back down again by herself, and she is a bit unsteady. A couple times she has fallen backwards in her crib and bumped her head so I don't feel safe just leaving her there to cry it out... WHAT DO I DO?????

    I am getting to the point of exhaustion myself because I am not getting a good nights sleep. But she isn't getting a good nights sleep either, and then she is really cranky all day. Any other parents been through this? What worked for you? Also if anyone has any good articles on this, please share! Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      With age comes a need for a routine adjustment.
      Have her daytime naps been out of whack as well? How much sleep is she getting during the day?
      It's tough when babies begin to stand on their own, especially like you said she cant always put herself back down without hurting herself, so since we dont want her injured you need to stay with her until she falls asleep again.
      You've stated that you have tried: rubbing her back, rocking her, feeding, breasfeeding, bringing her into your own bed and watching t.v.!!!! ......If this has been over the course of a few nights, then by now your baby is confused as to what it is that you want her to do when she wakes up at night.
      And since none of the things you have tried were "put her back to sleep" She now will expect that when she wakes you are going to : rub her back, rock her, feed her, breastfeed her, and take her into your bed to watch t.v.
      So to get her back on track you need to be the one to let her know that she has to go back to sleep. Try the laydown approach ( you can google it. It's an approach done by the baby whisperer)
      the important thing is to STICK to it. Dont keep changing your methods.. you will not see immediate results with anything that you try. You have to give it a realistic time frame. trying something once twice or even three times, is not enough to change habits that have been formed. Especially if you throw something else into the mix, you are then changing the rules on your baby.
      I highly recommend the book "the baby whisperer solves all your problems" She gives good SOLID advice and example stories with solutions to the problems.

  13. QUESTION:
    How do you sleep at night knowing children are being killed in the wombs of mothers with no help from POTUS?

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  14. QUESTION:
    I can't sleep at night! (sleeping pills.?)?
    Well, I didn't slept well for these few days, and my body's starting to show its effect. I feel leg and arm fatigue, weakness, headache, and nauseous. I'm not planning on taking any medication to treat my sleep, but yesterday my whole body feels weak and it took me a while to settle down. And I've got headache and fatigue the whole night which resulted in me sleeping for only 3 hours at night, two hours in the morning.

    I think I just need a pill. Once my body strengthen again, I would stop using it. I swear! But as you know, my parents think it's something to do with my mind, and that I'm scaring myself. They won't bring me to see a doctor they just say its useless. And they're afraid of me being addicted to the medication. I swear I won't be addicted! I know how to control myself! Oh by the way, I'm 14 yrs old.

    Please help me.

    • ANSWER:
      I understand what there saying cause that stuff is very addictive and hard to drop once you start, My best friend used to take pills to help her sleep, that weren't needed. Try some other stuff before getting pills, like your diet, some foods make you more awake or make sleep harder, or when you eat, Try to eat before 7 to give your body time to digest a little and also so it not active, eating makes your body active thereby making it harder to sleep. Another thing I would try is exercising in the afternoon for an hour or so, should help make you tireder. Also maybe your pre-bed routine, like you watch tv before bed or watch tv in your bed or someform of entertainment with a screen. Try doing something like reading before you go to bed.

  15. QUESTION:
    which hamsters sleep at night and are awake during the day?
    I am looking to get a hamster but as I am at school still i would prefer one that slept at night so that i could get a good nights sleep and i could play with it when i get home from school.
    Can anybody help me or is it just natural that all hamsters sleep during the day if so is there a way of getting them to sleep at night and be awake during the day?

    • ANSWER:
      All hamsters are nocturnal. You can slowly switch them to be diurnal but it involves a slow process of feeding at different times and stimulation at certain times. I wouldn't do it though, it's really hard on them. Consider a gerbil instead, they're awesome little pets. You'll want to get two though since unlike the hamster, they are very social.

  16. QUESTION:
    Lately my 7 year old is acting out fighting with his brother. and not sleeping at night .?
    We are moving in a week. Do you think it could be anxiety about moving? How do I get him to stop acting out and get him to sleep. I have 3 other kids and they are all fine, we've tried talking to him , time outs for the fighting. I just wantr some advice, my husband and I are losing sleep and the little time we have together at night. Any suggestions will help thanks

    • ANSWER:
      everytime he gets in a fight start taking away the stuff he loves the most.

  17. QUESTION:
    Sleepy problems. I really can't get to sleep at night and obviously keep sleeping during the day.?
    Though I dont go to the school anymore. It's become a real hassle and is affecting my studies. Sleeping pills and Psycatrists are out of question since my parents are imbecile. I really need help. Could anyone help me with this wierd problem? I know it's Insomia but I can't get to sleep anyhow. And at the most I can stay awake for 6 hours. I am really depressed about my life and am obese and certainly not happy with myself. I don't even have any friends. It's been like this for ever. Plz help.

    • ANSWER:
      Try taking walks during the day...stay away from the computer.Try eating at a different time .Try not to eat anything after 9pm.If yu feel yourself getting tierd that means you need to get up and do something to keep that heart rate up! Take a walk every 4 hours and try to eat 6 small meals a day.

  18. QUESTION:
    breast milk leakage while she was sleeping at night?
    My girlfriend just called me and told me she woke up this morning and her shirt was wet with milk. Is this a sign she is pregnant? can anyone help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes milk production is a sign of pregnancy,
      it could be but colostrum production does not (normally) begin till about week 14 has she skipped a period?
      And actual milk is not produced until after birth.
      I would tell her to get it checked out by a doctor or take a pregnancy test to be sure!

  19. QUESTION:
    Trouble sleeping night after after smoking weed?
    I'm 17 and have been smoking weed since i was 15, I've been smoking it on and off but mainly on for about 6 months every weekend and occasionally in the week. I decided to stop for a while but lasted 2 weeks before me and my mate picked up an 8th last Saturday. i had a Ganjover on the sunday but then smoked more at about 7 that night and then had the same kind of Ganjover on the Monday (remember I had to wake up early for college so that didn't help) then at about 8 that night i felt really irratable and went to bed early, i woke up after about 20 minutes of being asleep feeling drowsy after having some weird dreams, then went back to sleep.
    The day later I smoked weed again at college because a friend of mine had some, i was fine the day after but last night my brother said i was talking in my sleep alot and i woke up briefly inthe night with a dizzy, almost high vision (like I had the other night) but then went back to sleep, the time was 2am but it felt like i'd been asleep for 8 hours.

    Please could anyone tell me what this is and if they experience it? or am I just getting 'paranoid' over nothing, cheers

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  20. QUESTION:
    not sleeping at night, sleeping too long during they day- unhealthy?
    well, i have insomnia, i know that, im 14 and a half, and i could sleep all day if i wanted, but not be able to sleep a wink at night. actually look, its 2:30 in the morning (in my country) i know its unhealthy, but occasionaly (with my moms say so-she has a medical degree, so its alright) i take night nurse, but it doesnt help me get to sleep at all, it just makes me sleep more deeply, which is useful, but still, whats wrong with me and what can i do?

    • ANSWER:
      Try undermentioned routine. It is likely to help you. When you are not able to sleep get up and read something. Reading keeps your eys and mind engaged. So you tire up and fall asleep.

      Do not sleep for at least 3 hours after a meal. This is most important.

      1. First 3 days

      Drink 2 glasses of water before each meal. So total should be 6 glasses a day. Stop all other liquids.

      For example if you take lunch at 2.00 pm, take 1 glass each at 1.00 and 1.30 pm. Some deviations from suggested times are ok.

      Do not drink water after 7 PM.

      2. Next 2 days

      Reduce water intake to 3 glasses day. 1 Glass before each meal.

      3. Next 2 days

      Reduce water intake to 1 glass day.

      4. Next

      Repeat 2 and 3 again and again.

      After 1 month repeat 1,2and 3.

  21. QUESTION:
    How do I stop sleeping so deep at night?
    I dont take any medications and I cant seem to wake up for anything in the middle of the night. I am a firefighter and I keep on missing calls that happen in the middle of the night. I have tried multiple things to help me try and sleep a little lighter but I cant find anything that helps. I only need about 3 hours of sleep a night and it feels like I have had a full nights sleep. I did that for years when I was in the Marine corps. I sleep very well when I do sleep and sometimes I even fall into such deep sleeps ill wake up with a head ache. My dreams are very detailed and I can usually remember my dreams about every night. I have been this way for as long as I can remember. when I was a kid my older brother would punch me in the face and sometimes I still wouldnt wake up. Its a problem when I have emergency calls at night and people are depending on me to be there to save them. can anyone please help me out with some ideas? I have tried a few things but need more ideas!

    • ANSWER:
      I imagine you suffer from severe insomnia... 3 hours of sleep is not enough for the human body and brain to rest/recovery etc. So once you 'permit' your body and brain the rest it desperatly needs, it may actually shut off alltogehter. If you don't even respond to "painfull stimuli" (as you recalled from being punched as a kid), you perhaps know, too, that would put you more into a coma than sleep, right?

      If you can rest properly, your sleep should be more in pattern and fluctuate from short deep sleeps and longer light sleeps. Waking up with a headache is not a sign of a good sleep.

      Unless there is a physical cause for your inability to rest longer than 3 hours (I heard recently that an unnaturally compressed spinal column may put pressure on the cord and hinder sleep patterns), you should be able to change your sleeping habits. I'd go see a health care provider specializing in this field (sleep disorders).

  22. QUESTION:
    Puppy keeps crying & barking at night (sleeping time adjustment)?
    It started last week when I stayed up late to finish some work on the computer. I stayed up until 4am. Dog sleeps under my desk. So she was most likely disturbed the whole time I was there.

    The next few days were awful. She wouldnt stop crying & barking the whole night then I'd have to sleep on the couch. She'd be so hyper from 1-4am but I have to sleep!

    Tried tiring her and walking/running/playing with her until she gets tired. This is after dinner then she'd sleep only up to 1am. Then she'd cry again!

    I can't stand this! What do i do to re-adjust her sleeping time?

    I cant do the leave her crying all night thing bec it'll wake the neighbors.

    I cant tire her in the wee hours of the morning coz thatll only make her accustomed to this sched.

    Help pls! I love my dog and i dont want to give her away!
    FYI, I never said giving her away was one of my options. People in the house are getting pretty annoyed, my mom threatened togive her away.

    Yes she was fine before her sched was messed up.

    I will start school soon and i cant get proper sleep :( (
    HOW DO WE PUT HER BACK TO THE OLD SCHED? Help plsss

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  23. QUESTION:
    Would a puppy bark less at night sleeping in a puppy play pen instead of a crate?
    We just got a new Lhasa Apso puppy and he won't stop barking in his crate. We only put him in there at night and I know you're supposed to ignore him when he barks (that's what I've been told correct me if I'm wrong) and eventually he'll get used to it but the problem with that is we live in a three-family home so we have to keep him quiet or we'll have to get rid of him. I was considering getting a puppy play pen because I figure I can put his bed in there and he'd have more room to move around and it might help him be quieter. I know crate training is easier to potty train but the barking is kinda a bigger issue. So would the pen be better to keep him quieter at night? Or does it not matter? I know different things work for different dogs but I'd like to know how much of at least a chance I'd have with the pen before I waste the money on it.

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  24. QUESTION:
    I'm not sleeping at night should I take something to help?
    I have not slept it 3 night, I lay in bed for ages and only sleep for an hour or two every few hours.
    My father Uther said I should go to Gaius who is Camelot's physician, he can give me something to help me sleep but I hate taken them, they make me faint within 30 seconds. I also have a fear of them after My father once got Gaius to drug me with one and since than i dont really trust him

    • ANSWER:
      you need to change your sleeping location. order merlin to share his space till you work this out. he can whip up a potion to help you while you two find a solution. and, it can be fun!!

  25. QUESTION:
    My fiance makes a clicking sound w his tongue while sleeping at night. What can this be? Opinions appreciated?
    The clicking noise he makes with his tongue seems to be one when you take your tongue to the rough of your mouth and click. He doesn't even realize he is doing this in his sleep but it wakes me up 1-3 times a night. Please help!!!

    • ANSWER:
      Now you know why the phrase "Stuff a sock in it!!" was created!!

      Yes, my mom can make a rapid, machinegun-like clicking sound with her tongue, too, but when awake. I was so envious of her ability. Kind of like the people who can whistle with their fingers, that ear-splitting, air raid siren kind of whistle. I'm deficient in both.

      I doubt it's "dealing with stress". It's just a body function. Maybe while he's dreaming. But it is a problem since it wakes you up. that's tough on you.

      I'd suggest going to a natural or holistic doctor. They may know of some herbs or something which MAY help. Good luck.

      [WARNING----really bad joke coming!!!]
      Well, one good thing about it all......if you ever get a full night's sleep, you probably can figure he's out carousing around and not at home!!

  26. QUESTION:
    Need help falling asleep after staying up all night, sleeping all day?
    Last night, i was with my friends and we never slept. We stayed up all night, without sleep, and at 12 noon today i finally fell asleep(After they left). I slept for around10-11 hours and woke up about 30 minutes ago. Now im worried, how will i get back asleep sometime tonight so i don't get sucked into a backwards sleep schedule? I don't have access to any kinds of sleep medicine, so what should i do?

    • ANSWER:
      i do that all the time you have to make yourself lay down and go to sleep.

  27. QUESTION:
    8 week old was sleeping through night, now waking at 3am
    My 8 week old little girl has been sleeping though the night (11pm-6 or 7am) for a few weeks now. Suddenly, the past few nights, she is waking at 3:30am and will not go back to sleep until after 7am. She is not acting hungry at all, just awake. She also had been taking good naps---I try to do a feeding schedule of every 3 hours, with some play time and then at least 1-1.5hrs of naps each cycle, but she also isn't napping well, only 30-45min at a time. Any help would be so great, as I dont know what to do.
    THANKS!

    • ANSWER:
      i think you still just have to follow your little ones lead for now, she is the only one who is in control really
      mine is 9 weeks now and up until about 3 days ago slept from 10 to 7 every night and now shes waking around 230 for fun also, not so much to eat
      but its just part of their little plans, eventually they will go back to sleeping straight thru, be it tonight or in a year

  28. QUESTION:
    How do I get my little sister to sleep @ night if she thinks were are going to get robbed, killed,ect.?
    My little sister is 12 and she cant sleep at night. At about 2-3 a.m. she goes down stairs and sleeps in bed with my parents. She states that she thinks someone is going to break in. We have showed her that we have an alarm system on every door and window in the house but she still cant sleep. We don't know what to do, please help.

    • ANSWER:
      I had this exact problem when I was littler. The thing that really helped me (I don't know if you are a Christian household or not) is that I found this really special verse. It's Psalm 4:8, and it goes like this: "I will lie down and sleep in peace, for You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety." My mom and I prayed for a while for God to keep me safe, and I drifted off to sleep. :)

      Also, this may sound silly, but my parents also kept a baby monitor in my room. This calmed my worries because they could hear every move I made as I slept and if I screamed or someone broke in, they would hear immediately. You could offer this option to your sister.

      Best of luck, and sweet dreams!

  29. QUESTION:
    How do I STOP my kitten from crying at night?
    I just recently bought a kitten and he will just not stop meowing at night time. At first we locked him out of the bed room but he cries even louder so we bring him in the bed with us to sleep but all he does is sit there and cry for no reason. We have bought him a million toys and cat houses and he doesn`t seem to play with them at night. We try and keep him awake from the time we get home 3pm to 9pm when we usually go to bed thinking that if he stays awake the whole time he will be tired and sleep through the night. This kitten is driving us crazy because we haven`t had a good night sleep since we got him 3 weeks ago. Does any one have any suggestions as to how to keep him quiet at night time so we can get some sleep. We live in a 1 bedroom apt. so there isn`t a spare room we can put him in so that he doesn`t wake us up. Please Help!

    • ANSWER:
      He's lonely. Just recently he was with his mother and littermates, and now he's alone in a strange place, and at night he has nothing else to distract him. His whole world has turned upside down. Plus he may have been taken from his mother too soon. Many people give kittens away when they are six weeks old, but it is much better to wait till they are at least eight weeks, or even ten weeks.

      I'm afraid you are just going to have to go through this phase with him, just as you would with a newborn baby.

      The alternative would be to get another kitten to keep him company. Another kitten would also be beneficial a little later on when he goes into the "killer Kitten" phase and is a non-stop bundle of energy and is obsessed with stalking and attacking everything. It's instinctive and almost every kitten in the world goes through it.

  30. QUESTION:
    frustrated with 7 month old baby not sleeping at night ? please help. thank you for caring?
    he used to sleep well from 10 - 6 am with one feeding around 3 am or so. it worked well for me. but the last 2 wks or so he has been waking up every 2 hrs or so crying until i breastfeed him.
    it has been so frustrating for me. the previous night was the worst one.
    i am wondering if it has to do with the food. i started giving him some carrots and green beans recently.
    i am totally confused. any help would be greatly appreciated. thank you for caring.

    • ANSWER:
      I agree with "KR." Your baby is waking up to expecting to be fed!!! Instead of feeding him, just try and sooth him back to sleep. You have to get him out of the habit of thinking he needs to eat every two hours, especially if he's eating solids. There is no reason for him to be hungry in the middle of the night.

      Try sticking to just one solid food a week and see how that works as well. Giving him two different solids could be upsetting him.

      Also, maybe try putting a "noise machine" in his room at night. Something that makes a white noise sound, heart beat, sushing sound. Something along those lines to sooth him better.

      Good luck.

  31. QUESTION:
    What are some good ways to sleep better at night?
    I have the worst trouble sleeping at night. I toss and turn for hours before finally falling asleep. have any good ideas to help me? I'm 15 so... make sure your ideas go with my age. Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      I know that if you exercise 45 min a day you fall asleep 15 min faster. Your body will want to regroup itself, get more active, cut out caffeine after 5 or 6 and see if that helps. Try a new pillow, they're at walmart, your parents will prob spring for it. Or at least trade you. Try that. Maybe a heavier comforter. I bout a Nautica comforter that overall weighted more than my old one. The first night I had it was the best night sleep i have ever had. I think the weight goes back to when you were a baby.

  32. QUESTION:
    I'm scared at night sleeping on my own?
    I'm 15 and I'm scared of the dark basically.
    I'm fine in the daytime in my room alone but as soon as I know I'm the only one that's awake in my house and my parents are asleep I'm terrified.
    It's okay when I come to bed way before my parents because I find it reasurring to know they are downstairs.
    But if I hear a noise or anything it freaks me out and I can't sleep all night.
    I know this all sounds stupid.

    What can I do to help me?
    I'm awake now btw and my parents are asleep. I'm panicking yet again.
    Do you think I should ask to sleep in my parents bed with my mum tonight?
    I don't know how else to go to sleep I feel scared :(

    • ANSWER:
      i had the exact same fear. I conquer it by: a. facing it (going into the scariest dark place and just standing listening, it really does help if you learn how to calm yourself) b. hiding under the blankets and thinking about things that make you happy or just about your life. these are the two big things i did to help my fear! I hope you can too!!!

  33. QUESTION:
    I need help, I can't sleep at night and i've tried everything besides sleeping pills..?
    since i started working with this company i literally haven't had a good nights sleep in probably about 3 - 4 months now

    why? because i'm just excited

    I'm excited for my future, and where i'm going to be

    in the time between when you get into bed and when u actually fall asleep

    i daydream i guess you could say

    its not a dream because im not asleep but my eyes are closed and im trying to sleep

    but i can't, all i can think about is how my future will be and how successful i'm going to be, and the difference i'm going to make working with my company

    i really don't want to resort to sleeping pills but i feel that might be the only way

    and if i do get sleeping pills what type should i get?

    i heard 5htp was natural and worked well..
    thanks for all your answers!

    i've tried exercise many times and at all different times of the day and it doesn't do it for me for some reason

    i definitely like the sleep study idea, i'm going to look into doing that

    and maw bear is melatonin better the 5-htp?

    and i'm sorry ozz if i came off as self-centered

    i'm really not - i do consider myself always positive, very ambitious, and i have very high goals that i want to reach

    the reason i want to reach them is in the process i would help 10's of thousands of families and i would help my own family become financially independent

    maybe i should have mentioned all that in the first place or is this what you consider being "self-centered"

    • ANSWER:

  34. QUESTION:
    How to get my baby girl to sleep at night?
    My baby girl is 6 months old and is not sleeping at night. We will get her to sleep around 9:30, but she is up by 1:30 or 2 and will not go back to sleep until 4-5. Please help me...I am a first time mom with a full time job and I need sleep..Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      I remember what that is like! Im sorry you aren't sleeping well, congrats on your six month new baby. The challenge with having baby sleeping with you is like the bottle, diapers and anything else, you have to ween them off that too. I have friends who have 8 year olds that CAN'T sleep without mom in bed with them. So if you choose to go that route (which works some of the time) then you may get some sleep for some time but when you break it, they have to get used to sleeping alone all over again. What I did with my son when he was a little tyke is I would reduce the time he would sleep during the day. Reduce his naps to mabye two, one in the early afternoon and one in the late afternoon and only for an hour or so. He was grumpy, don't get me wrong but it was only for a few days and he got used to it. Every baby is different though. Parenting YOUR child is trial and error. You will know what works. Good luck to you!

  35. QUESTION:
    My son has problem sleeping at night. Can anyone help?
    I have a son who was diagnosed with Mild Autistic when he was 3 yrs old. He has problem sleeping at night (e.g. whining & screaming throughout the night till the next morning) ever since he was 5 months old. This has been on-going for nearly 5 years. Fyi, he doesn't sleep in the daytime & he normally sleeps latest by 8.45pm. Normally the whining & screaming will start between 11.30 pm to 12am. It's very tiring & frustrationg as I'm a working mother :(

    • ANSWER:
      Establish a bed time routine. Children with autism tend to create their own routines and may thrive on routines. My nephew has autism and my sister ran into sleep problems with him, as it seems to go hand in hand with autistic children. Start with a purposely-named ritual. Give him a "bed-time snack". In essence, to accept the snack meant acceptance of the process of going to bed. Set a time and stick to it, then initiate a standard routine. 1.) Snack 2.) Bath 3.) Pajamas 4.)Brush Teeth 5.) Lights out. Just be prepared, as he will most likely have huge problem with this at first. If he was used to you letting him stay up or get his way before, he is not going to like this change. You have to be strong, it will get worse before getting better. The idea is that he will learn that sleep is an inevitable occurrence each night and that screaming and whining is not going to help. I also find the waking up in the middle night part a bit disconcerting. I wouldn't follow this method unless he has been throughly checked for any medical conditions that may interfere with sleep such as allergies, asthma, sleep apnea, etc.

  36. QUESTION:
    Is it bad to use a pacifier to help a baby fall back to sleep at night?
    My 4 month old is sleeping pretty good at night (~8 hours). But for the past 2 weeks she's been waking up crying at the same time every night. When this happens I just go put her pacifier in her mouth and she goes right back to sleep for the rest of the night. Is there a problem with this? Should I just let her cry until she falls asleep on her own?

    • ANSWER:
      babies up to the age of 6 months have an automatic sucking response, its a comfort thing as well. Also using a pacifier decreases the risk of sids. There is no problem with it, and chances are by the time shes 6 month old she will have outgrown the pacifier.

  37. QUESTION:
    5 week old sleeping at night?
    my bella is 5 weeks old today & i have to go back to school full time in january, i really need some helpful tips to get her to sleep at night or atleast wake up every 4 or 5 hours rather then 2 or 3. I dont know how ill be able to go to school with her up all night and its just me not to much help.

    • ANSWER:
      There's not really anything you can do to make her sleep longer at night, but since she's 5 weeks now, by the time you go back to school she may be sleeping through the night by herself. I was in school when I had my daughter and she started sleeping through the night at 2 1/2 months. Even on the rare nights she'd wake up in the middle of the night, my husband or I would just lay her on our chest and she'd go right to sleep. If she wakes up in the middle of the night and you know she's not hungry or wet, just try something to soothe her- rub her back, snuggle her, adjust her blanket, maybe even a pacifier if you're not opposed to using one.

  38. QUESTION:
    Help me!!! I cant sleep at night and I've tried everything, sleeping pills,excercising?
    drinking milk with honey,even changing the furniture position in my bedroom, aromatherapy but they still dont work....what is wrong with me?

    • ANSWER:
      Here are things that worked for me at various times:

      Don't drink caffeine within 6 hours of going to sleep.
      Don't exercise within 4 hours of going to sleep.
      Don't eat heavy or rich foods within 3 hours of going to sleep. (Heavy, rich means fatty foods).
      Don't eat sugar within 2 hours of going to sleep.

      Make sure your sleeping room is completely dark and somewhat colder at night than it was in the day. It should also be quiet. Many people find earplugs help sleeping.

      Put a small (half teaspoon) of epsom salt in a full glass of water. If you cannot taste a bitter aweful flavor than you are deficient in magnesium. Drink small amounts of epsom salt in water once a week until you start to notice a terrible taste to it. (When you notice the taste you are no longer deficient).

      Put plants near where you sleep. Also pets and animals help people sleep better.

      Some herbs that people use are valerian, kava kava, chamomile etc. Take those shortly before bed.

      Any other medicines and supplements should usually be taken in the morning, (unless they cause drowsiness). Most vitamins (especially B-vitamins) energize the mind so are best taken early in the day.

  39. QUESTION:
    I need help sleeping at night! Dr. prescribed me Adderall!!?
    I have been taking 30mg of Adderall in the morning for only 2 days. It seems to help with the concentration and racing mind but my problem is that lastnight I only slept for 3 hours. Is this normal in the begining. I'm not tired but I think I need to sleep more than a few hours at night. Should I try to take something to help me sleep, if so what? Or should I give it a few days and maybe I will start sleeping better at night.

    • ANSWER:
      My son was that way for the first week he was on Adderall, give it a couple more days.

  40. QUESTION:
    My baby is 18 days old and I am wondering how to get her to sleep at night?
    My baby sleeps most of the day and she sleeps great. Only waking up every few hours to eat. I try to keep her awake in the daytime more but it is impossible to keep her awake. When she is ready to sleep, she is out. No matter if she is in the upright position or if she is laying down or what ever.

    At night around 12:30 she wakes up and that seems to be one of her most active times. I feed her but she is usually wide awake and will not go back to sleep until 3:00-4:00 am. Even then she is back up at 6:00am. It is terrible for my husband and I because we are so tired.

    My baby goes back to sleep at around 8:00-9:00am and that is when she begins her daily sleeping.

    She just can not seem to get her days and nights fixed....I try sleeping in the day while she is napping but in all reality that is not always possible. I have 3 other children to take care of as well. I never had this type of problem with the other children. They woke up in the middle of the night but not like this. HELP!

    • ANSWER:
      PLEASE DON'T FOLLOW THE ADVICE ABOUT introducing cereal this early.

      Keep in mind that 18 days is very, very new. She may not have the body weight yet to stay asleep for too long. But as she gets older keep trying to keep her more wakeful during the day. It may take a while, but hang in there...you've done it with the others ! You'll make it.

      Begin making the baby's bedtime routine just as if she were a toddler. Choose a bedtime (my kids always went down at 8 p.m.) All household sound should be at a minimum. All lights should be very low or off. If baby does wake up for a feeding or a diaper, do all of this without turning on any lights, and keep your communication to a minimum. I would only smile softly at my babies at night. They learned that night was different.

      I also have four kids. I wore my last baby. I bought an "Over the Shoulder Love Sling" and just kept her on me all the time. That left my hands free to tend to everyone else.
      There's also a great, old book called Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems. Possible your local library could order it for you. Good luck.

      p.s. I never used a swing, but that's just me. Let them learn to fall asleep without too many props !

  41. QUESTION:
    i need some help with sleeping at night?
    i cant sleep at night i just cant me AND my bother and dad sleep on the first leave and my mom and sister sleep up stairs. i think what it is that i do fell safe at night can any one help i dont know what to do and i have to sleeep with my tv on. or i dont sleep help me thanks Al

    • ANSWER:
      I would stay away from any stimulants. don't consume caffeine further than half way through the day. caffeine has a half life of 5-6 hours and having that in you system will keep you from sleeping. Also nicotine and an after affect of drinking alcohol can keep you awake. I take melatonin to sleep. you can get it cheap at the drug store for about 10 dollars. It is a substance that your body naturally produces. The brain releases it to tell you to go to sleep.

  42. QUESTION:
    When i sleep at night my hands go numb and its very painful when they come to. Help!?
    I have recently started a new job where i work with my hands. Now when i sleep at night, my hands go numb. I try to keep my wrists straight but its impossible to do when i am sleeping. It is very painful and my hands are weak for a while after i get up. Does anyone know why this happens or if it will ever go away?
    I do not smoke and this started happening right after i started this job.

    • ANSWER:
      I have the same problem its carpel tunnel syndrome the only thing that helps me and it doesn't help much is rubbing my forearms kind of like when you have a charlie horse. id say go to the doc they have surgeries that can help fix the problem.

  43. QUESTION:
    I have trouble sleeping at night, help?
    I have a hard time sleeping, my mind wanders.. and I just cant sleep anymore.. how can I deal with this?

    • ANSWER:
      Try melatonin its all natural and healthy and safe and also some valerian root extract works well too...

      if it persists see a doctor or even a therapist...

  44. QUESTION:
    sleeping at night with the heartbreak?
    I have been out of this relationship for 1 month and still have a hard time sleeping at night without her beside me... I just lie awake thinking about her and potentially who took my place in our relationship and he sleeping where I used to be. I take a PM medication or melanin, then I cannot function during the day. I cannot make peace with this situation; although I do know that we want different things and shouldn't be together... Any HELP?!?

    • ANSWER:
      Getting over someone you really loved and wanted to be with takes a lot of time. You might want to consider counseling. It's not bad if you need it and it doesn't mean that you are dumb or anything. Just having somebody to talk things over with makes it better and you can get your life back. The counselor could provide a lot of helpful insight about why you feel this way and feel you can't get over your girlfriend.

  45. QUESTION:
    Sleeping at night? with a cold...?
    I have a cold and when i sleep at night, i have difficulty breathing due to by blocked nose and dry throat. I wake up for long periods and cant get back to sleep. would some ibuprofen help? btdubs, im using vaporub and its not working too well. PLEASE give me some suggestions on how to fall asleep and STAY asleep! thanks in advance!!!

    • ANSWER:
      Stop using the vapor rub. You use it too much, it'll cause your symptoms to get worse. Breathe through your mouth if you have to or you can use a saline solution. Mix salt and warm water. Take a small spoon and sniff it up. It'll drip down your throat. That's okay and normal.

      Take a steam shower.
      Take a pot of boiling water and place a towel over your head and inhale the steam. That helps too. I had problems with nasal problems recently and that's what I used.

      Drink some warm tea with local honey.

  46. QUESTION:
    How can I get my 14 month old to sleep at night while teething?
    He has not been sleeping for over a week and I have ended up putting him in bed with me every night this week. I'm afraid he is just getting used to my bed and that is why he wakes up... but his teeth also have not pushed through yet. Should I be doing something else to help him sleep in his own crib or will he eventually go back to sleeping in his crib when the teething is over?

    • ANSWER:
      I am going through this right now! Except I co-sleep all the time. My son is working on all four canine teeth. It's been pure hell since Monday. Motrin wasn't doing a thing. Neither was baby anbesol, tylenol, or cold chew things. We got the little teethers teething tablets {they exact same thing as the already mentioned Hylands, just a few bucks cheaper} and he has been, finally, sleeping for the past three hours. We tried them last night but they didn't seen to work as well because we crushed them up, mixed them with water and put it in a needle less syringe {it says you can do this on the box} but like I said, them they definitely work better if you just pop em' in their mouths. They run about .49 at the grocery store. As for sleeping with you...I don't see anything wrong with your baby needing extra comfort when he is in severe pain. This time will pass all too soon and I can't imagine "transitioning" him back into his crib will be that difficult. Your doing good mama. Before you know it, he'll be out all night and you'll wish for him to be little, snuggling up to you. Good luck!

  47. QUESTION:
    Fear of sleeping at night but not during day?
    I don't fear dying or getting robbed or raped or start developing an acute sense of hearing while sleeping at night. I'm not sleeping alone either. I can't sleep due to feeling insecure, I just don't feel that it's safe to sleep. When trying to sleep at night my mind gets overactive, I think through the things that happened during the day or other things. But when I really DO make myself try to sleep by not thinking, I start feeling uncomfortable and start to toss and turn. Only at night. I also stay over at a relative's place every fortnight but the same thing still happens.

    Sometimes I skip sleep for a night by distracting myself with a book or the computer. During the next day or early evening of 7pm usually, I would fall asleep but always automatically wake up at around 2am(from what I've noticed) no matter how little I slept, and be hyper/overactive/unable to sleep again. Not sleeping a night and only able to sleep 5 hours the next? Shouldn't I be sleeping more?

    How do I deal with it? As said above by keeping myself up at night and able to fall asleep when day breaks. During which I'm over tired and can fall asleep. When that happens I usually sleep for more than 12 hours, sometimes less sometimes more, dependent on when I am woken up by someone else. During the day I can sleep, probably due to over-tiredness, even on the floor and wake up with a crick in my neck. The thing I've not felt truly rested ever since. You should wake up feeling fresh right? But, I wake up still feeling tired.

    Also, when I do get to sleep at night I never have any dreams, I wake up not remembering having dreamt anything. But if I sleep during the day I occasionally have dreams.

    Help?
    I should mention I'm over 20
    I do have a lot soft pillows to sleep with when in my own bed.

    http://www.drugs.com/sfx/valium-side-effects.html
    Psychiatric side effects have included stimulation, restlessness, acute hyperexcited states, anxiety, agitation, aggressiveness, irritability, rage, hallucinations, psychoses, delusions, insomnia, sleep disturbances, and nightmares.

    That won't do. Drugs are not an option.
    I survive by doing online businesses. But this is definitely affecting me from having a "normal" life.

    How about looking things not at a physical point of view?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes I think you need help because you have destroyed your natural sleeping pattern. There must be a reason behind your fearing to go to sleep at night time. Maybe something happened in the past? A long time ago that frightened you at night, It might not have been a crime but some noises?

      I don't know how you manage. I don't know how old you are and if you have to go to school or to work but that must be almost impossible. Also you won't have much time to socialize because you will always be tired and sleep more than is normal due to total exhaustion because you force yourself to stay awake at night or can't fall asleep at night and toss and turn. You should see a psycholgist and maybe they will send you to a sleep laboratory where your sleep pattern is observed.

      There are some people who do have strange behaviour when asleep or in your case you can't fall asleep. You need help to get your normal sleeping rhythm back and to sleep a healthy amount of hours and hopefully at night. Let a professional help you figure out the deeper reasons behind your problem.

      We don't always remember dreams. You dream every night or every day but some dreams are not deep enough for you to remember them.

  48. QUESTION:
    How do I keep my bedroom door shut at night? No locks opens out?
    I am a 16 year old girl and I have had some SERIOUS problems with my brother. I do not feel safe sleeping at night without a lock on my bedroom door, however my parents wont let me have one at all.

    My door opens outward so I cant simply push something in front of it.

    I was wondering some ways to keep him from entering my room at night or at least something that would make lots of noise to wake me up.

    Please help, this is extremely important...

    • ANSWER:
      Close the door, tie a piece of string/twine/rope to the doorknob on one end and a loud object at the other end. Pull the string tight, then set up a chair/table/nightstand so that you can set the loud object on the edge of it. That way, when the door is opened, the twine will pull the loud object off the edge of the table and make a loud noise.

      By "loud object" I mean something that will make a loud noise when it falls. Maybe a bucket of screws/nails/hardware, or a bunch of empty cans with pebbles or something inside.

  49. QUESTION:
    How can I wake up from sleeping all night,and still be tired?Then go to take a nap,and sleep all day?
    It seems I am constantly tired!No matter how much sleep I get at night?What is the cause of this?Besides chronic fatigue syndrome?Which I have already been diagnosed with.I also have chronic pain syndrome and fibromyalgia.Help!Am I doomed?Or are there some herbal remedies,or vitamins?That may help?Or anything else that I could try that is over the counter?I am at my wits end,and willing to try anything at this point!Any suggestions would be appreciated!Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      I feel your pain and I don't have any advice because a doctor should be helping you... Good luck though.

  50. QUESTION:
    Taking Wellbutrin 150mg to quit smoking and can't sleep at night?
    I have been on it for 1.5 weeks and just started taking it twice a day 4 days ago as instructed, once in the am and once at night. I have heard not to take it at night and that might help with the sleeplessness, but if that is the case when should I be taking the 2nd pill?
    -Also, is it ok to take a sleeping pill like tylenol PM before bed while on this medication?

    • ANSWER:
      Wellbutrin can cause insomnia which is why it's usually taken in one dose in the morning. Tell your doctor about your insomnia and see if you can take it all in the am. It's ok to take Tylenol PM (occasionally) on it (although benedryl is the ingredient in Tylenol PM that makes you tired and you're better off just taking the benedryl).